Hyperlactation syndrome

Extreme breast milk donor Elisabeth Sierra-Anderson has been pumping for 4 years straight.

Embeddable video here

Go Elisabeth. Nearly 2 gallons of milk EVERYDAY is too much for any man to drink, but I’d rather have a wife who produces too much than too little.

On which side do you fall? Is any amount of milk okay with you, as long as it’s being consumed, or are you as decidedly pro-volume as I am, so you can drink/he can “drink heavily from your breasts?”

Adult breastfeeding among buffaloes

I’ve heard one critic cite the uncommonness of adult breastfeeding in the animal kingdom as proof that it’s unnatural. I’m sure many other critics think the same way.

The video above is a clear counterexample.

I believe God encourages the practice among us uniquely because we were made in his image and are the only truly self-aware earthly beings.

Growing up in Africa, I’ve witnessed adult breastfeeding among goats. I’ve also seen a video of the practice between monkeys.

Sure, it might be uncommon or not always welcome in the animal world (notice how the female buffalo walks away towards the end. The female goat in Africa sometimes did the same), but it does happen. That the females sometimes walk away is evidence of an interspecies understanding of the primacy of babies in breastfeeding.

The test of truth isn’t a representation in the animal kingdom. It’s an emphasis in the word of God, and God has clearly spoken about adult breastfeeding.

It’s just fascinating to see animals also engage in it.

So why does God especially desire humans to partake in adult nursing relationships?

First of all, bear in mind that human females are the only ones with permanently enlarged breasts located in the front of the body, close to the face. Next, remember that we are the only creatures who routinely copulate in a face-to-face position. From our design, it’s clear God wants us to be highly social and relational beings.

He also desires this practice in us because as morally intelligent creatures, we know we place an erotic spin on a natural act, which only makes Couples Nursing that much more erotic.

Also because this knowledge that they’re engaging in behavior that’s extra and not necessary for survival or procreation only improves couples’ sex lives and deepens their bond.

It’s also interesting to note that while female animals sometimes walk away, with humans, it’s often the males who walk away from nursing, proof of the uniqueness of ABF and further proof of my statement that as the most sentient beings capable of moral reflection, we know that our participation in this extracurricular activity only takes intimacy to the next level. Real, everyday women prove this.

The fact that women seek it out more than men, in order to bond and nurture, is powerful testament to the divine imprint within.

But even female animals also seem to enjoy it sometimes. I wish I could find the YouTube video, but I think said female monkey also got a deep sense of satisfaction from the arboreal nursing.

But the ultimate answer is “for His glory,” as in everything God does or wills.

What’s your take? Have you seen any adult animals nursing? Where? In what part of the world and in what setting? Out in nature? What animals exactly? Know of any online videos that depict this unique act? I have a YouTube video below showing one more example, but please share your knowledge in the comment section.

Guard your eyes

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”

– Job 1:1


I need to take a moment to talk to the gentlemen. Please guys, let’s fight the urge to stare. Look away. Look down. Look anywhere except towards temptation.


Satan comes as an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:14). He uses the fact that women’s bodies and breasts are praised in Scripture to ensnare us.

Speaking for myself, I know I’m getting too comfortable with occasional staring.

Whenever I’m not tethered to Christ and abiding deeply in Him (John 15), I often stare and then minimize or rationalize my behaviour, by conveniently reminding myself only of verses that fit my breast admiration.

I definitely need to practice what I preach. Yes, women’s bodies are wonderful and miraculous life givers. But unless you’re married to her, you have no business gazing at her.

This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.”

– Galatians 5:16

“But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

– Matthew 5:28

What if you meet the perfect ANR mate … except they’re not Christian?

Last weekend, we had a birthday party-cum-meet and greet at my new residence.

Within a minute of entering the birthday celebrant’s place, I noticed her, and we were introduced.

She was beautiful. With many features I find attractive in women. Cute facial features. Gracious, with a sense of humor. Tantalizing body, especially relevant parts.

She was very ANR-friendly, and then some. Just the right ethnic mix too, the type with which I’ve historically enjoyed the best chemistry.

