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For married women only!: how to have a nipple orgasm

25 Tuesday Dec 2018

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From healthline (Use caution if visiting website).

 

Your nipples are erogenous zones

A lot of what we see in pop culture suggests that the only way women can orgasm is by stimulating the vaginal area. But that’s not true — not by a long shot. It’s possible for a woman to orgasm without ever touching their genitals. That’s where erogenous zones like the nipples come in.

Nipples, when played with, can set off fireworks throughout your body. Enough stimulation, and you can even reach that big O. Keep reading to learn more about nipple play, how you can get started, and what you can do to really turn up the heat.

How is orgasm possible?

Thank your nerves! Each nipple has hundreds of nerve endings, making them super sensitive to touch. And playing with your nipples can bring you a lot of pleasure. When your nipples are stimulated, they shoot off sparks in the genital sensory cortex. This is the same area of the brain that’s aroused by vaginal or clitoral stimulation.

What does a nipple orgasm feel like?

Many women describe a nipple orgasm as something that sneaks up on you and then explodes out of nowhere. The sensations spread throughout your whole body as the pleasure builds slowly and gradually. Then, bam! You’ll feel a powerful climax that’ll come in waves.

A nipple orgasm may feel even more intense during that time of the month. Hormonal changes during menstruation can increase breast sensitivity and tenderness, which may heighten arousal.

Can everyone have one?

In theory, yes! But it may take some trial and error until you discover what works for you — or that nipple play may not be for you at all. The only way to know is to give it a try! And who knows? You may have a lot of fun.

Wait — men can have nipple orgasms, too?

Yep! Men can absolutely have nipple orgasms, so you can try out nipple play with your interested male partners, too. Talk to your male partner about what techniques they’d like to try, what makes them feel good, and what you need to avoid. The method is the same, and communication — plus a sense of adventure — is key.

How to get started

Nipple play doesn’t have to lead to orgasm. But if you’re in the mood and want that endorphin rush, there are a few things you can do to help your body achieve the big O:

  • Set the mood… by turning down the lights, lighting some candles, and listening to some sensual tunes. A sexy and relaxing setting can really get the mood going.
  • Get into a comfy position… so you can focus on feeling pleasure without feeling uncomfortable.
  • Let your mind wander… and think about what turns you on. Fantasizing can help you become even more aroused as you play around.
  • Take your time… and enjoy all of the different sensations you feel from playing with your nipples and breasts. Experiment with techniques to find what makes you feel good.
  • Start with your fingers… but feel free to add other sensations. Oils, lotions, clamps, and nipple vibrators can really ramp up the pleasure.
  • Let one hand wander… to your other erogenous zones or to your clitoris. Even though you can achieve an orgasm from nipple play alone, why not make the experience explosive by exploring other parts of your body?
How to pinch, stroke, twist, and more
breast

You can try nipple play on your own or have your partner give it a go. Don’t forget, though: You can do more than just play with your nipples! Exploring the rest of your breasts may help with arousal.

If you aren’t sure where to start, you may find it helpful to:

  • Start slow by first focusing on your breath. Take long, deep breaths to help you relax and get out of your head and into your body.
  • Tease yourself by playing with other erogenous zones. Use your fingers and hands to stroke your belly, then move on to your rib cage, and then around and in between your breasts. But don’t touch your breasts or nipples just yet — let the sensations build up first.
  • Use a light touch to circle your breasts and areola with large strokes. Then ease into a gentle breast massage. When you’re ready, give your breasts a little squeeze.
  • In between massaging and squeezing, trace your areola without touching your nipples. This will help build up anticipation.
  • Now that you’re hot and bothered, move your fingers over to your nipples, which should be erect. Start to rub your nipples slowly, increasing speed and pressure as you become aroused.
  • Ramp up the pleasure by pinching your nipples. A pinch will send a rush of sensation throughout your body. The harder the pinch, the better — but play around with pressure to find out what feels best to you.
  • Don’t limit yourself to pinching. Try giving your nipples a slight twist or pull to see what gives you the most pleasure.
  • Bring yourself to the edge of orgasm, pull back, then repeat. Play with your nipples and rub your body to create waves of orgasmic pleasure that ripple through your body. Arch your back, and rock back and forth as you let your hands wander.
  • When you’re ready, push yourself to your limit and let go. Enjoy the rush as you experience that big O.
If you want to try with a partner

All the techniques you’d use in a solo session can be followed when playing with a partner. But there are other things your partner can do to add to the experience, whether it’s during foreplay or right before you orgasm during intercourse.

If any of these techniques pique your interest, talk to your partner:

  • Hot breath. Your partner starts by slowly breathing warm air around and onto your nipple to stimulate the nerves.
  • Licking. There are so many ways your partner can lick your nipples. They can trace little circles around your areola, flick your nipple with the tip of their tongue, or use the flat of the tongue to cover more surface.
  • Sucking. Don’t limit it to just licking — have your partner suck on your nipples, too. Drawing your nipple into their mouth will stimulate extra blood flow and increase sensitivity.
  • Nibbling. If you’re into it, have your partner nibble a little bit on your nipples for added sensation.
If you want a different sensation entirely

Now that you know the basics, it’s time to ramp things up. Add in some fun extras to really get things hot, whether you’re solo or with a partner:

  • Oils and lotions. Applying warming oils and lotions all over your breasts may enhance arousal during nipple play.
  • Ice. Adding ice to nipple play can send chills throughout your body and cause an instant nipple erection.
  • Vibes. Nipple vibrators are a great, hands-free way to massage and stimulate your nipples, as well as feel sensations throughout your whole breast.
  • Clamps. Clamps, whether vibrating or not, can tease and titillate your nipples by giving you versatility. You can wear the clamps loosely for a little bit of fun or tighten them to apply pressure and intensify arousal.

 

The bottom line

Despite popular belief, stimulating your clitoris or vagina isn’t the only way to have an orgasm. Nipple play can also bring you to that big O. And there are so many ways you can stimulate your nipples to make that orgasm explosive. Experiment with techniques, find out what makes you feel good, and just have fun!

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The three categories of relationships

26 Sunday Aug 2018

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I recently read Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas. It’s a highly recommended read.

