The Tale of the Cart and the Horse

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. (Proverbs 1:7 ESV) There is an old expression. Maybe you’ve heard it. Maybe you haven’t. It isn’t used much anymore. But it needs to be used more. The saying is “putting the cart before the horse.” This little gem of Continue reading The Tale of the Cart and the Horse

Charis: God’s Scandalous Grace for Us

According to Wikipedia, Charis is “a given name derived from a Greek word meaning ‘grace, kindness, and life’. In Greek mythology, a Charis is one of the Charites or ‘Graces’, goddesses of charm, beauty, nature, human creativity and fertility.” Over two thousand years ago, the word had a mythological denotation but Google it today, and the majority Continue reading Charis: God’s Scandalous Grace for Us

Year-end reflections – thank you

Looking back to last summer when I started this blog, I didn’t imagine it being what it is today. I’ve had over 3,000 unique visitors and almost 10,000 views. I thank God those numbers keep rising, as I have a significant number of new visitors daily. Some of you have reached me via email, a few have left comments Continue reading Year-end reflections – thank you

Christian women were happier in the ’50s

Nowadays, everyone seems to get on their soapbox to yell things like self-assertion, corporate career ladder success and female-led families, but God says the most empowering things women should take pride in are those that are uniquely feminine and beautiful in His eyes. These include homemaking, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, nurturing and voluntary submission to husbands. Continue reading Christian women were happier in the ’50s

Very legalistic statement from well-respected Christian site

There’s this very useful Christian website based in Colorado. Affiliated with a well-known conservative organization that promotes family values, the site provides many helpful resources to single Christians and young adults and I generally enjoy their gospel-centered articles but one day, I came across an unhelpful, unforgettable statement that I must call out. If you’re a Continue reading Very legalistic statement from well-respected Christian site

Five bonus characteristics

If a woman meets all seven ARNTSSS criteria, she most likely would enjoy an ANR. If in addition, she has these five below, then she’s likely to crave* an ANR: 1. Endowed. This first bonus characteristic of the female ANR lover seems like the most obvious, and of all physical attributes shared by women on ANR blogs and dating sites, Continue reading Five bonus characteristics


This is the penultimate trait in our series. Many ANR women are tender, soft-spoken, cuddly, sensitive, gentle, peaceful and unquestionably feminine. God created women to be softer, more delicate and innate nurturers. These women take pride in their femininity; they naturally and joyfully take hold of divinely established gender roles. They are built more for comfort than Continue reading Soft

Lessons from Ashley Madison: the uniqueness of ABF

The recent Ashley Madison leak has revealed some telling data. 99.95% of the site’s users are male. How does this compare to other matchmaking sites? On those tailored towards mainstream sexual activity, about 75 to 80% of users are male. In comparison, only 68% of heterosexual accounts on ANRSpace belong to men, but I strongly believe the actual Continue reading Lessons from Ashley Madison: the uniqueness of ABF

When to bring it up to a potential mate

I don’t think there’s a consensus within the ANR community. Personally, I don’t waste time. I’m completely convinced that an ANR is a huge blessing, so I’m upfront about it. My general principle is first or second date depending on how well we appear to get along, and if she’s an online prospect then it’s always the Continue reading When to bring it up to a potential mate

How to bring it up to a potential mate

Ultra cautiously. First, to maximize your chances of succeeding, only pursue/be pursued by the type of Christian that’s highly likely to say yes.  For guys, it means aiming for the soft, nurturing girl. If you see no signs of feminine softness in her, you’re likely to be wasting your time and hers. Ladies, your best bet is Continue reading How to bring it up to a potential mate

The ANR lover’s profile: how to tell if she (or he) would almost certainly say yes

This summer, I began a weekly series of posts in which I drew on my 200 or so hours of research to describe the woman who fits the profile of the typical ANR fan to a tee. Although I focused on profiling the woman that loves ANRs, ladies can also gain valuable insights by applying the masculine Continue reading The ANR lover’s profile: how to tell if she (or he) would almost certainly say yes

Skydiving without a parachute

Faith without works is dead A beloved Christian that God used in my salvation story often says something in the same vein as “being Christian doesn’t mean neglecting to apply practical wisdom that aligns with God’s Word.” In other words, we Christians must fight our tendency to over-spiritualize everything. In our attempt to be spiritual, we sometimes lose our grounding Continue reading Skydiving without a parachute


Greetings, everyone. Welcome to a new member of a growing number of blogs dedicated to Adult Nursing Relationships and Adult Breastfeeding (ANR and ABF). I’m creating this blog for two reasons: to show that when done in the only permissible context, marriage, this loving act only strengthens a bond and points to an amazingly wise and compassionate God, and secondly, to meet a Continue reading Intro