Don’t obsess over ANR

Take time out to focus on your Lord and Savior.
Take days off thinking of Couples Nursing.
Spend your time instead on the spiritual disciplines, including serving others.
Meditate on Scripture.
Resolve to shift your thinking.

See also Thou shalt have no other gods before me

Beware of being sued by snakes

Yes, there might be a time and place for sexual discussion with nonbelievers in a manner that glorifies Christ, but in this radically fallen world in which one can’t be sure who to trust, we can’t let our guard down against fake backstabbers who feign interest in your conversation only to turn around and hit you with a lawsuit for discussing something “creepy.”

Exercise utmost caution in discussion.
As a single, you’re safest just talking to fellow single believers, still with tons of discernment and selfless prioritization of the other.
Don’t let your sexual curiosity get the best of you.

Sex is no sin

This blog exists to promote reflection and conversation on the Christian need to rigorously examine sexuality through biblical lenses. The purpose of Christ-centered ANR is to refute the unbiblical notion that sex must be repressed, even so-called “kinky” expressions of sexuality.

I strongly believe Christians can be sex therapists, sex researchers, sex interviewers and sex educators, even to the unsaved.

Now, I realize that could be dangerous territory. But the point is, nothing under heaven is outside the domain of Christ.

Christians can talk about sex to nonbelievers in ways that awaken them to deeper truths of God’s hidden beauty in creation.

We can communicate sexual intimacy to the lost in ways that make them want to know Christ.

The difference we bring is the gospel. So there’s no need to draw boundaries around intimacy as a “no go zone” for believers. If God went there, so should we — with utmost caution.

Is COVID-19 transmitted through breast milk?

This interim guidance is intended for women who are confirmed to have COVID-19 or are persons-under-investigation (PUI) for COVID-19 and are currently breastfeeding. This interim guidance is based on what is currently known about COVID-19 and the transmission of other viral respiratory infections. CDC will update this interim guidance as needed as additional information becomes available. For breastfeeding guidance in the immediate postpartum setting, refer to Interim Considerations for Infection Prevention and Control of 2019 Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19) in Inpatient Obstetric Healthcare Settings.

Transmission of COVID-19 through breast milk

Much is unknown about how COVID-19 is spread. Person-to-person spread is thought to occur mainly via respiratory droplets produced when an infected person coughs or sneezes, similar to how influenza (flu) and other respiratory pathogens spread. In limited studies on women with COVID-19 and another coronavirus infection, Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome (SARS-CoV), the virus has not been detected in breast milk; however we do not know whether [wives] with COVID-19 can transmit the virus via breast milk.

CDC breastfeeding guidance for other infectious illnesses

Breast milk provides protection against many illnesses. There are rare exceptions when breastfeeding or  feeding expressed breast milk is not recommended. CDC has no specific guidance for breastfeeding during infection with similar viruses like SARS-CoV or Middle Eastern Respiratory Syndrome (MERS-CoV).

Outside of the immediate postpartum setting, CDC recommends that a [wife] with flu continue breastfeeding … while taking precautions to avoid spreading the virus to her [husband].

Guidance on breastfeeding for [wives] with confirmed COVID-19 or under investigation for COVID-19

Breast milk is the best source of nutrition …. However, much is unknown about COVID-19. Whether and how to start or continue breastfeeding should be determined by the [wife] …  A [wife] with confirmed COVID-19 or who is a symptomatic PUI should take all possible precautions to avoid spreading the virus to her [husband], including washing her hands before touching [him] and wearing a face mask, if possible, while feeding at the breast.  If expressing breast milk with a manual or electric breast pump, the [wife] should wash her hands before touching any pump or bottle parts and follow recommendations for proper pump cleaning after each use.