When we got to chatting, I quickly noticed she wasn’t saved. Nothing particularly nefarious about her character, just every now and then, speech patterns that showed signs consistent with an unregenerate heart.

I could feel myself slipping into dangerous territory. Particularly troubling considering how I foolishly let a season of gross idolatry get the best of me recently.

My flesh is dying to get her perspective on Couples Nursing, but my spirit knows it’ll be out of line and wrong. This is all the more compounded by the fact that years ago, I blogged on this very topic. I singled this particular situation out as that which should cause us to “turn and run.” So what’s a believer to do?

Within minutes, God gave me peace on this matter on Tuesday.

He showed me two resolutions:

1. Pursue a gospel friendship with her, leaving the results to God.

Always keep in mind that her salvation is first for God’s glory and good pleasure, secondly to benefit her, and finally for her loved ones and sphere of influence. I’m not the chief beneficiary.

Missionary dating is to be thoroughly frowned upon. But in recent years as I’ve matured in Christ, I now realize that going on platonic dates with nonbelievers isn’t always wrong, depending on the people involved and circumstances. Yes, it can be highly dangerous, and caution is appropriate. But a mature, self-controlled and emotionally guarded Christian might be able to handle “controlled” missionary dating, with an unshakable understanding of the pecking order of salvation just discussed. In other words, don’t date to save. If you must date, date strictly as a friend in Christ. Iff God chooses to save, only then consider being more than friends.

2. If you must discuss CN directly, be extremely cautious.

Discerning the nonsexual core ANR traits, i.e. that the person is soft, affectionate, tactile, nurturing, and that they place a premium on intimacy, can be done with a nonbeliever without sinning.

But the circumstances under which one should mention Couples Nursing by name to a non-Christian or a Christian one with whom they haven’t established mutual trust, and especially its erotic aspects, should be one entailing utmost caution, preferably in a counseling or research context.

If you meet an “ideal” unbelieving potential spouse, keep your guard up as always, but there might be no harm in keeping them in mind, praying for them and maintaining a gospel-saturated, controlled friendship, where the direction of influence goes from you to them.


2 Corinthians 6:14 New King James Version (NKJV):

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

Mark 2 (NIV):

15 While Jesus was having dinner at Levi’s house, many tax collectors and sinners were eating with him and his disciples, for there were many who followed him. 16 When the teachers of the law who were Pharisees saw him eating with the sinners and tax collectors, they asked his disciples: “Why does he eat with tax collectors and sinners?”

17 On hearing this, Jesus said to them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”

Bodybuilders and breast milk

So some macho men do want ANRs after all, or at least, the critical ingredient of an ANR.

But I think they’re the “tough on the outside, soft on the inside” type.

According to news sources, some bodybuilders claim breast milk helps build muscle.

Male bodybuilders buying expressed milk online isn’t quite an ANR, but it’s interesting and informative.

I’ve realized over the years that while physical traits matter, personality and character traits take the lion’s share in determining ANR compatibility, in both men and women.

It’s okay if he’s muscular and fit, with a tender heart, and enough humility to let himself be loved and nurtured by his wife.

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?



From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

Organic synergy


Scientists have discovered that neighboring trees’ roots become interconnected underground, forming a larger system. They communicate and share nutrients.1, 2

In the same way, couples are supposed to be so intertwined that they form one ecosystem, a seamless union in which as one ANR woman put it, one member of the couple can say “I don’t know where I end and you begin.”

I don’t see how an honest observer can peer into God’s creation and fail to notice this synergistic, symbiotic intimacy everywhere.

I and the Father are one.

– Jesus Christ, John 10:30

4 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. 5 I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.

– Jesus Christ, John 15

See also: The beautiful tracer experiment

1. Do Trees Talk to Each Other? | Science | Smithsonian Magazine: “For young saplings in a deeply shaded part of the forest, the network is literally a lifeline. Lacking the sunlight to photosynthesize, they survive because big trees, including their parents, pump sugar into their roots through the network. [Forester Peter] Wohlleben likes to say that mother trees ‘suckle their young,’ which both stretches a metaphor and gets the point across vividly.”

