Galatians 2:20


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I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. NIV


Errant, faithful heart


Singleness can be risky business. While I’m growing in grace in other ways, I’ve found that my loneliness has made my pendulum of a heart swing too far towards coveting marriage lately. It’s caused some undeniable complications and blindsightedness I’ve been convicted over.


If Christ-centered ANR robs you of your contentment in being single, defer your visits for a while. Christ is supreme.



Relentlessly gracious rescuer

Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

“I have sinned and perverted what was right;
yet I did not get what I deserved.[a]
28 He redeemed my soul from going down to the Pit,
and I will continue to see the light.”
29 God certainly does all these things
two or three times to a person
30 in order to turn him back from the Pit,
so he may shine with the light of life.


  1. 33:27 Lit and the same was not to me

God’s amazing grace towards wretched sinners

New Living Translation (NLT)

The People Confess Their Sins

On October 31[a] the people assembled again, and this time they fasted and dressed in burlap and sprinkled dust on their heads. Those of Israelite descent separated themselves from all foreigners as they confessed their own sins and the sins of their ancestors. They remained standing in place for three hours[b] while the Book of the Law of the Lord their God was read aloud to them. Then for three more hours they confessed their sins and worshiped the Lord their God. The Levites—Jeshua, Bani, Kadmiel, Shebaniah, Bunni, Sherebiah, Bani, and Kenani—stood on the stairway of the Levites and cried out to the Lord their God with loud voices.

Then the leaders of the Levites—Jeshua, Kadmiel, Bani, Hashabneiah, Sherebiah, Hodiah, Shebaniah, and Pethahiah—called out to the people: “Stand up and praise the Lord your God, for he lives from everlasting to everlasting!” Then they prayed:

“May your glorious name be praised! May it be exalted above all blessing and praise!

“You alone are the Lord. You made the skies and the heavens and all the stars. You made the earth and the seas and everything in them. You preserve them all, and the angels of heaven worship you.

“You are the Lord God, who chose Abram and brought him from Ur of the Chaldeans and renamed him Abraham. When he had proved himself faithful, you made a covenant with him to give him and his descendants the land of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Jebusites, and Girgashites. And you have done what you promised, for you are always true to your word.

“You saw the misery of our ancestors in Egypt, and you heard their cries from beside the Red Sea.[c] 10 You displayed miraculous signs and wonders against Pharaoh, his officials, and all his people, for you knew how arrogantly they were treating our ancestors. You have a glorious reputation that has never been forgotten. 11 You divided the sea for your people so they could walk through on dry land! And then you hurled their enemies into the depths of the sea. They sank like stones beneath the mighty waters. 12 You led our ancestors by a pillar of cloud during the day and a pillar of fire at night so that they could find their way.

13 “You came down at Mount Sinai and spoke to them from heaven. You gave them regulations and instructions that were just, and decrees and commands that were good. 14 You instructed them concerning your holy Sabbath. And you commanded them, through Moses your servant, to obey all your commands, decrees, and instructions.

15 “You gave them bread from heaven when they were hungry and water from the rock when they were thirsty. You commanded them to go and take possession of the land you had sworn to give them.

16 “But our ancestors were proud and stubborn, and they paid no attention to your commands.17 They refused to obey and did not remember the miracles you had done for them. Instead, they became stubborn and appointed a leader to take them back to their slavery in Egypt.[d]But you are a God of forgiveness, gracious and merciful, slow to become angry, and rich in unfailing love. You did not abandon them,18 even when they made an idol shaped like a calf and said, ‘This is your god who brought you out of Egypt!’ They committed terrible blasphemies.

19 “But in your great mercy you did not abandon them to die in the wilderness. The pillar of cloud still led them forward by day, and the pillar of fire showed them the way through the night. 20 You sent your good Spirit to instruct them, and you did not stop giving them manna from heaven or water for their thirst. 21 For forty years you sustained them in the wilderness, and they lacked nothing. Their clothes did not wear out, and their feet did not swell!

22 “Then you helped our ancestors conquer kingdoms and nations, and you placed your people in every corner of the land.[e] They took over the land of King Sihon of Heshbon and the land of King Og of Bashan. 23 You made their descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and brought them into the land you had promised to their ancestors.

24 “They went in and took possession of the land. You subdued whole nations before them. Even the Canaanites, who inhabited the land, were powerless! Your people could deal with these nations and their kings as they pleased.25 Our ancestors captured fortified cities and fertile land. They took over houses full of good things, with cisterns already dug and vineyards and olive groves and fruit trees in abundance. So they ate until they were full and grew fat and enjoyed themselves in all your blessings.