Source

My example is He: Casting Crowns’ Glorious Day with lyrics

 

“Glorious Day (Living He Loved Me)”

One day when Heaven was filled with His praises

One day when sin was as black as could be

Jesus came forth to be born of a virgin

Dwelt among men, my example is He

Word became flesh and the light shined among us

His glory revealed

 

CHORUS: 

Living, He loved me

Dying, He saved me

Buried, He carried my sins far away

Rising, He justified freely forever

One day He’s coming

Oh glorious day, oh glorious day

 

One day they led Him up Calvary’s mountain

One day they nailed Him to die on a tree

Suffering anguish, despised and rejected

Bearing our sins, my Redeemer is He

Hands that healed nations, stretched out on a tree

 

And took the nails for me

 

CHORUS: 

Living, He loved me

Dying, He saved me

Buried, He carried my sins far away

Rising, He justified freely forever

One day He’s coming

Oh glorious day, oh glorious day

 

One day the grave could conceal Him no longer

One day the stone rolled away from the door

Then He arose, over death He had conquered

Now He’s ascended, my Lord evermore

Death could not hold Him, the grave could not keep Him

From rising again

 

CHORUS:
Living, He loved me

Dying, He saved me

Buried, He carried my sins far away

Rising, He justified freely forever

One day He’s coming

Oh glorious day, oh glorious day

One day the trumpet will sound for His coming

One day the skies with His glories will shine

Wonderful day, my Beloved One, bringing

My Savior, Jesus, is mine

 

CHORUS: 
Living, He loved me

Dying, He saved me

Buried, He carried my sins far away

Rising, He justified freely forever

One day He’s coming

Oh glorious day, oh glorious day

Glorious day, Oh, Glorious day

Source: Castingcrowns.com

Lordship Salvation

Question: “What is lordship salvation?”

Answer: The doctrine of lordship salvation teaches that submitting to Christ as Lord goes hand-in-hand with trusting in Christ as Savior. Lordship salvation is the opposite of what is sometimes called easy-believism or the teaching that salvation comes through an acknowledgement of a certain set of facts.

John MacArthur, whose book The Gospel According to Jesus lays out the case for lordship salvation, summarizes the teaching this way: “The gospel call to faith presupposes that sinners must repent of their sin and yield to Christ’s authority.” In other words, a sinner who refuses to repent is not saved, for he cannot cling to his sin and the Savior at the same time. And a sinner who rejects Christ’s authority in his life does not have saving faith, for true faith encompasses a surrender to God. Thus, the gospel requires more than making an intellectual decision or mouthing a prayer; the gospel message is a call to discipleship. The sheep will follow their Shepherd in submissive obedience.

Advocates of lordship salvation point to Jesus’ repeated warnings to the religious hypocrites of His day as proof that simply agreeing to spiritual facts does not save a person. There must be a heart change. Jesus emphasized the high cost of discipleship: “Whoever does not carry their cross and follow me cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:27), and “Those of you who do not give up everything you have cannot be my disciples” (verse 32). In the same passage, Jesus speaks of counting the cost; elsewhere, He stresses total commitment: “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God” (Luke 9:62).

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus says that eternal life is a narrow path found by “only a few” (Matthew 7:14); in contrast, easy-believism seeks to broaden the path so that anyone who has a profession of faith can enter. Jesus says that “every good tree bears good fruit” (verse 17); in contrast, easy-believism says that a tree can still be good and bear nothing but bad fruit. Jesus says that many who say “Lord, Lord” will not enter the kingdom (verses 21–23); in contrast, easy-believism teaches that saying “Lord, Lord” is good enough.

Lordship salvation teaches that a true profession of faith will be backed up by evidence of faith. If a person is truly following the Lord, then he or she will obey the Lord’s instructions. A person who is living in willful, unrepentant sin has obviously not chosen to follow Christ, because Christ calls us out of sin and into righteousness. Indeed, the Bible clearly teaches that faith in Christ will result in a changed life (2 Corinthians 5:17Galatians 5:22–23James 2:14–26).

