If we navigate carefully, we can find modest websites that have a personal ad section, free and open to anyone. It just occurred to me to try posting on a relatively clean one, making sure to stress the importance of my faith. Now I’m waiting to see if it’ll yield any results. This could be a temporary solution pending the creation of the godly ANR dating site we all want.
Obviously, the most important thing to seek in a woman is godly character. But guys, also seek the woman that has soft breasts, not just large ones. The typical woman who really loves Couples Nursing absolutely possesses the most amazingly inviting breasts. A lady can have the largest natural breasts but if they’re too firm, she might snap at you for discussing ANR. So how can you discern the tenderness of a woman’s breasts without lusting, objectifying, staring or touching? I’ve never been in an ANR before, never sought one prior to marriage nor have I ever tried to feel up a woman who appears to have great ANR potential, “just to make sure.” So how do I know this? From viewing hundreds of ANR profiles, I could just tell. Although I often strive to look strictly at her eyes and acquire any breast intel only peripherally, it’s still easy to tell when a woman has a pair of very soft and highly desirable breasts.
So without staring at them, aim for succulent, soft, comforting, juicy, large, heavy, inviting, moist, fluid, and, for the lack of better words, udder-ly irresistible. Ladies, the pun is somewhat intended, but any hint of disrespect isn’t. I’m just being frank– after researching hundreds of ANR ladies online, I can confidently say there is a pattern. Women who want this beautiful intimacy tend to have breasts that are truly designed for their original purpose, and they seem to non-verbally scream out louder then all the rest of the world’s women: “got milk!”
Well-endowed ladies that strongly desire an ANR have the nicest breasts in the whole world, trust me on this. Just don’t stare. And remember that the spiritual is more important than the physical, although the physical matters to God too. And exercise self-control, per 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4.
There’s only one thing stopping me from creating the ANR dating site for which so many of us deeply long. But it’s one major hindrance.
To operate a blog, you only need one person with free time here and there but with a website dedicated to matchmaking, I feel I’ll need to invest so much more. I believe it’ll take at least five people to moderate such a site.
Dear Lord, please raise some believers to rise to the occasion. There are several Christians who want to see this happen so let them rise and join in partnership for this great biblical, Christ-glorifying endeavor.
“People need to pursue the relationship first then the ANR. With the taboo still surrounding it I feel [a hastily created ANR dating site] may do more [harm] than [good]. Plus I would rather work on content than spending my time constantly policing people.”
– Co-blogger Raymond Stone
Be sure to see Godly ANR dating site desperately needed
What I’m most passionate about:
Caring, hospitality, turning my home into a sanctuary, spiritual and emotional growth, living out the Beatitudes, gardening, writing, reading, nature, silence, nurturing deep connections with God and people, humor, good nutrition, dancing & balance/ rhythm in life.
I typically spend my leisure time:
Gardening, outdoor activities, reading, writing, crafts, cultural events, cooking, hot springs & time with friends.
THINGS I CAN’T
half and half and honey 🙂
loving God and opportunity to care for others
connecting with nature
books, music and arts
creating a home, good balanced life
describe me as:
ABF singles allows obscene amounts of cleavage. So did anrdating.com before being suddenly parked.
Kwink and ANR Connections take it a step further to full fledged nudity.
There are others out there but it’s with these I’m most familiar.
Needless to say, I do not recommend visiting them.
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.”
– 1 Corinthians 6:18
The first one isn’t quite a personal but a response to a question I had asked via email. Using biblical wisdom, google some of these ANR dating profile posts to corroborate their authenticity.
“What are my reasons for wanting ANR within marriage? Sex within marriage is basically a way for a husband and wife to worship God by fulfilling His original design for sex. I chalk that up to include all acts of intimacy. Sex is not meant to be selfish or one-sided. The husband and wife are looking for ways to please the other without concern for themselves. It is a form of sacrificial love. You want to give your best to your spouse without holding back (just as we should give to God without holding back). For me, the idea of offering my body, and more specifically my breasts, for my husband’s enjoyment is giving him my best. On a selfish level, my husband enjoying my breasts would give me great joy physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and quite frankly I think it would be thrilling. My husband would be pulling from the very core of my being and I can’t even begin to think how amazing that would feel for us both. I can’t even begin to imagine the intimacy felt in those moments and how I would feel more feminine, and more like a woman in a purely Biblical sense. By nature, I am a nurturing woman and I think being in an ANR would increase those feelings in me and provide almost a sense of healing for my own personal insecurities. I hope my answer made sense.”
