This is the penultimate trait in our series. Many ANR women are tender, soft-spoken, cuddly, sensitive, gentle, peaceful and unquestionably feminine. They definitely have a soft spot for their husbands.
God created women to be softer, more delicate and innate nurturers. These women take pride in their femininity; they naturally and joyfully take hold of divinely established gender roles.
They are built more for comfort than speed, and their softness is multi-dimensional: physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual. Their idea of a strong marriage is when both spouses are laid bare and vulnerable to each other. It’s in daily re-living Genesis 2:25: Adam and his wife naked and not ashamed.
Women who nurse their husbands often report being proud of what they do and feeling more feminine and attractive during the nursing, so this adds even more of a feminine glow to these women who are already very feminine to begin with. To them that have, more will be given, and to them that don’t have, even what little they have will be taken away, Mark 4:25.
One shouldn’t mistake these ladies’ softness for weakness, however. It’s possible to simultaneously be soft and physically strong. I came across an ANR woman who’s into fitness and weight training, and another that’s very much into all professional sports. They may be soft but they all possess quiet strength, not in-your-face aggressiveness. (Link contains an endorsement of evolutionary theory.)
I believe the description above mostly correlates with the ANR man, except of course, in a masculine way. The typical ANR man is probably gentle, well-built and filled with inner strength, not the highly insecure “macho” type.
Although popularly frowned upon, the Bible makes much mention of tenderness. Christ is often called a Lamb, or more accurately, a Lion and a Lamb. We’re commanded to be innocent as doves, shrewd as serpents. Tenderness and strength seem like inseparable concepts in God’s Word.
The preceding is dedicated to all the ladies out there who are tender on the outside, lioness on the inside. Nurse on.
(Six down, one to go. Monday, October 5th concludes our series. Have a blessed week.)
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If any of these attributes were above one another, “soft” would top the list. Yes, a man who desires to nurse will HAVE be gentle, kind, and loving. He will also need to be able to awaken the “nurturing instincts” of the woman he wishes this with. When I was in therapy years ago a psychologist told me that most women react to the behavior of the man they’re with. I believe that the reason why our culture shies away from “husband nursing” is because of the vulnerability it creates. I’ve counseled people on this subject and the common theme I hear is, “it will make me less of a man.” Men have been told that they must overcome their problems through their own strength, and if he bears his feelings his wife he is not strong enough. THIS IS A LIE! If you want a divorce in the future then by all means follow the above advice. I believe that a woman’s innate desire to nurture to be the most endearing of all feminine qualities. Once you experience it, and embrace it, there is no going back. The nurturing she gives you becomes better than any drugs and I love it. God created it to be this way and it’s time we learned to start embracing it instead of running from it.
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You’re absolutely right, Ray. Soft femininity tops the list. I think this is a biconditional in that a woman who’s soft and nurturing would most likely have no problem with an ANR and if a woman has no problem with an ANR, then she’s probably soft and nurturing. Softness and being nurturing are the two traits all ANR women share.
One day, Ray, one day, ANRs will be well known and respected, many men will stop believing lies and societies will be stronger.