Lordship salvation is not a salvation-by-works doctrine. Advocates of lordship salvation are careful to say that salvation is by grace alone, that believers are saved before their faith ever produces any good works, and that Christians can and do sin. However, true salvation will inevitably lead to a changed life. The saved will be dedicated to their Savior. A true Christian will not feel comfortable living in unconfessed, unforsaken sin.

Here are nine teachings that set lordship salvation apart from easy-believism:

1) Repentance is not a simple synonym for faith. Scripture teaches that sinners must exercise faith in conjunction with repentance (Acts 2:3817:3020:212 Peter 3:9). Repentance is a change of mind from embrace of sin and rejection of Christ to a rejection of sin and an embrace of Christ (Acts 3:19Luke 24:47), and even this is a gift of God (2 Timothy 2:25). Genuine repentance, which comes when a person submits to the lordship of Christ, cannot help but result in a change of behavior (Luke 3:8Acts 26:18–20).

2) A Christian is a new creation and cannot just “stop believing” and lose salvation. Faith itself is a gift of God (Ephesians 2:1–58), and real faith endures forever (Philippians 1:6). Salvation is all God’s work, not man’s. Those who believe in Christ as Lord are saved apart from any effort of their own (Titus 3:5).

3) The object of faith is Christ Himself, not a promise, a prayer, or a creed (John 3:16). Faith must involve a personal commitment to Christ (2 Corinthians 5:15). It is more than being convinced of the truth of the gospel; it is a forsaking of this world and a following of the Master. The Lord Jesus said, “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me” (John 10:27).

4) True faith always produces a changed life (2 Corinthians 5:17). The inner person is transformed by the Holy Spirit (Galatians 2:20), and the Christian has new nature (Romans 6:6). Those with genuine faith—those who are submitted to the lordship of Christ—follow Jesus (John 10:27), love their brothers (1 John 3:14), obey God’s commandments (1 John 2:3John 15:14), do the will of God (Matthew 12:50), abide in God’s Word (John 8:31), keep God’s Word (John 17:6), do good works (Ephesians 2:10), and continue in the faith (Colossians 1:21–23Hebrews 3:14). Salvation is not adding Jesus to the pantheon of one’s idols; it is a wholesale destruction of the idols with Jesus reigning supreme.

5) God’s “divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life” (2 Peter 1:3; cf. Romans 8:32). Salvation, then, is not just a ticket to heaven. It is the means by which we are sanctified (practically) in this life and by which we grow in grace.

6) Scripture teaches that Jesus is Lord of all. Christ demands unconditional surrender to His will (Romans 6:17–1810:9–10). Those who live in rebellion to God’s will do not have eternal life, for “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble” (James 4:6).

7) Those who truly believe in Christ will love Him (1 Peter 1:8–9Romans 8:28–301 Corinthians 16:22). And those we love we long to please (John 14:1523).

8) Scripture teaches that behavior is an important test of faith. Obedience is evidence that one’s faith is genuine (1 John 2:3). If a person remains unwilling to obey Christ, he provides evidence that his “faith” is in name only (1 John 2:4). A person may claim Jesus as Savior and pretend to obey for a while, but, if there is no heart change, his true nature will eventually manifest itself. This was the case for Judas Iscariot.

9) Genuine believers may stumble and fall, but they will persevere in the faith (1 Corinthians 1:8). This was the case for Simon Peter. A “believer” who completely turns away from the Lord plainly shows that he was never born again to begin with (1 John 2:19).

A person who has been delivered from sin by faith in Christ should not desire to remain in a life of sin (Romans 6:2). Of course, spiritual growth can occur quickly or slowly, depending on the person and his circumstances. And the changes may not be evident to everyone at first. Ultimately, God knows who are His sheep, and He will mature each of us according to His perfect time table.

Is it possible to be a Christian and live in lifelong carnality, enjoying the pleasures of sin, and never seeking to glorify the Lord who bought him? Can a sinner spurn the lordship of Christ yet lay claim to Him as Savior? Can someone pray a “sinner’s prayer” and go about his life as if nothing had happened and still call himself a “Christian”? Lordship salvation says “no.” Let us not give unrepentant sinners false hope; rather, let us declare the whole counsel of God: “You must be born again” (John 3:7).