“Mother trees are the biggest, oldest trees in the forest with the most fungal connections. They’re not necessarily female, but [scientist Suzanne] Simard sees them in a nurturing, supportive, maternal role. With their deep roots, they draw up water and make it available to shallow-rooted seedlings. They help neighboring trees by sending them nutrients, and when the neighbors are struggling, mother trees detect their distress signals and increase the flow of nutrients accordingly.”

2. Exploring The Underground Network of Trees – The Nervous System of the Forest | Harvard University

My cafeteria date proves exposure and open-mindedness are ANR advantages

Just over a year ago, I was on a date with a missionary kid born and raised in a tribal country in the tropical Eastern hemisphere.

She had grown up around breastfeeding mothers all her life.

Following my M.O., when I finally got to bringing up CN to find out what she thought of it, by showing her it was biblical and asserting it was a very loving thing to do for one’s husband, she simply said it wasn’t a big deal. She’d definitely partake when married if her husband were interested. She told me she had seen many mothers breastfeed in the jungle nation of her childhood, so she was completely comfortable with any and all forms of nursing. “Many couples do this in private,” she confidently declared, with a smile that couldn’t bely the somewhat erotic nature of our conversation. She repeated how it wasn’t at all a big deal to her.

This conversation that had the two of us sitting right there across from each other in a well-lit and nearly empty cafeteria was very helpful and instructive in my quest to better understand ANRs.

People who are exposed to breastfeeding and aren’t closed-minded are a likelier bet.

Being breastfed myself slightly longer than most babies might play a role in my lifelong comfort with the idea of Couples Nursing.

Beloved readers, seek a mate that’s been very exposed to nursing mothers and views breastfeeding as a natural, healthy bonding act.

1% erotica

There are 1,189 chapters in the Bible.

Of these, roughly 1% are about marital intimacy.

If we count Genesis 2, Proverbs 5, all 8 chapters of the Song of Songs, 1 Corinthians 7 and several other disjoint verses in the Bible, we have approximately 12 chapters dedicated to eroticism in marriage.


That 1% is significant. Most churches and Christians seem to wish it were 0%, while a tiny few act like that percent were 75.

God’s absolute genius never ceases to amaze me. There’s a reason it’s not 0%, nor 2% but 1% of his word that’s erotic in nature.

He knows our frame, that we are but dust. He knows our nature, and has given us just the right amount we can handle.

We need to celebrate the 1%. Talk about it. Savor it. Not view it as a stumbling block, as my Puritanical former roommate does. Of course, 1% shouldn’t become 100%, but reducing it to 0% insults God, because it questions, challenges and fails to appreciate his gift of sex.

Mutual masturbation while nursing

During nursing sessions, I think couples should at times give each other manual pleasure.

Again, according to the Bible, Couples Nursing is a simultaneously sweet, nurturing nonsexual act and a highly sexual one. When couples are in the latter mood, they ought to be willing to please each other to completion.

I see nothing wrong with doing some major vulvar stimulation during a couple’s more intimate and explosive sessions.

Nursing by a fireplace in a cozy cabin on a snowy Christmas? Absolutely. I’m all for sweet, joyful sentiment to accompany our milk exchange.

But penile and clitoral stimulation should also supplement the breastfeeding on special occasions. Or whenever the couple feels like it.

What are your thoughts? Should couples keep it sweet and neat or is the occasional hand-stroking resulting in intense orgasms permissible? Leave comments below.


See also: The Great ANR sexuality debate: nonsexual bonding act or highly erotic and orgasmic?

A forced ANR is a crime against women, nature and God

I came across a young woman online probably no older than her late teens who admitted to being coerced by her ex to participate in an ANR.

My heart sank.

I’ve mentioned on this blog that I’m convinced Husband Nursing is more intimate than sex. Correspondingly, therefore, to coerce anyone into it, I believe, is worse than rape.

It’s extremely dehumanizing and is antithetical to the mission of this blog.

I see no difference between the abusive ex and a mosquito. Different in size, but in that context, both life-sucking parasites.

The key difference maker between a “rapey” ANR and a loving biblical one is a heart that’s been changed by the gospel. By true love from above.

The ex should be arrested for reducing her to a milk-producing slave.