About me: “Funny, easy going, kind. I have a genuine desire to be a great wife. Have never been in an ABF relationship but I’m very interested in that for my future.” About your ideal partner: “Kind, respectful, loves Jesus!”
“Hello Gentleman, I’m updating the details of my profile, giving you a better sense of who I am. I am a voluptuous DD-cup SWF, a blue-eyed brunette who stands 5’6″… I’m DDF & a NS. I am looking for a respectful, faithful, christian gentleman & future husband who has a deep desire for his Proverbs 31:10 wife to feed him daily with her essence. Newly 50yo, everyone still guesses I’m in my late 30’s. I stumbled upon the ANR community as I did further research into becoming a Birth Doula(assists Mom during Childbirth and with Breastfeeding after baby is born). When I told my ex-fiance’ about ANR’s he was very excited to learn of this deep bonding experience, further looking forward to married life together. I have had a longing to nurse my husband since I was a teenager, not ever knowing that ANR’s are more common in marriages than are ever talked about. I thought I was the odd one with the deep yearning … when in all reality, it is a God-given desire in all of us; for the woman’s desire … and for the man wanting to … drink of her nourishing essence, bringing needed relief to the inner ache and fullness at hand. Never having been married nor nursed a baby, the desire to deeply bond with my husband and give him this gift no one else can(married for life), has lept off the charts. In my research on Mother-Child breastfeeding, there are significant hormones released in this amazing process. Oxytocin is the “bonding” hormone. It is released in the breastmilk during breastfeeding so that Mother and child attach & bond. Oxytocin & dopamine are released during a couple’s love making, facilitating their bonding as well. Prolactin is the “relaxation” hormone released in both instances. In couples, it is the “relaxed feeling” in the after-glow 🙂 I have read alot of informaton & blogs from sites to know this takes real commitment & patience in this process to bring in the sweet milk. I am greatly encouraged to know that I am capable of producing milk at my age and without prior childbirth experience … I have not been in an ANR before, so the thought of this [ANR dating] community existing is very exciting and gives me hope to find the husband of my deepest desire. I love to cook & bake. I want to have a relaxing, cozy home for my husband to come home to; his safe-haven from the day to day grind. Growing together in our shared faith(not religion), coupled with our ANR can only take our already deep bond to an even deeper level that we have never experienced. If what I have written is what you are looking for, then awesome, send me your thoughts. Please no game players. I want serious-NOT curious. God be with you. Jeanne”
More from Jeanne:
“… I am in the process of becoming a ChildBirth Doula. In January, I was looking up more Breastfeeding info when I discovered ANR’s. Within a couple of clicks, I found your site and I am thrilled to pieces to read all of your personal journal entries so beautifully written, with honesty, from the heart.
An ANR is something I have desired since early adulthood but never knew there was an actual name for it or an established ANR community. I am 47 y.o., never married, no kids. Last April, I began a long distance relationship with a Kiwi (New Zealander) living in Australia … God’s perfect timing has brought us together, through an amazing journey this last year.
When I called him and shared this ANR discovery with him, he was thrilled and very intrigued at the same time. He has read a few of your journal entries and really wants to give it ago, once we are married …
He is a social worker in a small town hospital and I mentioned that I thought at some point, as a couple, we could share the amazing benefits of ANR’s with other married couples who may be struggling in their marriages or who just want guidance to deepen their initmacy. My Kiwi and I have had many in depth discussions over the course of getting to know each other. I am thrilled beyond words that he and I have an equal passion for breast attention. Reading Song of Solomon makes so much more sense in how God designed husbands and wives to enjoy each others bodies within the exclusiveness of marriage …
We are so looking forward to all of the wonderful moments and benefits to be had with our ANR. I would imagine, as “older” newlyweds, we will be getting alot of feedback as to the secrets to our higher than normal display of “wedded bliss”. I know without a doubt that God designed us for each other at this time in our life; experiencing and expressing for each other a love that could have only come from God alone.
“I want an Adult Nursing RELATIONSHIP. I am not looking to just nurse someone, I want to find someone I can spend the rest of my life with.” About your ideal partner: “I enjoy living a quiet lifestyle and am interested in someone who desires the same. I am not interested in a relationship with someone who smokes. I am looking for someone who is eager to have a family. I prefer traditional gender roles. I have strong opinions sometimes, but I also have a big desire to take a more submissive role in a relationship.”
