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How to disclose your desire without coming off as a creep

To minimize the shock and creep factor, I now think it’s wiser to stagger your disclosure. Consider breaking it into the following stages: Stage One: The homework/detective stage. Guys, seek the feminine, nurturing, affectionate type. Girls, look for a man who’s openminded and not too puritanical. Stage Two: The buildup/getting intimate stage. Build trust. Patience…

Trust God

“Put your sword back in its place,” Jesus said to him, “for all who draw the sword will die by the sword. Do you think I cannot call on my father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than twelve legions of angels?” – Matthew 26:52-53 Do you think the God who…

Trust God

13 Just as a father has compassion on his children, So the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him. 14 For He Himself knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust. (Psalm 103)   When lonely and struggling with temptation, trust that your Maker won’t let you suffer. He’s the one who gave you these desires, and…

Marriage only

I’ve been convicted of how sneaky the sin of covetousness can be. It’s so easy to get distracted and fall into the sin of serial lust. While it’s just as easy to rationalize this behavior, the fact is we’re cheating on our spouses each time we do. Men are especially vulnerable to having their eyes…

How to bring it up to a potential mate

Ultra cautiously. First, to maximize your chances of succeeding, only pursue/be pursued by the type of Christian that’s highly likely to say yes.  For guys, it means aiming for the soft, nurturing girl. If you see no signs of feminine softness in her, you’re likely to be wasting your time and hers. Ladies, your best bet is…

The danger of ANR: Biblical ANR hero gone bad

Note: ANR in itself isn’t dangerous, our sinful hearts pose the real danger. While browsing through ANR dating profiles, I came across a woman I’ll never forget. She was very attractive physically, and also one of the handful of modestly dressed women on both websites on which I spotted her. And we have some things in…