According to Hiestand and Thomas, the Bible only presents three categories of relationships between any two human beings. We have the:

  1. Neighbor relationship (sex prohibited)
  2. Family relationship (sex prohibited)
  3. Marriage relationship (sex commanded)

They also go on to propose a radical alternative that shifted my thinking. Rather than engaging in dating relationships prior to marriage, they recommend being in dating friendships. They assert that the former blurs the line between the neighbor and marriage categories, offering the benefits of marriage without its intrinsic commitment. Dating relationships offer a false sense of security, they evince.

So while a man and woman getting to know each other are technically in the neighbor category, they face the juggling act of maintaining boundaries, especially pertaining to sex, while pursuing their biblically-endorsed desire for Couples Nursing. I still agree with Elder T that there’s no indication in the Bible that an unmarried couple should discuss sex. Which is why according to the three categories of relationships, I think it’s best to deliberate on general intimacy, for example, personally, the really adventurous things I want in the bedroom, told in a way that’s edifying and not at all arousing. So I plan on declaring to a potential wife in a Christ-honoring manner, using only words like “intimacy,” “adventure,” “steaming,” “spicy,” or at worst, using words that describe the ideal ANR woman’s breasts, as reverentially as possible.

I agree with Hiestand, Thomas, Elder T and the majority of Christians in emphasizing biblical physical boundaries prior to marriage. However, I keep going back to the fact that the Bible exhorts couples to “let her breasts drench you always,” therefore I see nothing wrong with the only exception being wise, modest discussion of ANR. There’s no contradiction in wanting to be pure before marriage and cautiously discussing ANR with a date. If anything, it glorifies the God who wrote Proverbs 5:19, which sadly the world buries, edits and re-interprets, though plain and obvious in the original Hebrew and several English translations.

Do not deprive her

27 Wednesday Jun 2018

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Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV
https://bible.com/bible/59/1co.7.5.ESV

It’s easy to miss this implicit command. We often neglect and disregard the importance of her pleasure.

Even the best Bible teachers and commenters tend to assume sexual deprivation is a male problem.

A great pastor recently apologized for missing this himself.

Thank God for his word, which corrects our presuppositions and implicit biases, if we’re open to being corrected.

Surprise finding in response to nipple stimulation

21 Saturday Apr 2018

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From a CBS article

Researchers at Rutgers University have mapped the brain areas in women that respond to stimulation of the genitals
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For many women, nipples are erogenous zones. A new study may explain why: The sensation from the nipples travels to the same part of the brain as sensations from the vagina, clitoris and cervix.

The study, published online July 28 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, is the first to map the female genitals onto the sensory portion of the brain. Using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), researchers noted which brain areas become active when women touch various parts of their bodies. The genital-sensing brain areas in women roughly correspond to the same areas in men, but the nipple finding was a surprise, said study researcher Barry Komisaruk, a psychologist at Rutgers University.

“My speculation is that this could be the basis for many women saying that nipple stimulation is erotogenic, because it stimulates the same area as the genitals,” Komisaruk told LiveScience.

Four major nerves bring signals from women’s genitals to their brains, Komisaruk said. The pudendal nerve connects the clitoris, the pelvic nerve carries signals from the vagina, the hypogastric nerve connects with the cervix and uterus, and the vagus nerve travels from the cervix and uterus without passing through the spinal cord (making it possible for some women to achieve orgasm even though they  have had complete spinal cord injuries).

Experimenters had mapped the male genital senses onto an area of the brain called the medial paracentral lobule, which sits in the crevice between the two brain hemispheres. (If you imagine wearing earmuffs, the medial paracentral lobule would be on the top of your head, right under the band of the earmuffs.) What was missing, Komisaruk said, was a study tracing those four nerves to where in the brain they send their signals.

For their study the researchers recruited 11 healthy, non-pregnant women ages 23 to 56. While inside the brain scanner, each woman stimulated her clitoris, vagina, cervix and nipple by tapping rhythmically with a finger or, in the case of the vagina and cervix, using a plastic dildo.

Nipple mystery

The resulting brain images showed a nexus of activation in the medial paracentral lobule, just as in men. Each area of the genitals showed up in its own spot within this brain region, Komisaruk said. [See the brain images ]

“Even though they’re all clustered there like a cluster of grapes, the response to each [genital area] is different,” he said. “They overlap, but they’re separable.”

Nipple stimulation showed up in the area of the brain that receives chest sensations, but it also popped up alongside the genital sensations in the medial paracentral lobule, the researchers found. There could be two reasons for this, Komisaruk said. One is indirect: Stimulating the nipples, as in breast-feeding, releases the hormone oxytocin. This hormone, which is also released during labor, triggers uterus contractions. So it’s possible, Komisaruk said, that nipple stimulation triggers uterine contractions, which then produce a sensation in the genital area of the brain.

However, preliminary data suggest that nipple nerves may directly link up with the brain, skipping the uterine middleman. A few men who have been studied show the same pattern of nipple stimulation activating genital brain regions, Komisaruk said. One of his graduate students is further testing the idea by studying the response of women who have had a hysterectomy, meaning their uterus has been removed.

The erotic brain

The women in the study (each of whom was paid $100 to participate) were not necessarily turned on by the self-stimulation in the fMRI scanner; even so, using a similar setup in an earlier study, Komisaruk and his colleagues were the first to locate the female orgasm in the brain.

That leaves the question of what makes a sensation erotic, Komisaruk said.

“Are there particular brain regions that have to be activated in order for genital stimulation to be converted from run-of-the-mill stimulation versus stimulation with an erotic quality?” he said. “That is the big question.”

For the record, while eroticism is a mystery, Komisaruk and his lab team found that an orgasm involves a variety of brain regions, including the hypothalamic paraventricular nucleus; amygdala; accumbens-bed nucleus of the stria terminalis-preoptic area; hippocampus; basal ganglia; cerebellum; the anterior cingulate, insular, parietal and frontal cortices; and the lower brainstem.

Komisaruk hopes his research will help people who can’t reach orgasm. More broadly, he wants to find out if people can learn to control their brain activity directly, much as we take for granted our ability to move our fingers and toes.”If we can control a part of the brain that produces pleasurable sensation, what would that do in the case of, say, depression or anxiety or addiction or obesity?” Komisaruk said. “We really don’t know what the limits are as far as what we can make our brains do.”

