“From whose womb did the ice come forth, and who has given birth to the frost of heaven?”
— Job 38:29
God certainly does have motherly characteristics and if he were a woman on earth today, he’d definitely support the Husband Nursing lifestyle.
“From whose womb did the ice come forth, and who has given birth to the frost of heaven?”
— Job 38:29
God certainly does have motherly characteristics and if he were a woman on earth today, he’d definitely support the Husband Nursing lifestyle.
But we were gentle[c] among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children. 8 So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.
1 Thessalonians 2:7 Some manuscripts infants
“I love you like a mother loves her only son.”
— Teyana Taylor on Diddy’s “Closer to God”
See also I think God actually does want women to “mother” their husbands, in a sense
1 Thus says the LORD:
“Heaven is my throne,
and the earth is my footstool;
what is the house that you would build for me,
and what is the place of my rest?
2 All these things my hand has made,
and so all these things came to be,
declares the LORD.
But this is the one to whom I will look:
he who is humble and contrite in spirit
and trembles at my word.
3 “He who slaughters an ox is like one who kills a man;
he who sacrifices a lamb, like one who breaks a dog’s neck;
he who presents a grain offering, like one who offers pig’s blood;
he who makes a memorial offering of frankincense, like one who blesses an idol.
These have chosen their own ways,
and their soul delights in their abominations;
4 I also will choose harsh treatment for them
and bring their fears upon them,
because when I called, no one answered,
when I spoke, they did not listen;
but they did what was evil in my eyes
and chose that in which I did not delight.”
5 Hear the word of the LORD,
you who tremble at his word:
“Your brothers who hate you
and cast you out for my name’s sake
have said, ‘Let the LORD be glorified,
that we may see your joy’;
but it is they who shall be put to shame.
6 “The sound of an uproar from the city!
A sound from the temple!
The sound of the LORD,
rendering recompense to his enemies!
Rejoice with Jerusalem
7 “Before she was in labor
she gave birth;
before her pain came upon her
she delivered a son.
8 Who has heard such a thing?
Who has seen such things?
Shall a land be born in one day?
Shall a nation be brought forth in one moment?
For as soon as Zion was in labor
she brought forth her children.
9 Shall I bring to the point of birth and not cause to bring forth?”
says the LORD;
“shall I, who cause to bring forth, shut the womb?”
says your God.
10 “Rejoice with Jerusalem, and be glad for her,
all you who love her;
rejoice with her in joy,
all you who mourn over her;
11 that you may nurse and be satisfied
from her consoling breast;
that you may drink deeply with delight
from her glorious abundance.”a
12 For thus says the LORD:
“Behold, I will extend peace to her like a river,
and the glory of the nations like an overflowing stream;
and you shall nurse, you shall be carried upon her hip,
and bounced upon her knees.
13 As one whom his mother comforts,
so I will comfort you;
you shall be comforted in Jerusalem.
14 You shall see, and your heart shall rejoice;
your bones shall flourish like the grass;
and the hand of the LORD shall be known to his servants,
and he shall show his indignation against his enemies.
Final Judgment and Glory of the LORD
15 “For behold, the LORD will come in fire,
and his chariots like the whirlwind,
to render his anger in fury,
and his rebuke with flames of fire.
16 For by fire will the LORD enter into judgment,
and by his sword, with all flesh;
and those slain by the LORD shall be many.
17 “Those who sanctify and purify themselves to go into the gardens, following one in the midst, eating pig’s flesh and the abomination and mice, shall come to an end together, declares the LORD.
18 “For I knowb their works and their thoughts, and the time is comingc to gather all nations and tongues. And they shall come and shall see my glory, 19 and I will set a sign among them. And from them I will send survivors to the nations, to Tarshish, Pul, and Lud, who draw the bow, to Tubal and Javan, to the coastlands far away, that have not heard my fame or seen my glory. And they shall declare my glory among the nations. 20 And they shall bring all your brothers from all the nations as an offering to the LORD, on horses and in chariots and in litters and on mules and on dromedaries, to my holy mountain Jerusalem, says the LORD, just as the Israelites bring their grain offering in a clean vessel to the house of the LORD. 21 And some of them also I will take for priests and for Levites, says the LORD.
22 “For as the new heavens and the new earth
that I make
shall remain before me, says the LORD,
so shall your offspring and your name remain.
23 From new moon to new moon,
and from Sabbath to Sabbath,
all flesh shall come to worship before me,
declares the LORD.
24 “And they shall go out and look on the dead bodies of the men who have rebelled against me. For their worm shall not die, their fire shall not be quenched, and they shall be an abhorrence to all flesh.”
Footnotes:
a 11 Or breast
b 18 Septuagint, Syriac; Hebrew lacks know
c 18 Hebrew and it is coming
Note how the first footnote relates the word ‘breast’ with ‘abundance.’
“If you come across a bird’s nest with chicks or eggs, either in a tree or on the ground along the road, and the mother is sitting on the chicks or eggs, do not take the mother along with the young. 7 You may take the young for yourself, but be sure to let the mother go free, so that you may prosper and live long.”
