If we navigate carefully, we can find modest websites that have a personal ad section, free and open to anyone. It just occurred to me to try posting on a relatively clean one, making sure to stress the importance of my faith. Now I’m waiting to see if it’ll yield any results. This could be a temporary solution pending the creation of the godly ANR dating site we all want.
Not going to name drop but certain parts of the country are much more prudish than others, more specifically around the central states. No offence intended, as I’ve met folks from those areas with some traits I honestly find extremely attractive. In fact, I greatly their admire their family-friendly culture and I was even bent on moving there just a few years ago. However, if you dig a believer from these parts and you get that unshakable sense of middle America puritanism in them, be a lot more guarded and cautious.
The person most likely to take offence and blow you off is the covertly prideful moralist who thinks the term “Adult Nursing Relationship” itself is an indicator of imminent global doom.
I told one such person about my desire without seeing any of the SSN traits. It was a major mistake. The person most likely to take offence and blow you off is the covertly prideful moralist who thinks the term “Adult Nursing Relationship” itself is an indicator of imminent global doom.
The worst form of pride may belong to the “clean” and “sweet” goodie-two-shoes, because it’s the most deceptive and most difficult to detect. Unbeknownst to observers, these folks are often inwardly judgmental and condescending. Two examples that come to mind are the former roommate who probably avoided the Song of Solomon because it made him stumble and said moralistic woman I took a chance with. The former roommate judged a sister in Christ simply for being blond, attractive and outgoing. Oddly enough, while he thought righteous Christians shouldn’t watch MTV, he enjoyed partaking in outdoor sports such as skateboarding — and I recall MTV used to air shows that centered on activities like skateboarding and dirt biking. These folks seem to pride themselves on how modest, morally upright, and even humble they are. They assume CN undermines a man’s leadership without ever researching, asking or observing. Making assumptions is a form of pride. They let their puritanical, family values-oriented, North-Central upbringing dictate their Christian faith and avoid parts of the Bible that directly contradict their preconceived notions by drawing them out of their comfort zones. Rather than digesting the whole counsel of God, they cherry-pick it, and wear their puritanical, moralistic, minimalistic, self-effacing as a badge of righteousness while in reality God is not opposed to luxury, beauty, swag and occasional indulgence.
I have divulged my ANR interests to some who honestly thought it was too alternative but were courteous enough to tell me no, and realistic enough to realize that God has instilled different tastes and personalities in people, and some of these tastes aren’t necessarily sinful. The prim and proper prig however, will likely be too shocked and traumatised to continue any sort of friendship or communication, so be warned. ANR makes the prudish hastily retreat into their shells.
I have observed that being uptight and prudish is a cultural phenomenon, not religious; it’s about a person’s personality, not their spirituality. Obviously, folks in the central states don’t somehow have a special filling of the Holy Spirit that others are missing out on. Furthermore, when conversing with my unsaved brother some years ago, he also complained about knowing some non-Christians who were annoyingly puritanical. The spiritual error comes when the Christian ones conflate the two by mistaking their moralistic personalities for Christlike holiness.
These people have far too small comfort zones and are led by their conservative family values, rather than God’s word. Caution would be appropriate with such a person.
The takeaway is no matter where your date is from, never bring up the ANR topic if you see none of the telltale signs of fitting the CN profile.
I feel the need to revisit the topic of ANR traits because it’s often modulated by my real life experiences.
Men, if there’s one thing you remember about the ANR-interested woman, let it be that she’s soft. Very much so. In every facet you can imagine. The key is to look for signs of extraordinarily strong mothering instincts. From my exchanges with women on this topic, I’m now thoroughly resolved to avoid taking chances on women I really like but aren’t soft enough. If she is not a soft, sensual nurturer, do not proceed. (Do see my post and warning on sensuality here). The kind of woman you want to aim for is most definitely a mother hen.
It takes a real woman to nurse her husband.
I’ve noticed that it’s not simply a matter of having large breasts, although many ANR-friendly women do have them. It’s about her having a soft, cushy feminine body, i.e. her skin, breasts, and noticeable body fat. Keep in mind that there’s nothing wrong with having a little body fat, in fact women are supposed to have a higher percentage of it.
Men, I’ll encourage you to aim for the woman with some extra tender, healthy feminine bodily softness, and a heart to match.
I certainly would have it no other way.
Obviously, the most important thing to seek in a woman is godly character. But guys, also seek the woman that has soft breasts, not just large ones. The typical woman who really loves Couples Nursing absolutely possesses the most amazingly inviting breasts. A lady can have the largest natural breasts but if they’re too firm, she might snap at you for discussing ANR. So how can you discern the tenderness of a woman’s breasts without lusting, objectifying, staring or touching? I’ve never been in an ANR before, never sought one prior to marriage nor have I ever tried to feel up a woman who appears to have great ANR potential, “just to make sure.” So how do I know this? From viewing hundreds of ANR profiles, I could just tell. Although I often strive to look strictly at her eyes and acquire any breast intel only peripherally, it’s still easy to tell when a woman has a pair of very soft and highly desirable breasts.
So without staring at them, aim for succulent, soft, comforting, juicy, large, heavy, inviting, moist, fluid, and, for the lack of better words, udder-ly irresistible. Ladies, the pun is somewhat intended, but any hint of disrespect isn’t. I’m just being frank– after researching hundreds of ANR ladies online, I can confidently say there is a pattern. Women who want this beautiful intimacy tend to have breasts that are truly designed for their original purpose, and they seem to non-verbally scream out louder then all the rest of the world’s women: “got milk!”
Well-endowed ladies that strongly desire an ANR have the nicest breasts in the whole world, trust me on this. Just don’t stare. And remember that the spiritual is more important than the physical, although the physical matters to God too. And exercise self-control, per 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4.