From blogging and researching for almost a decade now [still can’t believe it’s 2020], I’ve become convinced that for every man who wants an ANR, there are two women who seek it, so it’s particularly unfortunate that some men resort to such cruel and ungodly behavior to get it.

What we need are safe spaces where women with ANR desires can feel comfortable coming out. With this in place, such heartbreaking stories might be heard less frequently. Unless that dude is a power-hungry monster whose real turn-on is abusing women rather than bonding with a wife through this intimate act. Thank God most of us ANR men fall into the latter category.



Sounds erotic: prospective Mrs. Christ-centered ANR’s godly sexual honesty

“Drinking breast milk?”
I nodded, with a half-overjoyed, half-nervous smile that seemed to convey a sense of “Pay dirt. You win. You got me. No more beating around the bush.” I had just directed her to a Christ-centered ANR post where the Shulammite woman discusses feeding her bridegroom some wine/juice squeezed from her pomegranates.

There was no more keeping her in suspense. With that, I finally laid all my cards on the table. This lady now knew exactly what my deep, hidden desire, that took what must have seemed like an eternity to reveal, was.

Sounds erotic,” she fancied, her voice clearly impassioned and sincere.

“I have sensitive breasts,” she cautioned, while yet somewhat excited.

“That’s why God gave you breasts,” I gently and happily retorted, in an attempt to persuade.

To this, she pensively reiterated “I have sensitive nipples.”

She paused contemplatively to skim a recent Christ-centered ANR post and take it all in. It was all new to her.

Sounds erotic,” her tone still as raw, honest and passionate as at first.

I was sure to preface the entire conversation with “husband and wife should be this close,” tightly clasping my hands to demonstrate. She readily agreed with that sentiment.

So went the tail end of our date, in plain sight in a busy Tim Horton’s. It was a frigid afternoon on a January 8 late last decade.

She had earlier confided in me on how badly she missed having sex post-conversion, this for her being one of the hardest things about the single Christian life.

Her interest in this unique intimacy was certainly piqued, as she accepted my parting suggestion to do some clean research on Couples Nursing, especially by visiting a certain Christian blog.

“I learned something today,” she remarked with a smile, seconds before we exchanged goodbye hugs in sub-zero temperatures, amid shoveled mounds of snow in the Tim’s parking lot.

Our date is proof that prospective Christian couples can meet in a well-lit public venue like a restaurant and verbally explore a lifestyle for marrieds only, without falling into sexual sin. As mentioned in previous posts, the key is to first spend a great deal of time on spiritual topics and other non-intimate subjects. I thank God that with all the talk about her breasts and nipples, I didn’t begin fantasizing about her body parts or view her any less, in fact I only respected her more as a dear sister in Christ who trusted me enough to be vulnerable with her sexuality and sexual struggles. Praise God for his work of sanctification. As a new believer, there’s no way I could have held that conversation without stumbling horribly. As I’ve grown in Christ, I’ve come to see the wisdom in discussing such deeply longed-for conjugal blessings. It’s even more important to do this verbal exploration with a subject like Couples Nursing, which God encourages but most Christians haven’t even heard of.

Ms. C., if you ever read this, your reaction to learning about CN was worth a thousand words, and highly dignified and commendable. I’m glad to have met a godly woman who’s secure in her sexuality and has a healthy sex drive.

I have a lot of respect for women like you, who are open-minded and sex-positive in ways that honor Christ, especially regarding a topic as intimate and uncommon as Husband Breastfeeding.

Worship God and serve Him only (Put ANR in perspective)

I haven’t been in an ANR before and actual physical sin with women is not an issue for me, but if I said I haven’t recently been distracted and have my walk with Christ undermined, I’d be lying. I’m actually just coming out of a season of blindness and flesh-driven idolatry. I need your prayers.

An ANR could literally turn into a god, and it often does.

I see it happen in my thought life and even conversations at different seasons. I have a few times of repentance and purity, then other times of intense desire leading to impure thoughts and a cavalier attitude towards fighting my obsession. I even blow the three CN-encouraging verses out of proportion, my flesh blinding me into thinking an ANR is one of God’s biggest plans for Christian couples.

I’m not the only professing Christian who goes through this. I know a few others who are equally obsessed and idolatrous.

