My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14:

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24:

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15:

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29:

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?

From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

More from husband-baby tandem breastfeeding couple

A woman who breastfeeds her baby and husband in tandem is a beautiful, powerful, empowered, multi-tasking, divine, blessed mama and wife.

No, nursing doesn’t have to have any sexual connotations. Tandem breastfeeding of child and husband could simply be family time, because women can breastfeed their husbands without being sexually aroused.

Notice the beginning of the video, where Veronika Robinson says people are scared of breastfeeding and sexuality, but they’re not scared when a 20-year-old walks around showing cleavage, although breasts are actually meant for feeding our children [and husbands!]. Veronika, who breastfed her toddler and newborn in tandem, recalls that “it just felt very empowering” to have the toddler introduced to her sister to share that special bond at the breast.

At this point, the narrator acquaints us with Paul, the tandem breastfed dad, when she says “in the early days, dad wasn’t going to be left out either.” Paul then asks “where’s mine?” followed by mild laughter.

See the original post for the rest of the conversation about Veronika breastfeeding her husband Paul in tandem with one of her daughters.

Besides Christ, what could be better than holding your baby with one hand and husband with the other and feeding them both?

Veronika offers a fitting conclusion, in a way that relates to my story. It’s a natural gift she couldn’t imagine not giving her children, and they in turn will give theirs, and it will be second nature, so its perpetuity is ensured.

Here’s even more from Veronika and one of her followers:

“No, my sex life has not suffered because of breastfeeding. Nor has it for my husband. Many people suggest that it is difficult for men to be at the back of the queue when kids come along, and goodness me, how did my poor husband cope with not being first in line? Well, I am blessed with an emotionally and mentally mature husband. He has never felt jealous or needy. He knows I love and adore him. That doesn’t change because I’m breastfeeding the two children who were created from our love! It is hardly beneficial to parenting if the partner is acting like a needy child. 

NO, my nipples have never hurt. Sore nipples are the result of the baby not latching on properly. If a woman has sore nipples, she needs to get help immediately. Nature intended that breastfeeding be enjoyable. If your health visitor or midwife don’t know how to help your baby latch on, then please, contact LLL (La Leche League) or the ABM (Association of Breastfeeding Mothers) or , better still, an experienced breastfeeding mother. Many women give up breastfeeding because of sore nipples. Latching on correctly is very easy to address.

I’ve been asked over and over if I’m concerned about my breasts changing shape because of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding does not change the shape of your breasts, PREGNANCY does! And how could a mother not value her breasts, regardless of their shape, when she has fully nourished her children through them? So what if they aren’t a certain size or a certain shape? My kids and husband love them the way they are. Why should I care what the average man on the street thinks of them? I don’t!!”

“I was just reading today about breastfeeding, in the Bible of all places.. Psalm 131, verse 2: ‘But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me.’ The study notes explain that the Psalmist has learned to rely on God for his needs, as a weaned child has learned to trust its mother for all its needs. A child weaned before its time (or worse, never breastfed) will not, can not, have this trust in his/her mother. Ancient Judeo-Christian culture valued breastfeeding, whether by the birth mother, a wet nurse or both, and the Jews would throw parties when a child was weaned (at about 3 or 4 years old). Weaning was considered a ‘ripening’ – you don’t pull the fruit from the tree before it is ripe, you allow it to fall off when it is ready! Pulling it off too soon will spoil the fruit! I truly believe that the key to all sin is pride/selfishness, including the selfishness of mothers who choose not to bf, and the selfishness of those who discourage or try to stop bf’ing. God created bf’ing, along with childbirth and the role of women as mothers and primary caregivers, and He said that everything He made is ‘very good’. It is sin and arrogance to say that we know better than God, or to call ‘bad’ what He calls ‘good’. Never stop educating people, Veronika.”

The straight-laced and the legalist

I once got into a debate with a legalistic Christian about exceeding speed limits. I have no qualms whatsoever about doing so because I know judges dismiss tickets earned for driving a few miles per hour above posted limits. He insisted I was sinning. He failed to see his flawed logic. If judges who uphold the law agree I wasn’t breaking the law, then who was he to tell me I was?

