There’s no biblical evidence, I repeat, NO BIBLICAL EVIDENCE, of God being okay with any married believer going through a period of prolonged sexual frustration.
Sex organs are sacred to God. We have multiple verses in both Testaments that demonstrate just how important these organs are to Him, and how sex itself plays an indispensable role in His creation.
If your spouse deprives you of any form of sexual fulfillment on a permanent basis, he or she is in sin (1 Cor. 7:2-5). I officially recant previous statements about you having to “suck it up.” Rather, the right course of action is to lovingly point them to the seventh chapter of 1 Corinthians.
If I were to remain single for life and therefore never experienced an ANR, that’s understandable. But it’s a totally different story if I actually did get married and faced a lifetime of unfulfilled longings. The latter case is biblically unacceptable.
“Thank you for your blog. As a Christian, I thought I was crazy to desire an ANR. I wish that I had explored, studied and understood it better before I married. My husband has no interest and I am heartbroken and emotionally detached as a result.
Please continue to spread this information, people need to hear it-relate to it-be supported by it.”
– JJ, Christ-centered ANR commenter
My heart goes out to you, JJ. I seek your forgiveness, because I once indirectly exhorted people in your shoes to “deal with it.” I’ve been convicted and now think you ought to graciously show him why he must reconsider your desires, in light of 1 Corinthians 7, and many other Bible passages that instruct married Christians to relinquish their bodies and sexual desires to their spouses, in the same way Christ gave up his body for us.