Among the many … kinks we might all be aware of, adult nursing relationships are one of the ones currently seeping its way out into the open and becoming slightly less taboo. The interesting thing is, although adult nursing might be considered a fetish, it’s not actually always sexual. Lots of people choose to have an adult nursing relationship for a variety of reasons – to feel comfortable, to feel nurtured because it relaxes them or to feel turned on (using it as oral).
If you’re curious about what adult nursing is and why people do it, then this is the right place to find out all of that information. If you are already in an adult nursing relationship, or you’re trying to get to grips with it, we’re also going to take a look at how you can induce lactation for your husband.
WHAT IS AN ADULT NURSING RELATIONSHIP (ANR)?
Adult nursing relationships (ANR) exist when two consenting adults come together and breastfeed together. The man … will suckle the woman’s breast, and she will breastfeed him. The person that’s getting breastfed doesn’t normally try to act like they are a baby – it’s not usually infantilized. The couple might feel sexual during the act of nursing, or they might simply feel comforted by it. It’s important to note that the woman doesn’t have to be pregnant or have just had a baby for her to be in an adult nursing relationship.
WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO BE IN AN ADULT NURSING RELATIONSHIP (ANR)?
As I touched on above, there are several reasons why someone would want to be in an adult nursing relationship. If your partner has asked you if you might consider going it, we’re going to take a deeper look into why they might want to breastfeed, so you can understand it more.
WHY WOULD A MAN WANT TO BE BREASTFED?
While some men are not at all interested in their partner’s breasts while they are full of milk, some other men might be interested. They might feel comforted by it, they might feel turned on [by] it or simply intrigued. Any interest concerning breastfeeding is normal. Let’s take a look at some of the reasons that your husband may want to breastfeed.
IT MAKES THEM FEEL NURTURED
Breastfeeding is obviously a very maternal thing to do, and therefore some men feel attracted to it because it makes them feel looked after. A woman produces breast milk for her baby to feed it. It’s one of the most natural ways, as a woman, that our bodies nurture. Adult nursing can make some men feel really comfortable, relaxed and cared for. Sometimes, if a man has had a rough relationship with his mother, he will feel particularly inclined to breastfeed as an adult because he will crave to be cared for by a woman.
THEY HAVE A SEXUAL FETISH ABOUT LACTATION
People have sexual fetishes about a variety of different things, so it could be the case that a man simply finds the female process of lactation a massive turn on. He might not know why, and he probably won’t be able to explain it, but there will be something about breastfeeding that turns him on. Sometimes, men will simply have a sexual fantasy about adult nursing, and therefore once you have fulfilled this fantasy of his, he might not want to do it again.
THEY LIKE THE TASTE
Some people simply like the taste of breastmilk, and therefore they take great joy in an adult nursing relationship. Men might have tasted breastmilk after their baby was born, and got hooked. They might want to try it straight from the breast, instead of from a pump.
THEY ARE AWARE OF THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF BREASTMILK
Some people are incredibly health-conscious, and therefore some men want to consume breastmilk because they are aware of the health benefits. Breastmilk can boost energy levels, help to build muscle mass and boosts the immune system.
WHY WOULD A WOMAN WANT TO BREASTFEED?
Although we have taken a look at why a man might want to breastfeed, we also need to look at the reasons why a woman might want to be in an adult nursing relationship. Although the reasons might be different, women can be just as interested in having an adult nursing relationship.
IT AROUSES THEM
A lot of women find it arousing when their partner touch, lick or play with their nipples. Adult nursing is an extreme version of nipple stimulation, and some women feel really turned on by it. If a woman gets sexually aroused from breastfeeding a man, they will use it as a form of oral. Also, it’s important to note that just because some women get turned on when their nipples are sucked on by a man, it doesn’t mean they get turned on when breastfeeding a baby. They will only get aroused by nipple stimulation in an erotic setting.
THEY WANT TO STIMULATE THEIR BREASTS INTO CREATING MORE MILK
It’s not uncommon for a woman to want her partner to nurse on her if she is trying to create more breastmilk for her baby. With more suckling action on her breast, it causes the body to create more breastmilk – therefore proving beneficial if a woman isn’t already producing enough for her new child.
THEY KNOW IT HELPS TO BALANCE THE UNEVENNESS OF BREASTS
A woman might encourage her partner to be breastfed by her if she notices that her breasts are getting uneven due to breastfeeding. Sometimes when a baby breastfeeds, they will choose one breast that they like to feed on the most. This can result in one breast being bigger than the other. Therefore, the woman’s partner can feed on the other breast to even the appearance of her breasts.
HOW TO START ADULT BREASTFEEDING
If you are interested in starting an adult breastfeeding relationship, there are a few things you can do to make sure it works out the way you want it to. Take a look at the following steps, and they should help you if you are just starting out in an adult nursing relationship.
1 . TALK OPENLY WITH YOUR MAN
The first thing you need to do is properly talk with the person you want to start an adult nursing relationship with. It can be a lot easier if both of you are interested in adult breastfeeding because you will both be excited to see what happens. However, sometimes it’s common that only one of you will be interested in starting an adult nursing relationship. You need to be completely open with each other, and be honest with how you feel about adult breastfeeding. You should only go-ahead with an adult nursing relationship if you both feel comfortable about it, so it’s important that you speak about it first.
2 . THINK ABOUT WHAT THE TWO OF YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE
You need to try and get a grasp on why you are going to start breastfeeding your adult partner – is it to sexually arouse them or to make them feel comfortable and relaxed? The two of you should talk about this before you first try to breastfeed. You will want to make sure the setting is right, and the environment is going to be very different if you are wanting to use breastfeeding to sexually arouse you both to what it would be like if you’re trying to do it to nurture your partner and create a more intimate bond. When you have both decided what you want to get from this kind of relationship, you need to make sure you set the mood. For example, if you’re going to use it as foreplay, put some sexy underwear on and get some candles lit.