If even God can temporarily break his own rules to save sinners, who is man to question him?

Moralistic and straight-laced Christians are people who have so boxed themselves into law-keeping that they’re unable to process the possibility of setting aside what feels good from what is good.

Running red lights and driving at 60 in a 30 feels dangerous. Because it is. But if performed by an ambulance rushing to save lives, it’s an act of grace.

Suckling a lactating woman’s breasts feels infantile. But if hundreds of couples report the marital benefits of such a practice, we might do ourselves a service to listen, especially if God’s word also appears to corroborate.

Turning the other cheek to bless the one who slaps you feels shockingly stupid. But if Jesus commands it, we comply.

Because something feels strange or even dangerous doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Don’t trust your feelings.

Skip the straight-laced vanilla

From conversations during dates, prod for signs of your prospective spouse being too vanilla and straight-laced.

Skip those, and instead go for those who are open minded and adventurous.

Kinky and sexually adventurous need not be mutually exclusive with godly or holy.

What’s kinky vs. vanilla is defined subjectively and culturally. God’s word leaves room for sexual exploration and kink between couples.

So, with absolute purity, aim for the type that’s less vanilla, less straight-laced, more open minded and kinky, at least relative to your society’s standards.

An imperial symbol of torture and execution has miraculously become a globally-recognized token of grace.

Torture and execution is somehow now our victory symbol.

The same act meant to nourish infants is now being rediscovered for what it is– a rare gift between a man and woman, with power to save marriages on the rocks.

But many die-hard critics are resisting.

Pride runs deep. Humans are so prideful that we’ll never fully realize the depth of our arrogance. My friend who said the Song of Solomon makes him stumble is one of the most humble Christians I ever met. Yet even he is hellishly prideful next to Christ, because if you listen closely to his heart, you hear the pride loud and clear. What he’s saying is “my moral standards are higher than God’s, so I refuse to read His book on erotica.”

I’m astounded at how infinitely humble yet infinitely confident Christ is. No other human being in history harmoniously possesses this potentially tenuous mix of virtues.

If you’re anti-ANR, the reason you can’t fathom putting the words ‘breastfeeding’ and ‘grown men’ together is your pride. There’s absolutely nothing medically or spiritually wrong with it but you’ve been morally dumbfounded into creating your own code of ethics. You are too prideful to admit there’s nothing wrong with breastfeeding one’s husband, so you make up your own “issues” with it.

You are more prideful than you will ever realize in this lifetime, or the one to come.

You’re more fallen than you have the mental capacity to grasp. You’re more depraved on more levels than you’d ever realize. Your mind, will, emotions, psyche, morality, heart, and body are all far too corrupted by your pride and rebellion. Your ability to discern truth is radically impaired by your sin and pride.

Once a grim reminder of terror, shame and violence, we now proudly use as our victory symbol

The Good Samaritan

25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”

27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’[a]; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b]

28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”

29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”

30 In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[c] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’

36 “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?”

37 The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.”

Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.”

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  1. Luke 10:27 Deut. 6:5
  2. Luke 10:27 Lev. 19:18
  3. Luke 10:35 A denarius was the usual daily wage of a day laborer (see Matt. 20:2).

‘I want to be able to give my husband a safe place where he can come home at the end of a long day and let all the worries and stress fall away.’

– K, ANR-desirous

‘I want to have a relaxing, cozy home for my husband to come home to; his safe-haven from the day to day grind’

– Jeanne, 50 year old ANR-aspiring doula

I found another ANR-desiring woman online who said she’s really good at making people comfortable and would rather give than receive massages.

From “A wife’s loving comfort” on Christ-centered ANR

See also:

God’s loving comfort

Systemic bias against smaller-breasted women

Years ago, I posted an admonition to think of large breasts as a bonus, as ANR desire is independent of bra size.

