I ran across your blog this evening and I couldn’t help becoming excited. I’ve long thought I must be the only Christian who desired an ANR within a marriage. Given how taboo this subject is already, it sometimes feels hopeless to ever find what I desire. Thank you for starting the blog. I don’t feel so weird or alone anymore!
I just came across your blog today. I can’t tell you how mind blowing it is for me to read your posts. I’ve been interested in ANR for a long time but never thought about the Biblical aspect of it as it pertains to intimacy within marriage and glorifying God. And you quote John MacArthur, who is my pastor?! Seriously, it’s mind blowing.
[A]s a Christian with a curiosity, I certainly appreciate your message and dedication to the subject without making me feel like a deviant perv. I enjoy being able to explore and read about ANR’s in an environment like the one you’ve created.
Really enjoyed your articles as I found your site last night. Thankful for the modesty and prudence…[m]ay God give you a righteous wife who will be your fountain of blessing.
I’d like to first thank you readers for all the emails you send. I’m very happy that my writing is a blessing to other believers.
Since these missives are coming at an increasing rate, there’s something I want to make clear as I’ve gotten a few emails that have warranted this.
Because this blog’s content is erotic in nature doesn’t mean readers are free to be too descriptive in their correspondence. Let’s get something straight: this first and foremost isn’t a blog about ANR, it is a blog about Jesus Christ. View this webspace as a thoroughly Christian, Spirit-led, Bible-saturated discussion of sexual intimacy. Approach it how you would approach talking about sex to a godly person at your church. Or with your Christian neighbor with whom you enjoy cordial relations, for readers who don’t go to church.
Regrettably, a few readers seem to think this is their secret outlet for ‘talking dirty’.
The two types of email I don’t appreciate are:
- Those that give too much detail in describing male-female sexual intimacy, and
- Any emails that vividly describe female sexuality.
One of the grateful readers I quoted above asked “Do you think it is wrong/sinful to try to relactate in the sincere hope that a husband will like and desire it, after he said he wasn’t interested a few years ago?”
Notice she didn’t ask “should I relactate for him in hopes that he will place his mouth on my ____, stroke repeatedly with his ____ and love it?” I’m thankful that she left the proverbial filters on and graphic details off.
This is very important so please focus more on concepts and relationships, not verbs or too much detail. We’re all adults here and can handle questions about sex, and I’d love to answer as many of your questions as possible, but please let’s try to keep it godly. Let’s avoid sending anything about the raw, graphic meeting between any two erogenous body parts, or about uncensored female sexuality. I’m a Christian man who takes his purity seriously.
With all that said, please keep the emails coming. I love communicating with you and I’m very thankful for all the people I have chatted with in the two years of this blog’s existence. I greatly look forward to receiving more feedback on how to better serve you.
God bless you all.
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.
– Hebrews 12:14