Keller – the gospel and sexuality

08 Monday Jan 2018

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The moralist tends to see sex as dirty or at least a dangerous impulse that leads constantly to sin. There will be an approach-avoidance relationship with sex. The uneasy conscience of the moralist will lead to either complete avoidance OR to a very driven, breathless need for sexual experience. Both come from a glory-vacuum within, which makes sex into a way to fill the emptiness. On the other hand, the hedonist sees sex as merely biological and physical appetite. Thus the hedonist may be less convoluted and troubled about sex, yet they have also given up on the deep longing of their heart to have union with someone sexually that is completely, unconditionally, and permanently true to them.

But the gospel shows us that sexuality is to reflect the self-giving of Christ. He gave himself completely without conditions. So we are not to seek intimacy sexually but then hold back control of our lives. If we give ourselves sexually we are to give ourselves legally, socially, personally – utterly. Sex is only to happen in a totally committed, permanent relationship of marriage. Through Christ’s transformation of us, that ideal is somewhat realizable even between two sinners.

– Tim Keller

Dictional laziness

19 Sunday Nov 2017

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When most people slap the word “fetish” on our desire, what they really mean is “kink.” There’s a tendency to be lazy with all word choices and I thinks this reflects poor vocabulary in our culture. Our failure to distinguish and discern variations between words causes many to mislabel this relationship because “fetish” rolls off the tongue easily and is quite popular in modern parlance. In Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish? and Couples Nursing is a love language, not a fetish, I’ve already defined the term “fetish” as 1. an attraction to something that’s typically non-sexual, 2. a desire that must be had in order to fully enjoy sex, and 3. something that’s more commonly held by males, and then I discussed how Couples Nursing fails to meet any of those three criteria. A much more appropriate term would be kinky, which Urban Dictionary defines as “something relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes especially in sex” and by the Oxford dictionary as “used to describe sexual behaviour that most people would consider strange or unusual.”

Speaking of kinky, yes, that I certainly am, and I make no apologies for it. In fact some of my hardcore kinks have caused almost as much anxiety as my ANR desire has in years past when I didn’t know how to process them. I’ve stated before that some of my more outthere male fantasies would make most women uncomfortable, but ANR is not one of them. Yeah, I know I definitely am significantly kinkier than average. These desires are things women might do for their husbands more on special occasions than on the daily.

I don’t sweat the kinky though. Compared to an ANR, I’m more willing to forgo these, as nothing whatsoever affect a woman’s hormones and creates an ongoing need to bond like it, so this clearly places it in a position of superiority to other forms of intimacy.

My other desires are very erotic and adventurous, so much so they just might make the prudish Christian next door almost have a heart attack at the prospect of discussing this outside marriage. Nevertheless, I’ve resolved to tangentially discuss these needs with a girlfriend. The fact is if I were to marry a woman that can’t be my “partner in kink” at least sometimes, our marriage won’t reach its potential.

I aim to show the world that Jesus and kinkiness can go well together — if implemented appropriately, and that’s a big if. Being adventurous in the bedroom need not be off limits to believers in Jesus Christ. And an ANR is not some curious fetish, there’s theology undergirding it.

With bible verses like “He put his hand through the keyhole,” “nipples of her they shall satiate you in every of season,” “his fruit was sweet to my taste,” “he grazes among the lillies,” “I would give you some spiced wine to drink, some juice squeezed from my pomegranates,” it’s clear that God has no problem with kinky — on the marriage bed.

Eccl. 3:1: “There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens.”

Kinky is not synonymous with fetish.

Good sex means loving your spouse sacrificially

08 Wednesday Nov 2017

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Sex isn’t about learning skills or being gratified, but about loving a person. Putting their needs above yours.

I sometimes get anxious and try to micromanage my future sex life. “What if she won’t do this or that?” I often ask myself.

Now I’ve realized that it’s not about me “getting mine” or being focused on my own pleasure. It’s about me putting my needs and desires aside in order to prioritize hers, and serve her like Christ served me on the Cross. And if there’s any nagging desire that might lead to an unhappy marriage, such as unfulfilled ANR longings, I’ll simply talk it out before saying “I do.”

Have sex everyday

17 Tuesday Oct 2017

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I have a friend that’s been a believer not quite as long as I have, yet unbelievably godly and mature.

While discussing God’s plan for marital intimacy one day, he said the failure to have frequent sex is one of the primary ways with which Satan attacks marriages, couples grow distant, and eventually become just roommates.

When passion for one’s spouse grows cold, it won’t take long before the secretary or the pool boy looks more attractive.

Regardless of libido, sexual frequency will diminish over time. After the honeymoon, life will get in the way. This is why I maintain that Couples Nursing stands head and shoulders above all other intimate acts. With it, the fire never goes out, and the affection is permanent.

 

“The nursing forces us to spend time together regardless how busy or tired that we may be. And it has also led to some of the greatest sex for both of us as well. I really can’t say enough good about ANR.”

– Robert S

What If God Really Meant For Us to Have Freedom in the Bedroom?

17 Tuesday Oct 2017

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From Sheila Wray Gregoire’s blog To Love, Honor & Vacuum.

When it comes to sex, do you see God’s commands as being about making you do something you don’t want to do?

I think that’s often the way we see things like 1 Corinthians 7:3-5–the “do not deprive each other” passage. That’s certainly the way that it’s often framed, when it’s turned into “obligation sex”. God made us so that we would need sex fairly frequently (especially men!). And so we’re not to deprive each other, and we’re to make sure we stop each other from feeling temptation.

Isn’t that rather, well, defeating?

You can see evidence of that line of thinking in the comments on this post, which got really sad. People were using those verses to mean that you could never say no to your husband.

I’ve written before that I think 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 was never written to be about obligation sex, but instead to be about mutual sex. The big thing you’ll notice about those verses is that it’s equal–it’s not written to coerce or pressure a woman into doing anything. It assumes that sex will be a mutual experience, which is actually really cool.

3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

I won’t rehash that argument, because I wrote a 3-piece series on it already!

But a while ago an Australian reader sent me another interpretation, which I found really interesting. And I wanted to run it today. She writes:

Recently I went to the Scriptures in a totally new way, in particular devouring the Old Testament.

In the law I now saw picture after picture of God’s character and of course prophetically of Jesus… but also, restriction after restriction, including restrictions that affected peoples sex lives… often to do with purification times – days of abstinence and waiting.

