01 Monday Jan 2018
Posted in Husband Breastfeeding, Jesus Christ, Marriage, Women
By emulating this woman:
“I personaly dont find anything wrong with this, my husband has been drinking my milk off and on for almost 6 years now and let me tell you he has never once gotten sick…. we all got food poisoning and he didnt get sick its amazing how brest milk works 🙂 Good luck and have fun :)”
20 Wednesday Dec 2017
Disclaimer: this post isn’t necessarily an endorsement of everything on Bountiful Fruits. Although Married Milkmaid and I are both professing Christians and ANR advocates, our blogs aren’t exactly identical in mission. I do, however, support her efforts to normalize this beautiful lifestyle.
As I sit down to write this post, I am truly a woman at peace. The house is very still, as it always is during the early hours of morning, but it no longer feels as if the silence is deafening and oppressing; it is a contented sort of peaceful quiet that I can truly enjoy once more because all is well and it feels as if my world is complete once more.
S came home to me last night.
It seemed as if he had been gone forever, and by the time I heard his car pull into our driveway around 10:50 p.m., I was as lighthearted and excited as I’d been on our very first date 16 years ago, because, you see, I had something very important to share with him.
As difficult as the long week was, I think the final three hours leading to his imminent arrival were far worse; he was so very close, but still quite far. I did a lot of pacing and clock-watching during those last 180 minutes, and every time my phone chimed, alerting me that he had texted an arrival time update, my heart soared.
Are you there, baby? I’m two hours out. Love you!
Missing you like crazy. I’m about an hour from home.
Less than 30 minutes now. I can’t wait to nurse. Love you.
Neither of us are strangers to homecomings, and I wanted this one to be just as special and meaningful as the ones we’ve shared in the past. I had prepared myself as meticulously as I had on that first evening so long ago, and made our nursing space warm and inviting with lit candles and lamplight.
And I had placed the small wine-colored velvet pillow, what we call S’ nursing pillow, in its proper place, among my reclining pillows, on our bed.
Just before 11:00, headlights washed through the window, and I heard the familiar purring of his car as it came to a smooth stop in front of our home. The engine stopped. Everything went dark. And my heart began to race.
I never thought he would make it inside!
He didn’t need his key last night because I was waiting at the door to let him in.
He was beautiful!
There were several long moments of exchanging tight embraces and long kisses and sweet endearments, and he did what he has done for many years, the one thing that makes me feel beautiful and adored and treasured.
He took my face in his hands and looked into my eyes, as if memorizing what he saw in them.
“I missed this face,” he said. “I missed you.”
“I missed you, too,” I replied. “More than anything. I’m so glad you’re home.”
From there, things grew a bit flirtatious; I asked him how he liked my new blouse, and I took him by the hand, and said, “Come with me. I want to show you something.”
He was more than willing to follow me to the bedroom.
My body blossomed in S’ absence, and I wanted to share the complete transformation with him, so we began our beautiful nursing session by looking at the photos I had taken throughout the week, and as I stroked his hair and he rubbed my back, I asked him to describe the changes he noticed, and each time he did, I reminded him that I was doing this for him.
Always and only for him.
I took his hands, those strong, work-roughened hands that handle my flesh with such gentle reverence, and led them to my breasts so he could explore that clothed swell, gauging their firmness, their fullness, with his fingertips before cupping them and supporting the weight of them in his palms. I covered his hands with mine, and felt the trembling flex of his fingers as they plied and pressed against my bosom.
We were both flushed. Our hearts were pounding in time, and when S was finally able to find his voice, his words were soft, hushed.
“They’re so heavy.”
“They’re full,” I replied. “They’re full of the milk I made for you. And now they need to be emptied so you can be filled.”
Our bed was waiting, warm and inviting, and he came to me, very much like a man who had been starving, and I eagerly gave him the one thing that would sate his desire.
That first latch was amazing.
Last night I was able to feed my husband’s physical and emotional hunger from the breasts that had prepared such a feast over the course of one week.
It was glorious!
And when he had fed from each breast and had been lavished with caresses and kisses and whispered words of love throughout the entirety of our nursing session, he allowed his mouth to slip from my breast, and he thanked me for what I had given him.
But the pleasure was mine.
To be the woman who is blessed to nurture and nourish this gracious and loving man is a gift beyond compare.
He completes me.
Without S, I am only half of a person.
When he had nursed, I allowed him to drift off to sleep, and it was beautiful to lie next to him, feeling his warmth, his strong presence, and listen to the slow and steady rhythm of his breathing. A physical joining will come soon, and it will be wonderful, but last night, we shared an emotional and spiritual joining that connected our hearts and fulfilled us in a way that even lovemaking cannot.
