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P.E.W.

Another catch-all phrase to serve my brothers, and to some extent, sisters in Christ. The typical woman who loves ANRs enjoys contributing to the Physical and Emotional Wellbeing of others. Observe her. Does she enjoy showing affection to others? Is she the type who offers emotional support to those in need? Does she like cooking…

How to disclose your desire without coming off as a creep

To minimize the shock and creep factor, I now think it’s wiser to stagger your disclosure. Consider breaking it into the following stages: Stage One: The homework/detective stage. Guys, seek the feminine, nurturing, affectionate type. Girls, look for a man who’s openminded and not too puritanical. Stage Two: The buildup/getting intimate stage. Build trust. Patience…

Guard her heart

Guys, since God has created the sexes differently and sex has a more powerful effect on women, it’s important to avoid falling into sexual sin. When you get sexual with a woman before marriage, her heart gets involved. Getting visual or physical for your own purposes is prohibited. Never try to “see just to make…

The three categories of relationships

I recently read Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas. It’s a highly recommended read. According to Hiestand and Thomas, the Bible only presents three categories of relationships between any two human beings. We have the: Neighbor relationship (sex prohibited) Family relationship (sex prohibited) Marriage relationship (sex commanded) They also…

Ideal ANR body

From very cautiously researching on Christian/modest ANR resources and the now defunct, semi-modest ANRSpace, I gleaned that women who desire ANRs all seem to have bodies that are: Soft Smooth Extra fatty and creamy Curvaceous Sensual Sexual Sensitive Grandular Responsive Succulent “Juicy” Again, one can infer these WITHOUT sinning. I don’t think God wants us…

ANR matchmaking idea

If we navigate carefully, we can find modest websites that have a personal ad section, free and open to anyone. It just occurred to me to try posting on a relatively clean one, making sure to stress the importance of my faith. Now I’m waiting to see if it’ll yield any results. This could be…

Couples Nursing friendly dating profile 1

What I’m most passionate about: Caring, hospitality, turning my home into a sanctuary, spiritual and emotional growth, living out the Beatitudes, gardening, writing, reading, nature, silence, nurturing deep connections with God and people, humor, good nutrition, dancing & balance/ rhythm in life. I typically spend my leisure time: Gardening, outdoor activities, reading, writing, crafts, cultural…

Lessons from Ashley Madison: the uniqueness of ABF

The recent Ashley Madison leak has revealed some telling data. 99.95% of the site’s users are male. How does this compare to other matchmaking sites? On those tailored towards mainstream sexual activity, about 75 to 80% of users are male. In comparison, only 68% of heterosexual accounts on ANRSpace belong to men, but I strongly believe the actual…

When to bring it up to a potential mate

I don’t think there’s a consensus within the ANR community. Personally, I don’t waste time. I’m completely convinced that an ANR is a huge blessing, so I’m upfront about it. My general principle is first or second date depending on how well we appear to get along, and if she’s an online prospect then it’s always the…

How to bring it up to a potential mate

Ultra cautiously. First, to maximize your chances of succeeding, only pursue/be pursued by the type of Christian that’s highly likely to say yes.  For guys, it means aiming for the soft, nurturing girl. If you see no signs of feminine softness in her, you’re likely to be wasting your time and hers. Ladies, your best bet is…

The danger of ANR: Biblical ANR hero gone bad

Note: ANR in itself isn’t dangerous, our sinful hearts pose the real danger. While browsing through ANR dating profiles, I came across a woman I’ll never forget. She was very attractive physically, and also one of the handful of modestly dressed women on both websites on which I spotted her. And we have some things in…

The ANR lover’s profile: how to tell if she (or he) would almost certainly say yes

This summer, I began a weekly series of posts in which I drew on my hundreds of hours of research to describe the woman who fits the profile of the typical ANR fan. Although I focused on profiling the woman that loves ANRs, ladies can also gain valuable insights by applying the masculine equivalents of these characteristics,…

Godly ANR dating site desperately needed

I have visited virtually every active ANR dating site on the web, and while they vary widely in raunchiness or even “pornness”, their content invariably serves as a reminder that Christians are aliens in this fallen world. I want to give ANRSpace some credit for their efforts towards family friendliness, especially their no-cleavage policy, however simply reading what some…