After a couple of years reading the OT almost exclusively, I wandered back into the New Testament and saw something brand new in 1 Corinthians 7:5… something that I’m cautious about expressing in case I’m totally wrong BUUUUT – what if, what IF those words about not withholding ourselves from each other were to do with the putting away of the Law?! What IF they were to grant a brand new FREEDOM?!! What if they were saying – “go for it – there are no more restrictions on the basis of the law”!? What if it was NEVER meant to become the source of misery and condemnation (usually on women) in the form of something VERY LIKE another LAW?! What if those words are meant to be a release to freedom instead of something so often held over as a rule?

Here’s what she’s arguing:

The Old Testament was full of rules about when you could and couldn’t make love, and about purification rituals you’d have to perform after your period, or childbirth, or weird emissions, or anything like that. It made sex seem rare and burdensome.

Think about it: the Jews in the Old Testament were very used to thinking:

I can’t have sex:

  • For seven days around the wife’s period
  • On the Sabbath (since after sex you were unclean until the following evening and thus would be prohibited from worship)
  • During some times of national purification
  • For a long time after the birth of a child
  • After any abnormal discharge or any strange skin condition

And many more! In fact, there were so many regulations that abstaining from sex for a time would have been a common occurrence.

We’re not really used to that in the same way at all. We don’t tend to abstain for spiritual reasons but instead for practical reasons or health reasons.

The Jews would have been used to thinking of sex as separate from holiness and worship of God.

But then Paul writes this amazing passage in 1 Corinthians 7, where he says, “do not deprive each other except for a time and by mutual consent…” No more rules! No more feeling like sex isn’t a part of a holy life. No more feeling like the less we have sex, the more we’re worshipping God.

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Instead, sex is supposed to be a healthy part of the Christian life. God is saying, “Go for it!”

Certainly we can refrain because we’re going to choose to fast for a time in prayer, and that’s a good thing. But it’s a decision we make together; it’s not something imposed upon us because we’re somehow unclean.

When we make the “do not deprive” passage into a new kind of law, then, we miss the whole point.

It isn’t about pressuring women to perform. It’s about experiencing real freedom in the bedroom, in a mutual relationship.

That’s really cool! I thought this Australian reader’s comparison between the Old Testament and Paul’s new proclamations were really interesting, and I hope you find them that way, too!

Forbidden sexual practices and the call to holiness

13 Friday Oct 2017

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Note how uncovering a person’s nakedness is exactly identical to uncovering the nakedness of the person’s spouse. The two really do become one flesh.

New King James Version (NKJV)

Laws of Sexual Morality

18 Then the Lord spoke to Moses, saying, 2 “Speak to the children of Israel, and say to them: ‘I am the Lord your God. 3 According to the doings of the land of Egypt, where you dwelt, you shall not do; and according to the doings of the land of Canaan, where I am bringing you, you shall not do; nor shall you walk in their ordinances. 4 You shall observe My judgments and keep My ordinances, to walk in them: I am the Lord your God. 5 You shall therefore keep My statutes and My judgments, which if a man does, he shall live by them: I am the Lord.

6 ‘None of you shall approach anyone who is near of kin to him, to uncover his nakedness: I am the Lord. 7 The nakedness of your father or the nakedness of your mother you shall not uncover. She is your mother; you shall not uncover her nakedness. 8 The nakedness of your father’s wife you shall not uncover; it is your father’s nakedness. 9 The nakedness of your sister, the daughter of your father, or the daughter of your mother, whether born at home or elsewhere, their nakedness you shall not uncover. 10 The nakedness of your son’s daughter or your daughter’s daughter, their nakedness you shall not uncover; for theirs is your own nakedness. 11 The nakedness of your father’s wife’s daughter, begotten by your father—she is your sister—you shall not uncover her nakedness. 12 You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father’s sister; she is near of kin to your father. 13 You shall not uncover the nakedness of your mother’s sister, for she is near of kin to your mother. 14 You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father’s brother. You shall not approach his wife; she is your aunt. 15 You shall not uncover the nakedness of your daughter-in-law—she is your son’s wife—you shall not uncover her nakedness. 16 You shall not uncover the nakedness of your brother’s wife; it is your brother’s nakedness. 17 You shall not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, nor shall you take her son’s daughter or her daughter’s daughter, to uncover her nakedness. They are near of kin to her. It is wickedness. 18 Nor shall you take a woman as a rival to her sister, to uncover her nakedness while the other is alive.

19 ‘Also you shall not approach a woman to uncover her nakedness as long as she is in her customary impurity. 20 Moreover you shall not lie carnally with your neighbor’s wife, to defile yourself with her. 21 And you shall not let any of your descendants pass through the fire to Molech, nor shall you profane the name of your God: I am the Lord. 22 You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination. 23 Nor shall you mate with any animal, to defile yourself with it. Nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it. It is perversion.

24 ‘Do not defile yourselves with any of these things; for by all these the nations are defiled, which I am casting out before you. 25 For the land is defiled; therefore I visit the punishment of its iniquity upon it, and the land vomits out its inhabitants. 26 You shall therefore keep My statutes and My judgments, and shall not commit any of these abominations, either any of your own nation or any stranger who dwells among you 27 (for all these abominations the men of the land have done, who were before you, and thus the land is defiled), 28 lest the land vomit you out also when you defile it, as it vomited out the nations that were before you. 29 For whoever commits any of these abominations, the persons who commit them shall be cut off from among their people.

30 ‘Therefore you shall keep My ordinance, so that you do not commit any of these abominable customs which were committed before you, and that you do not defile yourselves by them: I am the Lord your God.’”

Thanks to guidance from God, improving our sex life has been the #1 marriage enhancer, of everything else tried

31 Friday Mar 2017

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My favorite part of the article:

5. SEX IS IMPORTANT…LIKE REALLY IMPORTANT

I seriously can’t touch on this point enough! (I’m actually thinking about writing an e-book on the topic of sex in marriage, so let me know in the comments what you think!) Thanks to guidance from God, improving our sex life has been the #1 marriage enhancer out of everything else we have changed. It ranks higher than learning how to communicate better, establishing roles in the home, and even figuring out our love languages. Why? Because turning up the intimacy in our marriage has improved all those other topics I listed as well!

