Just before Christ blew the doors of my heart clean off the hinges, I attended a weekly young men’s church group centered on purity. The pastor made a statement that caught my attention: “in dealing with sexual temptation with young women, many guys often say to themselves ‘how close can I get to the edge of the Grand Canyon without falling in?”
At that point in my life, I flirted with the Canyon every couple of months. A few months later, I got snatched up into God’s love displayed at Calvary and, like many Christians who fall victim to their own purity, very soon started running in the opposite direction.
Running away from the natural beauty of the Canyon is one extreme, risking a suicidal fall is another. I’ve come to realize that both are equally sinful. As a very young believer, I couldn’t imagine that abdicating the responsibility to serve my sisters in order to protect my own purity would somehow turn out to be something that would be ‘killing me’, as John Owen put it. God has grown me through the years and now, that’s a sin I’m mortifying by God’s grace.
Having some legalistic perfectionistic tendencies through much of my Christian life and attending at least one church with many legalistic perfectionists made me think I had to have my ‘ducks lined up’ before seeking marriage, rather than simply obeying God’s command to love His Son more than I love any potential wife. That too is a terrible sin that God has helped me mortify.
If you’re obsessed with Couples Nursing, please repent, or else it’ll be killing you.
If you look down on believers who want an ANR only in marriage, I urge you to repent, or it’ll be killing you.
Don’t let purity be an idol, or it’ll kill you.
If you have any other god besides Yeshua, your idolatry will kill you, both here and eternally.
Marriage is a gift from God. Pre-marital purity is also a gift all must desire. Asceticism is not.
Enjoy the Grand Canyon but don’t let it enjoy you.