Some tips to help in those seasons of desire, lust and idolatry:

  1. Immerse yourself in God’s word.
  2. Suspend your visits to Christ-centered ANR if you can’t regulate yourself.
  3. Take every thought captive to obey Christ (2 Cor. 10:5). Consciously give every breath you take to His Lordship. It yields a harvest of peace and righteousness. Think of Him constantly, depend on, and obsess over Him.
  4. “Walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever[a] you want. 18  [Be led by the Spirit]” – Galatians 5
  5. Surround yourself with bountiful fellowship.
  6. Distract yourself with hobbies and recreational activities.
  7. Pray for God’s deliverance.
  8. Literally cry out to God in your moments of greatest temptation. I’m slowly beginning to find that vocally calling on God with visceral honesty helps during those weak moments.
  9. Tie it all to what’s of “first importance” (1 Cor. 15:3 ff), that Christ Jesus died for your sins. There may be nothing wrong with thinking of sex frequently. That God has some of us think so much of intimate topics isn’t a sin in itself. It’s whether such thoughts glorify His Son that matters. Most moralistic Puritans would disagree, but I believe Christians can be sex therapists. What’s important is to put our sex talk into gospel perspective.
  10. Maintain your vantage point on the whole counsel of God. An ANR is often a game changer in marriages, but only three verses either mention it by name or hint at it. There are over 30,000 verses in the Bible. Less than 0.01% of God’s word shouldn’t call the shots for 100% of your walk.
  11. Remember, the spirit is much more important than the body. In a trillion years, when you’re worshipping the victorious Lamb in Heaven, you won’t remember any such thing as an ANR, and your earthly, fleshly, ANR-desperate body would be utterly consumed.

Dear ANR community in Christ, let’s keep each other lifted up in prayer.

James 5:16: “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.”

Noah: comfort

28 When Lamech had lived 182 years, he had a son.
29 He named him Noah (fn) and said, “He will comfort us in the labor and painful toil of our hands caused by the ground the LORD has cursed.”
– Genesis 5

NIV Footnote

Noah sounds like the Hebrew for comfort.


I am looking for a “man who comes home from a long day of work filled with stress and the worries and frustrations of the day and seeks my full, milky breasts to relax and unwind.”

– K, ANR-seeking Christian woman, same one who wrote the first quote on A wife’s loving comfort

I was struck by the similarity between Lamech’s naming of Noah and K’s desire to comfort her husband. God is gracious and merciful. Though he cursed the ground and all work due to Adam’s fall, he still provides ways to comfort us. There’s hope, comfort and solace in God’s amazing providence.


More on the Hebrew word for comfort from Jerusalem Prayer Team.org:

Meaning: comfort, consolation

Translit: ne•cha•ma

The word ne•cha•ma is very unique. If you break its letters down you’ll receive two overlapping words: no•ach (comfortable and resting) and cham or cha•ma (warm). Even the first word attests to the Hebrew origin of the English word ‘comfort:’ ne•cha•ma is then an offer of rest and easement to a troubled, suffering soul. Comfort, indeed, is best induced by warmth and restful conditions.

As a noun, ne•cha•ma appears only in the New Testament:

‘Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort;’

2 Corinthians 1:3



There are many other verb references of comfort and consolation in both the Old and New Testaments.

Two of the Books of the Old Testament are about ne•cha•ma – The Book of Nehemiah which means: ‘God is my comfort,’ and the Book of the prophet Nachum whose name means comfort and consolation. If you have ever taken an Israel tour you certainly remember Capernaum (or Kapernaum), an ancient settlement on the shore of the Sea of Galilee. This is just a little distortion of the Hebrew name of the site: Kfar Nahum, which means the Village of Nahum.

The ne•cha•ma is the leading motif of the latter prophecies of several prophets and especially of Isaiah who said mercifully: ‘na•cha•moo, na•cha•mu ami.’

‘Comfort my people, comfort them, says your God. Speak comfortably to Jerusalem, and cry to her, that her fighting is ended, that her iniquity is pardoned; for she has received from the Lord’s hand double for all her sins.’

