When she breastfeeds you, occasionally reach up and caress her face. And reach down and give her a finger. Or two. Also, don’t forget the bald man in the boat.
True love suffers. Love entails vulnerability.
The Latin word for wound is vulnus, from which we derive ‘vulnerable.’ Similarly, passion means to suffer. Suffering in Latin is patior, from which we get the English word ‘patience’ and ultimately ‘passion.’ It’s the vulnerability ANR creates that scares people away. The intimacy is too much for them to handle. Man likes to love on his own terms and be in control.
Human beings fear love. Thank God for perfect love that casts out fear.
There’s only one thing stopping me from creating the ANR dating site for which so many of us deeply long. But it’s one major hindrance.
To operate a blog, you only need one person with free time here and there but with a website dedicated to matchmaking, I feel I’ll need to invest so much more. I believe it’ll take at least five people to moderate such a site.
Dear Lord, please raise some believers to rise to the occasion. There are several Christians who want to see this happen so let them rise and join in partnership for this great biblical, Christ-glorifying endeavor.
“People need to pursue the relationship first then the ANR. With the taboo still surrounding it I feel [a hastily created ANR dating site] may do more [harm] than [good]. Plus I would rather work on content than spending my time constantly policing people.”
– Co-blogger Raymond Stone
Be sure to see Godly ANR dating site desperately needed
Whoever says he abides in Him ought to walk in the same way in which He walked.
– 1 John 2:6
It’s a commonly heard complaint that Christians never practice what they preach. They’re Sunday morning benchwarmers with no tangible acts of Christ’s love.
Whoever thinks this way has not met too many ANR-friendly Christians. I’ve found multiple who work in healthcare, counseling, serve in church, adopt children, do social work, work as doulas, volunteer on Saturdays to help the less fortunate, and so on.
In short, they lead lives that appear to be directly inspired by Lausanne Covenant’s social responsibility section:
“We affirm that God is both the Creator and the Judge of all people. We therefore should share his concern for justice and reconciliation throughout human society and for the liberation of men and women from every kind of oppression. Because men and women are made in the image of God, every person, regardless of race, religion, colour, culture, class, sex or age, has an intrinsic dignity because of which he or she should be respected and served, not exploited. Here too we express penitence both for our neglect and for having sometimes regarded evangelism and social concern as mutually exclusive. Although reconciliation with other people is not reconciliation with God, nor is social action evangelism, nor is political liberation salvation, nevertheless we affirm that evangelism and socio-political involvement are both part of our Christian duty. For both are necessary expressions of our doctrines of God and man, our love for our neighbour and our obedience to Jesus Christ. The message of salvation implies also a message of judgment upon every form of alienation, oppression and discrimination, and we should not be afraid to denounce evil and injustice wherever they exist. When people receive Christ they are born again into his kingdom and must seek not only to exhibit but also to spread its righteousness in the midst of an unrighteous world. The salvation we claim should be transforming us in the totality of our personal and social responsibilities. Faith without works is dead.
(Acts 17:26,31; Gen. 18:25; Isa. 1:17; Psa. 45:7; Gen. 1:26,27; Jas. 3:9; Lev. 19:18; Luke 6:27,35; Jas. 2:14-26; Joh. 3:3,5; Matt. 5:20; 6:33; II Cor. 3:18; Jas. 2:20)”1
1. The Lausanne Covenant
I think this question is like asking if Jesus would have enjoyed sexual intimacy with His wife if He had gotten married.
ANRs were widely practised, and were in fact the norm in His day so I’m pretty sure He would have glorified His Father and selflessly served His wife with this beautiful intimacy, were marriage on His earthly agenda.
See Why I’m now 100% convinced that Proverbs 5:19 is about Adult Breastfeeding, Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish? and A biblical defense of ANRs for evidence that Couples Nursing was taken for granted, popular among ancient Israelites, and not at all seen as taboo during biblical times.
We ANR-loving people are “weirdos” who:
- Have all-day custody of your children at daycare
- Teach them in all grades beyond daycare
- Shepherd your churches
- Hold public service jobs
- Provide you emotional support during labor
- Care for your elderly parents
- Hold corporate titles like Financial Advisor and Research Analyst
- Care for you when you’re sick or injured
- Assist you with breastfeeding your newborn
- Perform heavy duty jobs at factories and grocery stores
- Attend your colleges
- Work in the energy industry and think up ways to slash your electric bill
- Work in retail
- Do social work
- Live next door
I implore you to avoid judging others by your own standards. ANR-loving “weirdos” are all around you.
I once had a Spanish teacher who noticed a small cut below my sideburns. The most caring and open-minded teacher I ever had, he suggested something unusual. Meat tenderizer. I soon gave it a shot. I even recently purchased one that’s seasoned. It’s rather piquant and spicy, so each application feels a bit like I’m cooking myself. This one takes a little more getting used to.
Is the teacher’s method foreign and unusual? Does it feel funny and strange? Sure does. But does it get the job done? You bet. Had I chosen to be closed-minded and dismiss his suggestion as “weird”, I’d be a man who heals significantly more slowly whenever he suffers a cut.
Moral of the story: Don’t knock it till you try it. Because it’s unconventional and ‘out there’ doesn’t mean it can’t be highly effective and greatly beneficial.
We are convinced that Satan has been behind the taboo of ANR. If more marriages practiced ANR, I think there would be a lot less divorce.
His statement is so good, so spot on, that I had to post it twice.
People who have fallen for Satan’s spell of seeing ANR as taboo are centuries, even millenia deep in a lie – and don’t realize it.
ANR is almost certainly something ancient Israelites did in the bedroom, and it’s one possible reason they gave out fewer certificates of divorce than we currently do.
I had planned to post an article listing my reasons for wanting an ANR but my co-author’s post was a catalyst.
So what are my reasons?
Not gonna lie, the kink factor/sexual gratification is definitely a big one for me, and I’m sure most male readers could relate. There’s just something about full, productive, milky breasts that’s wildly erotic and sensual; it would certainly turn me on in marriage.
Honestly, I think it’s a delicious relationship.
Also huge is the otherwise unattainable intimacy. I’m a firm believer that husband and wife should be as intimate as humanly possible, so I’ll do anything imaginable to optimize the intimacy level in my marriage, as long as our attempts at intimacy don’t lead to sin. I’ve already thought up some other ways to be closer than close to my wife. Remember, extreme intimacy is the love language I speak.
Then there’s the bond and permanent sense of connection. She would literally become part of me. I would carry some of her everywhere I go.
Of course what I do to her is important to me as well. It’s an amazing way to have my wife feeling biblically feminine, productive, beautiful, needed, servant-hearted and sexually fulfilled.
Plus the effect it’ll have on my marriage, the feeling of oneness. The symbiotic relationship. The joy and stability everyone reports that it brings to marriages and as a commenter posted, the fact that it’s beautiful and sacred.
Thinking of it draws out something I feel is buried, something in me that just thinks it’s so special, I feel it’s a long-lost bonding act: humble masculinity meets glorious, divine femininity.
