The first one isn’t quite a personal but a response to a question I had asked via email. Using biblical wisdom, google some of these ANR dating profile posts to corroborate their authenticity.
“What are my reasons for wanting ANR within marriage? Sex within marriage is basically a way for a husband and wife to worship God by fulfilling His original design for sex. I chalk that up to include all acts of intimacy. Sex is not meant to be selfish or one-sided. The husband and wife are looking for ways to please the other without concern for themselves. It is a form of sacrificial love. You want to give your best to your spouse without holding back (just as we should give to God without holding back). For me, the idea of offering my body, and more specifically my breasts, for my husband’s enjoyment is giving him my best. On a selfish level, my husband enjoying my breasts would give me great joy physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and quite frankly I think it would be thrilling. My husband would be pulling from the very core of my being and I can’t even begin to think how amazing that would feel for us both. I can’t even begin to imagine the intimacy felt in those moments and how I would feel more feminine, and more like a woman in a purely Biblical sense. By nature, I am a nurturing woman and I think being in an ANR would increase those feelings in me and provide almost a sense of healing for my own personal insecurities. I hope my answer made sense.”
About me: “Funny, easy going, kind. I have a genuine desire to be a great wife. Have never been in an ABF relationship but I’m very interested in that for my future.” About your ideal partner: “Kind, respectful, loves Jesus!”
“Hello Gentleman, I’m updating the details of my profile, giving you a better sense of who I am. I am a voluptuous DD-cup SWF, a blue-eyed brunette who stands 5’6″… I’m DDF & a NS. I am looking for a respectful, faithful, christian gentleman & future husband who has a deep desire for his Proverbs 31:10 wife to feed him daily with her essence. Newly 50yo, everyone still guesses I’m in my late 30’s. I stumbled upon the ANR community as I did further research into becoming a Birth Doula(assists Mom during Childbirth and with Breastfeeding after baby is born). When I told my ex-fiance’ about ANR’s he was very excited to learn of this deep bonding experience, further looking forward to married life together. I have had a longing to nurse my husband since I was a teenager, not ever knowing that ANR’s are more common in marriages than are ever talked about. I thought I was the odd one with the deep yearning … when in all reality, it is a God-given desire in all of us; for the woman’s desire … and for the man wanting to … drink of her nourishing essence, bringing needed relief to the inner ache and fullness at hand. Never having been married nor nursed a baby, the desire to deeply bond with my husband and give him this gift no one else can(married for life), has lept off the charts. In my research on Mother-Child breastfeeding, there are significant hormones released in this amazing process. Oxytocin is the “bonding” hormone. It is released in the breastmilk during breastfeeding so that Mother and child attach & bond. Oxytocin & dopamine are released during a couple’s love making, facilitating their bonding as well. Prolactin is the “relaxation” hormone released in both instances. In couples, it is the “relaxed feeling” in the after-glow 🙂 I have read alot of informaton & blogs from sites to know this takes real commitment & patience in this process to bring in the sweet milk. I am greatly encouraged to know that I am capable of producing milk at my age and without prior childbirth experience … I have not been in an ANR before, so the thought of this [ANR dating] community existing is very exciting and gives me hope to find the husband of my deepest desire. I love to cook & bake. I want to have a relaxing, cozy home for my husband to come home to; his safe-haven from the day to day grind. Growing together in our shared faith(not religion), coupled with our ANR can only take our already deep bond to an even deeper level that we have never experienced. If what I have written is what you are looking for, then awesome, send me your thoughts. Please no game players. I want serious-NOT curious. God be with you. Jeanne”
More from Jeanne:
“… I am in the process of becoming a ChildBirth Doula. In January, I was looking up more Breastfeeding info when I discovered ANR’s. Within a couple of clicks, I found your site and I am thrilled to pieces to read all of your personal journal entries so beautifully written, with honesty, from the heart.
An ANR is something I have desired since early adulthood but never knew there was an actual name for it or an established ANR community. I am 47 y.o., never married, no kids. Last April, I began a long distance relationship with a Kiwi (New Zealander) living in Australia … God’s perfect timing has brought us together, through an amazing journey this last year.
When I called him and shared this ANR discovery with him, he was thrilled and very intrigued at the same time. He has read a few of your journal entries and really wants to give it ago, once we are married …
He is a social worker in a small town hospital and I mentioned that I thought at some point, as a couple, we could share the amazing benefits of ANR’s with other married couples who may be struggling in their marriages or who just want guidance to deepen their initmacy. My Kiwi and I have had many in depth discussions over the course of getting to know each other. I am thrilled beyond words that he and I have an equal passion for breast attention. Reading Song of Solomon makes so much more sense in how God designed husbands and wives to enjoy each others bodies within the exclusiveness of marriage …
We are so looking forward to all of the wonderful moments and benefits to be had with our ANR. I would imagine, as “older” newlyweds, we will be getting alot of feedback as to the secrets to our higher than normal display of “wedded bliss”. I know without a doubt that God designed us for each other at this time in our life; experiencing and expressing for each other a love that could have only come from God alone.
“I want an Adult Nursing RELATIONSHIP. I am not looking to just nurse someone, I want to find someone I can spend the rest of my life with.” About your ideal partner: “I enjoy living a quiet lifestyle and am interested in someone who desires the same. I am not interested in a relationship with someone who smokes. I am looking for someone who is eager to have a family. I prefer traditional gender roles. I have strong opinions sometimes, but I also have a big desire to take a more submissive role in a relationship.”
