Contemporary English VersionThen Jesus said to all the people: If any of you want to be my followers, you must forget about yourself. You must take up your cross every day and follow me. New International VersionThen he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their…
There are many good things God blesses and desires for his children, like marriage, sex within marriage, children, and I believe, an ANR in marriage. Despite his affirmation of these blessings, for reasons only known to him, he sometimes chooses to withhold them from us. He may be saying “yes, I want you to enjoy…
Song of Solomon 8 GOD’S WORD Translation (GW) If only you were my brother, one who nursed at my mother’s breasts. If I saw you on the street, I would kiss you, and no one would look down on me. 2 I would lead you. I would bring you into my mother’s house. (She is the…
Unless you’re a mammogram technician, oncologist, healthcare worker, breast augmentation expert, bra designer or similar, you really shouldn’t be thinking of breasts much, especially if you’re a single guy. I’m single, and should definitely call myself out. I go through cycles. Sometimes, the obsession described above defines me. Then I get convicted and by the…
16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18 But if you are led by…
When I occasionally find myself drifting away, I often use as an excuse the fact that God clearly views breasts as nurturing, nonsexual organs. It’s a form of cognitive dissonance. Having contradictory, one-sided views that aid in holding onto truths that justify my sin. However, the absolute, undisputed truth is breasts are also sexual organs,…
Abide. It’s not always a magic wand. It may take time. If you stay tethered to Christ and having his living sap flow into your veins, your desire for milk flow will be mitigated. You’ll no longer be mastered by it. In fact, you won’t be fazed enough to give in to temptation. Your perspective…
It’s neither healthy nor necessary to dwell on erotic thoughts when single. For one, you never know for sure if you’ll ever be married. So your time wasted fantasizing could be put to better use modeling and preaching the gospel. View members of the opposite sex in light of eternity. See them how God sees…
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.” – Job 1:1 I need to take a moment to talk to the gentlemen. Please guys, let’s fight the urge to stare. Look away. Look down. Look anywhere except towards temptation. Satan comes as an angel of light…
It’s too easy to be blindsided. ANR is incredibly beautiful but don’t let it become an idol. Trust me, if you let it, it can quickly become an overpowering, insidious and cruel master. It can save your marriage but not your soul. Always keep things in perspective. Repent of idolatry and keep your desires in…
Question: “What does the Bible say about moderation?” Answer: Moderation avoids extremes, exercises restraint, and is related to self-control. Moderation is a good thing, but living a life of moderation is an uphill battle in today’s world. Much of Western culture is saturated with excess. Restaurants serve “all you can eat” of our favorite foods. Advertisements constantly…
Be patient. Trust God. God will see you through and you’ll most likely taste this and enjoy His grace in this exceptionally beautiful relationship. As you serve the Lord and hold on to His promises, keep an eye out for a brother or sister that fits the ANR profile, knowing how and when to bring…
God is gracious, God is kind. God wants us to have an amazing time in the bedroom after exchanging vows. I look forward to getting married and having the best time imaginable being refreshed by a pair of natural water fountains. But I sometimes enjoy this prematurely, in thought and “research”. Wanting an ANR in…
English Standard Version (ESV) 26 So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air. 27 But I discipline my body and keep it under control,[a] lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified. Footnotes: 1 Corinthians 9:27 Greek I pummel my body and make it a slave ESV…
Christ-centered ANR 