ABF singles allows obscene amounts of cleavage. So did anrdating.com before being suddenly parked.
Kwink and ANR Connections take it a step further to full fledged nudity.
There are others out there but it’s with these I’m most familiar.
Needless to say, I do not recommend visiting them.
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.”
– 1 Corinthians 6:18
I’m Pastor E. I’m 34, my wife, Mrs. R, is 33. We both have degrees, so we are educated. (I have a grad degree.) We’ve been married for 10 years. We have 3 children, and are part of a mainline Christian Church.
We stumbled upon ANR while pregnant with number 2 during sex. What’s really funny is that I wouldn’t taste her milk at all, or played very little with my wife’s breasts before that night. But that night, I was lost in our lovemaking and wasn’t thinking about milk being in her breasts, so just started kissing and suckling them. I started to get milk and didn’t realize until she let down that I was. Something in that moment drew me in and I swallowed and just ravished the milk and her breasts. At that moment I felt so close to her, so in love with her. I gave myself completely to her and drank from her breasts. She gave herself to me completely, allowing me to receive a blessing from her. It was, and is, an experience of transcendence, a connection with each other beyond what words can say. Yet what we can ascribe to it is intimacy that is real, closeness as we’ve moved closer to each other’s heart. Barriers and walls that once were in our way of connecting and communicating have come down, and we share more openly our feelings with each other, there’s less hiding of our feelings. I feel like we have always been very close and open but cuddles (that’s what we call ANR) has drawn us in deeper and made us feel more like one.
We’ve been having our cuddles for about 2.5 years now and every time we share that special moment I fall in love with my wife all over again. My wife fills me with love and delight. I’m happier, calmer, I’m a better father and husband. I have more joy and fulfillment in life. I receive great comfort from my wife’s breasts and she is gracious enough to provide for that; she believes she was created to fill. She is my helper. I bless my wife in many ways as a husband. She blesses me in many ways as well. Every time I nurse from my beautiful wife’s breasts, she bestows a blessing from God to me.
We are convinced that Satan has been behind the taboo of ANR. If more marriages practiced ANR, I think there would be a lot less divorce. I’m trying to find the right way to share with couples that I counsel that ANR would be a good practice for their marriage. I believe strongly, that it is important. Maybe not a must, but those who don’t, don’t know what they are missing.
Here is my translation/interpretation from Proverbs 5:15-20: Drink milk from your wife’s breasts, flowing milk from her breasts. Let them be for yourself alone and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain (wife’s breasts) be blessed and rejoice in the wife of your youth, she is a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts (nipples literally) fill (literally- drench, saturate, water abundantly) with delight be intoxicated always from drinking at her breasts. Why should you be intoxicated my son, with a forbidden woman and suckle milk from the breasts of an adulteress?
I’ve expressed how for the most part, there’s a one way flow of traffic into the ANR lifestyle.
It turns out many do in fact try it and return to dry lovemaking.
But the point I intend to make is this: I strongly believe there exists only a vanishingly small number of couples who go back dry after giving it a go for the intimacy and beauty of the relationship itself, not just an adventure or kink to be tasted for a season. (As co-blogger Raymond Stone has said, if you pursue it just to get off, you WILL FAIL.)
Even these folks, I’ve found, have fond memories of their nursing days.
So I stand by my conviction: as far as a “full-blown” ANR goes, the net change in popularity is positive. The ANRSpace member tallies corroborate that.
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. (Proverbs 1:7 ESV)
There is an old expression. Maybe you’ve heard it. Maybe you haven’t. It isn’t used much anymore. But it needs to be used more. The saying is “putting the cart before the horse.” This little gem of wisdom is all about the the natural order of things.
There is a question that is commonly asked more than any other. When and how do I bring up the subject? Do I join a dating site and create an ad? Do I just start a relationship? Do I marry this person in hopes that he/she may be interested?
There is no set answer. No exact time frames to follow. There are no easy answers in life. There are no magic bullets. Every situation is as unique as the individuals involved. What works for one person may not work for another.
Two common mistakes people make when approaching this subject are as follows.
1.) Seeking the ANR before the actual relationship.
2.) Bringing it up way too early. An example would be during the early dating phase.
The first one is easy to address. And all it really takes is self-control. Don’t mention that you want an ANR. Especially on dating sites. ANR is still shrouded in taboo. If you mention it in your profile you are asking for trouble. Women will pass men over thinking they are freaks. And women will get offers from tons of men only interested in their breasts.
Seek the relationship first. Get to know the person. Learn about them. Start building a bond. If you have a healthy relationship the subject of ANR will probably come up. You must go through the process first. ANR requires a strong partnership to work. This is the time to build that partnership.
The second one is much harder to address. But if you are in tune with each other already you will be able to recognize signs of interest. The best way is too ask questions. Let the relationship progress. Ask questions based on this progress.
Bringing it up on the first, second, or third date is not generally a good idea. Remember, ANR is still considered “taboo” and he/she may look at you weird or start running for the door.
If you are bringing it up at the same time in every relationship, and are still getting rejected. Change your approach. Doing the same thing every time expecting different results is called insanity.
I know you are craving the intimacy that ANR offers. But don’t let that desire overrule your good sense. Constant rejection is hard to deal with. And if your are not careful resentment will set in.
Put your relationship before the ANR. If you put your ANR before your relationship you won’t have one. If you put your relationship before your ANR you will have one. Use wisdom and understanding. And be careful to not “put the cart before the horse.”
Why do you desire an ANR? This is a question you must ask yourself before seeking one.
Many people read stories from others who have one. They then decide that they want one for themselves.
Many are not familiar with the challenges of having one. This not something you do when you feel like it.
So ask yourself. Am I doing this for mutual love? Am I doing this to build an unbreakable bond with my spouse?
If your answer is yes to the above then you will succeed. If you are pursuing this for another way just to get off. You will fail.
Some people find this blog by googling things like “is it sinful to breastfeed my husband?”, and I received this on Wednesday on my Facebook page: “I CANNO’T UNDERSTAND CHRIST CENTERED ANR.HOW CAN LOVE FOR BOOBS AND LOVE FOR CHRIST GO TOGETHER?”
It may seem to many that I am preaching a sexualized form of the have-it-your-way prosperity gospel.
However I’ve come to realize that it’s possible to loathe the prosperity gospel to an unhealthy extent. I should know. That used to be me.
If anyone preaches any other gospel, let them be accursed, warns Galatians 1:8, so I understand the apprehension of many believers when faced with unfamiliar biblical exegeses or potentially compromising/tempting lifestyles.
But those who preach the orthodox gospel tend to ignore biblical allusions to earthly stability.
Of first importance is the glorious gospel of Jesus Christ, but God, being rich in mercy and love, also cares about our earthly needs. Problem is, sinners often misplace our priorities by stressing the mundane over the celestial. At the end of the day, God still wants us to live lives full of joy because the Son rose.
I responded thus to the Facebook message:
“Hi there friend. I really appreciate your honest but interesting question.