“Hello..I’m a Bright, and Gentle, Fun Lady..I’m soft spoken, but a strong person..Full of laughter..I’m a great cook, love to go out to dinner and have a movie out. GRILLING AT HOME. I like to walk on the beach, when it’s not to crowded, late evenings…I adore cuddling, being close sharing this MOST SPECIAL BOND TO MAKE A PART OF OUR DAILY LIVES… I’M 5’9 AFRICAN AMERICAN, PRETTY SOFT CARAMEL SKIN, BIG PRETTY SMILE, WITH BIG BROWN EYES..I HAVE MY OWN HOME, GROWN KIDS…READY TO LOVE AND BE LOVED,,,I AM MOST OF ALL A CHRISTIAN…A WOMAN OF GOD.. I AM OPEN FOR THE SAME TYPE QUALITIES, AND A LOVING CHRISTIAN MAN..THAT LIKE THE SIMPLE THINGS IN LIFE, AND WANTS TO SHARE THIS TYPE OF LOVE … A GENTLEMAN TALLER THAN MYSELF, AGES OF 40-65… WOULD BE NICE.. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY…”
“I am an active Christian wanting to begin an ANR/ABF relationship. My hope is that in time my ANR partner and I could meet all of each other’s partner needs: ANR, social, sexual, etc. I don’t smoke, do drugs and only occasionally have a drink; maybe 5 or 6 a year. Willing to relocate for the right man…”
“I am seeking a fulltime serious anr relationship. I would like to meet someone who has the same values as me and that wishes to share in the adventure and journey that is anr. To meet my true [mate] with whom I can share all aspects of life on a day to day basis. I believe that one of the true apsects of anr is that a man and a woman become the closests of friends and sharing of everything in life. The bond that comes from sharing during the nursing and suckling is one such that only true people who have shared this desire to be this close with another human being understands the need and desire. To have that special someone who is my friend, lover, helpmate in life and that will really accept me for me as I am to accept them. I would love nothing better than to meet my partner with whom I could share myself both day and night, to lay in bed in the evening and nurse, just to share that close time at the end of the day. To awake with that person in the morning and start the day in a companionable nursing session to start the day relaxed and know that when you walk out the door for the day to know that person will there for you to share with all over again. To hold that special person in my arms close to my heart and have them gently suckle my sweet love right out of my body and feel it flow into them. It is almost a spiritual experience and one that I dearly miss in my life.”
“The thought of providing my partner with nourishing milk is a wonderful thought. And the sight of him drinking from … me… I can’t explain the feeling it gives me. I want the closeness and bonding that naturally comes with that kind of relationship. Adult nursing relationships offer a connection conventional relationships don’t have and I want that.” (emphasis mine)
“An ABF relationship is a form of bonding and it is also very erotic.” About your ideal partner: “I would hope you would be just as excited as I am with this relationship. You should understand that this is for both of us. It would make you happy to know that I am receiving just as much pleasure, from what you are making my body do for you.”
“You wear the pants & I want to serve you Let me be the beautiful caring, nurturing woman that I am. Id love to take care of all your needs.”
“I have always loved breast [attention]. It wasn’t until recently that I learned about this kind of relationship. Now I feel as though a ‘light has gone off’- I know exactly what I want and an ANR is just that. I would love to cuddle up with a nice person, watch ESPN or a movie, and … develope a loving caring relationship with.”
“I have always loved attention to my breasts and have a nurturing disposition. I can’t get the idea and need to feed my partner, out of my head, so here I am. I see breastfeeding my partner as a deeply bonding, sensual and ultimately loving act. To watch … as the milk flows from my body into his would be truly beautiful.”
“ANR relationships are a new idea for me, and I knew right away that one was for me. It’s been about 6 mos., and I’ve been learning all I can about ANR, and I feel like I’m getting a glimpse of heaven. The closeness, the physical and emotional intimacy, the enhanced feelings of deep caring, giving and receiving, are described as both attainable and worth working for. Not lactating yet, but working on it. ( Update: about 2 1/2 yrs. now that I’ve been looking.) I’m a woman of 69 living in Southern CA, retired … I’ve learned that very little is worth serious disagreement. Or even mild disagreement.”
“I’m a nice, inexperienced (in relation to abf), ordinary woman. I hope to experience the comfort and intimacy of abf for long periods at a time, which I suspect would feel beautiful!”
“I’ve been interested in having an ABF for years. It’s not a fetish for me, but [a great] desire–I long for it, yearn for it. I think it’s one of the greatest and most powerful bonds two people can have. It’s intimate, sexual, sensual and erotic. I would love to share this wonderful experience with another person and hope that one day I’ll be able to.” About your ideal partner: “Someone who truly’gets it’ and longs for it like I do.”
“am a kind, caring, educated professional who has such an intense desire for this most intimate bond that I would rather be alone than to be in a relationship without it. My lover will escape the stresses of the day in my arms …”
“I find the whole process intriguing and can’t wait to have milk!! Hoping to find a partner who realizes this is a giving act on both parts and craves the closeness as well as the sexual.”
“I am a down to earth women seeking a long term relationship with ABF a part of our daily life.”
“I am currently not lactating but want to meet a man with the same desires as me so we can make it a reality. I want to nurse him on demand when he desires it.” About your ideal partner: “Someone with whom I share a connection physically, mentally and emotionally who can … nurse whenever desired on my warm sweet goodness. I cannot deny him as he needs nourishment and security from my breast.”
“ANR is a beautiful expression of love between two people. My objective is very much emotional. I want the experience with someone who I trust, love and is deserving of such an amazing gift. It is something I desire as part of a couple, not as a random milkmaid”
“I’m looking to find someone who is as interested in developing an all inclusive ANR as much as I am. I would like to find someone with whom I can share the interdependency of this type of a relationship.”
“Have never experienced and not sure if able. Has been my [dream] for years.”
“So interested in this, it’s my ultimate erotic [desire].”
“The idea of nurturing a man does something to me … I can’t even imagine what the actual act would be like…Never expressed the urge to with any man I’ve been with.”