26 “But despite all this, they were disobedient and rebelled against you. They turned their backs on your Law, they killed your prophets who warned them to return to you, and they committed terrible blasphemies. 27 So you handed them over to their enemies, who made them suffer. But in their time of trouble they cried to you, and you heard them from heaven. In your great mercy, you sent them liberators who rescued them from their enemies.

28 “But as soon as they were at peace, your people again committed evil in your sight, and once more you let their enemies conquer them. Yet whenever your people turned and cried to you again for help, you listened once more from heaven. In your wonderful mercy, you rescued them many times!

29 “You warned them to return to your Law, but they became proud and obstinate and disobeyed your commands. They did not follow your regulations, by which people will find life if only they obey. They stubbornly turned their backs on you and refused to listen. 30 In your love, you were patient with them for many years. You sent your Spirit, who warned them through the prophets. But still they wouldn’t listen! So once again you allowed the peoples of the land to conquer them. 31 But in your great mercy, you did not destroy them completely or abandon them forever. What a gracious and merciful God you are!

32 “And now, our God, the great and mighty and awesome God, who keeps his covenant of unfailing love, do not let all the hardships we have suffered seem insignificant to you. Great trouble has come upon us and upon our kings and leaders and priests and prophets and ancestors—all of your people—from the days when the kings of Assyria first triumphed over us until now. 33 Every time you punished us you were being just. We have sinned greatly, and you gave us only what we deserved. 34 Our kings, leaders, priests, and ancestors did not obey your Law or listen to the warnings in your commands and laws. 35 Even while they had their own kingdom, they did not serve you, though you showered your goodness on them. You gave them a large, fertile land, but they refused to turn from their wickedness.

36 “So now today we are slaves in the land of plenty that you gave our ancestors for their enjoyment! We are slaves here in this good land. 37 The lush produce of this land piles up in the hands of the kings whom you have set over us because of our sins. They have power over us and our livestock. We serve them at their pleasure, and we are in great misery.”

The People Agree to Obey

38 [f]The people responded, “In view of all this,[g]we are making a solemn promise and putting it in writing. On this sealed document are the names of our leaders and Levites and priests.”


  1. 9:1 Hebrew On the twenty-fourth day of that same month, the seventh month of the ancient Hebrew lunar calendar. This day was October 31, 445 B.c.; also see notes on 1:1 and 8:2.
  2. 9:3 Hebrew for a quarter of a day.
  3. 9:9 Hebrew sea of reeds.
  4. 9:17 As in Greek version; Hebrew reads in their rebellion.
  5. 9:22 The meaning of the Hebrew is uncertain.
  6. 9:38a Verse 9:38 is numbered 10:1 in Hebrew text.
  7. 9:38b Or In spite of all this.

Favorite comments on lactation in general

“I miss being able to lactate, actually. It was a very powerful feeling.” [That’s because your breasts are yearning to be used for their original purpose. When we realize the intrinsic value of human body parts and human life in general, our joy becomes fuller and we feel more powerful.]

“Breastfeeding helps me to maintain a basic level of respect for my body. I may not like it sometimes, and I may often wish I was smaller/firmer/flatter/tighter/more pert, but knowing my body has an important purpose helps me silence those self-destructive voices that we are all victim to at times….There’s something wonderful about breastfeeding that can’t be explained, quantified or compared. The feeling that wells up in your heart when the … person … is looking you straight in the eye whilst feeding from your breast is something quite astonishing. Breastfeeding is pure love; not just the transference of nutrients and antibodies but the fostering of love and trust that will last a lifetime.”
“PERMISSION TO BE LAZY REST. Every nursing [woman] knows that when you start breastfeeding the sofa becomes your permanent residence, your best friend, your throne. You have absolutely no choice but to let others cater to your every need. Drinks made, dinner served, house cleaned, shopping bought, cushions plumped. WAISTLINE. Breastfeeding releases hormones which cause your uterus to shrink more quickly to its pre-pregnancy size. The uterus of non-breastfeeding mothers will never shrink back. It will always remain slightly enlarged (Chua S, Arulkumaran S, Lim I et al. “Influence of breastfeeding and nipple stimulation on postpartum uterine activity.” Br J Obstet Gynaecol 1994; 101:804-805). Furthermore, breastfeeding burns up to 500 calories per day (double that if you’re nursing twins). Unlike Weightwatchers, Slimming World and Jenny Craig, breastfeeding is proven to enhance your figure (Kramer, F., “Breastfeeding reduces maternal lower body fat.” J. Am Diet Assoc 1993; 93(4):429-33). What’s more, having a va-va-voom cleavage flatters your thinning waistline even more. NATURE’S SPLIFF. Breastfeeding makes you high, in a pleasant, calm, serene way. Nursing stimulates the release of the hormones oxytocin and prolactin in the mother’s body. These hormones relax the nursing mum and make her feel more nurturing toward her baby. The effect is similar to cannabis yet legal and you can do it in public. Furthermore, as the hormones are passed through the breast milk, nursing acts like a natural baby tranquilizer. Which leads us to… SLEEP. Whoever created the ‘lying down whilst breastfeeding’ position needs [an] award or something because it has preserved the sanity of many.”