“Hello..I’m a Bright, and Gentle, Fun Lady..I’m soft spoken, but a strong person..Full of laughter..I’m a great cook, love to go out to dinner and have a movie out. GRILLING AT HOME. I like to walk on the beach, when it’s not to crowded, late evenings…I adore cuddling, being close sharing this MOST SPECIAL BOND TO MAKE A PART OF OUR DAILY LIVES… I’M 5’9 AFRICAN AMERICAN, PRETTY SOFT CARAMEL SKIN, BIG PRETTY SMILE, WITH BIG BROWN EYES..I HAVE MY OWN HOME, GROWN KIDS…READY TO LOVE AND BE LOVED,,,I AM MOST OF ALL A CHRISTIAN…A WOMAN OF GOD.. I AM OPEN FOR THE SAME TYPE QUALITIES, AND A LOVING CHRISTIAN MAN..THAT LIKE THE SIMPLE THINGS IN LIFE, AND WANTS TO SHARE THIS TYPE OF LOVE … A GENTLEMAN TALLER THAN MYSELF, AGES OF 40-65… WOULD BE NICE.. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY…”
“I am an active Christian wanting to begin an ANR/ABF relationship. My hope is that in time my ANR partner and I could meet all of each other’s partner needs: ANR, social, sexual, etc. I don’t smoke, do drugs and only occasionally have a drink; maybe 5 or 6 a year. Willing to relocate for the right man…”
“I am seeking a fulltime serious anr relationship. I would like to meet someone who has the same values as me and that wishes to share in the adventure and journey that is anr. To meet my true [mate] with whom I can share all aspects of life on a day to day basis. I believe that one of the true apsects of anr is that a man and a woman become the closests of friends and sharing of everything in life. The bond that comes from sharing during the nursing and suckling is one such that only true people who have shared this desire to be this close with another human being understands the need and desire. To have that special someone who is my friend, lover, helpmate in life and that will really accept me for me as I am to accept them. I would love nothing better than to meet my partner with whom I could share myself both day and night, to lay in bed in the evening and nurse, just to share that close time at the end of the day. To awake with that person in the morning and start the day in a companionable nursing session to start the day relaxed and know that when you walk out the door for the day to know that person will there for you to share with all over again. To hold that special person in my arms close to my heart and have them gently suckle my sweet love right out of my body and feel it flow into them. It is almost a spiritual experience and one that I dearly miss in my life.”
“The thought of providing my partner with nourishing milk is a wonderful thought. And the sight of him drinking from … me… I can’t explain the feeling it gives me. I want the closeness and bonding that naturally comes with that kind of relationship. Adult nursing relationships offer a connection conventional relationships don’t have and I want that.” (emphasis mine)
“An ABF relationship is a form of bonding and it is also very erotic.” About your ideal partner: “I would hope you would be just as excited as I am with this relationship. You should understand that this is for both of us. It would make you happy to know that I am receiving just as much pleasure, from what you are making my body do for you.”
“You wear the pants & I want to serve you Let me be the beautiful caring, nurturing woman that I am. Id love to take care of all your needs.”
“I have always loved breast [attention]. It wasn’t until recently that I learned about this kind of relationship. Now I feel as though a ‘light has gone off’- I know exactly what I want and an ANR is just that. I would love to cuddle up with a nice person, watch ESPN or a movie, and … develope a loving caring relationship with.”
“I have always loved attention to my breasts and have a nurturing disposition. I can’t get the idea and need to feed my partner, out of my head, so here I am. I see breastfeeding my partner as a deeply bonding, sensual and ultimately loving act. To watch … as the milk flows from my body into his would be truly beautiful.”
“ANR relationships are a new idea for me, and I knew right away that one was for me. It’s been about 6 mos., and I’ve been learning all I can about ANR, and I feel like I’m getting a glimpse of heaven. The closeness, the physical and emotional intimacy, the enhanced feelings of deep caring, giving and receiving, are described as both attainable and worth working for. Not lactating yet, but working on it. ( Update: about 2 1/2 yrs. now that I’ve been looking.) I’m a woman of 69 living in Southern CA, retired … I’ve learned that very little is worth serious disagreement. Or even mild disagreement.”
“I’m a nice, inexperienced (in relation to abf), ordinary woman. I hope to experience the comfort and intimacy of abf for long periods at a time, which I suspect would feel beautiful!”
