True love suffers. Love entails vulnerability.
The Latin word for wound is vulnus, from which we derive ‘vulnerable.’ Similarly, passion means to suffer. Suffering in Latin is patior, from which we get the English word ‘patience’ and ultimately ‘passion.’ It’s the vulnerability ANR creates that scares people away. The intimacy is too much for them to handle. Man likes to love on his own terms and be in control.
Human beings fear love. Thank God for perfect love that casts out fear.