Notwithstanding this apprisal, I’ve very recently been made aware of my systemic bias against smaller-chested women, which I suspect many other ANR men hold. This bias isn’t so much because I’m a man as it is the result of seeing mostly well-endowed women on ANR sites.

Prior to delving into ANR research almost 10 years ago, I was an equal opportunity breast admirer. But my increasing ANR interest shifted my preference towards larger busts.

The major eye-opening revelation that made me aware of my bias was two-fold. First was when I came across online sources that stated smaller breasts are more sensitive. Makes sense, come to think of it. Nerve endings are more tightly packed in a smaller area.

This, combined with my recently published finding that less-endowed women aren’t as confident in their chests, must account for why the overwhelming majority of female pictures on ANR dating sites prominently feature large breasts, with thousands of pictureless profiles on said sites. I now realize that skipping profiles without pictures is probably a mistake. Smaller-breasted women who might be a little less secure in their bodies should be given a chance. Their desire for ANRs may be just as strong, or perhaps even stronger, since they possess greater breast nerve ending density.

ANR men tend to be boob men. And ANR women with pictures online tend to have boobs. Thus, the system is set up to exclude a large segment of nurses who would kill to have a man enjoy their hypersensitive mammary glands.

Sustained lactation is the biological norm

The external article below perfectly supports my thesis that God designed women to breastfeed forever. See Feminine distinctives, where I made that point.

“In reproductive physiology, lactation follows pregnancy. In traditional populations, children continue to breastfeed for 3 to 4 years, suggesting that sustained lactation is the biological norm. However, cultural norms are markedly different; while breastfeeding rates in the US have risen dramatically over the past 40 years, just 22.3% of US mothers are able meet consensus medical recommendations for 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding, and only 30.7% continue to breastfeeding through one year. Evidence continues to accrue that this disruption of normal physiology is associated with adverse health outcomes for mothers and children, including higher maternal rates of breast and ovarian cancer and higher childhood rates of acute lymphocytic leukemia. These data suggest that enabling more women to breastfeed may be an effective cancer prevention strategy” (Emphasis mine).

Full article immediately below

Reducing breast, ovarian cancer and childhood leukemia risk by enabling women to breastfeed

Abstracts: AACR Special Conference: Improving Cancer Risk Prediction for Prevention and Early Detection; November 16-19, 2016; Orlando, FL


In reproductive physiology, lactation follows pregnancy. In traditional populations, children continue to breastfeed for 3 to 4 years, suggesting that sustained lactation is the biological norm. However, cultural norms are markedly different; while breastfeeding rates in the US have risen dramatically over the past 40 years, just 22.3% of US mothers are able meet consensus medical recommendations for 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding, and only 30.7% continue to breastfeeding through one year. Evidence continues to accrue that this disruption of normal physiology is associated with adverse health outcomes for mothers and children, including higher maternal rates of breast and ovarian cancer and higher childhood rates of acute lymphocytic leukemia. These data suggest that enabling more women to breastfeed may be an effective cancer prevention strategy.

In this session, we will review evidence supporting a protective association between lactation and cancer risk for mothers and children. We will further explore evidence-based strategies to assist women in initiating and sustaining breastfeeding.

A recent simulation study found that enabling 90% of women to breastfeed optimally after each birth, defined as 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding and continued breastfeeding for 1 year, would lower population rates of maternal breast cancer and childhood acute lymphocytic leukemia (ALL). In this MCMC simulation, authors considered the impact of a change in breastfeeding rates from current to optimal conditions for a cohort of women born in a single year and followed from age 15 to 70. Under steady state conditions, these results approximate the annual impact of optimal breastfeeding across the population. The authors found that enabling optimal breastfeeding would prevent 185 cases of ALL [95% CI 49 to 309] and 5,023 cases of breast cancer [3,965 to 6,021], as well as 42 breast cancer deaths [22 to 62]. Evidence-based public health strategies to increase breastfeeding rates have been promulgated by the U.S. Surgeon General in the 2011 Call to Action to Support Breastfeeding. These strategies span various socioecological factors that influence whether a woman decides to breastfeed, and whether she is able to sustain breastfeeding in the setting of social and practical constraints.