Recommended Resource: The Gospel According to Jesus by John MacArthur

From Got Questions

Breast Milk Protects against Viruses and other Pathogens

Breast Milk Antibodies

Breast milk is a remarkably ‘altruistic’ secretion; that is, its contents are directed at protecting the [husband] with minimal or no benefit to the [wife]. Not only is the concentration of secretory antibodies (mainly IgA) in breast milk remarkably high (10–100-fold higher than in serum),[13] milk antibodies also possess a broad range of specificities, reflecting both maternal immunologic memory and antibodies directed towards pathogens that do not infect breast tissues, such as rotavirus.[14] Secretory antibodies in milk mirror maternal antigenic stimulation of mucosa-associated lymphoid tissue (MALT) both in the gut and the airways. Given the symbiosis between the breastfed [husband] and his [wife] during … [marriage], the microorganisms in the [wife]’s environment are likely the same as those encountered by the [husband]. Intriguingly, milk composition changes (i.e., increase in the total number of white blood cells and higher TNF-α levels) have been documented in relation to active infection in the nursing [husband].[15]

Source: Medscape.com: Breast Milk: Proactive Immunomodulation and Mucosal Protection Against Viruses and Other Pathogens

Moi 2: Her boudoir

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  • She’s extremely proud of her succulent, supple, soft, rich, fatty, creamy, fluid, somewhat pendulous, very sensual breasts, and having attention paid to them daily
  • She’s the creamy, rich, overflowing breast milk type
  • She has extremely sensitive and responsive nipples and areolae
  • She has rich tastes and switches up the ambience in this most intimate room: white and heavenly, dark and erotic, warm-blooded red, the list goes on
  • She’s definitely into red and black lace
  • Black stockings too
  • She lets loose and gets comfortable wearing thongs in this intimate setting, and here alone
  • She’s all for having some sweet pillow talk while simultaneously fully sexually engaged
  • She eagerly looks forward to showing her husband some mind-blowing tricks for his eyes only

Marriage only

I’ve been convicted of how sneaky the sin of covetousness can be.

It’s so easy to get distracted and fall into the sin of serial lust. While it’s just as easy to rationalize this behavior, the fact is we’re cheating on our spouses each time we do. Men are especially vulnerable to having their eyes wonder.

In an ideal world, marriage would happen only once.

There’s only one person God has in mind for you.

I’ve been hit with this fact lately and have re-oriented my heart by thinking of my future wife more often, loving her, praying for her and honoring her by looking away from temptation. I’ve lately resolved to be more focused and intentional when around women, keeping in mind how most sacred the bond of marriage is, and determined to honor it and my future wife.

Pursue purity. Pursue Jesus. Don’t give temptation a foothold in your life. Minimize eye contact with the opposite sex if necessary. Don’t have mental ANRs with strangers.

 

God seems to take ANRs for granted

God takes no pains whatsoever to prove Himself to us in His word. The Bible always presupposes our knowledge of His existence, because every human being knows God exists, and is without excuse. ¹, ²

Similarly, ANRs between married couples are taken for granted in Scripture. When God designed the institution of marriage, along with sex, family, procreation, and nurturing, He knew all five would be interwoven, so I believe that’s why He doesn’t bother emphasizing ANR beyond the three verses that exhort or imply it.

Footnotes:

1. Romans 1:18-32: “18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. 19 For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. 20 For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. 21 For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened 25 because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. ... 28 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, …They are … haters of God, … 32 Though they know God’s righteous decree …”

2. In his bestselling book Systematic Theology, professor and theologian Wayne Grudem similarly devotes very little space to proving God’s existence. He takes the approach of presuppositional apologetics by mentioning our inner sense of God. He only uses a footnote to tell a powerful story about a woman who rode in a car full of believers. An avowed atheist, she adamantly denied having an inner sense of God, but when they nearly suffered a horrific accident, she cried out “Lord Jesus, please save us.” All fellow passengers could do was stare at her.