You see, this is exactly why there’s a need for Christ-centered ANR. If you read Proverbs 5:19, you’ll observe that Christ unequivocally exhorts me to enjoy my wife’s breasts.
Love for Christ and love for boobs go perfectly well together, as long as all the fun is kept strictly within the marriage covenant.
Please read my post titled ‘Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish?’ because I tackle this subject there. Thanks.”
I know many Christians, including some of the church friends mentioned here would think it irreverent for Christians to even contemplate such a thing as an Adult Nursing Relationship. This shows that even Christians aren’t exempt from making God in their own image. But prim and proper doesn’t mean godly and reverent.
Careful study of Song of Solomon reveals that our God does not at all shy away from erotica, and a proper hermeneutic of Song 8:2, 7:8 and Proverbs 5:19 indicates that He sees nothing irreverent about Couples Nursing.
Someone else said this relationship takes the focus off God, while in fact God gets His glory out of every non-sinful thing we do. We need not become overseas missionaries to glorify God.
Pastor JF told me that God gave us the institution of marriage as a means of propagating the gospel by virtue of it being the most natural way to make disciples. I think there are few things more beautiful than believers making more believers, naturally.
Sex is spiritual. When believers have sex, the beauty of the gospel is lived out.
Self-giving sex in the way of the Cross only leads believers to fall more deeply in love with Jesus Christ and better understand the gospel and the Trinity.
Christ’s objective in voluntarily letting His own creatures kill Him isn’t limited to the reconciliation of God and man. It also includes reconciling man to man, or in this case, man to woman. Superior, God-glorifying sex is one of the benefits of having faith in Christ’s atonement.
Blogging about sex, specifically Adult Nursing Relationships, and reaping stronger Christian marriages as a result is the gospel in action.
“Life is good, eternal life is better.” – Stellar Kart
And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them 3 and said, ‘Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.’
– Matthew 18:2-4
Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.
-Ruth 1:16 – 17
There an urban ritual in existence that has young girls cutting their fingers, rubbing the bloody wounds together and declaring each other ‘blood sisters.’
According to Urban Dictionary, blood sisters are “two or more women not related by birth who have sworn loyalty and friendship to each other. This is usually done in a ceremony, known as a blood oath, where the blood from small cut is mixed and [sometimes] drunk. Much more than just a Best Friend, [b]lood Sister is your hetero life mate in a non-homosexual way.
Blood Sisters share anything and everything; they have no secrets from each other. She is number one in your life, despite significant others and family. … she IS your family. A [b]lood Sister is your other half.”
I’ve since discovered that there are blood sisters who for the most part are law-abiding suburbanites next door, while other ceremonies involve more gore and are straight from the occult.
This phenomenon demonstrates that women and girls love bonding. I’m thankful that God wired women’s brains to be more adept at communication and people skills, and to know from experience that the friendship of a female is a gift. Girls are loyal and true. If a woman loves you, there’s almost nothing she won’t do for you.
Women have tons of empathy. Men aren’t as quick to pick up on emotions, especially women’s emotions. Though the commonly held belief that their menstrual periods sync together isn’t supported by any reliable scientific evidence, they’re more affected by each other than men are by fellow testosterone bearers. Ladies place a premium on relationships, which is why breakups hurt them more, as Mariah Carey testifies:
Oh, what I wouldn’t give
To have you lying by my side
Right here, cause baby
(We belong together)
When you left I lost a part of me
It’s still so hard to believe
Come back baby, please
‘Cause we belong together
God created women to better see the big picture. That’s why they have a holistic perspective on sex, rarely extracting it from the comprehensive romance package it comes in. Therefore, it’s exceedingly difficult to find women who are single-mindedly sexually obsessed apart from a relationship. But unlike other bedroom activities, CN involves sharing, caring, bonding and nurturing, four areas in which females naturally excel. Thus, this is the only erotic activity I’m aware of that women single out and sometimes even obsess over. It makes perfect sense that such beautiful, empathetic nurturers would want this unique way of bonding. One woman said “I don’t know where I end and you begin” and another “all her thoughts and secrets flow into him along with her milk”, and I paraphrase yet another “our spirits and souls blend together.”
Humans are made for covenant community. It’s evident when one considers the worldwide prevalence of gangs, organized crime families, hate groups, cults, underground societies, fraternities and sororities, professional organizations, sports teams fan groups/hooligans, nationalistic/patriotic groups, religious sects, and even church denominations. So it’s completely understandable that some young women want to be part of something bigger than themselves.
However, these ‘blood sisters’, young and old, instead ought to realize their connection through the Blood incorruptible. Blood that bears no resemblance to any cultish rituals and can’t be tainted by HIV/STDs, Hepatitis, or critically, sin.
The title is a quote from Pastor R’s sermon today.
-Deuteronomy 21:23, Galatians 3:13
It’s been exactly twelve months since we started our monthly ANRSpace membership counts to gauge the rate at which ANRs are gaining popularity.
A year ago today, there were 5,758 heterosexual members on the site. Today there are 6,419, an 11.5% increase over the past year, which amounts to approximately 1.8 new members everyday.
It’s important to note that there are tens of thousands of ANR profiles online. ANRSpace is only one of many ANR communities. This monthly series doesn’t nearly tell the full story because there are millions more who find the idea of Couples Nursing appealing but have no access to the internet, or speak no English. (Makes me wish I were fluent in more languages, to get more perspectives on this most beautiful of love languages).
Still, there are untold millions who never heard of Couples Nursing and don’t realize they’d greatly enjoy it, as I found when I divulged this interest to some potential girlfriends. “This may actually help me too”, said one.
Caution: of all ANR dating sites, ANRSpace comes closest to receiving an endorsement from Christ-centered ANR. We applaud their policy of not allowing any cleavage but wish they would do more to ensure sexual purity. PLEASE exercise extreme caution if you plan to visit ANRSpace. Some profiles contain text that some readers may find explicit. Gentlemen, if pictures of women who aren’t showing cleavage but are well-endowed make you stumble, you might want to consider blocking images on your browser. Additionally, some profile pictures contain paintings that are sexual in nature. This is precisely why we need an ANR site for Christians, by Christians.
To show that ANRs are very gradually becoming popular, here’s an up to date record of the number of heterosexual profiles on ANRSpace: 6,419 members.
A month ago, there were 6,370 members, a 0.8% month-over-month increase, or 1.6 more members daily.
Caution: of all ANR dating sites, ANRSpace comes closest to receiving an endorsement from Christ-centered ANR. We applaud their policy of not allowing any cleavage but wish they would do more to ensure sexual purity. PLEASE exercise extreme caution if you plan to visit ANRSpace. Some profiles contain text that some readers may find explicit. Gentlemen, if pictures of women who aren’t showing cleavage but are well-endowed make you stumble, you might want to consider blocking images on your browser. Additionally, some profile pictures contain paintings that are sexual in nature. This is precisely why we need an ANR site for Christians, by Christians.
If only you were my brother,
one who nursed at my mother’s breasts.
If I saw you on the street,
I would kiss you, and no one would look down on me.
2 I would lead you.
I would bring you into my mother’s house.
