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Venomous ANR critic convicted by Christ-centered ANR

Perhaps some don’t like this blog because they know people are being convinced of the legitimacy of ANRs, like the formerly venomous ‘hater’ described here was by my blog: “Hi…I especially like the detail you went into to show ANR is Biblical. I found your blog when a man wrote me at OKCupids [sic] saying I…

Another incredibly attractive woman, or so it seemed

I just paid a totally unplanned but divinely-ordained visit to a man-centered church where I met a lady, let’s call her blond J. This young woman and I would likely fit well together, at least in the natural sense. She’s attractive, servant-hearted, traditionally feminine, team-oriented and even showed signs of interest. Perhaps too much interest. Years…

The kind of email I appreciate

I ran across your blog this evening and I couldn’t help becoming excited. I’ve long thought I must be the only Christian who desired an ANR within a marriage. Given how taboo this subject is already, it sometimes feels hopeless to ever find what I desire. Thank you for starting the blog. I don’t feel…

Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish?

An “atheist” from the Prairie provinces once said to me in a misotheistic tone: “you’re free to have a kinky fetish. But don’t use the Bible to justify it.” I’m sure many believers share his sentiment, sans the you’re-free-to-live-your-life-without-regard-for-that-ancient-book-called-the-bible mindset. In fact, I agree with believers on this point. It’s wrong to thumb through God’s Word in order to justify…

Faith without works is dead

14 What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? 15 If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed…

Monthly ANRSpace member tally

To show that ANRs are very gradually becoming more popular, here’s an up to date record of the number of heterosexual profiles on ANRSpace: 6,370 members. A month ago, there were 6,146 members, a 3.6% month-over-month increase, or 7.2 new members daily. Caution: of all ANR dating sites, ANRSpace comes closest to receiving an endorsement from…

Untimely death

We can try our hardest to secure an ANR in marriage and the moment we cross the finish line, bam! Our spouse could drop dead almost as fast as Ananias and Sapphira. Or we ourselves could cease to breathe. Or a breast cancer diagnosis that urgently requires a double mastectomy, an allergic milk reaction or any…

Unbiblical overemphasis on ANRs

I was recently reflecting on the two believers that expressed concern that I’m placing an unbiblical emphasis on something the Bible doesn’t stress. What I’m not saying with this blog is: “ANR is all over Scripture so if you’re not partaking, you’re borderline sinning”. Rather, my aim is to let believers know that with an…

Read your Bible everyday

No matter how little or how much time you devote, just make sure you read daily. No amount of marital intimacy, ANR, Christ-centered ANR, church, career, family or anything else is worth your relationship with your Lord and Savior. Spend quality time with the God of the universe everyday. Sola Scriptura. Solus Christus.

The Proverbs 31 woman

10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing…

I hope you have that conversation before marriage

I just got off the phone with an extremely godly man I’ve been blessed to know, let’s call him Elder T, as I’m sure I’ll refer to him frequently. A biblical counselor with decades of experience and faithfulness to the Lord, he has really been there for me, and is like a spiritual father. The…

ANR outside marriage = adultery

Email I recently received: “I have  met two Christian men on ANR dating sites and all of them are like myself, in that they were sexually active before they gave their life to Christ. And each of them has the same opinion on nursing vs sex. Each of them believed that nursing can be a permissible act…

not a fan.

This is not just the challenge given to Christians once they are in – it is the invitation extended to all. If it’s true that “What you win them with is what you win them to” then the message of revival within the church and the message of evangelism for those outside the church is…

ANR dating site analogies. Please be above reproach.

ANRSpace is like a sports grill restaurant with a bar that’s frequented by well-endowed ladies who aren’t allowed to show cleavage. Additionally, this eatery always has the latest music playing from overhead speakers, which sometimes produce sexually suggestive lyrics, and there are also a few erotic paintings hanging on the wall in the dimly-lit hallway leading to…

The End of Me

Note: I don’t endorse Rick Warren The path to wholeness begins with brokenness. The way to blessing starts with mourning. And the journey to strength is through weakness. The End of Me is a revolutionary book that invites you to find the end of yourself because only then can you can embrace the inside-out ways…

Always looking to add co-authors

I’m always looking for solid Christian co-laborers to help serve our brothers and sisters in Christ. I’m able to see search phrases that lead to the blog. From these search terms, I could tell many ANR-desirous folks are Christians looking for resources online. Praise God for adding Ray Stone as a fellow author. May He…