And I’m not talking about being more adventurous or having longer sex. No, nothing like that. We just changed our attitudes toward sex, discovered what the other person truly needed through hard conversations, and kept it a priority. We WERE NOT in a good place intimately during the first part of our marriage, and everything else suffered because of it. However, since making this change in the last quarter of our first year, EVERYTHING else has changed as well!

What’s my reason?

16 Thursday Mar 2017

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I had planned to post an article listing my reasons for wanting an ANR but my co-author’s post was a catalyst.

So what are my reasons?

Not gonna lie, the kink factor/sexual gratification is definitely a big one for me, and I’m sure most male readers could relate. There’s just something about full, productive, milky breasts that’s wildly erotic and sensual; it would certainly turn me on in marriage.
Honestly, I think it’s a delicious relationship.

Also huge is the otherwise unattainable intimacy. I’m a firm believer that husband and wife should be as intimate as humanly possible, so I’ll do anything imaginable to optimize the intimacy level in my marriage, as long as our attempts at intimacy don’t lead to sin. I’ve already thought up some other ways to be closer than close to my wife. Remember, extreme intimacy is the love language I speak.

Then there’s the bond and permanent sense of connection. She would literally become part of me. I would carry some of her everywhere I go.

Of course what I do to her is important to me as well. It’s an amazing way to have my wife feeling biblically feminine, productive, beautiful, needed, servant-hearted and sexually fulfilled.

Plus the effect it’ll have on my marriage, the feeling of oneness. The symbiotic relationship. The joy and stability everyone reports that it brings to marriages and as a commenter posted, the fact that it’s beautiful and sacred.
Thinking of it draws out something I feel is buried, something in me that just thinks it’s so special, I feel it’s a long-lost bonding act: humble masculinity meets glorious, divine femininity.

And of course it glorifies God. It’s a way to obey Proverbs 5:19, Song 7:8 and 8:2 and bear fruit.

Let her breasts soak you at all times … but let her joy and pleasure be your ultimate aim

09 Thursday Feb 2017

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The world likes to twist Scriptural truths.

They’d like to have us think sex is all about us but one of the main reasons God gave us such a powerful gift is not to get our rocks off. It’s to serve our spouse. By putting their needs above ours.

Our reciprocal pleasure should only be a side effect of the sacrificial love we give out.

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“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his [wife].”

– John 15:13

He put his hand through the keyhole

17 Tuesday Jan 2017

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My beloved put his hand through the keyhole.
My heart throbbed for him.

– Song of Solomon 5:4

My. Beloved. Put. His. Hand. Through. The. KEYHOLE. That had me like “ 😃 Ooooooooh, thank you Jesus! Please, won’t you please send me my dear Mrs. soon, so I could love her sacrificially… and um, put my hand through the keyhole, among other things?”

Despite reading the Song before, I never caught this until I began posting the book here two weeks ago, as the words “through the keyhole” seem specific to the God’s Word version and a few others. I mostly use the ESV, which states “My beloved put his hand to the latch.”

The NIV is a little more explicit:
“My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening.”

And the KJV:
“My beloved put in his hand by the hole of the door, and my bowels were moved for him.”

Douay-Rheims Bible:
“My beloved put his hand through the key hole, and my bowels were moved at his touch.”

No matter how one looks at it, the point is clear: God is no prude, unlike many professing Christians. Boy am I glad He doesn’t shy away from being graphic, yet He does so in a way that’ll go over the heads of most kids.

Here’s the verse in context (Douay-Rheims Bible):
“3 I have put off my garment, how shall I put it on? I have washed my feet, how shall I defile them?

4 My beloved put his hand through the key hole, and my bowels were moved at his touch.

5 I arose up to open to my beloved: my hands dropped with myrrh, and my fingers were full of the choicest myrrh.”

Married Christian men, be nice to your wives – expecting nothing in return, of course. Side effects of such wife-focused grace include putting your hand – and other things – through the keyhole tonight.

Song of Solomon 8

08 Sunday Jan 2017

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If only you were my brother,
one who nursed at my mother’s breasts.
If I saw you on the street,
I would kiss you, and no one would look down on me.
2     I would lead you.
I would bring you into my mother’s house.
(She is the one who was my teacher.)
I would give you some spiced wine to drink, some juice squeezed from my pomegranates.
3 His left hand is under my head.
His right hand caresses me.
4 Young women of Jerusalem, swear to me
that you will not awaken love
or arouse love before its proper time!

The Young Woman’s Love for Her Beloved

[The chorus of young women]

5 Who is this young woman coming from the wilderness
with her arm around her beloved?

[Bride]

Under the apple tree I woke you up.
There your mother went into labor with you.
There she went into labor
and gave birth to you!
6 Wear me as a signet ring on your heart,
as a ring on your hand.
Love is as overpowering as death.
Devotion is as unyielding as the grave.
Love’s flames are flames of fire,
flames that come from the Lord.
7             Raging water cannot extinguish love,
and rivers will never wash it away.
If a man exchanged all his family’s wealth for love,
people would utterly despise him.

The Young Woman with Her Family and Her Beloved

[The brothers]

8 We have a little sister, and she has no breasts.
What will we do for our sister on the day she becomes engaged?
9 If she is a wall, we will build a silver barrier around her.
If she is a door, we will barricade her with cedar boards.

[Bride]

10 I am a wall, and my breasts are like towers.
So he considers me to be one who has found peace.[a]
11 Solomon had a vineyard at Baal Hamon.
He entrusted that vineyard to caretakers.
Each one was to bring 25 pounds of silver
in exchange for its fruit.
12 My own vineyard is in front of me.
That 25 pounds is yours, Solomon,
and 5 pounds go to those who take care of its fruit.

[Groom]

13 Young woman living in the gardens,
while your friends are listening to your voice,
let me hear. . . .

[Bride]

14 Come away quickly, my beloved.
Run like a gazelle or a young stag
on the mountains of spices.

Footnotes:

Song of Solomon 8:10 In Hebrew there is a play on the words “peace” (shalom), “Solomon” (Shlomo), and “the young woman from Shulam” (Shulamith).