(She is the one who was my teacher.)
I would give you some spiced wine to drink,
some juice squeezed from my pomegranates.
3 His left hand is under my head.
His right hand caresses me.
God Opposes the Proud, by Desiring God Community Church in Charlotte, NC
Reviews and testimonials from mostly female ANR enthusiasts, for examples of the lavish grace God bestows on Adult Nursing marriages.
While I realize I’ve essentially covered all the telltale signs that I believe are indicative of ANR interest in both women and men, due to my profile being slightly geared towards male seekers, it’s probably appropriate to dedicate one post to the thousands of godly ladies who also long for this gift in marriage.
There are only three guys I’ve ever physically known to have expressed this desire, and that includes myself, so pardon me for working off a very small sample size. The other two were a classmate and a relative. My hearing their revelation of Couples Nursing interest happened in my teenage years and early twenties respectively, prior to meeting the Savior.
In high school, while having boy talk in a mixed grade, all-male technical class, an eleventh grader excitedly announced his intention to try it soon. His bold disclosure was met with silence by the rest, a group that normally held no-holds-barred discussions of their sexual escapades and fantasies. During these testosterone-driven discussions, I was the inexperienced freshman who occasionally uttered some fabricated, or stolen and regurgitated boasts to feel like one of the big boys.
Although a significant proportion of guys are truly grossed out by Couples Nursing, I wonder which of the young men on that day in Mr. G.’s electronics class only pretended to be disgusted. I myself remained silent despite knowing an ANR is something beautiful.
I’ve also seen one man publicize the desire on twitter and I’ve chatted online with a very small number of like-minded men like Ray Stone, so altogether, I’m basing my male ANR profile on only about 6 guys.
With that disclaimer out of the way, here’s his profile:
He can be an extremist yet is sensitive and tender towards women. He’s a gentleman who’s sexual, definitely attracted to women, has inner, quiet strength, lots of depth, and although he’s not the fake macho type, he isn’t physically weak either. He’s strong and virile. Critically, he’s not too proud to beg. We all struggle with pride to varying extents, but he’s at least humble enough to be approachable and friendly. He is complex and very interesting. He’s very funny and kind but has a little bit of crazy in him (crazy for Jesus : )
To summarize, seek the guy with great husband and father potential, masculine yet sensitive, a family man, open to trying new things and looks like he’ll know how to make a woman happy in the bedroom.
For an elaboration, please be sure to see the full profile and bonuses because there are many similarities between the CN-desiring woman and man.
“Paul, an apostle of Christ Jesus by the will of God, To the saints who are in Ephesus, and are faithful in Christ Jesus: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
Spiritual Blessings in Christ
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of his will, according to his purpose, which he set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth. In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will, so that we who were the first to hope in Christ might be to the praise of his glory. In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it, to the praise of his glory. For this reason, because I have heard of your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love toward all the saints, I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of him, having the eyes of your hearts enlightened, that you may know what is the hope to which he has called you, what are the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and what is the immeasurable greatness of his power toward us who believe, according to the working of his great might that he worked in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion, and above every name that is named, not only in this age but also in the one to come. And he put all things under his feet and gave him as head over all things to the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills all in all.”
The word ‘in’ is used 13 times in the ESV in a sense of ‘to abide inside something greater’, for example “to the saints who are faithful in Christ, hoping in Christ, trusting in Christ.”
God is all about connectedness. He’s a God of dynamic, organic connections. We see from these verses that the key to the Christian life is to abide in Christ and depend on Him. To rely on His Spirit.
The Christian faith is all about being organically connected to the Head and Body. It’s about dwelling in Him at all times.
A Christian site for women once polled its readers on what they want most from their husbands, apart from sex. In order of popularity, the results were:
- His time
- Non-sexual touching
According to many CN-practicing women, Couples Nursing gives them all of the above and amazing sex.
Another intriguing fact, I learned this in high school sex ed: if given two choices – cuddle or have sex, women choose the former by a ratio that’s approximately 15 to 1.
My hypothesis: Couples Nursing is sexual enough to please most men and non-sexual/cuddly enough to satisfy most women, thus its appeal to both sexes.
I want to be able to give my husband a safe place where he can come home at the end of a long day and let all the worries and stress fall away. To drift off to sleep at night. The nurturing aspect, the closeness, the intimacy…I knew that in a relationship that would be amazing to have. One woman described it as the greatest stabilizing force on her marriage. It forces communication and coming together physically so that you are bonded again and again and again with your husband.
-Email from a follower
The first one isn’t quite a personal but a response to a question I had asked via email. Using biblical wisdom, google some of these ANR dating profile posts to corroborate their authenticity.
“What are my reasons for wanting ANR within marriage? Sex within marriage is basically a way for a husband and wife to worship God by fulfilling His original design for sex. I chalk that up to include all acts of intimacy. Sex is not meant to be selfish or one-sided. The husband and wife are looking for ways to please the other without concern for themselves. It is a form of sacrificial love. You want to give your best to your spouse without holding back (just as we should give to God without holding back). For me, the idea of offering my body, and more specifically my breasts, for my husband’s enjoyment is giving him my best. On a selfish level, my husband enjoying my breasts would give me great joy physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and quite frankly I think it would be thrilling. My husband would be pulling from the very core of my being and I can’t even begin to think how amazing that would feel for us both. I can’t even begin to imagine the intimacy felt in those moments and how I would feel more feminine, and more like a woman in a purely Biblical sense. By nature, I am a nurturing woman and I think being in an ANR would increase those feelings in me and provide almost a sense of healing for my own personal insecurities. I hope my answer made sense.”
About me: “Funny, easy going, kind. I have a genuine desire to be a great wife. Have never been in an ABF relationship but I’m very interested in that for my future.” About your ideal partner: “Kind, respectful, loves Jesus!”