Isaiah 40:1-2

See also:

God’s loving comfort

Strong’s concordance entry for “Nechama” – Hebrew for “comfort”

Genesis 2: History’s first love song

Adam, meet Eve.

18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.
20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam (fn) no suitable helper was found.
21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs (fn) and then closed up the place with flesh.
22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib (fn) he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

NIV Footnotes

Or the man
Or took part of the man’s side
Or part

Breasts and wombs

Whenever a woman’s body is discussed in the Bible, the emphasis is usually on her breasts and womb.

That’s because these are the only parts of the female anatomy expressly created to bring protection, nourishment and comfort to others.

There are parts of women’s bodies that bring pleasure to self and others, and the Bible mentions these where appropriate, but God is more concerned about far more than our pleasure, and these two organs are the only ones mentioned throughout the Bible, in both Testaments, including by Christ Himself. They’re not confined to erotic sections of God’s word.

In Genesis 49:22-25, we read

“Joseph is a fruitful vine,
    a fruitful vine near a spring,
    whose branches climb over a wall.[k]
23 With bitterness archers attacked him;
    they shot at him with hostility.
24 But his bow remained steady,
    his strong arms stayed[l] limber,
because of the hand of the Mighty One of Jacob,
    because of the Shepherd, the Rock of Israel,
25 because of your father’s God, who helps you,
    because of the Almighty,[m] who blesses you
with blessings of the skies above,
    blessings of the deep springs below,
    blessings of the breast and womb.”

Part of psalm 22 says:

All who see me mock me;
    they make mouths at me; they wag their heads;
“He trusts in the Lord; let him deliver him;
    let him rescue him, for he delights in him!”

Yet you are he who took me from the womb;
    you made me trust you at my mother’s breasts.
10 On you was I cast from my birth,
    and from my mother’s womb you have been my God.

And in Isaiah 49:15:

“Can a woman forget her nursing child And have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, but I will not forget you.”


Fruitful or barren breasts and wombs were also a sign of either blessings or curses:

14 Give them, Lord—

what will you give them?

Give them wombs that miscarry

and breasts that are dry.

15 “Because of all their wickedness in Gilgal,

I hated them there.

Because of their sinful deeds,

I will drive them out of my house.

I will no longer love them;

all their leaders are rebellious.

– Hosea 9

“While Jesus was saying these things, one of the women in the crowd raised her voice and said to Him, “Blessed is the womb that bore You and the breasts at which You nursed.”

– Luke 11:27

“For behold, the days are coming when they will say, ‘Blessed are the barren, and the wombs that never bore, and the breasts that never nursed.'”

– Luke 23:29

As we can see, breasts and wombs are often mentioned in tandem. Goes to show how much God values life and a woman’s natural ability to selflessly support it.

Everything God does is for a purpose, and His words and actions always reflect His character. The physical creation has a greater spiritual significance.

He emphasizes a woman’s breasts and womb much more than contemporary society because their functions point to his role as life-giver, nurturer, sustainer, comforter, protector, provider, and merciful shelterer.

Let me be clear on one thing. In 2019, we also place an emphasis on women’s sexual body parts for sure. We stress breasts and other male-obsessed parts of the female anatomy, and when we emphasize breasts, it’s always for advertising purposes, or for self-esteem and sexual pleasure, not to showcase the innate beauty of these nurturing organs. And honest praise for a woman’s life-giving uterus, especially coming from men? That’s just weird.

2 Become 1

I normally don’t quote the Spice Girls, but the chorus from this song speaks so beautifully to this blog and its mission that I had to share.

“Come a little bit closer baby, get it on, get it on
‘Cause tonight is the night when two become one
I need some love like I never needed love before
(Wanna make love to ya baby)
I had a little love, now I’m back for more
(Wanna make love to ya baby)
Set your spirit free, it’s the only way to be”

All Scripture is God- breathed, even Husband Breastfeeding parts


If you’re struggling to appreciate the idea of an ANR, ask yourself why God breathed such a thing out into his word. Seek to discern the profitability of this particular exhortation.

These posts may help towards that end.