“I’ve been interested in having an ABF for years. It’s not a fetish for me, but [a great] desire–I long for it, yearn for it. I think it’s one of the greatest and most powerful bonds two people can have. It’s intimate, sexual, sensual and erotic. I would love to share this wonderful experience with another person and hope that one day I’ll be able to.” About your ideal partner: “Someone who truly’gets it’ and longs for it like I do.”
“am a kind, caring, educated professional who has such an intense desire for this most intimate bond that I would rather be alone than to be in a relationship without it. My lover will escape the stresses of the day in my arms …”
“I find the whole process intriguing and can’t wait to have milk!! Hoping to find a partner who realizes this is a giving act on both parts and craves the closeness as well as the sexual.”
“I am a down to earth women seeking a long term relationship with ABF a part of our daily life.”
“I am currently not lactating but want to meet a man with the same desires as me so we can make it a reality. I want to nurse him on demand when he desires it.” About your ideal partner: “Someone with whom I share a connection physically, mentally and emotionally who can … nurse whenever desired on my warm sweet goodness. I cannot deny him as he needs nourishment and security from my breast.”
“ANR is a beautiful expression of love between two people. My objective is very much emotional. I want the experience with someone who I trust, love and is deserving of such an amazing gift. It is something I desire as part of a couple, not as a random milkmaid”
“I’m looking to find someone who is as interested in developing an all inclusive ANR as much as I am. I would like to find someone with whom I can share the interdependency of this type of a relationship.”
“Have never experienced and not sure if able. Has been my [dream] for years.”
“So interested in this, it’s my ultimate erotic [desire].”
“The idea of nurturing a man does something to me … I can’t even imagine what the actual act would be like…Never expressed the urge to with any man I’ve been with.”
The recent Ashley Madison leak has revealed some telling data. 99.95% of the site’s users are male. How does this compare to other matchmaking sites? On those tailored towards mainstream sexual activity, about 75 to 80% of users are male. In comparison, only 68% of heterosexual accounts on ANRSpace belong to men, but I strongly believe the actual ratio of people desiring an ANR is even more balanced between the sexes.
Here’s why I hold that view: despite only 0.05% of Ashley Madison customers being female, I learned that 41% of marital infidelity is perpetrated by women. So the real issue isn’t a paucity of women who cheat or want an ANR, it’s twofold: 1. Women are more secretive, so when desirous of anything sexual or extramarital, they generally won’t resort to the World Wide Web to find an outlet, and 2. Women have a much easier time finding sexual partners.
The main reason I strongly suspect a 50-50 ratio for Adult Nursing Relationships is their unique nature.
Many ANR women have much girl next door charm. Some are even involved in church.
Ladies don’t view Couples Nursing as an exclusively sexual activity. To them, it’s a beautiful, loving, bonding act. On ANR blogs and dating sites, most mention the intimacy it creates before the sexual aspect.
God has designed women to be very society-friendly. A good litmus test of the social conduciveness of anything is to examine its male-female ratio. The more equal, the better.
It’s worth noting that the more lewd ANR dating sites have significantly fewer female users than ANRSpace, so if the clean, gospel-centered ANR dating site I envision were to come to fruition, I bet its male-female ratio would be an even 50-50.
There’s absolutely no activity I think men and women could agree on more than ABF. Women realize that it elevates intimacy to never-before-seen heights, and that’s what primarily draws them to it. The inherent sexual pleasure plays an important but slightly less significant role. For men, it’s both the extreme intimacy and a sexual attraction to breasts. Men approach ABF from a sexual and relational standpoint, women from a nurturing/bonding, before sexual one, so they essentially meet halfway. Husband Nursing lies at the confluence of our God-given, sex-specific hard wiring.
CN creates a win-win situation for both spouses. That’s why a healthy amount of it is only beneficial, never detrimental to marriage, also why every couple that partakes in it loves it and why a significantly higher proportion of women are interested, compared to other activities that are reserved for the bedroom. Indeed, of the dozens of ANR blogs out there, mine is the only one I know that is owned by a man.
One of the ladies who said no to an ANR had professed to having a high sex drive. She told me she found it interesting and peculiar that I insist on any one particular sex act in marriage. However, if one reads all the posts on this blog thoroughly and with an open mind, it quickly becomes obvious that an ANR is no mere sex act. It’s a way of life. It’s a spiritual mindset that elevates couples to unimaginable heights of intimacy, and is 100% biblical.
The mission and premise behind sites like Ashley Madison is antithetical to those of Christian ANR sites. Some sites are out to destroy the institution of marriage, others aim to strengthen it to the glory of Christ.