“Hello Gentleman, I’m updating the details of my profile, giving you a better sense of who I am. I am a voluptuous DD-cup SWF, a blue-eyed brunette who stands 5’6″… I’m DDF & a NS. I am looking for a respectful, faithful, christian gentleman & future husband who has a deep desire for his Proverbs 31:10 wife to feed him daily with her essence. Newly 50yo, everyone still guesses I’m in my late 30’s. I stumbled upon the ANR community as I did further research into becoming a Birth Doula(assists Mom during Childbirth and with Breastfeeding after baby is born). When I told my ex-fiance’ about ANR’s he was very excited to learn of this deep bonding experience, further looking forward to married life together. I have had a longing to nurse my husband since I was a teenager, not ever knowing that ANR’s are more common in marriages than are ever talked about. I thought I was the odd one with the deep yearning … when in all reality, it is a God-given desire in all of us; for the woman’s desire … and for the man wanting to … drink of her nourishing essence, bringing needed relief to the inner ache and fullness at hand. Never having been married nor nursed a baby, the desire to deeply bond with my husband and give him this gift no one else can(married for life), has lept off the charts. In my research on Mother-Child breastfeeding, there are significant hormones released in this amazing process. Oxytocin is the “bonding” hormone. It is released in the breastmilk during breastfeeding so that Mother and child attach & bond. Oxytocin & dopamine are released during a couple’s love making, facilitating their bonding as well. Prolactin is the “relaxation” hormone released in both instances. In couples, it is the “relaxed feeling” in the after-glow 🙂 I have read alot of informaton & blogs from sites to know this takes real commitment & patience in this process to bring in the sweet milk. I am greatly encouraged to know that I am capable of producing milk at my age and without prior childbirth experience … I have not been in an ANR before, so the thought of this [ANR dating] community existing is very exciting and gives me hope to find the husband of my deepest desire. I love to cook & bake. I want to have a relaxing, cozy home for my husband to come home to; his safe-haven from the day to day grind. Growing together in our shared faith(not religion), coupled with our ANR can only take our already deep bond to an even deeper level that we have never experienced. If what I have written is what you are looking for, then awesome, send me your thoughts. Please no game players. I want serious-NOT curious. God be with you. Jeanne”
More from Jeanne:
“… I am in the process of becoming a ChildBirth Doula. In January, I was looking up more Breastfeeding info when I discovered ANR’s. Within a couple of clicks, I found your site and I am thrilled to pieces to read all of your personal journal entries so beautifully written, with honesty, from the heart.
An ANR is something I have desired since early adulthood but never knew there was an actual name for it or an established ANR community. I am 47 y.o., never married, no kids. Last April, I began a long distance relationship with a Kiwi (New Zealander) living in Australia … God’s perfect timing has brought us together, through an amazing journey this last year.
When I called him and shared this ANR discovery with him, he was thrilled and very intrigued at the same time. He has read a few of your journal entries and really wants to give it ago, once we are married …
He is a social worker in a small town hospital and I mentioned that I thought at some point, as a couple, we could share the amazing benefits of ANR’s with other married couples who may be struggling in their marriages or who just want guidance to deepen their initmacy. My Kiwi and I have had many in depth discussions over the course of getting to know each other. I am thrilled beyond words that he and I have an equal passion for breast attention. Reading Song of Solomon makes so much more sense in how God designed husbands and wives to enjoy each others bodies within the exclusiveness of marriage …
We are so looking forward to all of the wonderful moments and benefits to be had with our ANR. I would imagine, as “older” newlyweds, we will be getting alot of feedback as to the secrets to our higher than normal display of “wedded bliss”. I know without a doubt that God designed us for each other at this time in our life; experiencing and expressing for each other a love that could have only come from God alone.
“I want an Adult Nursing RELATIONSHIP. I am not looking to just nurse someone, I want to find someone I can spend the rest of my life with.” About your ideal partner: “I enjoy living a quiet lifestyle and am interested in someone who desires the same. I am not interested in a relationship with someone who smokes. I am looking for someone who is eager to have a family. I prefer traditional gender roles. I have strong opinions sometimes, but I also have a big desire to take a more submissive role in a relationship.”
“Hello..I’m a Bright, and Gentle, Fun Lady..I’m soft spoken, but a strong person..Full of laughter..I’m a great cook, love to go out to dinner and have a movie out. GRILLING AT HOME. I like to walk on the beach, when it’s not to crowded, late evenings…I adore cuddling, being close sharing this MOST SPECIAL BOND TO MAKE A PART OF OUR DAILY LIVES… I’M 5’9 AFRICAN AMERICAN, PRETTY SOFT CARAMEL SKIN, BIG PRETTY SMILE, WITH BIG BROWN EYES..I HAVE MY OWN HOME, GROWN KIDS…READY TO LOVE AND BE LOVED,,,I AM MOST OF ALL A CHRISTIAN…A WOMAN OF GOD.. I AM OPEN FOR THE SAME TYPE QUALITIES, AND A LOVING CHRISTIAN MAN..THAT LIKE THE SIMPLE THINGS IN LIFE, AND WANTS TO SHARE THIS TYPE OF LOVE … A GENTLEMAN TALLER THAN MYSELF, AGES OF 40-65… WOULD BE NICE.. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY…”
“I am an active Christian wanting to begin an ANR/ABF relationship. My hope is that in time my ANR partner and I could meet all of each other’s partner needs: ANR, social, sexual, etc. I don’t smoke, do drugs and only occasionally have a drink; maybe 5 or 6 a year. Willing to relocate for the right man…”
“I am seeking a fulltime serious anr relationship. I would like to meet someone who has the same values as me and that wishes to share in the adventure and journey that is anr. To meet my true [mate] with whom I can share all aspects of life on a day to day basis. I believe that one of the true apsects of anr is that a man and a woman become the closests of friends and sharing of everything in life. The bond that comes from sharing during the nursing and suckling is one such that only true people who have shared this desire to be this close with another human being understands the need and desire. To have that special someone who is my friend, lover, helpmate in life and that will really accept me for me as I am to accept them. I would love nothing better than to meet my partner with whom I could share myself both day and night, to lay in bed in the evening and nurse, just to share that close time at the end of the day. To awake with that person in the morning and start the day in a companionable nursing session to start the day relaxed and know that when you walk out the door for the day to know that person will there for you to share with all over again. To hold that special person in my arms close to my heart and have them gently suckle my sweet love right out of my body and feel it flow into them. It is almost a spiritual experience and one that I dearly miss in my life.”
“The thought of providing my partner with nourishing milk is a wonderful thought. And the sight of him drinking from … me… I can’t explain the feeling it gives me. I want the closeness and bonding that naturally comes with that kind of relationship. Adult nursing relationships offer a connection conventional relationships don’t have and I want that.” (emphasis mine)
“An ABF relationship is a form of bonding and it is also very erotic.” About your ideal partner: “I would hope you would be just as excited as I am with this relationship. You should understand that this is for both of us. It would make you happy to know that I am receiving just as much pleasure, from what you are making my body do for you.”
“You wear the pants & I want to serve you Let me be the beautiful caring, nurturing woman that I am. Id love to take care of all your needs.”
“I have always loved breast [attention]. It wasn’t until recently that I learned about this kind of relationship. Now I feel as though a ‘light has gone off’- I know exactly what I want and an ANR is just that. I would love to cuddle up with a nice person, watch ESPN or a movie, and … develope a loving caring relationship with.”
“I have always loved attention to my breasts and have a nurturing disposition. I can’t get the idea and need to feed my partner, out of my head, so here I am. I see breastfeeding my partner as a deeply bonding, sensual and ultimately loving act. To watch … as the milk flows from my body into his would be truly beautiful.”
“ANR relationships are a new idea for me, and I knew right away that one was for me. It’s been about 6 mos., and I’ve been learning all I can about ANR, and I feel like I’m getting a glimpse of heaven. The closeness, the physical and emotional intimacy, the enhanced feelings of deep caring, giving and receiving, are described as both attainable and worth working for. Not lactating yet, but working on it. ( Update: about 2 1/2 yrs. now that I’ve been looking.) I’m a woman of 69 living in Southern CA, retired … I’ve learned that very little is worth serious disagreement. Or even mild disagreement.”