Everyone is beginning to stir. The house will soon be as full as my heart is right now.
The children will be eager to see their father, and I will be forced to share him with three little people who have missed his presence and affection. We will take on our roles as parents once more because Dad is home, and our family is complete.
But, just as it was last night, tonight will belong only to us.
And it will be magical!
Source: Bountiful Fruits: Reunited!
16 Saturday Dec 2017
Posted in Husband Breastfeeding, Jesus Christ, Love, Marriage, Oneness, Women
“It’s very comforting. You come home and know your wife will be there for you. It’s comforting to both parties. And unlike sex where you can’t be distracted, with an ANR, you can watch a movie. I know that he’s not going to go anywhere and be tempted. I think that’s the comfort and appeal for women. My husband needs me. He needs to take of me, my essence, that’s where he gets his energy, his life and his everything, because I’m a part of him, we are one. I want to know that my husband needs me, not just wants me, needs me. Because I need him.”
– Christian female ANR aspirant with whom I very recently conversed
15 Friday Sep 2017
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I occasionally get concerned about the possibility of a future wife’s increased size. If she isn’t too large to begin with, the increased cup size would be obvious.
What couples do behind closed doors is none of my business and I always try to focus on women’s eyes, not their breasts, but when living with the couple that practiced CN, I couldn’t help noticing the fact that the wife was about two cup sizes bigger when compared to the wedding picture in the living room. I suspected an ANR marriage even before overhearing her disclosure. This couple made me realize that people may be able to tell what my future wife and I do behind closed doors.
I’m at a place in my life where I’m quite secure in myself, especially with regards to my identity in Christ, but the facts that ANRs are still taboo and marriage will be a novelty have me a bit concerned.
I wonder how other couples handle this and many other potentially embarrassing situations. I do know that the husband and wife founders of an ANR site successfully allayed fears that the wife may leak during business meetings, although this is a bit different from my concerns.
Maybe I ought to let go and embrace it, after all, by establishing this blog, my aim is to promote this lifestyle, regardless of people’s opinions and judgments.
06 Sunday Aug 2017
Posted in Couples Nursing, Husband Breastfeeding, Jesus Christ, Love, Marriage
Besides preaching the gospel to him and the things of God in general, the most loving thing a woman can do for a husband is to nurse him. I feel this way because it’s not something physically necessary. Sure, men feel loved when their wives give them plenty of sexual action but sexual intercourse is very necessary for both spouses, and not only for procreative reasons. But a man does not need to drink his wife’s breastmilk. This is precisely why I think husband breastfeeding is the second most loving thing a woman can do for her man.
21 Tuesday Mar 2017
Posted in Couples Nursing, God, Grace, Husband Breastfeeding, Jesus the ultimate nurturer, Love, Women
“A gracious woman gets honor.”
– Proverbs 11:16a
A woman who is gracious enough to nurse her husband is honored by the LORD.
Couples Nursing is honorable.
13 Monday Mar 2017
Posted in Apologetics, Couples Nursing, Husband Breastfeeding, Jesus Christ, Proverbs 5
Ladies and gentlemen, if there remains any doubt about what Proverbs 5:19 refers to, it’s hereby laid to rest.
In my post, Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish? I state how extremely close to 100% certainty I am that the verse refers to husband breastfeeding. Now I’m absolutely positive.
Dr. Bruce Waltke is an Old Testament scholar. According to Our Daily Bread Christian University, he “is the Distinguished Professor of Old Testament at Knox Theological Seminary in Fort Lauderdale, FL. He received his A.B. from Houghton College, a Th.M. and Th.D. from Dallas Theological Seminary, and an M.A. and Ph.D. from Harvard University. An expert in Near Eastern Languages and Literatures, he was also a postdoctoral fellow at Hebrew Union College in Jerusalem.
Over his distinguished teaching career of more than 50 years, Dr. Waltke has established himself as one of the preeminent scholars in Old Testament Studies. He has held professorships at Dallas Theological Seminary (1958–1976), Criswell Bible Institute (1970–1976), Regent College in Vancouver (1976–current) where he is Professor Emeritus, Westminster Theological Seminary (1985–1991), and most recently at Reformed Theological Seminary in Orlando, Florida (1996–2010). He is a professor at Knox Theological Seminary where he continues his teaching and research. Additionally, Dr. Waltke has been a visiting professor or guest lecturer at institutions around the globe including Bethel Seminary, Columbia International University, Covenant Theological Seminary, Denver Seminary, Geneva Bible College, Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, Vancouver School of Theology, Western Seminary, and Wheaton College.