Therefore, ANRs have a lot more female fans than Ashley Madison.
November 2015 update: among search phrases leading to this blog are “how to start ANR with husband” and “how to convince husband about ANR”. I’m yet to see a single one about convincing wives about ANRs. This reinforces the belief that women are equally interested in ANRs, they’re just less likely to advertise their desires on dating sites or anywhere online for that matter.
December 30, 2016 update: today marks the first day I’ve officially seen a search query leading to this blog that’s about starting an ANR with one’s wife – over a year after noticing a pattern of women researching how to start ANRs with their husbands, although earlier this year, there were two queries for “husband wants anr” that went unnoticed.
I don’t think there’s a consensus within the ANR community. Personally, I don’t waste time. I’m completely convinced that an ANR is a huge blessing, so I’m upfront about it. My general principle is first or second date depending on how well we appear to get along, and if she’s an online prospect then it’s always the first Skype video chat. I feel something this beneficial and Christ-exalting should be brought up sooner rather than later. I really don’t want to lead a woman on.
Being candid serves us both. There’s no point waiting until our engagement party to reveal something of this magnitude. I always begin my disclosure by acknowledging how early it is to speak of such intimate matters, but I’m also always sure to let her know my firm belief that the earlier, the better. I have never had a woman get upset at my timing, most likely because of my gradual, cautious approach to broaching the subject, it’s quite the contrary as they always tend to be grateful for my early disclosure. I must reiterate the necessity of cordiality in this kind of situation. Needless to say, there has to be a certain level of safety and warmth between two people before something this intimate is revealed, whether that level is reached on the first date or the tenth, so I usually first chat about spiritual topics and other things for at least an hour before the revelation. Also important: be sure to reveal in a place that affords you no privacy, such as a restaurant. It is my firm conviction that when dating, Christians should have no visual privacy, auditory privacy is understandable.
I’m repeating myself by saying fifteen minutes into the date might be a tad early, and for me, fifteen dates is too long, because I don’t want to end up developing feelings for a woman who rejects this beautiful intimacy.
“Dating has enough pitfalls already. Why open the door to something additional to lust after, after only one date?”, some Christians might object.
Great question. To that I say individual results vary. I don’t recommend everyone follow my M.O. Personally, I don’t view any of the ladies any differently. With me, I honestly see zero chance of an ANR happening before marriage. I still see them the same way – as God’s daughters, with all purity, and I’ve seen little evidence of them lusting after me subsequent to the ANR revelation. To me, the foreknowledge of an ANR in marriage is like having foreknowledge of sex in marriage- and we all fall under that category. So talking about it cautiously before marriage does little to nothing to increase the temptation every Christian couple already faces when dating. Moreover, it’s hard for authentic Christians to have ANRs without being found out because of the major commitment required.
First, to maximize your chances of succeeding, only date the type of Christian that’s highly likely to say yes. For guys, it means aiming for the soft, nurturing girl. If you see no signs of feminine softness in her, you’re likely to be wasting your time and hers. Ladies, your best bet is a secure, open-minded gentleman who is anything but a sexually repressed prude.
Focusing on the spiritual aspects of an ANR and the unrivaled intimacy is the way to begin. Thus I always start by saying “I firmly believe a husband and wife should be as intimate as humanly possible.” Few would disagree with that.
Do not proceed before clearing any objections on this critical point. I’ve found that whoever rejects this fundamental biblical principle would obviously reject an ANR.
I always make sure we’re comfortable with each other, and have also usually begun with lines like “there’s something I want in marriage I must reveal. I’ve always desired this particularly beautiful and loving thing but most people don’t practice or discuss it. I want to guard your mind so I’ll be careful in how I describe it. It’s basically about a husband and wife bonding extremely deeply with each other, on a level no other physical act can match, in my opinion. Curious to know more?”
That’s only the intro. I continue to pique her interest by trying to convince her of CN’s benefits, before finally revealing it.
Very important is the need to quote some rave reviews given ANRs by members of your date’s sex. One possibility, if he/she is comfortable enough, is to show real, clean profiles of ANRSpace members of their sex expressing the beauty of Couples Nursing in their own words.
Be very gentle and patient; with something as intimate and “taboo” as an ANR, it’s better to take too much time than too little. Give him/ her time to think and pray about it. Remember to guard his/her heart and mind by pointing him or her only to Christian/non-arousing ANR resources. Failure to heed this warning nearly cost me a friendship or two with some amazing godly women.