“I’m a nice, inexperienced (in relation to abf), ordinary woman. I hope to experience the comfort and intimacy of abf for long periods at a time, which I suspect would feel beautiful!”
“I’ve been interested in having an ABF for years. It’s not a fetish for me, but [a great] desire–I long for it, yearn for it. I think it’s one of the greatest and most powerful bonds two people can have. It’s intimate, sexual, sensual and erotic. I would love to share this wonderful experience with another person and hope that one day I’ll be able to.” About your ideal partner: “Someone who truly’gets it’ and longs for it like I do.”
“am a kind, caring, educated professional who has such an intense desire for this most intimate bond that I would rather be alone than to be in a relationship without it. My lover will escape the stresses of the day in my arms …”
“I find the whole process intriguing and can’t wait to have milk!! Hoping to find a partner who realizes this is a giving act on both parts and craves the closeness as well as the sexual.”
“I am a down to earth women seeking a long term relationship with ABF a part of our daily life.”
“I am currently not lactating but want to meet a man with the same desires as me so we can make it a reality. I want to nurse him on demand when he desires it.” About your ideal partner: “Someone with whom I share a connection physically, mentally and emotionally who can … nurse whenever desired on my warm sweet goodness. I cannot deny him as he needs nourishment and security from my breast.”
“ANR is a beautiful expression of love between two people. My objective is very much emotional. I want the experience with someone who I trust, love and is deserving of such an amazing gift. It is something I desire as part of a couple, not as a random milkmaid”
“I’m looking to find someone who is as interested in developing an all inclusive ANR as much as I am. I would like to find someone with whom I can share the interdependency of this type of a relationship.”
“Have never experienced and not sure if able. Has been my [dream] for years.”
“So interested in this, it’s my ultimate erotic [desire].”
“The idea of nurturing a man does something to me … I can’t even imagine what the actual act would be like…Never expressed the urge to with any man I’ve been with.”
Question: would you and your partner enter into an ANR?
Answers and reasons follow.
“O____o noooo! Lol . I clicked on this since I didn’t know what it was and if interesting we could try it… Definitely interesting (& a bit odd) but not for me!”
“I have heard of this before, and no I wouldn’t do it and FH certainly wouldn’t do it. In fact, when I heard about it I mentioned it to him and he was creeped out.
The biological purpose of breast milk is to feed your babies. Not anyone else.” [Who made this a binding mandate? Was it God, a biologist, or you?]
“DH has joked about trying it(if we ever have kids), but he was mostly curious about the taste of breast milk(which i have heard is common) not an on going fetish thing [it’s not a fetish] .
To each, their own.”
“No, I would not nurse my husband because he is not my baby. We have both tasted my breastmilk and I’m fine with that, but I’m not cool with sexualizing breastfeeding.” [I said in A biblical defense of ANRs that an ANR is not an adult-wearing-diapers fetish thing. Sure, it has a sexual component but if leads to husband-baby sexual confusion as many suggest, the Bible won’t endorse it.]
“But like a PP said, I think sexualizing breast feeding (literally feeding an adult male) is a bit strange. I wouldnt ever do that. LOL I meant like a true ANR relationship — feeding your man LOL”
“i think the shock factor is that some women go through measures to try and produce breast milk even if they haven’t even had a baby!! supplements, treatments, therapy, etc. that’s the shocking thing- to me at least.
this is worlds apart from your SO [messing around] during sex or as foreplay.”
“That is so weird. Definitely not for me.
But on a sort of related note, I wonder how many men have tried their wife’s breast milk just to see what it tastes like…lol.”
“Is this leaning towards Adult Babies?”
“Phew, I would be weirded out if it was lol.”
“I know it’s a bit childish and rediculous but I’m already uncomfortable with the idea of breast feeding in general. I don’t know it I will be able to when I have the baby because of my AE meds but if I do my husband KNOWS my breasts are for viewing only during the breast feeding months. They are already very sensitive in a sexual way and I know I won’t be sexualized if I breast feed, but I don’t want my husband in my business and I all of a sudden start thinking about needing to feed the baby or anything like that. I’d like to keep the two separated as much as possible until breast feeding is done, no way could I let my husband feed in a sexual moment and thirty minutes later feed the baby.
im a bit uncomfortable with the idea of lactation in general (I know I know it’s natural) just one of my things. Others can breast feed and I think it’s great, I’m just a bit put off by the idea in general”
“Weird and annoying! Once baby is done I am not ruining anymore bras with leakage!”
“I could see DH and I being into this while I was already BF’ing. I think he’d like to try it but I doubt that I would “feed” him. However, I don’t think that it would be often or even regularly. I sure as heck wouldn’t keep my milk supply up for him.”
“I don’t judge other people’s fetish. Lots of folks on this site partake in crazy things. We have AB DL [folks] on the site, and this kind of fits into that
I don’t see the big deal, but it’s not one of my fetishes.” [Again, it’s not a fetish].
“I used to date a guy who had been breastfed until he was TEN YEARS OLD.
One evening after [fornicating], he asked if I would “breastfeed” him.
I told him that since I had no milk, there was no way for me to breastfeed him… like a baby. Ewwwwww….
The relationship ended for other reasons, but I will always remember that strange request.
My husband and I are childfree, so there will be no breast milk. However, I don’t think he would fetishize breastfeeding.” [Couples Nursing is a love language, not a fetish].
“You don’t get kinkier than us but when I read this I was like ewww how is that sexy…yeah there will never be pretend breastfeeding. No just no”
I can’t find the exact quotes but I found a woman who almost said she was counting the days left to breastfeed her child because she was ready to “have her body back.”
Another wanted to end her nursing season because there was milk everywhere, even in her slippers.
Women always assume it’ll place an undue strain on them and their bodies. This is simply not the case. Women’s bodies were created to withstand a lot. If breasts were designed for lactating, then I think they can handle several decades of lactating.
One Christian woman told me she has no interest because of the constant need to be with her husband. She’d like to enjoy nights out with her girlfriends. But the Bible commands newlywed Israelite men to stay home for one year to bring happiness to their wives.
Three women have told me how they have difficulty imagining the hormonal and other changes that’ll be triggered were they to lactate indefinitely. Again, God has created the female body to handle such demands. If one woman can give birth to dozens of babies, then I’m confident that lifetime lactation would be easier on a woman’s body.
Many of my favorites are below. Using biblical discretion, google some of these to see I’m not making them up.
“My husband and I are in our sixties. I breastfed our children and because of social conditioning it never crossed our minds for him to [enjoy] the gift of my breasts. Five years ago we began enjoying longer periods of foreplay before sex-and because my husband has always enjoyed my breasts … Eventually I began producing milk and boy did his interest sky rocket and my joy of gift giving fulfilled . Because we are retired we have the time to have … sessions 4-6 times per day and when we are busy every 12 hours work just fine. We never saw it as him being a submissive husband, a baby, a child, only a very special time of snuggling and bonding. This special bonding has taken our long marriage to a higher level of intimacy. It hasn’t surplanted sex just made our marriage more meaningful. Perhaps it is just the right thing for an older couple to finish out their lives-instead of what we see as older couples finishing out their lives in a platonic relationship, sleeping in front of the ball game, sweeping the sidewalk, and watching the wheel of fortune-and it makes sense that after nursing babies that breasts-instead of just hanging around atrophying for the rest of the marriage, and mine have completely rejuvenated to young and fruitful breasts – might have an added bonus for a marriage.