In addition to his teaching appointments, Dr. Waltke has helped pastor several churches over the years and has spoken at numerous Bible conferences across the United States and Canada. He has also been very active in parachurch ministries including InterVarsity Christian Fellowship and Campus Crusade for Christ. Furthermore, he has made contributions to biblical archaeology as an area field supervisor at excavations at Tel Gezer, Israel, and has led several field study trips to the Middle East and the classical world. He has also overseen the doctoral studies of hundreds of students, and he served as the President of the Evangelical Theological Society in 1975. He helped in the translation and production of over a dozen versions of the Bible including the New American Standard Bible, The New Geneva Study Bible, and the New International Version, and is an honorary member of the committee responsible for Today’s New International Version.
Dr. Waltke has been the author of more than a thousand articles and several books. Among his most well known works are Knowing the Will of God, An Old Testament Theology, which garnered an ECPA Christian Book Award in 2008, and Genesis, a book he coauthored with C. J. Fredricks. It won the Gold Medallion Award in 2002. The work The Way of Wisdom: Essays in Honor of Bruce K. Waltke, published by Zondervan in 2000 and edited by J. I. Packer and Sven K. Soderlund, honors his countless contributions to Christian scholarship.”1
In his work The Book of Proverbs, Chapters 1-15 (New International Commentary on the Old Testament), Dr. Waltke writes:
“The word her breasts (daddeyhā) originated in infants babble; its cognate in Arabic is “nipples” (cf. titthos autēs by Aquila); it is associated with erotica in its only other uses (Ezekiel 23:3, 8, 21).121 The source of the richest and most satisfying drink is the wife’s erogenous members, represented by the breasts. Drench you (yerawwukā), continuing the drinking imagery, means in the Qal “to drink one’s fill” and in the Piel “to make saturated with a liquid.” The implied satisfying liquid is the wife’s caresses, according to the parallel.”2
The excerpt above was taken from the Google Books preview. I don’t know what he means by “the parallel” but I get the impression that he makes the verse fit his own personal tastes. I just don’t see how he can say “The source of the richest and most satisfying drink is the wife’s erogenous members, represented by the breasts,” then follow this with “The implied satisfying liquid is the wife’s caresses.” “Breasts” somehow becomes “caresses.” It doesn’t follow semantically, anatomically or physiologically.
Remember, the first rule of biblical hermeneutics is to read literally. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, drench means:
“1 Wet thoroughly; soak.
‘I fell in the stream and was drenched’
1.1 Cover (something) liberally or thoroughly.
‘cool patios drenched in flowers’
2 Forcibly administer a drug in liquid form orally to (an animal)
‘three-times-a-year drenching for calves.’”
According to the NAS, one of the most literal Bible translations, the root word ravah appears 15 times in our Bibles and each time it occurs, it means one of the following: “drench 1, drink 1, drink its fill 1, drink our fill 1, fill 2, filled 1, made me drunk 1, satiated 1, satisfy 2, soaked 1, water its abundantly 1, watering 1, waters 1.”3
At an old church of mine, an elder once exhorted the congregation to take God’s Word as is, and avoid trying to conform it to any external beliefs. Like he asked about another often twisted Bible verse, what about the words “drench, drink, drink its fill, drink our fill, fill, filled, make me drunk, satiated, satisfy, soaked, water its abundantly, watering, or waters” suggest anything other than drinking a liquid?
For me, the silver bullet is the fact that an ANR-denying seasoned veteran of Hebrew language studies would agree that yerawwukah, the form of ravah used in Proverbs 5:19 actually means “drench” and not “satisfy” or “fill with delight” as most of our English Bibles often translate. It’s all the confirmation I need to reach my conclusion.
So married men of God, let her breasts drench you tonight.
References:
1. https://christianuniversity.org/professors/dr-bruce-k-waltke/
2. Bruce K. Waltke, The Book of Proverbs, Chapters 1-15 – Page 321 – Google Books Result
28 Wednesday Oct 2015
The average woman with ANR interests is 5’5″ or 165 cm tall. This isn’t too big a deal but it’s significant. I might explain what I mean in a future post.
Source and method: I randomly selected 200 women from an ANR dating site and found out their average height was literally just a hair above 5’5″. Although I didn’t perform a detailed statistical breakdown and couldn’t tell you the standard deviation, I know there was a little bit of spread. I recall one woman being 4’10” (147 cm) and another that was taller than 6 ft (183 cm), but the clear majority were close to the mean.