So if God tells you to “drink heavily from her breasts,” don’t argue with God. Just drink heavily from her breasts. He’s infinitely wiser than you, and knows the wisdom behind his placing that in his word. There just might be some deeper meaning behind an ANR that we can’t fully grasp with our finite minds.

Wives, also love and feed your husbands

The greater responsibility falls on husbands to protect, nurture and love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself for her, but taken together, passages like Genesis 2:24 and Ephesians 5:22-33 inform believers of the mutual nature of the nurturing relationship built into marriage.

See also:

Husbands, love and feed your wives like Christ loves and feeds the Church.

I cook and clean for my husband — and I love it, on SheKnows

Don’t be deceived

If you spend an inordinate amount of time thinking of breasts or lips, you’ve probably been deceived.

This is even more true if you’re single. If you spend time relishing graphic thoughts centering on Couples Nursing without having even met your spouse, you’re probably deceived.

If you spend more time on this blog than with God, you’ve been deceived.

If you spend more of your livelihood musing on an ANR than the God who gave the gift of ANR, you’ve been deceived.

If you have explicit ANR-centric conversations with people other than your spouse, or at least a potential spouse, you’ve probably been deceived.

“If I find myself harvesting a lot more weeds than grain, rather than being surprised or angry, perhaps I should reflect on the fact that I’ve mostly sown  weeds.”

– Pastor at a former church

“The diminutive chains of habit are seldom heavy enough to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.”

– Samuel Johnson

“Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.”

– James 1:14-15 (NLT)

“But each one is tempted, when they are drawn away of their own lust and enticed. Then when lust has conceived, it brings forth sin; and sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.”

– James 1:14-15 (Jubilee Bible 2000)

“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.”

– Proverbs 4:23 (ESV)

Husbands, love and feed your wives like Christ loves and feeds the Church

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.b He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.

As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”c This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. 

Ephesians 5:25-33

b 5:26 Greek washed by water with the word.
c 5:31 Gen 2:24.

2 Timothy 2

New International Version (NIV)

The Appeal Renewed

You then, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others. Join with me in suffering, like a good soldier of Christ Jesus. No one serving as a soldier gets entangled in civilian affairs, but rather tries to please his commanding officer. Similarly, anyone who competes as an athlete does not receive the victor’s crown except by competing according to the rules. The hardworking farmer should be the first to receive a share of the crops. Reflect on what I am saying, for the Lord will give you insight into all this.

Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead, descended from David. This is my gospel, for which I am suffering even to the point of being chained like a criminal. But God’s word is not chained. 10 Therefore I endure everything for the sake of the elect, that they too may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory.

11 Here is a trustworthy saying:

If we died with him,
    we will also live with him;
12 if we endure,
    we will also reign with him.
If we disown him,
    he will also disown us;
13 if we are faithless,
    he remains faithful,
    for he cannot disown himself.

Dealing With False Teachers

14 Keep reminding God’s people of these things. Warn them before God against quarreling about words; it is of no value, and only ruins those who listen. 15 Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth. 16 Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly. 17 Their teaching will spread like gangrene. Among them are Hymenaeus and Philetus, 18 who have departed from the truth. They say that the resurrection has already taken place, and they destroy the faith of some. 19 Nevertheless, God’s solid foundation stands firm, sealed with this inscription: “The Lord knows those who are his,” and, “Everyone who confesses the name of the Lord must turn away from wickedness.”

20 In a large house there are articles not only of gold and silver, but also of wood and clay; some are for special purposes and some for common use. 21 Those who cleanse themselves from the latter will be instruments for special purposes, made holy, useful to the Master and prepared to do any good work.

22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 23 Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. 24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. 25 Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, 26 and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.

The Real Root of Sexual Sin|Desiring God

The most powerful weapon against sexual impurity is humility. Patterns of sinful thought and behavior are fruits of a deeper root. If we want to stop bearing bad fruit, we must aim our primary attack against the root. And the root of sexual sin is not our sex drive; it’s pride.

We live in an age dominated by Darwinian explanations of biology and psychology. So we easily absorb certain naturalistic assumptions. One such assumption is that our sexual drives and impulses are remnants of our primordial, bestial ancestors, and therefore we deal with them with cages of external personal and social restraints.

