Don’t lose hope!

Fellow ANR/ABF fans, if you persevere, by God’s grace, you will more than likely find your ANR-willing mate.

As mentioned in my first post, I am actively seeking Mrs. Right, both on and off-line. I have revealed my ANR desire to 14 women so far. To my surprise, those who agreed have been a significant minority. Precisely, five said yes, one undecided, eight no. If last year, I were told over one-third of women would answer in the affirmative to my ANR proposal, I wouldn’t have believed it.

It’s encouraging to see how close I’ve gotten. The only reasons I’m not currently dating a woman who’s interested in an ANR include distance, compatibility and chemistry.

You simply have to know the ANR type and how to bring it up– ultra cautiously and gently, directing them only to Christian sites like this one. This person really being into you also helps a lot.

Keep hope alive, keep your head up and eyes fixed on the Cross. God bless.


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  1. JJ

    Thank you for your blog. As a Christian, I thought I was crazy to desire an ANR. I wish that I had explored, studied and understood it better before I married. My husband has no interest and I am heartbroken and emotionally detached as a result.

    Please continue to spread this information, people need to hear it-relate to it-be supported by it.

    May God Bless.

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    • raymondstone

      Hi JJ,
      Ray Stone here. I am very involved with Christ Centered ANR. I am so sorry you have faced the heartbreaking reality of rejection. Rejection hurts, especially when you have nothing but love to give. The reality of the situation is this. Men have been lied to for a long, long, long time. We have been told that we have to hide and cover up our feelings and emotions. In doing so we do not allow ourselves to be nurtured and loved. The nursing experience provides a man with the touch, tenderness, and warmth that only a loving woman can provide. It is sad that the nursing experience is so marginalized in our society. It truly is a wonderful experience.

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  2. Prov519

    Dear JJ,

    I greatly appreciate you reaching out to me.

    I’m completely at a loss for words to offer consolation in your difficult
    circumstances. I can suggest you refer your husband to the blog, especially
    posts like ‘A biblical defense of ANRs’, but I’d be wasting my time apart
    from the Holy Spirit working in him.

    Within three weeks, I hope to publish a post that addresses your specific
    situation; you’re the first married Christian to leave a comment and I’m glad you
    did. As you’ll see in the post, my aim is to simply discuss the situation,
    not to offer any miraculous answers.

    You know what’s interesting? Occasionally the Spirit has prodded me to ask
    myself if I, as a single man should operate a blog that’s devoted to
    intimacy and sexuality. Comments like yours make it clear it’s okay. I thank
    people like you that let me know I’m actually doing a service to
    Christians, not a disservice.

    Sex/eroticism is a natural, God-given part of life, and the fact that so
    many Christians make it taboo only creates tension, for both the married and single. Which is why I felt the need to address this tension in one of my posts last month.

    God Bless and stay strong!


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