28 Monday Sep 2015
This is the penultimate trait in our series. Many ANR women are tender, soft-spoken, cuddly, sensitive, gentle, peaceful and unquestionably feminine.
God created women to be softer, more delicate and innate nurturers. These women take pride in 
their femininity; they naturally and joyfully take hold of divinely established gender roles.
They are built more for comfort than speed, and their softness is multi-dimensional: physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual. Their idea of a strong marriage is when both spouses are laid bare and vulnerable to each other. It’s in daily re-living Genesis 2:25: Adam and his wife naked and not ashamed.
Women who nurse their husbands often report being proud of what they do and feeling more feminine and attractive during the nursing, so this adds even more of a feminine glow to these women who are already very feminine to begin with. To them that have, more will be given, and to them that don’t have, even what little they have will be taken away, Mark 4:25.
One shouldn’t mistake these ladies’ softness for weakness, however. It’s possible to simultaneously be soft and physically strong. I came across an ANR woman who’s into fitness and weight training, and another that’s very much into all professional sports. They may be soft but they all possess quiet strength, not in-your-face aggressiveness. (Link contains an endorsement of evolutionary theory.)
I believe the description above mostly correlates with the ANR man, except of course, in a masculine way. The typical ANR man is probably gentle, well-built and filled with inner strength, not the highly insecure “macho” type.
Although popularly frowned upon, the Bible makes much mention of tenderness. Christ is often called a Lamb, or more accurately, a Lion and a Lamb. We’re commanded to be innocent as doves, shrewd as serpents. Tenderness and strength seem like inseparable concepts in God’s Word.
The preceding is dedicated to all the ladies out there who are tender on the outside, lioness on the inside. Nurse on.
(Six down, one to go. Monday, October 5th concludes our series. Have a blessed week.)
20 Sunday Sep 2015
It’s incredibly hard to be a Christian sometimes. What a tightrope this is. When you’re a single man with a biblical, beautiful, yet sexual desire, you face a tough balancing act, thus I have some confessing to do.
God’s Word mentions HN thrice as far as I know, but I sometimes think of it with disproportionate frequency. If believers leave anything unchecked, we can easily take beautiful truths from Scripture and twist them into saying things like Mary never sinned, or God forbid, forming an entire denomination/cult around Couples Nursing.
Please keep me in your prayers.
See also: What the Bible does NOT say about an ANR for more confessions.
2016 update: God won’t deny Himself. The indwelling Holy Spirit won’t let me go. The struggle mentioned above is cyclical. He’s giving me victory with this sin, as the truly regenerate are marked by a lifestyle of repentance, and I see God’s sanctifying grace in me through all this.
Also see Sexual desire is neither sinful nor scary, where I make the following statement:
“I thank God that only through His Spirit, I don’t have mental ANRs with women I come across in my day-to-day life. Rather, my desire is mostly attached to the hope of enjoying this gift in marriage alone. With God the Spirit dwelling in us, being very sexual and very monogamous is an absolute possibility, more than that, it’s the expectation for the regenerate.”
04 Friday Sep 2015
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ABF, Adult Breastfeeding, Adult Nursing Relationships, ANR, Ashley Madison, HBF, Husband breastfeeding
The recent Ashley Madison leak has revealed some telling data. 99.95% of the site’s users are male. How does this compare to other matchmaking sites? On those tailored towards mainstream sexual activity, about 75 to 80% of users are male. In comparison, only 68% of heterosexual accounts on ANRSpace belong to men, but I strongly believe the actual ratio of people desiring an ANR is even more balanced between the sexes.
Here’s why I hold that view: despite only 0.05% of Ashley Madison customers being female, I learned that 41% of marital infidelity is perpetrated by women. So the real issue isn’t a paucity of women who cheat or want an ANR, it’s twofold: 1. Women are more secretive, so when desirous of anything sexual or extramarital, they generally won’t resort to the World Wide Web to find an outlet, and 2. Women have a much easier time finding sexual partners.
The main reason I strongly suspect a 50-50 ratio for Adult Nursing Relationships is their unique nature.
Many ANR women have much girl next door charm. Some are even involved in church.
Ladies don’t view Couples Nursing as an exclusively sexual activity. To them, it’s a beautiful, loving, bonding act. On ANR blogs and dating sites, most mention the intimacy it creates before the sexual aspect.
God has designed women to be very society-friendly. A good litmus test of the social conduciveness of anything is to examine its male-female ratio. The more equal, the better.