These adults breastfeed each other for sexual pleasure. And it’s really beautiful.

“I think it’s very intimate, but it depends on the situation and mood whether it’s sexual or not. Sometimes it evokes the most wonderful nurturing feelings and others, it’s like a red hot pool of lava has taken over my body and is bursting to get out.”

This is a woman describing adult breastfeeding.

She is writing in the Adult Nursing Relationships (ANR) forum on [a fetish site], where users talk about suckling breasts for either sexual satisfaction to create an intimate, nurturing feeling of connection.

When I was asked to write this, my initial reaction was to cringe. Reject the concept. Push it away. I am not alone in this reaction. Even within the kink community, a lot of people aren’t accepting of ANRs.

“A lot of people don’t understand it,” Elfin*, 55 told Rolling Stone. Elfin has been in a relationship with Gavin*, 59, for six years. “It all comes down to one basic premise: your kink is not my kink and that’s OK.”

But the more I read into it, the more my initial reaction seemed unfair, uninformed.

So why do people do it?

There are a few elements here.

For some it’s mostly sexual. Maybe discovered during sex with a woman who is breastfeeding. It might be connected with greater pleasure, a more intense physical connection.

Importantly, there is a huge difference between ANRs and infantalism.

Even though nursing involves a behaviour that’s typically associated with child-rearing, it’s got nothing to do with ‘babying’ or ‘mothering’. It’s about two adults – acting in the context of adulthood – deriving pleasure from an act is that is equally enjoyable for both of them.

For others it’s got less to do with sex and more to do with connection. Forming a closer bond, finding a way to relax as a couple.

“Something like this takes your relationship to another level. Something that is her [her milk] literally becomes part of the person that feeds on it,” Elfin, 55, said.

“It’s the chance for her to give something directly of herself, it’s an act of love and generosity,” Gavin, Elfin’s partner, added.

“I have found that the connection and intimacy connected to ANR is very intense,” Christopher, 59, said. “I tend to feel a calming sense of well-being and being loved that I do not experience from any other form of intimate contact with a companion.”

The science behind adult breastfeeding is interesting too.

Oxytocin is the human feel-good hormone. It is released during and after sex and orgasm, and often dubbed the “love hormone”. Breastfeeding releases oxytocin in massive amounts for both partners. As well as this, the stress-relieving hormone prolactin is triggered by lactation.

There is also the commitment involved. Inducing lactation without a pregnancy is not easy, and maintaining it takes effort from both parties. If breast milk isn’t expressed regularly, this can lead to infection or blocked milk ducts.

In this, ANRs come with a level of physical and emotional dependence. Both parties need to be invested in making it work. So much so, that some ANRs will involve sharing breast milk with others, in order to keep lactation happening while their regular partners or spouses are away.

“I’ve seen her go through the process of inducing and it takes a huge commitment,” Gaving said. “It’s a demonstration of her loyalty and commitment to me in a very real way.”

*Names have been changed. 

Adapted from Mamamia.com.au. As per site policy and convictions, Christ-centered ANR wishes to see nonbelieving ANR practitioners get to know Christ first, but shared this story for the value it brings.

Useful ANR fact number 6

Yes, ANRs are slightly more prevalent in certain countries, but I believe time plays a much greater role than place.

Moving to Asia or elsewhere strictly to pursue an ANR may not be worth the effort.

Despite clear evidence of slightly increased ANR rates in some countries, a single person in Ancient Rome would have had a greater chance of finding an ANR than one in today’s Asia. [1] I’m convinced Ancient Israelite couples also enjoyed ANRs at rates much higher than those in contemporary Brazil, Germany, South Africa and Mexico.

I think this is because ANRs correlate with fecundity, and in those days, large families meant husbands were always around lactating breasts.