Reveling in the gift of pure being”
“My wife and I are [most definitely non-Christians] and in an active ANR, and as others have stated, there is nothing that I have ever found that has brought down the barriers between 2 people like this has. No secrets, no lies, the bonds have only gotten stronger and we have grown so close it defies explanation. For any and all downsides, the upside is enormous. Plus, it’s a turn on for both of us that she nourishes me every day.”
“My husband and I are just beginning this journey with relactation . I know that I personally find a very bonding experience. Beyond the definite sexual stimulation I receive the intimacy is wonderful. This is a beautiful God given gift.”
“my husband discovered the milk through our lovemaking and began tasting just a little at first. It made me feel so close to him and him to me…..a new connection between us. Now we have nursing sessions once or twice a week, those sessions release hormones in me that make me feel euphoric and it relaxes him in ways I’ve never seen. Plus it’s something only between the two of us. I like to think I am producing the milk for him so we can get closer still. I have no other explanation and no desire for any other relationship than with him.”
“She doesn’t look at it as me becoming an infant to her, but as part of her surrendering her body to me.”
“At first I viewed it as ‘those are for my children now’ (which is why we hadn’t done it in previous pregnancies/postpartum), but once I agreed to give it a try I found I really enjoy it. I have never seen it as my husband being infant like or less of a leader in our house, but more as another way to surrender myself to him and share my body with him in a newer and different way. Since for many women nipple stimulation can be sexually arousing, especially with those oxytocin releases, I think that is the big appeal for the female perspective…plus, yes, men like breasts so playing with them is fun for him.”
“Absolutely yes and yes … My husband and I have had an ANR for almost 2 months now and it has brought us so much closer.”
“My wife and I are into ANR … It is the most romantic and intimate experience for both of us that either one of us has ever experienced. She tells me repeatedly that she has never felt closer to anyone as she does to me. We have both acknowledged that had we done this in our prior marriages that we most likely would have not gone through a divorce. The nursing forces us to spend time together regardless how busy or tired that we may be. And it has also led to some of the greatest sex for both of us as well. I really can’t say enough good about ANR.”
– Robert S., August 25, 2015
“There are so many people with so many taboos that they really don’t experience a true and natural life. Adult breastfeeding is common in some countries. Not so much in the United states. But it is growing in popularity because of the benefits it has to offer. It is even encouraged in some areas of the bible.
I am vary supportive of Adult Nursing Relationships or Adult Breastfeeding Relationships. There are several reasons why people are in to ANR/ABR. Everyone is different and so are there reasons. Some are into it for the health benefits and some for the emotional or the intimacy. Some just for the sexual stimulation and so on…
Most men (if any) do not [nurse] in the same way as an infant. But we men can still … give pleasure … As far as clogged milk ducts and infections from a man … this is not necessarily true. I know of several women who have lactated for several years for there spouse without any problems.
ANR/ABR does not necessarily mean a woman is lactating. In a lot of ANR/ABR relationships, there is no lactation. They are in it for the intimacy it has to offer.
Most are not in to the mommy-baby role playing ether.
ANR/ABR is not for everyone. Some women do not get any pleasure from it just as some men are not into breasts.
Too each there own. It is a personal thing.
you can reference all this by Googling:
• Benefits of Adult Breastfeeding or Adult Nursing
• Adult breastfeeding relationships
• Adult nursing relationships”
“I think ANR ensures that you spend quality time with each other.”
“Thank you! ☺️I love it. It’s the most amazing, intimate experience.”
“As a deeply committed Christian woman, who is very loving I [see] ANR as a natural, profound gift to share in the most devoted of relationships.”
“I simply enjoy the [intimacy], closeness, soothing & erotic aspect that nursing brings.”
“Yes and yes. I am currently in an ANR with my husband. We enjoy every ounce of it. It has brought us closer together in more ways than can verbally be said. And I get the added benefit of having larger breasts without surgery!”
“I firmly believe that ANR/ABF is the closest that to humans can be.
Unlike some, I don’t believe that ANR/ABF is a fetish or a “tool” to reach an end goal.
I believe that it is a choice.. a way of being.
for partners to grow and build an ever stronger, closer bond WITH each other. It’s truly an incredible experience and everyone has their own unique feelings about it. For me, breast feeding is not just erotic. It’s a healthy physical, as well as emotional experience for both. [It] is so incredibly fulfilling … You relax and open yourself to the wonderful experience … You know he is feeding on part of you and it creates an intense pleasure and deep inner connection. Deeply intimate. It’s a connection that can’t be expressed well with words, but it makes you feel vibrant and fulfilled. You feel warm and glowing all over. Just like when clean clothes are freshly removed from the dryer and you wear them or hold them close. An indescribable warmth and feeling of peaceful relaxation. You feel so soothed and serene it’s almost as if you’re weightless, gently floating in time and space … you wish this blissful moment could last forever. You know it can’t, but the future holds many more, so you surrender to the moment and gently drift off into a serene heavenly sleep. Think about the excitement when you start to produce milk. Your breasts will become healthier, larger, fuller, and more beautiful. You feel a pervasive warm glow from your breasts. They make you feel so good, you ache to [use them]. You yearn to have … your soothing rich essence drawn out from [you] into [him]. Watching him feed from you makes you feel incredible. The feeling can be so intense it can be indescribable. You feel a connection deep down to the core of your being, a connection that is so beautiful and natural.”
“Yess…I agree it is an opportunity to bond. However I also find that the intamacy and closeness, the sensuality … is VERY stimulating and erotic. this can be … a BEAUTIFUL way to [come] together!!”
“I for one always love how it feels. It builds bond, love and emotions … Its nature … simply enjoy it.”
“It all started when i had just delivered my baby. I had engorged breasts early morning three days after my delivery. It was really painful and my breasts were swollen and hard like rock. I was crying out of pain. Both me and my husband tried to manually express the milk out but it was of little help. I was yet to buy a breast reliever then. And it was too early in the morning to visit the doctor’ s clinic. finally my husband had to [do something] himself … It was of great relief. And it continued for the next few weeks. He would normally feed on at bedtime after the baby falls asleep. And repeat the same before going out for work and after coming back … My husband is still performing his job loyally and to his full satisfaction and mine… Both me and my husband are enjoying the new bond. It feels really nice to nourish both of them with my milk. Though we have never discussed, I would love to continue to feed my husband even after weaning my baby and as long as I can.”
“What a beautiful, intimate thing to share with someone you love and hope to live a long and healthy life with.”
“I let my husband try one night when I was too full and baby was asleep. We both enjoyed it and have continued.”