It’s worth noting that the more lewd ANR dating sites have significantly fewer female users than ANRSpace, so if the clean, gospel-centered ANR dating site I envision were to come to fruition, I bet its male-female ratio would be an even 50-50.
There’s absolutely no activity I think men and women could agree on more than ABF. Women realize that it elevates intimacy to never-before-seen heights, and that’s what primarily draws them to it. The inherent sexual pleasure plays an important but slightly less significant role. For men, it’s both the extreme intimacy and a sexual attraction to breasts. Men approach ABF from a sexual and relational standpoint, women from a nurturing/bonding, before sexual one, so they essentially meet halfway. Husband Nursing lies at the confluence of our God-given, sex-specific hard wiring.
CN creates a win-win situation for both spouses. That’s why a healthy amount of it is only beneficial, never detrimental to marriage, also why every couple that partakes in it loves it and why a significantly higher proportion of women are interested, compared to other activities that are reserved for the bedroom. Indeed, of the dozens of ANR blogs out there, mine is the only one I know that is owned by a man.
One of the ladies who said no to an ANR had professed to having a high sex drive. She told me she found it interesting and peculiar that I insist on any one particular sex act in marriage. However, if one reads all the posts on this blog thoroughly and with an open mind, it quickly becomes obvious that an ANR is no mere sex act. It’s a way of life. It’s a spiritual mindset that elevates couples to unimaginable heights of intimacy, and is 100% biblical.
The mission and premise behind sites like Ashley Madison is antithetical to those of Christian ANR sites. Some sites are out to destroy the institution of marriage, others aim to strengthen it to the glory of Christ.
Therefore, ANRs have a lot more female fans than Ashley Madison.
November 2015 update: among search phrases leading to this blog are “how to start ANR with husband” and “how to convince husband about ANR”. I’m yet to see a single one about convincing wives about ANRs. This reinforces the belief that women are equally interested in ANRs, they’re just less likely to advertise their desires on dating sites or anywhere online for that matter.
December 30, 2016 update: today marks the first day I’ve officially seen a search query leading to this blog that’s about starting an ANR with one’s wife – over a year after noticing a pattern of women researching how to start ANRs with their husbands, although earlier this year, there were two queries for “husband wants anr” that went unnoticed.
22 Saturday Aug 2015
Posted in Adult Breastfeeding, ANR, Christian, Dating, Faith, Husband Breastfeeding, Husband Nursing, Idolatry, Solomon, Trusting God, Waiting on God
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While browsing through ANR dating profiles, I came across a woman I’ll never forget. She was very attractive physically, and also one of the handful of modestly dressed women on both websites on which I spotted her. And we have some things in common. Except faith in Christ.
I was recently in 1 Kings 11. King Solomon, our ANR hero, fell horribly into sin when his heart lusted after foreign women, who eventually influenced him to build altars to their false gods. Sex and possibly ANRs cost him his privileged position with God. I see myself in him in more ways than I have time to explain.
I’ve found myself thinking dangerous, unbiblical thoughts in connection to the attractive ANR women like mentioned, even to the point of mentally repeating the tragedy found in 1 Kings 11.
Though memories of her physical beauty won’t fade away overnight, two good things have come out of this: rather seeking an ANR woman who’s also Christian, I now focus on seeking a Christian woman who’s also into ANRs. Secondly is my resolution to immediately block or hide a non-Christian’s dating profile, no matter how gorgeous. I’m slowly getting better at keeping this resolution, praise God.
Proverbs 31:30: Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
True beauty is spiritual. I’m waiting for my truly beautiful bride.
09 Sunday Aug 2015
This summer, I began a weekly series of posts in which I drew on my 200 or so hours of research to describe the woman who fits the profile of the typical ANR fan to a tee.
Although I focused on profiling the woman that loves ANRs, ladies can also gain valuable insights by applying the masculine equivalents of these characteristics, as I know most of them describe me.
Here are the seven ANR characteristics: Adventurous, Romantic, Nurturing, Tactile, Simple, Soft and Spiritual, and here are five bonus ones.
The most important of the seven are softness, tactility and a nurturing disposition.
These are by no means exhaustive, formulaic or set in stone. I won’t reject a potentially outstanding wife who’s lacking some of these attributes. The deal breaker only comes if she declines an ANR in no uncertain terms, or if she doesn’t impress me when it comes to the ANR fundamentals: nurturing/soft/comforting/encouraging.
Remember, if your potential mate has every single ANR trait but is lacking faith in Christ, this is the very situation that should cause you to immediately sever all romantic ties and run. Don’t end up like Solomon.
God Bless.