Song of Solomon 7

07 Saturday Jan 2017

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[The chorus of young women]

7 How beautiful are your feet in their sandals, noble daughter!
The curves of your thighs are like ornaments,
like the work of an artist’s hands.
2 Your navel is a round bowl.
May it always be filled with spiced wine.
Your waist is a bundle of wheat enclosed in lilies.
3 Your breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle.
4 Your neck is like an ivory tower.
Your eyes are like pools in Heshbon, pools by the gate of Bath Rabbim.
Your nose is like a Lebanese tower facing Damascus.
5 You hold your head as high as Mount Carmel.
Your dangling curls are royal beauty.
Your flowing locks could hold a king captive.

Solomon Longs for the Young Woman’s Affection

[Groom]

6 How beautiful and charming you are, my love, with your elegance.
7 Young woman,
your figure is like a palm tree,
and your breasts are like its clusters.
8 I thought, “I will climb the palm tree
and take hold of its fruit.”
May your breasts be like clusters on the vine.
May the fragrance of your breath be like apples.
9         May your mouth taste like the best wine . . .

[Bride]

. . . that goes down smoothly to my beloved
and glides over the lips of those about to sleep.
10 I am my beloved’s, and he longs for me.
11 Come, my beloved.
Let’s go into the field.
Let’s spend the night among the henna flowers.
12     Let’s go to the vineyards early.
Let’s see if the vines have budded,
if the grape blossoms have opened,
if the pomegranates are in bloom.
There I will give you my love.
13 The mandrakes give off a fragrance,
and at our door are all kinds of precious fruits.
I have saved new and old things
for you alone, my beloved.

Why such irreverence? Isn’t the gospel infinitely more important?

06 Friday Jan 2017

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Some people find this blog by googling things like “is it sinful to breastfeed my husband?”, and I received this on Wednesday on my Facebook page: “I CANNO’T UNDERSTAND CHRIST CENTERED ANR.HOW CAN LOVE FOR BOOBS AND LOVE FOR CHRIST GO TOGETHER?”

It may seem to many that I am preaching a sexualized form of the have-it-your-way prosperity gospel.

However I’ve come to realize that it’s possible to loathe the prosperity gospel to an unhealthy extent. I should know. That used to be me.

If anyone preaches any other gospel, let them be accursed, warns Galatians 1:8, so I understand the apprehension of many believers when faced with unfamiliar biblical exegeses or potentially compromising/tempting lifestyles.

But those who preach the orthodox gospel tend to ignore biblical allusions to earthly stability.

Of first importance is the glorious gospel of Jesus Christ, but God, being rich in mercy and love, also cares about our earthly needs. Problem is, sinners often misplace our priorities by stressing the mundane over the celestial. At the end of the day, God still wants us to live lives full of joy because the Son rose.

I responded thus to the Facebook message:

“Hi there friend. I really appreciate your honest but interesting question.

You see, this is exactly why there’s a need for Christ-centered ANR. If you read Proverbs 5:19, you’ll observe that Christ unequivocally exhorts me to enjoy my wife’s breasts.

Love for Christ and love for boobs go perfectly well together, as long as all the fun is kept strictly within the marriage covenant.

Please read my post titled ‘Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish?’ because I tackle this subject there. Thanks.”

I know many Christians, including some of the church friends mentioned here would think it irreverent for Christians to even contemplate such a thing as an Adult Nursing Relationship. This shows that even Christians aren’t exempt from making God in their own image. But prim and proper doesn’t mean godly and reverent.

Careful study of Song of Solomon reveals that our God does not at all shy away from erotica, and a proper hermeneutic of Song 8:2, 7:8 and Proverbs 5:19 indicates that He sees nothing irreverent about Couples Nursing.

Someone else said this relationship takes the focus off God, while in fact God gets His glory out of every non-sinful thing we do. We need not become overseas missionaries to glorify God.

Pastor JF told me that God gave us the institution of marriage as a means of propagating the gospel by virtue of it being the most natural way to make disciples. I think there are few things more beautiful than believers making more believers, naturally.

Sex is spiritual. When believers have sex, the beauty of the gospel is lived out.

Self-giving sex in the way of the Cross only leads believers to fall more deeply in love with Jesus Christ and better understand the gospel and the Trinity.

Christ’s objective in voluntarily letting His own creatures kill Him isn’t limited to the reconciliation of God and man. It also includes reconciling man to man, or in this case, man to woman. Superior, God-glorifying sex is one of the benefits of having faith in Christ’s atonement.

Blogging about sex, specifically Adult Nursing Relationships, and reaping stronger Christian marriages as a result is the gospel in action.

“Life is good, eternal life is better.” – Stellar Kart

Song of Solomon 6

06 Friday Jan 2017

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[The chorus of young women]

Where did your beloved go, most beautiful of women?
Where did your beloved turn?
    We will look for him with you.

[Bride]

2 My beloved went to his garden,
    to the beds of spices,
    to graze his flock in the gardens and gather lilies.
3 I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine.
He is the one who grazes his flock among the lilies.

Solomon Desires the Young Woman More Than the Rest of His Wives

[Groom]

4 You are beautiful, my true love, like Tirzah,
    lovely like Jerusalem,
        awe-inspiring like those great cities.
5 Turn your eyes away from me. They enchant me!
    Your hair is like a flock of goats moving down from Gilead.
6     Your teeth are like a flock of sheep,
        sheep that come up from the washing.
            All of them bear twins, and not one has lost its young.
7     Your temples behind your veil are like slices of pomegranate.
8 There are 60 queens, 80 concubines, and countless virgins,
9     but she is unique, my dove, my perfect one.
        Her mother thinks she is unique.
        She is pure to the one who gave birth to her.
Her sisters saw her and blessed her.
Queens and concubines saw her and praised her.

The Young Woman’s Home in Shulam

[The chorus of young women]

10 Who is this young woman?
    She looks like the dawn.
    She is beautiful like the moon,
        pure like the sun,
            awe-inspiring like those heavenly bodies.

[Bride]

11 I went to the walnut grove
    to look at the blossoms in the valley,
    to see if the grapevine had budded
        and if the pomegranates were in bloom.
12 I did not know that I had become
    like the chariots of my noble people.

[The chorus of young women]

13 Come back! Come back, young woman from Shulam!
Come back! Come back so that we may look at you!

[Bride]

Why do you look at me, the young woman from Shulam,
    as you look at the dance of Mahanaim?