“I’ve also never been a super touchy-feely person, often wanting my personal space, but now I can say that the act of breastfeeding is the one thing that has helped me cope with my new life with a baby. It reminds of how special and miraculous this whole motherhood thing is. It forces me to slow down and take it all in. It’s like this designated pause throughout the day — a welcomed break in the busyness of life…Who knew an I-need-my-space kind of person could love such an intimate affair? Becoming a mother is a process, but loving things I didn’t know I would or could, I now know, comes much more naturally than I thought.”


“It is my excuse to eat LOTS of Cake. I eat what I like.  When I like.  OK so this is mainly cake and the excuse is I’m breastfeeding I need the calories. Ok ok ok I probably don’t and if I do its from good healthy food not beautiful blissful toblerone cheesecake.  But hey.  I’m breastfeeding what’s your excuse?…  I take time out for cuddles…

Breastfeeding is AN ACHIEVEMENT. Something which is often overlooked and I, for one, I am amazingly proud of myself for achieving. I love breastfeeding for giving me that confidence to be proud in my ability to give what I want to give to my children.”

It’s a totally different dynamic

When my child holds my hand, I get a motherly feeling of protection but when my husband holds my hand, it has a romantic feel. When my child rests on my breasts, the feeling is warm and fuzzy, but when my husband rests on my breasts, erotic things happen.

– near word-for-word quote I found on an ANR site

“How I would feel about my husband drinking my breastmilk vs how I imagine I will feel when nursing our baby is so completely different, like night and day. One is a nurturing, nutritive act between mother and child, and the other is sharing my body with my lover in a uniquely intimate way.. a way to be close that is as intimate as lovemaking itself.”

– another ANR-friendly woman

“As adults we are able to separate feeling of love for different people into different behaviors. I hug and kiss my nephew and I love him to bits but it is nothing like hugging and kissing my lover who I also love. If I am able to lactate and if there was some kind of crazy disaster that calls for me to breast feed a child it would be completely non-sexual, I have the ability to separate and control my sexual desires, I don’t think I am uncommon at all in that respect?”

– yet another

Women who partake view Couples Nursing as an erotic, loving, bonding act, not as mothering their husbands.

Our mouths are primarily meant for talking and eating but they assume different functions while kissing, just as genitals were created primarily for reproductive purposes but oral sex puts a different spin on these organs.

I agree with all the sentiments expressed above because if I were married with a kid and kissed both my wife and daughter goodnight, although the same hormone, oxytocin, would be released, with a child it’ll be more of a warm and fuzzy fatherly feel. With a wife it’ll be a romantic, “love you honey” type of feel.

With the hubby, nursing has a completely different feel. Don’t knock it until you try it. Some women say they’re weirded out at first but after giving a shot, it becomes completely normal. (See Surprised by ANR).

“I’ll venture to say people who can’t leave babies out of the ABF picture are really the ones with difficulty suppressing intrusive thoughts. Those who insist on mentally inviting children into the ANR bedroom are the real pedophiles, they’re the ones with some psychological attachment issues, not us. Please forgive my bluntness but I also really think ANR bashers are being prudes. I don’t think milk from a breast has ever killed anyone, or caused any psychological damage.”

A biblical defense of ANRs on Christ-centered ANR

“People oppose Couples Nursing probably due to psychological reasons. Most of us have been so socially conditioned that we’re unable to dissociate breast milk and babies” but God is not averse to spicing things up.

– quote from Am I twisting Scripture to justify my kinky fetish?