— Deuteronomy 22
10 “Rejoice with Jerusalem, and be glad for her,
all you who love her;
rejoice with her in joy,
all you who mourn over her;
11 that you may nurse and be satisfied
from her consoling breast;
that you may drink deeply with delight
from her glorious abundance.”[a]
12 For thus says the Lord:
“Behold, I will extend peace to her like a river,
and the glory of the nations like an overflowing stream;
and you shall nurse, you shall be carried upon her hip,
and bounced upon her knees.
13 As one whom his mother comforts,
so I will comfort you;
you shall be comforted in Jerusalem.
14 You shall see, and your heart shall rejoice;
your bones shall flourish like the grass;
and the hand of the Lord shall be known to his servants,
and he shall show his indignation against his enemies.
— Isaiah 66
16 Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God our Father, who loved us and gave us eternal comfort and good hope through grace, 17 comfort your hearts and establish them in every good work and word.
— 2 Thessalonians 2
I say this very cautiously, cognizant of the taboo cloud that already engulfs ANRs.
However, a careful study of Scripture would reveal that God wants husband and wives to sort of “father” and “mother” each other, respectively.
From God’s word and life experience, we know women play many roles. They wear the hat of wife, and that of mother. Also add sister. Daughter. Friend. Counselor. Nurturer. Homemaker. Encourager.
These roles necessarily overlap. A good woman, by virtue of her womanhood, can’t help being an encourager to her husband, nor can she contain her natural drive to nurture him.
God tells us that a husband is to be a cover for his wife like her dad was. The ESV Study Bible comments on Leviticus 21:1-4: “the assumption is that once [a priest’s virgin sister] marries, she is not regarded as one of his closest relatives, but comes under the care of her husband and his clan (see Gen 2:24).”
Leviticus 22:12-13 tells us: “if a priest’s daughter marries a layman, she shall not eat of the contribution of the holy things. But if a priest’s daughter is widowed or divorced and has no child and returns to her father’s house, as in her youth, she may eat of her father’s food; yet no lay person shall eat all of it.”
The Holy Spirit also commands husbands to cover their wives in Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Again, in 1 Corinthians 11:3, He says, “But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” Verse 7: “A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man,”, and “husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).
Similarly, a wife is to nurture her husband like the Proverbs 31 woman who had a habit of waking up early to make food for him and the household, and also being a fruitful vine in his house as in Psalm 128 and comforting him during moments of grief like Rebekah comforted Isaac after his mother’s death in Genesis 24:67. Even the apocryphal Ecclesiasticus, more properly known as The Wisdom of Sirach, says “A wicked woman abateth the courage, maketh an heavy countenance and a wounded heart: a woman that will not comfort her husband in distress maketh weak hands and feeble knees” (25:23). This apocryphal book is obviously not inspired, but is based on inspired Scriptures, and it exhorts a woman to be a loving comfort to her husband.
So I mean this not literally as in becoming a father or mother but applying — as full equals — some of the paternal and maternal instincts with which He’s blessed us, to our spouse, with a romantic spin. Indeed, not only does God want every man and woman to apply these innate instincts to just children or spouse but to our society at large. That’s why men who fight to birth their countries are often fondly remembered as the “fathers” of their countries.
We ought to be thankful for men who defend, protect and provide for our societies.
The way I protect my kids won’t exactly be the same way I protect my wife. As a husband, I can’t help protecting my lover and best friend, as manliness and fatherhood are inextricably related, as is mothering to womanhood. God doesn’t want us to compartmentalize them.
The manner in which my wife nurtures me, along with the mood, and the way I protect her, both take on a romantic twist which is not at all condescending, as with children. The divine imperative for women to be soft, motherly, comforting nurturers stands, regardless of recipient. The application and ambience only vary depending on the object of her nurturing.
God wants women to “mother” their husbands. Not literally, but only in the sense of nurturing and comforting, with a feel that’s completely grown-up and entails mutual respect, love and romance.
Somehow, in God’s mysterious counsel, equality works side by side with deference. Two people can be equal, yet one of them can be submissive. In the Trinity, we have a perfect example in Philippians 2: Christ, “Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God a thing to be grasped but took the form of a slave and humbled Himself to death even death on the cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”
A few months before starting this blog, when researching ANR traits in women, and a picture of the typical ANR woman begin to take shape in my mind, I noticed many of the ladies that stood out tended to have an exalted, blessed, spiritual and heavenly beauty about them, so my mantra was “aim for divine femininity.” I resolved to aim for a woman who’s truly nurturing, motherly, voluptuous, spiritual, affectionate, feminine, caring and beautiful.
There was something about them I couldn’t quite describe that was a lot more charis than the average woman.
Unfortunately, I’ve heard people say some non-Christians behave more Christian-like than Christians. Couples Nursing-friendly women who aren’t Christian prove this with their love and grace. Which makes a woman that’s Christian and into Couples Nursing an unbeatable combination.