Song of Solomon 5

05 Thursday Jan 2017

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[Groom]

My bride, my sister, I will come to my garden.
I will gather my myrrh with my spice.
I will eat my honeycomb with my honey.
I will drink my wine with my milk.
    Eat, my friends!
    Drink and become intoxicated with expressions of love!

The Young Woman Dreams of Marriage with Her Husband

[Bride]

2 I sleep, but my mind is awake.
Listen! My beloved is knocking.

[Groom]

Open to me, my true love, my sister,
    my dove, my perfect one.
    My head is wet with dew,
        my hair with the dewdrops of night.

[Bride]

3 I have taken off my clothes! Why should I put them on again?
I have washed my feet! Why should I get them dirty again?
4 My beloved put his hand through the keyhole.
        My heart throbbed for him.
5         I got up to open for my beloved.
                My hands dripped with myrrh,
                    and my fingers were drenched with liquid myrrh,
                        on the handles of the lock.
6 I opened for my beloved,
    but my beloved had turned away. He was gone!
I almost died when he left.
I looked for him, but I did not find him.
I called for him, but he did not answer me.
7 The watchmen making their rounds in the city found me.
    They struck me!
        They wounded me!
            Those watchmen on the walls took my robe from me!
8 Young women of Jerusalem, swear to me
    that if you find my beloved
        you will tell him I am hopelessly lovesick.

[The chorus of young women]

9     Most beautiful of women,
    what makes your beloved better than any other beloved?
    What makes your beloved better than any other beloved
        that you make us swear this way?

[Bride]

10 My beloved is dazzling yet ruddy.
    He stands out among 10,000 men.
11         His head is the finest gold.
        His hair is wavy, black as a raven.
12         His eyes are set like doves bathing in milk.
13         His cheeks are like a garden of spices,
            a garden that produces scented herbs.
        His lips are lilies that drip with myrrh.
14         His hands are disks of gold set with emerald.
        His chest is a block of ivory covered with sapphires.
15         His legs are columns of marble set on bases of pure gold.
        His form is like Lebanon, choice as the cedars.
16         His mouth is sweet in every way.
            Everything about him is desirable!
This is my beloved, and this is my friend, young women of Jerusalem.

Song of Solomon 4

04 Wednesday Jan 2017

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Solomon Is Charmed by the Young Woman
[Groom]

Look at you! You are beautiful, my true love.
Look at you! You are so beautiful.
Your eyes behind your veil are like doves.
Your hair is like a flock of goats moving down Mount Gilead.
2     Your teeth are like a flock of sheep about to be sheared,
sheep that come up from the washing.
All of them bear twins, and not one has lost its young.
3     Your lips are like scarlet thread.
Your mouth is lovely.
Your temples behind your veil are like slices of pomegranate.
4     Your neck is like David’s beautifully-designed tower.
A thousand round shields belonging to soldiers
are hung on it.
5     Your breasts are like two fawns,
like twin gazelles grazing among the lilies.
6 When the day brings a cool breeze and the shadows flee,
I will go to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of incense.
7         You are beautiful in every way, my true love.
There is no blemish on you.
8         You will come with me from Lebanon,
from Lebanon as my bride.
You will travel with me
from the peak of Mount Amana,
from the mountain peaks in Senir and Hermon,
from the lairs of lions,
from the mountains of leopards.
9         My bride, my sister, you have charmed me.
You have charmed me
with a single glance from your eyes,
with a single strand of your necklace.
10 How beautiful are your expressions of love, my bride, my sister!
How much better are your expressions of love than wine
and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice.
11     Your lips drip honey, my bride.
Honey and milk are under your tongue.
The fragrance of your clothing is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
12     My bride, my sister is a garden that is locked,
a garden that is locked,
a spring that is sealed.
13     You are paradise that produces
pomegranates and the best fruits,
henna flowers and nard,
14         nard and saffron,
calamus, cinnamon, and all kinds of incense,
myrrh, aloes, and all the best spices.
15     You are a spring for gardens,
a well of living water flowing from Lebanon.

[Bride]

16 Awake, north wind!
Come, south wind!
Blow on my garden!
Let its spices flow from it.
Let my beloved come to his garden,
and let him eat his own precious fruit.

Song of Solomon 3

03 Tuesday Jan 2017

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The Young Woman Dreams about Searching for Her Beloved
[Bride]

Night after night on my bed
I looked for the one I love.
I looked for him but did not find him.
2     I will get up now and roam around the city,
        in the streets, and in the squares.
    I will look for the one I love.
    I looked for him but did not find him.
3 The watchmen making their rounds in the city found me.
    I asked, “Have you seen the one I love?”
4     I had just left them when I found the one I love.
    I held on to him and would not let him go
        until I had brought him into my mother’s house,
            into the bedroom of the one who conceived me.
5 Young women of Jerusalem, swear to me
    by the gazelles
        or by the does in the field,
            that you will not awaken love
                or arouse love before its proper time.

A Description of the Royal Procession

[The chorus of young women]

6 Who is this young woman coming up from the wilderness
    like clouds of smoke?
        She is perfumed with myrrh and incense
            made from the merchants’ scented powders.
7 Look! Solomon’s sedan chair!
    Sixty soldiers from the army of Israel surround it.
8     All of them are skilled in using swords,
        experienced in combat.
    Each one has his sword at his side
        and guards against the terrors of the night.
9 King Solomon had a carriage made for himself
    from the wood of Lebanon.
10 He had its posts made out of silver,
    its top out of gold,
    its seat out of purple fabric.
    Its inside—with inlaid scenes of love—
        was made by the young women of Jerusalem.
11 Young women of Zion, come out and look at King Solomon!
    Look at his crown,
        the crown his mother placed on him on his wedding day,
            his day of joyful delight.

Song of Solomon 2

02 Monday Jan 2017

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I am a rose of Sharon, a lily ⌊growing⌋ in the valleys.
[Groom]
Like a lily among thorns, so is my true love among the young women.

[Bride]
Like an apple tree among the trees in the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. I want to sit in his shadow. His fruit tastes sweet to me. He leads me into a banquet room and looks at me with love. Strengthen me with raisins and refresh me with apples because I am weak from love. His left hand is under my head. His right hand caresses me. Young women of Jerusalem, swear to me by the gazelles or by the does in the field that you will not awaken love or arouse love before its proper time.