Targeted efforts are further needed to address substantial racial and ethnic disparities in breastfeeding rates, particularly given evidence that never having breastfed is associated with an increased risk of triple-negative breast cancer among black women. Promising strategies include incorporating peer and profession support into prenatal and postpartum care, implementing the WHO Ten Steps, a set of evidence-based maternity care practices, enacting paid parental leave, and ensuring that child care providers enable families to continue breastfeeding.

Disruption of breastfeeding is associated with adverse population health outcomes for mothers and children, including breast cancer and ALL. Strategies that enable more women to initiate and sustain breastfeeding should be incorporated into cancer prevention work.

Source: “Reducing cancer risk by enabling women to breastfeed,” by Alison Stuebe, American Association for Cancer Research, May 2017,

Breastfeeding reduces breast cancer risk

Breast cancer is the most common cause of cancer death among women and it is one of the leading causes of death among women. Factors that appear to be implicated in decreasing the risk of breast cancer are regular breast examinations by health care professionals, regular mammograms, self-examination of breasts, healthy diet, and exercise to decrease excess body fat, and breastfeeding.

Source: “Reducing cancer risk by enabling women to breastfeed,” by Alison Stuebe, American Association for Cancer Research, May 2017,

Breasts and Body Image

Many women regard their breasts as important to their sexual attractiveness, as a sign of femininity that is important to their sense of self. A woman with smaller breasts may regard her breasts as less attractive.


Breast Size Perception and Satisfaction, Body Image, and Psychological Functioning in Caucasian and Asian American College Women, by
Elissa Koff & Amy Benavage,

How I induced lactation for my husband and I

I have been in an adult breastfeeding relationship with my husband since I turned 27, so for the past nine years, almost 10. I didn’t realize how many couples were into nursing relationships until I started looking around online. 

I found that many couples have had issues or problems inducing lactation so I thought I would write this article to help some couples “figure  it out.” Below you will find a very in-depth guide on how I induced lactation for my husband… and myself. Yes, I admit it… I found it to be a very erotic thought.

First… Why me and my husband decided to induce lactation 

I have no children of my own, my husband brought a son and daughter to our marriage with him though. I love them to death and think of them as my very own.

I do wish that I could have experienced pregnancy and breastfeeding though as I am sure most women would. Anyways I digress to my point.

Me and my husband were talking about different things we could do to spice up our sexual relationship one evening when the topic of breastfeeding came up. Although he did have two children with his ex-wife, she would not let him experience adult breastfeeding. She thought that it was disgusting and “animalistic” lol.

I did some research and learned that you can induce lactation “easily.” The reality is that it is not easy to induce, despite the difficulty I was very successful at it and have been lactating for almost 10 years at this point. I am hesitant to say it is not easy, what I should probably say is that it takes a lot of time, dedication and planning.

One word of caution is that if you plan to induce lactation and breastfeed your husband […] it will significantly change the appearance of your breasts and nipples. This was not an issue for me, but it could be for some people.

How I induced lactation for my husband and I 

First off, there are drugs available that will help you lactate. I did NOT use these drugs to induce lactation except for Yasmin birth control pills. I was successful only using only these pills, my husband, a good breast pump, massages and herbs. To be successful at inducing lactation you must have dedication, time and be very patient.

Inducing lactation supply list 

My schedule or protocol for inducing lactation 

  1. Day 0 to 60 – I took  Yasmin brand birth control for 60 days; this is the first step I took to induce lactation. I know that some women take it much longer, I would guess that 9 months would be the best length of time. It is important that you ONLY take the active pills. This tricks your body into thinking it is pregnant. I was not on any birth control prior to this. WARNING: I am not a doctor or medical professional. Do not take medication without talking to your physician first. Sorry, had to say that! 

After about 60 days my breasts felt tender and sore, my bust also increased somewhat in size.

