Treat … women like sisters, with absolute purity.

-1 Timothy 5:2


Beloved, I urge you as aliens and strangers to abstain from fleshly lusts, which wage war against the soul. Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may on account of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation.

– 1 Peter 2:11-12 (Relevant message from Desiring God)


When a man and woman are dating, they know sex is bound to happen if God leads them to marriage, therefore many avoid flirting with temptation by discussing sexually arousing topics while dating, wisely so.

Similarly, I envisioned dating with foreknowledge of an ANR working the same way. Because they both know ANR will eventually happen, the unmarried couple need not discuss it, rather, they should keep spiritual matters in the foreground, the knowledge of an ANR in marriage in the distant background and not awaken love before it pleases.

Since an ANR is a unique expression of intimacy, I find this goal very feasible. I still see all the potential girlfriends to whom I revealed this desire as sisters in Christ, ladies for whom God died, to be protected and guarded, and they also view me through similar lenses.

Thank God that it’s hard for authentic Christians to have an ANR before marriage without being discovered, because the relationship requires spending many hours together in private every week.

I’m also thankful that I rarely look with lustful, ANR intent at women I meet on a day-to-day basis, instead I’m hoping to enjoy this relationship with my future wife only. I believe this to also be the case for most single Christians who desire Couples Nursing.