3 . START WITH NIPPLE PLAY
Before your man dives straight in and tries to nurse from your breast, you might want to start off with him playing with your nipple. This will make sure you’re stimulated. It’s also a good way to ease into adult breastfeeding. You can encourage your man to … play with your nipple first. Let him choose which one he prefers.
4 . YOU’RE READY TO START NURSING YOUR [HUSBAND]
Once you have talked with your [husband] about how you both want the adult breastfeeding to go, you’ve set the mood and your man has given your breasts the attention and stimulation they need, it’s time to nurse. Don’t worry if you think you’re doing it wrong at first, you will get used to a position and a rhythm that suits you. However, if milk isn’t coming out of your breasts, there are some things you can do to induce lactation.
TIPS FOR INDUCING LACTATION FOR YOUR HUSBAND
Obviously, breastfeeding is normally only between mother and child. Therefore, the breasts typically on produce milk when the body is aware your baby needs it, so it definitely helps to be an expecting mother or a new mother when you want to nurse your adult partner. However, you can also produce breastmilk at other times – it doesn’t have to be a strictly mother and child ritual. We’re going to take a look at some of the best ways of inducing lactation, so you can produce your breast milk for your husband without having to get pregnant.
It’s important to point out that these aren’t fast tips, and you won’t start lactating overnight. If you want to induce lactation, you have to be patient.
HORMONES CAN HELP
Obviously, during the time of pregnancy and the birth of a child, hormones fluctuate massively. The increased prolactin after childbirth helps the breasts prepare the production of breastmilk. However, even if you’re not pregnant, you can emulate the process by taking certain hormones, and this can help to induce lactation. You can take a look at the types of hormones that women take that want to breastfeed an adopted child, or you could even consult a lactation professional to help you obtain the hormone pills.
TAKE CERTAIN SUPPLEMENTS
Whether you are going to do hormone therapy or not, a variety of supplements can also help you to induce lactation. There are specific supplements to help with lactation, called galactagogues. Galactagogues are produced by a variety of brands, so you can pick them up in any pharmacy, and you don’t need a prescription. Take the supplements as advised – taking more won’t help induce lactation any faster. If you prefer to go down a more natural root, you can consume leafy greens like kale, drink fennel tea and also use blessed thistle.
STIMULATE THE BREASTS AND NIPPLES
In addition to adding supplements to your diet or starting to take hormones, you can also try to stimulate the breasts and nipples. Your partner can do this by sucking your nipples or massaging them. You can also purchase a breast pump for when your husband isn’t with you. You should try to use a pump at least four times a day, and you should pump both breasts, to ensure one of them doesn’t get noticeably bigger or smaller. If you keep up with using it with consistency, your breasts should have a milk supply after about a month.
MAKE SURE YOUR MAN LATCHES ON PROPERLY
When it comes to trying breast feeding your husband, you need to make sure that he is latching on properly to your nipple. If he doesn’t do it properly, even if your breasts are full of milk, it simply won’t come out, or there won’t be as much coming out as there could be. Your man should put his mouth around the entire nipple area, and take as much breast in his mouth as possible. He should move his tongue and mouth to try and suck the milk from your milk ducts. He won’t need to suck hard, but with patience. If he keeps sucking and using his tongue, this should aid milk supply. You might need to keep practicing this with him to ensure he has the right latch.
WHEN MIGHT ADULT NURSING RELATIONSHIPS NOT BE SUITABLE?
Normally, adult nursing relationships don’t cause problems. However, there are some specific cases in which an adult nursing relationship shouldn’t take place, or should stop. We’re going to take a look at a few of these cases below, to make sure neither you nor your partner are at risk.
1 . ONE OF YOU ISN’T COMFORTABLE WITH IT
If one of you isn’t comfortable with an adult nursing relationship, you shouldn’t do it. You both have to be open to the idea. Some people simply won’t want to, and it has to be consensual. If your partner doesn’t want to, or you don’t feel comfortable doing so, you need to be open with each other about it. If either of you starts to uncomfortable in the relationship, you need to bring it to a halt.
2 . EITHER OF YOU HAS A SERIOUS INFECTION
If one of you, or both of you has an infection, you could risk giving it to each other through the breast milk. If you are married, you have probably already discussed about any pre-existing conditions or infections, but you should speak to your partner about it. If one, or either of you, has any STIs or HIV, do not breastfeed your husband.
3 . YOUR BREASTS START TO GET PAINFUL
A lot of women experience pain in their breasts or nipples when they breastfeed. Sometimes the milk ducts will become clogged up, the nipples will become sore and you might even get mastitis. If you notice that any parts of your breast start to feel painful, you should stop breastfeeding. If one of your breasts gets significantly larger, smaller or engorged, you should take a break. You could try to feed your partner from the other one to help even them out.
4 . YOUR BREASTS START TO LEAK A LOT
When women nurse, their breasts might sometimes leak, hence the reason they wear nursing bras when they are nursing their new baby. If you are nursing both a baby and your husband, your breasts might be producing too much milk, and therefore you might leak more. Even if you are only nursing your husband, his adult mouth might provide too much stimulation on your nipples and your milk supply could be too much. Whatever the situation is for you, if you are leaking a significant amount of milk throughout the day when you are nursing, it’s a good idea to stop for a while.
I really hope this article has helped open up your eyes to the world of adult nursing relationships, as well as answer why some people want to be in them. If you were hoping to find out how you can induce lactation for your husband, hopefully, you can use some of the tips listed above to help aid the process along.
About the author
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr “Right” and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here…