2. Day 54 – I started taking herbs.

3. Day 61 – I stopped taking Yasmin.

 4. Day 61 – 62 I started pumping my breasts with a quality breast pump (double pump) or having my husband suck on my nipples. Make sure that at least an inch of your areola is in your [husband’s] mouth while he rhythmically sucks. You may experience some discomfort, but you will get through it and your nipples will get a little tougher.

For the first two days I pumped every two hours for 6 to 8 minutes on each breast. This will end up being about 12 times a day. I set the pump at a med-high in strength.

5. Day 63 to milk – I pumped every four hours after day 63 for about 8 minutes on each breast. You will find that a double pump will save you tons of time.  If I remember correctly, I started getting breast milk about two to three weeks later, so about day 80 or so. These were only drops of milk though.

Over the course of the year I gained more milk month by month.

6. Currently – I have sustained my ample milk supply for almost ten years at this point. I pump or breastfeed my husband three times a day. I donate a ton of milk to my local milk bank.

If took about a year from start to finish until my breasts were completely full of milk and heavy. 

My breast pumping procedure 

  1. I give myself a breast massage with very firm pressure starting at the top of by boobs and work down to the nipple/areola.
  2. I drag my fingers lightly up and down my breasts, kind of like tickling them. This give me let-down.
  3. I then dangle my breasts, jiggle and flop them around while bent over. This allows the milk to start flowing to the nipple.
  4. I then start pumping or nursing and completely drain my breasts.

How long it took to induce lactation 

From the start to FULL milk production it was one year. My first milk drops appeared at about 3 months, maybe a little less.

My diet while inducing 

During the first year I ate old fashioned oatmeal, salads, lean meats, yogurt and nuts. Oranges are also good for you when trying to produce breastmilk. Basically, I tried to eat as healthy as possible and include any foods known to help with breast milk production. I took prenatal vitamins for the first three months also.

What is the Best breast pump to induce lactation with? 

The best breast pump

The Medela Pump in Style Advanced is exactly what I used, it is close to hospital grade. A cheap breast pump will not work as well because the suction is less life like. I have tried them all at this point and am very satisfied with my purchase. Remember you need to trick your body into think it has a real baby.

My menstrual cycle and lactation 

It is not uncommon for women to have irregular or no period while lactating. This was a surprise for me, I thought something was wrong at first. Have no fear if you start missing periods, it’s means that you are making milk!

Hands Free!

Nursing bras are a must 

Nursing bras are a must for me, I own nothing else. I also always wear a nipple pad in case I leak breast milk. I love these nursing bras from amazon, great price also. […]

Stay stress free 

It is important to be relaxed and stress free while you are pumping or nursing. Stress can interfere with the let-down reflex. Let-down is when your body allows the milk to flow from your milk ducts to the actual nipple.

Sometimes hearing a baby cry can cause let-down in breastfeeding women. It is not a crazy idea to watch videos of babies or listen to baby noises while pumping to induce lactation. This can often help stimulate the let-down reflex.

Breast and nipple changes while breastfeeding 

If you are going to induce lactation for your husband […], I promise you he will not want you to stop. After 10 years of breastfeeding my breasts are a lot different than they use to be. I am not saying this to discourage anyone at all, just expect changes.

Long term breastfeeding has made my once perky-ish 38D breasts saggy and stretched out. My nipples are also much larger and stick out all the time with great definition.

Can anyone induce lactation for their husband? 

I can not answer this question. Every woman’s body is different, every breast is different. From the research I have done I believe it is safe to say that the vast majority of women can induce lactation.

A few points about inducing lactation and adult breastfeeding 

After 10 years of an adult breastfeeding relationship I still enjoy it and so does my husband, it is an amazing experience that brings us closer together. […]

If you have questions or comments, please leave them below! Good luck to you and I hope you can induce lactation for your husband as easily as I was able to.


More on inducing

From an ANR group:

Inducing is all about making the brain think there’s a baby to feed.

It requires 15-20 minutes every 3-4 hours of pumping, suckling, massage, or a TENS unit.

