I now think the greatest factor in determining ANR interest in women isn’t being soft or nurturing but being tactile/sensual.
The other two, especially having strong nurturing instincts, matter greatly, but having a body that is very responsive to touch is probably the most important factor, because she has “lady parts” that are very sensitive, beautiful and superbly made.
I’ve never been in an ANR, but from conversing and researching, I believe this is a pattern. So how can a single man discern this without sinning? Observe her skin. Does it seem soft and inviting? Smooth, sensitive, tactile, “ticklish,” tender skin is generally indicative of the same attributes in her parts where it matters most for Couples Nursing.