This is a very conflicted perspective. It views us as both victims and monsters. On one hand, we’re victims of our ancient past, and on the other hand, we’re sexual monsters if we express our primal impulses in ways not sanctioned by the prevailing level of social tolerance.

It’s also a wholly inadequate explanation in view of our consuming sexual problem. The degrees of human sexual depravity, distortion, and destruction are of such a nature that nearly everyone thinks things and many do things that we have no other word for than evil.

Sex Is Not the Problem

It’s shocking how little our inner evil bestial impulses have to do with our primal genetic intent: procreation. No other human instinct has so many deviations in its expressions. Our culture can’t keep up with the expanding sexual definitions. LGBTQ is now just shorthand for LGBTTQQIAAPPK (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual, polygamous, kinkiness). And this is likely obsolete already. It’s getting tragically ridiculous.

But since Darwinism denies any basis for assigning moral value to anything, we can’t term something a “perversion,” because this word has moral connotations. So we’re trying to solve the problem of human sexual perversion by eliminating the concept of sexual perversion. But this can’t scale to embrace all sexual expressions without destroying people and society.

And it won’t work, because the root problem isn’t actually a sexual one.

Root of All Sin

What does the Bible diagnose as the root of human sexual perversion — what we often and rightly call sexual brokenness? We can see it clearly in Romans 1:21–26,

For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions.

“Dishonorable passions,” which refers to sexual sin in all its deviant heterosexual, homosexual, and other expressions, is a manifestation of humanity unhinged from its Creator. The real root of perversion, of which the dishonorable passions of sexual perversions is just one fruit, is human pride.

Pride is a black hole of consuming selfishness at the core of fallen human nature. Pride’s nature is to consume, to bring into the self. It sees other people, all of creation, and God himself as things to use in service to the self’s desires.

We all know this by experience. We know the more we feed any expression of pride, whether through sex or anger or covetousness or whatever, pride’s appetite grows and urges us to consume more and more.

So just as gluttony or anorexia is pride infecting and manipulating the self’s orientation toward food, or greed is pride infecting and manipulating the self’s orientation toward money, sexual immorality and perversions are pride infecting and manipulating the self’s orientation toward sex. Sexual sin is unhinged human pride rejecting the Creator in order to sexually consume others for the benefit of the self.

Personal Pride, Corporate Judgment

This does not mean, however, that there’s an exact correlation between the nature of our particular sexual brokenness and our personal rebellion against God. We are all born with natures in rebellion against God. But our individual sexuality is shaped by a host of biological, personal, family, and social/cultural influences. Some factors we’re born with, some may have been abusively forced upon us, and some we sinfully embrace and nourish. The Bible acknowledges all these factors.

But when Paul says God gives up a people “in the lusts of their hearts to impurity,” he’s mainly (though not exclusively) referring to a corporate judgment. The more a people unhinge themselves from God’s ordained limits, the more God removes the restraints on the sexual expressions of pride, resulting in a societal slide into consuming sexual destruction.

So we must keep in mind that, no matter what sexual orientation or dysfunction or distortion we’re dealing with, our biggest personal and corporate problem is not sexual; it’s pride.

You Are Not Your Own

Our most powerful weapon in the fight against sexual impurity is not a cage to hem in our depraved impulses, nor is it increased tolerance of sexual deviancy, but a profound humility. And humility is a deep realization and embrace of the truth that we are not our own. This is why Paul gave the Corinthians this counsel regarding sexual sin:

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18–20)

Yes, fleeing from an enticing sexual temptation — taking behavioral action — is necessary. But notice that Paul’s primary emphasis is not behavior modification, nor is it deliverance from demonic oppression, both of which are realities of our complex human experience and so have some place in our fight for sexual purity. Paul sees the primary issue in our sexual struggle as the remaining pride within us.

That’s why the key to our freedom, the great killer of our sexual sin, is in our embracing this reality:

I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)

This is what it means that we are not our own. This is what sin-killing humility looks like. This is the death of pride and all its perverting power over us.

Freedom is not the freedom to express our pride-fueled sexual desires. Freedom is the humble belief that we are not our own, and therefore not enslaved to our all-consuming pride, but free to be what God created us to be.