See A biblical defense of ANRs, where I address this common misconception.
Note the presupposition in this line of reasoning.
The preconceived notion in this argument goes something like: breastfeeding is a special, intimate moment of bonding between mother and child. (That, it certainly is). But it further assumes that it must remain only between mother and child while it need not be confined to that dynamic.
The Bible is the final authority on all matters. Since it never states nor implies that breastfeeding is limited to a mother nourishing her child, then breastfeeding is not limited to a mother nourishing her child.
We must rely not on our feelings or fallen sense of propriety but on God’s word alone.
Some might counter by saying not all unhealthy or imprudent behaviors are specifically prohibited in the Bible, and may adduce the consumption of other bodily fluids, as a counterexample. Scripture never specifically condemns such “perversions” but that doesn’t make it okay to drink blood, for example.
My response to this counterargument lies in the uniqueness of breast milk. It is the only bodily fluid designed with the sole intent of nurturing another human being. Even some experts who find the idea of ABF repugnant admit the harmlessness of adults consuming the milk of a healthy female, therefore the mental block people have against ANRs is neither medical nor scientific, it’s psychological, and Christ has set us free from all psychological taboos.
“Childhood innocence and adult sexuality should be kept separate,” argued one woman. I agree, that’s why when I have kids, I would love them to innocently enjoy cartoons while my wife and I innocently participate in adult entertainment in a locked bedroom.
I categorically reject the notion that Couples Nursing somehow crosses the boundaries of normalcy or the ‘creepy pedophile’ line, because I firmly believe God intentionally created breastfeeding to also have a sexual component. First, multiple Bible verses affirm female breasts to be sex organs. Additionally, medical experts report that nipples are erogenous zones  and many sexually active nursing mothers report spraying milk while experiencing orgasm. One recounted how embarrassed she felt because she nearly hosed him down during sex.
We can surely state without a doubt that there’s a connection between breastfeeding and sexual pleasure, and God says in His word that breasts are secondary sex organs. All evidence considered, an unbiased person would admit that breastfeeding itself can be erotic. I’ve heard of women who felt so guilty for having an orgasm while breastfeeding their babies that they completely quit nursing. “With [my husband],” admitted one woman,” I don’t have to pretend that bfing isn’t erotic.”
All arguments that breastfeeding shouldn’t be sexualized can’t withstand biblical scrutiny. Christian ANR critics often raise objections on the basis of biblical gender roles, hierarchies, and reverence, all of which I’ve rebutted in my posts A Biblical defense of ANRs and Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish?
Rather than violating the divine order, doing things considered taboo, foolish, childish, irreverent and too vulnerable can on the contrary be the best way to vindicate it, just like a Man who is also the God of the universe voluntarily placed Himself under a curse and let His own creatures mock and strip and murder Him in order to redeem some of lost humanity. There was a time Saul of Tarsus considered this so taboo and offensive he would have arrested or killed you if you dared preach it to him.
If we want to argue using similar logic, then we must also insist that the mouth ought not be sexualized. We sometimes kiss our children with it.
Our arms can’t be sexualized either. We hold and hug babies with them.
What about cartoons? And other animated entertainment? Those were all originally meant for children. Does that mean adults can’t and haven’t adapted them for more grown-up use? See a list of the highest rated cartoons for teens and adults here. And how about adult coloring books which CNN reports are “all the rage right now [August 2017]?”
Because something was primarily intended for childhood consumption doesn’t mean it can find no audience among the adult population, and given a spin that totally differs from the usage of its original demographic. With the hubby, it’s a totally different dynamic.
1. The newest, hottest workout recovery beverage: Human breast milk, Washington Post
2. See Proverbs 5:19: “a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts drench you at all times; be led astray always in her love.”
3. Ezekiel 23:3: “who acted like prostitutes in Egypt, behaving promiscuously in their youth. Their breasts were fondled there, and their virgin nipples caressed.”
4. Ezekiel 23:8: “She didn’t give up her promiscuity that began in Egypt, when men slept with her in her youth, caressed her virgin nipples, and poured out their lust on her.”
5. Ezekiel 23:21: “So you revisited the indecency of your youth, when the Egyptians caressed your nipples to enjoy your youthful breasts.”
6. Women’s clitoris, vagina and cervix mapped on the sensory cortex: fMRI evidence, National Center for Biotechnology Information, U.S. National Library of Medicine, National Institutes of Health
7. Female hot spots: extragenital erogenous zones, Research Gate
A few years ago, someone accused me of seeking to degrade my future wife.
Trying to see things from the ANR critic’s perspective, in this fallen, self-centered, porn-infested world of ours, the conclusion that a man who desires something sexual and unusual from a woman only seeks to use her for his own one-sided enjoyment seems a logical one. If you’re grossed out by the idea of Adult Breastfeeding, you might think men like me immediately salivate each time we’re around women with big boobs.
But this longing does not at all make me view women any less. On the contrary, I’ve only grown in my respect and admiration of women and what their bodies can do. I’ll be quick to admit that I sometimes lust when I see women that closely match the ANR profile but my usual reaction when I see feminine, well-endowed women is reverence. Respect for what they can do with those endowments. Quite frankly, I think it’s powerful. I’m attaining a better understanding of real feminine beauty. That every woman potentially carries life, health and nourishment in her body is astounding and is a fact taken far too often for granted in almost every country in the world.
Every woman has great potential that I estimate 99% sadly never realize. Thanks to all my ANR research, I now view women as a beautiful form of God’s dew that soothes the earth, and love them more for their potential to be sources of great blessing and refreshment to others, in a lot more ways than simply ANR.
There are other feminine qualities to which I’ve become more attuned but won’t have noticed were it not for my research and involvement in the CN community.
“We are convinced that Satan has been behind the taboo of ANR. If more marriages practiced ANR, I think there would be a lot less divorce.”
– Pastor E, How a pastor came to embrace ANR
We ANR-loving people are “weirdos” who:
- Have all-day custody of your children at daycare
- Teach them in all grades beyond daycare
- Shepherd your churches
- Hold public service jobs
- Provide you emotional support during labor
- Care for your elderly parents
- Hold corporate titles like Financial Advisor and Research Analyst
- Care for you when you’re sick or injured
- Assist you with breastfeeding your newborn
- Perform heavy duty jobs at factories and grocery stores
- Attend your colleges
- Work in the energy industry and think up ways to slash your electric bill
- Work in retail
- Do social work
- Live next door
I implore you to avoid judging others by your own standards. ANR-loving “weirdos” are all around you.