We ANR-desirous were born in the wrong millenium.

Thankfully, we worship a God who isn’t bound by time. He can make relevant connections between anachronic lacto-lovers happen, even in 2020.

Further reading/References:
1. Tara Mulder. “Adult Breastfeeding in Ancient Rome.” Illinois Classical Studies 42, no. 1 (2017): 227-243. https://muse.jhu.edu/ (accessed September 4, 2019).

Female lactophiles

I’ve never been a lesbian nor held any sort of attraction to women or their breasts, but something about seeing the lactating breasts of any woman wildly turns me on.

– ANR-seeking woman’s confession on the ANR blogosphere

 

Women and men who are truly into this beautiful lifestyle are equal in their sensual attraction to and adoration of milk-filled breasts.

Key determining factors are personal, emotional, physical, and sexual tastes, because lacto-loving transcends a person’s sex.

The ultimate Couples Nurser perfectly blends an appreciation of the highly erotic potential of lactation with its loving-tenderness.

See also:

She loves breast attention

 

Moi … the Song of Songs version (NC-17)

Intended for mature readers only (as is everything on Christ-centered ANR).

  • I’m certain I’ll induce my wife almost overnight, and depending on who I marry, it could happen in one session*, probably during our honeymoon, because I know I’ll have a strong yet tender latch and suckle. Those close to me have commented on how snug my hugs, hard my grips, firm my handshakes and strong my bones are, as well as my overall soothingness/tenderness, so I’m positive these strengths will translate easily to my marriage bed.
  • While reading up on one of my favorite parts of my future wife’s anatomy, I came across one medical/sex advice site that warned against direct clitoral stimulation, but I plan to ignore the site and give it a bit of a workout. Often seen as a gentleman but occasionally called an extremist** by those who know me well, I just don’t see why a man shouldn’t aim to bring his wife gentle but extreme pleasure. That way, he’d be living out the gospel by putting her needs above his, per Christ’s words in Acts 20:35: “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Moreover, God gave wives the only human organ whose sole purpose for existing is to bring its owner pleasure. And God hates waste. So don’t waste her central slick folds of skin and protruding bulb***. Please it — and her — greatly.
  • Very, very sensitive, sensual and responsive breasts, areolas and nipples would serve both my wife and I. I’m talking breasts so sensual, she could orgasm from breast/areola/nipple stimulation alone.
  • I believe in tenderness as part of the sex act. Couples should cuddle more when sexually intimate.
  • Flowing from the previous point, foreplay is also very important. Thank God we like-minded folks have a divinely-endorsed foreplay system built into our marriages.

*I once asked a woman on ANRSpace how she discovered Couples Nursing. Her response was: One day when fooling around with my boyfriend, I suddenly began lactating. I’ve been hooked ever since. You can reach me privately at [her email address]. (I didn’t email her. Didn’t think she was saved). So it can and does happen to some women. Therefore, woman who’s quick to lactate + man with extra strong suckle = almost instantaneous milk flow.

**As mentioned here, ANR-friendly men can be extremists, but it’s the good kind. The controlled and targeted kind, the kind of extremism that attacks a wife’s clitoris with loving ferocity, or attacks a creep trying to prey on children. Virtually every one of the handful of ANR-friendly men I know possesses this loving, laser-pointed, well-managed and well-controlled extremism.

***See Surprise finding in response to nipple stimulation for the relationship between nipple stimulation and clitoral pleasure.

Litmus test for sharing ANR knowledge (or knowing if you’re obsessed)

I met a sweet, godly woman to whom I was getting more acquainted.

But I made the foolish and untimely decision to share my ANR knowledge without adequate closeness or trust.

Now that I’ve made that mistake, I’m determined to narrow down the timing, safety and wisdom of telling others about CN.

I keep mulling over the whos, whats, whens and hows of sharing one’s knowledge of ANR.