It took me 4 months of pumping to have milk. I got impatient and ordered dom, then it only took me 2 weeks.

Dom is an OTC not available in the US, and one of its side effects is lactation.

A lady inducing is not going to have the same supply as a lady who has recently given birth. A new Mom has much more milk.

There is a good podcast on inducing called Lactation Station. The podcast is on iTunes, stitcher and I heart radio

In my experience tapering off the dom has decreased my supply. However getting suckled 3-4 times a week I was able to reduce a little and keep a decent supply

For God so loved the world that He GAVE

God, by nature, is a self-giver.

Women, by nature, are also self-givers.

Women’s bodies were created to give life, and their personalities and characters also align with this self-giving mission.

Research shows over and over that if women and girls are invested in, they tend to reinvest in their communities and those near and dear.

Also, in my poll Self-sucking?, the majority response has been along the lines of “no, it’s not for me to indulge, as my milk was given to me to serve my husband and enhance our relationship.”

That women’s bodies make food that nourishes others only keeps fascinating me and leaving me in awe.

In the incarnation, God became personally, intimately and physically involved in his creation. In the same way, women desire to be intimately involved with their husbands by feeding them the milk their bodies make.

And what do godly ANR-seeking women like Jeanne and K say? Both express similar desires to have a famished and stressed out man find solace and reinvigoration by feeding from their beautiful, powerful, ethereal, divine, God’s-image-bearing femininity.

Christ is the gift that keeps on giving. As we celebrate this season of Advent, let’s reflect on the true meaning of grace, and give generously to our spouses and loved ones.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

John 3:16

Don’t trust your heart

I read my Bible daily and have almost never missed a day in many years.

But a few weeks ago, some ANR research had me flimsily read for several consecutive days. I read only for less than two minutes, knowing my heart wasn’t really in it, and that my primary desire was to check off a box and immediately go do more ANR research.

Researching Couples Nursing isn’t inherently sinful. But when it cuts into our personal time with God, it’s time to stop and mourn.

ANR demographics and estimates

Based on my involvement in ANR research for almost a decade, here are my very rough estimates on various demographics relating to Adult Nursing worldwide.

ANR leaders: born with the ANR “gene” and have been interested for a while; at the forefront of accelerating the progress of Couples Nursing. Visionaries, organizers, bloggers, webmasters, group admins, speakers, and promoters of the ANR lifestyle: thousands worldwide.

ANR community: people who are either actively seeking or currently in adult nursing relationships: a few millions.

ANR suppressing: secretly have the ANR gene but due to religious or cultural reasons, keep it suppressed: a few millions.

ANR fanatic unawares: I would totally jump headlong into it if only I knew such a relationship existed; in other words, I’m unaware I have the ANR gene: tens to hundreds of millions.

ANR neutral: Won’t judge a couple who briefly experiments with it. Have no problem with it, but not crazy about it: hundreds of millions to one or two billion.

ANR taboo: hundreds of millions to one or two billion.

ANR trolls: those who are self-deluded into thinking they can impede the progress of ANRs: hundreds worldwide.

Transition phobia and inertia

If I’m used to holding a child’s hand all day, I could understand how making the transition to holding an adult’s hand for the very first time could feel weird. But perhaps I should get over the transition, and focus on the adult to whom I’m united. Maybe I can adjust to the change by seeing how such adult handholding might feel super weird at first, but is a new act of grace, special and tender in its own unique way, a way that gives unique insight into the tender heart of the Father.

If we’re so stuck on “the way things should be by ‘natural’ design,” our boxy thinking will cause us to miss out on new experiences of grace and blessings.

His lips are hers, her breast milk is his

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own [breasts and milk] but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own [lips] but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

1 Cor. 7, modified

“In the same way, we are many, but in Christ we are all one body, and each part belongs to all the other ·parts [L members].”

Romans 12:5

Soul Food

Breast milk is packed with antibodies IgG, IgA, IgM, IgD and IgE, which are secretory IgA molecules that combat diseases without causing inflammation.