The Young Woman Remembers One Spring Day with Her Beloved
[Bride]
I hear my beloved’s voice. Look! Here he comes, sprinting over the mountains, racing over the hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. Look! There he stands behind our wall, peeking through the window, looking through the lattice. My beloved said to me, “Get up, my true love, my beautiful one, and come with me. Look! The winter is past. The rain is over and gone. Blossoms appear in the land. The time of the songbird has arrived. The cooing of the mourning dove is heard in our land. The green figs ripen. The grapevines bloom and give off a fragrance. Get up, my true love, my beautiful one, and come with me. My dove, in the hiding places of the rocky crevices, in the secret places of the cliffs, let me see your figure and hear your voice. Your voice is sweet, and your figure is lovely.” Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that ruin vineyards. Our vineyards are blooming. My beloved is mine, and I am his. He is the one who grazes his flock among the lilies. When the day brings a cooling breeze and the shadows flee, turn around, my beloved. Run like a gazelle or a young stag on the mountains that separate us!

Song of Songs 2 GW
http://bible.com/70/sng.2.1-17.GW

Song of Solomon 1

01 Sunday Jan 2017

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The most beautiful song of Solomon.  

The Young Woman Arrives in Solomon’s Palace
[Bride]
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth. Your expressions of love are better than wine, better than the fragrance of cologne. (Cologne should be named after you.) No wonder the young women love you! Take me with you. Let’s run away. The king has brought me into his private rooms.

[The chorus of young women]
We will celebrate and rejoice with you. We will praise your expressions of love more than wine. How right it is that the young women love you!

[Bride]
Young women of Jerusalem, I am dark and lovely like Kedar’s tents, like Solomon’s curtains. Stop staring at me because I am so dark. The sun has tanned me. My brothers were angry with me. They made me the caretaker of the vineyards. I have not even taken care of my own vineyard. Please tell me, you whom I love, where do you graze your flock? Where does your flock lie down at noon? ⌊Tell me,⌋ or I will be considered a prostitute ⌊wandering⌋ among the flocks of your companions.

[The chorus of young women]
If you do not know, most beautiful of women, follow the tracks of the flocks, and graze your young goats near the shepherds’ tents.

Solomon Searches for the Young Woman’s Love
[Groom]
My true love, I compare you to a mare among Pharaoh’s stallions. Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments, your neck with strings of pearls.

[The chorus of young women]
We will make gold ornaments with silver beads for you.

[Bride]
While the king is at his table, my perfume fills the air with its fragrance. My beloved is a pouch of myrrh that lies at night between my breasts. My beloved is a bouquet of henna flowers in the vineyards of En Gedi. Look at you!

[Groom]
You are beautiful, my true love! Look at you! You are so beautiful! Your eyes are like doves! Look at you!

[Bride]
You are handsome, my beloved, so pleasing to me! The leaf-scattered ground will be our couch. The cedars will be the walls of our house. The cypress trees will be our rafters.

Song of Songs 1 GW
http://bible.com/70/sng.1.1-17.GW

Why this blog is necessary

25 Sunday Sep 2016

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I found you by a Google search.  I had an interest for years. I was happy to find your site because almost every other site was pornographic. For a long time I thought that there was no way to learn more without wading through the detritus. And there are times when I do go back to those sites. I keep fighting against those urges, I talked to a counselor who gave me verses and has prayed over me. Reading your postings has been a porn deterrent. Having me go to read your blog as opposed to the other site s

Thank you and God bless you

If you don’t seek any Christian resources that speak to your biblically healthy sexual desires, if you think you can successfully keep them bottled up, you will certainly fall into sexual sin.

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Christians need a safe outlet for their non-sinful sexual desires, and God has provided exactly that in His word, and practically, through marriage and responsible sexual dialogue, even while single.

How to get more action from her, biblically

15 Monday Aug 2016

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A sexual how-to may seem strange coming from a single guy. However, as a Christian musician once said, experience is the teacher of fools. True believers gain wisdom and understanding from God’s Word.

Although I’ve never been married, from reading the Bible daily for years, including relevant portions like Ephesians 5 and the Song of Solomon, in addition to attending gospel-preaching churches, closely fellowshipping with Cross-centered believers like Elder T and Pastor JH and being exposed to snippets of good books on marriage like What Did You Expect? by Paul Tripp, I have a good grasp of what would glorify God the most and maximize the joy of Christian couples, including their sex lives.

Men, if you do these three each and every time you have sex, she’s very likely to love having sex with you to the point of initiating with more frequency:

  1. Make sure she feels intensely, deeply and sacrificially loved,
  2. Make sure you both bond intimately, and
  3. Make sure she has an orgasm.

Resolve to spend every second of your bedroom time seeing to it that she connects well with her husband, feels extra cherished and enjoys herself thoroughly, and do all this without expecting anything in return. This is how biblical sex should look.

“I’ll put your needs above mine.”

-Elder T, discipling me on the heart attitude believers in Jesus Christ should bring to the marriage bed

“But, of course, sin always tries to trash God’s gifts. So we can’t just celebrate sex for what God made it to be; we have to fight what sin turned it into. The contributors to this unique volume encourage you to do both: celebrate and struggle.”

-Sex and the Supremacy of Christ by John Piper and Justin Taylor

What women want

30 Saturday Jul 2016

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A Christian site for women once polled its readers on what they want most from their husbands, apart from sex. In order of popularity, the results were:

  1. His time
  2. Communication
  3. Non-sexual touching

According to many CN-practicing women, Couples Nursing gives them all of the above and amazing sex.

Another intriguing fact, I learned this in high school sex ed: if given two choices – cuddle or have sex, women choose the former by a ratio that’s approximately 15 to 1.

My hypothesis: Couples Nursing is sexual enough to please most men and non-sexual/cuddly enough to satisfy most women, thus its appeal to both sexes.

I want to be able to give my husband a safe place where he can come home at the end of a long day and let all the worries and stress fall away. To drift off to sleep at night. The nurturing aspect, the closeness, the intimacy…I knew that in a relationship that would be amazing to have. One woman described it as the greatest stabilizing force on her marriage. It forces communication and coming together physically so that you are bonded again and again and again with your husband.

-Email from a follower