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Three principles for determining the biblical legitimacy of our most intimate desires

“Thank you for your blog. As a Christian, I thought I was crazy to desire an ANR. I wish that I had explored, studied and understood it better before I married. My husband has no interest and I am heartbroken and emotionally detached as a result. Please continue to spread this information, people need to…

Naked and unashamed

Genesis 2:20-25 English Standard Version 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam[a] there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs…

It is not God’s will that you commit sexual immorality … so the more reason to marry well

Therefore, seek that foxy Christian babe with the gospel on her heart and overflowing breasts on her chest. Or that godly gentleman with a heart of gold and lips to die for. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; However, if you cannot control your desires, you…

Fiesta, Fiesta: Food brings people together

I’ve had the privilege of living in different parts of the world, and visiting even more countries. Regardless of culture, one truth remains the same: humans love feasting. Feasts are the anchors for social gatherings everywhere. No party, get together, celebration, festival or social event is complete without food. Neither does any wedding, bridal shower,…

Free from Religion

Matthew 15:7-9: You hypocrites! Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you: 8 “‘These people honor me with their lips,     but their hearts are far from me. 9 They worship me in vain;     their teachings are merely human rules.’[a]” Footnotes: Matthew 15:9 Isaiah 29:13   Religion stunts your growth spiritually, psychologically, sexually, maritally and socially. Religion is the…

Sex is no sin

This blog exists to promote reflection and conversation on the Christian need to rigorously examine sexuality through biblical lenses. The purpose of Christ-centered ANR is to refute the unbiblical notion that sex must be repressed, even so-called “kinky” expressions of sexuality. I strongly believe Christians can be sex therapists, sex researchers, sex interviewers and sex…

Mutual masturbation while nursing

During nursing sessions, I think couples should at times give each other manual pleasure. Again, according to the Bible, Couples Nursing is a simultaneously sweet, nurturing nonsexual act and a highly sexual one. When couples are in the latter mood, they ought to be willing to please each other to completion. I see nothing wrong…

The three categories of relationships

I recently read Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas. It’s a highly recommended read. According to Hiestand and Thomas, the Bible only presents three categories of relationships between any two human beings. We have the: Neighbor relationship (sex prohibited) Family relationship (sex prohibited) Marriage relationship (sex commanded) They also…

Keller – the gospel and sexuality

The moralist tends to see sex as dirty or at least a dangerous impulse that leads constantly to sin. There will be an approach-avoidance relationship with sex. The uneasy conscience of the moralist will lead to either complete avoidance OR to a very driven, breathless need for sexual experience. Both come from a glory-vacuum within,…

Dictional laziness

When most people slap the word “fetish” on our desire, what they really mean is “kink.” There’s a tendency to be lazy with all word choices and I thinks this reflects poor vocabulary in our culture. Our failure to distinguish and discern slight differences in meaning between words causes many to mislabel this relationship because…

Have sex everyday

I have a friend that’s been a believer not quite as long as I have, yet unbelievably godly and mature. While discussing God’s plan for marital intimacy one day, he said the failure to have frequent sex is one of the primary ways with which Satan attacks marriages, couples grow distant, and eventually become just…