I dedicate this to the men “who know the value of breast milk for our immune system, anti-aging theories, etc. Plus – its just fun to suckle and cuddle and relax in the comfort of [her] arms.”

“Human breast milk is full of complex sugars that help build babies’ immune systems. Researchers believe those compounds may help adults with Crohn’s disease, arthritis, even autism, and may, some day, be the key to prevention.

At UC-San Diego Health Sciences, researchers are working to isolate small amounts of human milk oligosaccharides or HMO’s in donated breast milk. Synthesized molecules will then be used to fight immune disorders, viral and bacterial pathogens, and chronic inflammation in animal and cell cultures.

NEW RESEARCH: Studies into breast milk helping adults began in Sweden. Researchers isolated a protein in the milk, and it was killing cancer cells. They redid the study in 2004 and found another compound that destroyed skin warts. They are currently working on a drug to help use that protein to their advantage. From there, Dr. Howard Cohen conducted a study on himself by putting breast milk into his smoothies twice a week, and he saw his prostate cancer begin to go into remission. The team hopes to recreate the milk with bioengineering instead of using human milk. They have learned also that HMOs can reduce inflammation, which is a result of Crohn’s disease. Some of the studies are still at the cell structure stage but others have moved to animal studies.

Moukarzel says since the HMO’s are safe for babies, they should be safe for adults. That should shorten the human testing phase and get to the public sooner, perhaps in five years.

Some of the conditions they could treat include obesity, Crohn’s disease, cardiovascular disease, even outbreaks of bacterial infections […].”

Woman are the salt of the earth and bring healing to us all.

ANRs do not have to be about sex. They’re about healing — physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, romantic and relational healing. The physical points to the spiritual. Natural events are indicative of supernatural realities. What a woman is really doing during feeding sessions is feeding her husband’s soul.

A good woman is medicine to her man.

Women are a source of healing and rejuvenation that we’ve far too long neglected.

“[…] every time we share that special moment I fall in love with my wife all over again. My wife fills me with love and delight. I’m happier, calmer, I’m a better father and husband. I have more joy and fulfillment in life. I receive great comfort from my wife’s breasts and she is gracious enough to provide for that; she believes she was created to fill. She is my helper. I bless my wife in many ways as a husband. She blesses me in many ways as well. Every time I nurse from my beautiful wife’s breasts, she bestows a blessing from God to me.”

Pastor E

Feminine distinctives

In Helper by Design: God’s Perfect Plan for Women in Marrage, Elyse Fitzpatrick presents two extreme and opposing views some Christian women hold about what differentiates them from men. One view sees them as completely different from men in every way, while on the other end of the spectrum is the assertion that women are identical to men, the only exception being they’re housed in bodies that gestate, menstruate and lactate.

I have my position with regards to this debate, but today, I’m going to focus on the three uniquely feminine bodily functions just listed.

Of these three, none is as feasible, medically advisable or desirable for a woman to continuously do every second of everyday of her adult life than to lactate. Indeed, it’s impossible for a woman to be pregnant every moment of her life. I’m no gynecologist, but I think perpetual menstruation is also impossible. Both situations would be unnatural and would indicate something being wrong. But making milk is not only possible, but sustainable over the long term, with no adverse effects.

The one thing a woman can continually do that’s a hallmark of her femininity is to produce milk. And yes, it can extend beyond menopause. There’s a 62 year old blog follower and commenter who still lactates for her husband. And I know a 71 year old who still has a supply, and is inducing a larger volume.

So we see that a woman’s ability to lactate transcends her reproductive abilities. I think this, plus the fact that milk induction is possible, are extremely suggestive of another purpose for breast milk besides reproduction.

I go give you juice wey I don squeeze correct from my pomegranates

I go lead you.
        I go come bring you inside haus wey my momsi get.
        (Na im dey teach me when I be pikin.) 
        I go give you make you come drink wine wey dem don put sugar and spice well well for am,
        some juice wey I don squeeze from my pomegranates.

Song 8:2, Christ-centered ANR’s West African Pidgin English translation