If you’re like me, you’d preface it extensively, and the person would ask you to just go for it. This cautious hesitation on my part as I carefully deliver my long preface serves to build suspense, and by the time I tell them it has an erotic component, they’re dying to know more. The combination of being gentle, sounding sincere, not immediately shooting for it, first telling them the benefits before actually disclosing what it is, supplying supporting quotes from ANR-interested women and inserting a clear warning of its sexual nature has always served me well. The ladies’ curiosity alone helps ease the tension.
This gentle, gradual method is the only one that has consistently yielded positive results for me. Using this approach, I still enjoy good relationships with almost all the women to whom I revealed this desire, even those that declined the proposal.
I wish you God’s best as you disclose this beautiful, God-glorifying, marriage-enhancing desire to your potential spouse.
Note: ANR in itself isn’t dangerous, our sinful hearts pose the real danger.
While browsing through ANR dating profiles, I came across a woman I’ll never forget. She’s one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen.
Just the right size, amazing body, right face, and also one of the handful of modestly dressed women on both websites on which I spotted her. And we have some things in common. Except faith in Christ.
I was recently in 1 Kings 11. King Solomon, our ANR hero, fell horribly into sin when his heart lusted after foreign women, who eventually influenced him to build altars to their false gods. Sex and possibly ANRs cost him his privileged position with God. I see myself in him in more ways than I have time to explain.
I often find myself thinking dangerous, unbiblical thoughts in connection to the attractive ANR lady, even to the point of mentally repeating the tragedy found in 1 Kings 11.
Though memories of her physical beauty won’t fade away overnight, two good things have come out of this: rather seeking an ANR woman who’s also Christian, I now focus on seeking a Christian woman who’s also into ANRs. Secondly is my resolution to immediately block or hide a non-Christian’s dating profile, no matter how gorgeous. I’m slowly getting better at keeping this resolution, praise God.
Proverbs 31:30: Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
True beauty is spiritual. I’m waiting for my truly beautiful bride.
This summer, I began a weekly series of posts in which I drew on my 200 or so hours of research to describe the woman who fits the profile of the typical ANR fan to a tee.
Although I focused on profiling the woman that loves ANRs, ladies can also gain valuable insights by applying the masculine equivalents of these characteristics, as I know most of them describe me.
The most important of the seven are softness, tactility and a nurturing disposition.
These are by no means exhaustive, formulaic or set in stone. I won’t reject a potentially outstanding wife who’s lacking some of these attributes. The deal breaker only comes if she declines an ANR in no uncertain terms, or if she doesn’t impress me when it comes to the ANR fundamentals: nurturing/soft/comforting/encouraging.
Remember, if your potential mate has every single ANR trait but is lacking faith in Christ, this is the very situation that should cause you to immediately sever all romantic ties and run. Don’t end up like Solomon.
I have visited virtually every active ANR dating site on the web, and while they vary widely in raunchiness or even “pornness”, their content invariably serves as a reminder that Christians are aliens in this fallen world.
I want to give ANRSpace some credit for their efforts towards family friendliness, especially their no-cleavage policy, however simply reading what some people have to say about ANRs sometimes leads to some sinful mental images popping up. To add to that, as a man, when I see picture after picture of well-clothed, albeit “well-equipped” women, I begin to lust. I can handle a few, but not dozens upon dozens.
My proposal is a matchmaking site with the sole purpose of uniting Christians interested in ANRs, with the intent of having one after marriage. I’ve gotten a bit of feedback and discovered enough ANR-minded Christians to know this is a real need. I imagine steps to be taken to ensure purity, such as prohibiting any arousing descriptions of intimate encounters, a zero tolerance policy towards harassment and very importantly, not even allowing pictures in which a woman’s breasts are prominently displayed, among others. I’ve observed that a large majority of women on ANR dating sites are well-endowed, so I would go beyond ANRSpace in not emphasizing this physical attribute that’s practically granted. Anything necessary to keep our brothers from stumbling, see 1 Corinthians 8:13 and Romans 14:13-23.
The only potential pitfall I foresee is the small chance that members might agree to meet offline and engage in reproachable behavior before marriage. Thankfully, an ANR is something difficult for genuine Christians to maintain without being found out. Helps ease that concern.
Since beginning a draft of this post, I’ve actually purchased a domain to that end. If only I had more time and connections, my vision would likely be a reality.
What do you think of these suggestions?
Jan. 2018 update: in the meantime, we could try posting ads on clean sites. I have recently done so and will report on the efficacy of this method.