“… it opened a pandora’s box of pleasure and intimacy we hadn’t had before in our marriage. Even though we couldn’t do anything (I had my baby a little over a week ago) we grew closer together in that time, and we both benefited from it. So go ahead, if your husband is curious let him taste it. It could be an eye opening experience for you both.”
“I am a woman who loves to nurse men. I haven’t heard or read too much about this and I was wondering if this is something men like. I was in a long marriage and breastfed my child and my husband loved it so i continued after I weaned my daughter. He nursed before work and came home from lunch to [nurse] and then after work. If he was having a stressful day he would come home and nurse for awhile and return to his job. It was a part of my life for 10 years. I am now divorced and hate to give up this sensual and erotic part of my life. How do I bring it up when I am dating someone … Any suggestions or comments would be appreciated. It was an intimate loving act between two consenting adults. I don’t want to nurse just anyone, but that special someone. It’s a very lovingand profound experience, a connection with your mate, a bond with your mate that resembles, but not entirely of course, the bond you create with your infant when you nurse. It is not always a sexual act.”
“For me, being able to nurse someone is almost unexplainable, but the best way I know how to describe it is: yes, there’s eroticism involved because breastfeeding an adult is still primarily taboo in mainstream society … But really, the biggest thing for me (being the altruist that I am) is the idea of caring for someone and nurturing them in a way that no one else in their life does or could. The idea that they’re gaining sustenance from something I’m providing from my body as nature intended breasts to be used for.”
“I personaly dont find anything wrong with this, my husband has been drinking my milk off and on for almost 6 years now and let me tell you he has never once gotten sick…. we all got food poisoning and he didnt get sick its amazing how brest milk works 🙂 Good luck and have fun :)”
“I encourage ANY woman that wants a closer and more connected bond between her partner to let them [nurse] if they so want to. My husband and I are mature, professional adults with grown, out-of-the-house children. After a stressful day at work we look forward to the relaxation and bonding … We’ve induced my lactation after many years of the ‘wells being dry’ so to speak. The let-down sensation of my milk and its’ effects on both of us is much better than trying to relax with an alcoholic beverage at the end of the day. Much healthier too!! As suckler stated above ‘it’s not always about sex.”
“My husband and I have had an anr relationship for about 3 years now. We have never been closer or happier. We are truly enjoy[ing] spending time together. After 25 years of marriage our friends wonder what our secret is. We usualy do it before bed … it has given us a deep connection.”
“My husband loves my milk. It is a bond like no other. with him I don’t have to pretend that BFing isn’t erotic. I will nurse him until my breasts can not make milk any more.
The bond is amazing before doing this I was considering leaving him for other reasons. ohh Mangos & Pineapples make your milk sweeter! :)”
“I am actually a lactating mom, and my husband does nurse from me. It is actually extremely comforting and usually puts me to sleep. It started when my baby got sick and could not breastfeed for about a week (had feeding tube in hospitAl). My breast got engorged and it hurts to pumps. So he provided me with relief in a more gentler way. Since then it’s been a loving comfort like holding hands or cuddling in bed.”
“I look at giving my milk as a gift to show my devotion.”
“… Wow! Is all I can say once you have experienced this. There is no greater bond as a woman to be able to give in such a tender, erotic, sexy, loving way. We are so blessed to have milky breasts no matter what the size. I can only speak from my experience and what a miracle to see my milk increase to my partner’s demand. The size of the breast does not determine the amount of milk … As your warm love releases into him, the sweetness of the taste, the flow of the spray, and the nutrition of milk are almost certain to send him into bliss. You will both begin to throb together and it will leave you both wanting more. This is my promise. Men if you are not into it then you are being closed minded and limiting yourself to experiencing a real joy and women if you are not producing by enough stimulation then you need to give in to more intimate time together to open up to receiving the bliss nature intended for you to have in your life. I believe this is the ultimate form of love making when you can be so in tune with one another for mutual sharing you reach levels of love that are truly blessings. Enjoy and bliss on!”
“Breastfeeding my husband has changed us so much – it’s made us calmer, happier people – but it’s also changed our relationship, making us closer, more intimate and more in tune with each other’s needs.”
“…ANR … for me … is nurturing … It is a bonding thing.”
“Is There Anything More Loving? I can not think of a more loving thing to do … I have induced just for him. He knows that the changes he is seeing, the fullness he can sense, the warmth … is all in response to his loving touch … we share the most intimate bond. He’ll even … ensure I do not awaken in the morning feeling too uncomortable. Of course, he spends that precious earliest time in the morning … and I so love that moment. We start our day so bonded together. Nothing we face the rest of the day can seem so bad when we’ve come together so perfectly each morning. I smile when I get that “twinge” during the hour before he’s due home. I take that moment of discomfort and actually find comfort in it, because it is merely my body aching for his return to me … Can you think of a better welcome home tha[n] a loving wife …? no. For all the web discussion of sharing, swaping and such, is there not something rather special about a wife working so very hard to build and maintain a beautiful milk supply that displays itself in a gorgeous pair of blue veined globes that are solely for his pleasure? A gift.”
“I pray that one day it will not be so taboo, and I can openly discuss my loving expression to him. I would love to have the freedom to … nurse him … without any sexual overtones (yes, that ought to be a bit more private due to kiddos) but what is so shameful of … his taking his fill? … My child never nursed, he refused my gift, but my husband waited and then asked if I would consider giving this to him. 8 years after I gave up trying to nurse a child, he lovingly helped me bring in the flow. It is for him, my gift.”
“I love to be available to the one [nursing from] me.”
“ANR is sensual & sharing. Very special and sexual between a man & a woman. Not to be taken lightly. Something to share with heart.”
“Its almost Springtime. Nothing is more intimate than taking a walk in the Springtime woods with your lover. After rounding many bends, we come to a secluded opening just off the main path. Vines surround us, the thin early grass is soft and inviting. You spread out the blanket and help me to a seated position … you join me on the blanket … Looking deep into your eyes … I surrender to you we fulfill each other’s needs for almost an hour, there in the tender Springtime sun.”
I can’t find the quote but one woman said something to the tune of “when he gets on my nerves, I take a deep breath and ask myself ‘why should I be mad at him if in just a little while he’ll be giving me such amazing pleasure?'”, and some women yearn for it much more than their husbands:
“hmm, well I tried with my husband and he QUICKLY declined. I even told him the benefits of having some, but it still didnt matter to him.”
“I always wished that my husband would want to try it, just for the sake of sharing someting so important, beautiful and personal. He is too prim and proper.”
“At least your husband is curious!! My husband thinks breastmilk is gross…and he hasn’t even tried it!!! husband thinks it’s strange. I offered him to taste it but he adamently refused. It’s not poison. And there’s no need to think of it as only for baby.”
“I really.wanted to do this while nursing our daughter, but my husband wouldn’t. He wouldn’t even touch … because they were full of milk. My daughter is going to be 3… maybe I could start to produce again if he would change his mind. I want this so badly. I am very happy that your husband enjoys it because I wish mine did.”
“I am currently breastfeeding and … I am married he has no intrest.”