From experience, I think I can say a good litmus test of the appropriateness of ANR conversation is to ask yourself if learning about a Christ-centered ANR would serve the other person. Remember, ways one can infer this include knowing: whether the person is Christian, the level of trust between you, if they’ve been exposed to and are comfortable with all types of breastfeeding, how open-minded they are, how “unPuritanical” the individual is, how much they value deep intimacy in relationships, how much romantic interest/sexual attraction they have towards you, the relational context: whether romantic, platonic, or a counseling-type relationship, the level of breast attention they seek/aim to give, how well they fit the male and female ANR profiles, among other factors.

Be careful to get a sense of these first, because if you share your ANR knowledge without seeking to serve the other person, then you aim to serve only self, and need to repent.

Live out the gospel

Practically, one of the best ways we can model the gospel is by putting other people’s needs above ours.

We MUST avoid falling into the sinful habit of rationalizing our lust.

If you first view people from an ANR perspective, rather than the way God sees them, you’re not living out the gospel.

If you have illicit ANR-centric conversations, you’re not living out the gospel.

The enemy has probably deceived a believer and is in control of their heart if they want to selfishly push their ANR agenda onto others, especially nonbelievers, or believers they don’t know/trust well.

Look, I’m by no means an authority on sexual purity or knowing where Christians should draw the line in sexual conversation, and I try to be cautious in my use of absolutes, but I honestly don’t have a good gauge of the wisdom of discussing CN with nonbelievers, and the best contexts for such discussion.

It’s a question I’ve struggled with, as one of the core reasons for this blog’s existence is to challenge assumptions amongst Christians regarding sexuality and the open discussion thereof.

But I must confess that ANR-centric conversations with the wrong people have gotten me into trouble before. Needless to say, extreme caution is appropriate.

That makes me more resolute in my determination to live out the gospel, and avoid ANR one-sidedness.

While there are contexts that make it permissible, and it’s not inherently sinful to talk about sex with nonbelievers, our conversation must be held in light of the gospel, no easy feat, considering the insatiable cravings of the flesh.

While you may be dying to discover a person’s ANR-friendliness, such conversation may not be best for that person in light of eternity.

Philippians 2 exhorts:

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

6 Who, being in very nature[a] God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature[b] of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!

Further reading:

The Mind of Christ: Looking Out for the Interests of Others by John Piper

 

Footnotes:

  1. Philippians 2:6 Or in the form of
  2. Philippians 2:7 Or the form

Pumping on the beach

Yellowish milk like this sunset beachgoing superwoman’s, signifies nutrient richness. Whitish milk is more watery. These are respectively referred to as hindmilk and foremilk.

She must have just nursed or pumped, hence the “hind” milk.

Kudos to this lady for normalizing her superpowers in a way that’s modest, beautiful and glorious.

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Further reading:

Foremilk and hindmilk

Intimacy breeds faithfulness in marriage

Drink heavily from her breasts.”

That’s one of God’s prescriptions for a strong, faithful marriage.

Of course, hinging your marriage on the gospel of His Son is His main prescription, but physical and sexual intimacy definitely matter to Him.

Proverbs 5-7 almost function as a unit, warning us to avoid adulterous people, by prescribing, among other things, great sexual intimacy with our own spouses.

Since marriage is a symbol of Christ’s relationship with His Church, in the same way, if you want to be much more faithful to God, then be a lot more intimate with Him.

Relevant parts of Proverbs 5-7 in context:

Warning Against Adultery

My son, pay attention to my wisdom,
    turn your ear to my words of insight,
that you may maintain discretion
    and your lips may preserve knowledge.
For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey,
    and her speech is smoother than oil;
but in the end she is bitter as gall,
    sharp as a double-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death;
    her steps lead straight to the grave.
She gives no thought to the way of life;
    her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.

Now then, my sons, listen to me;
    do not turn aside from what I say.
Keep to a path far from her,
    do not go near the door of her house,
lest you lose your honor to others
    and your dignity[a] to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth
    and your toil enrich the house of another.
11 At the end of your life you will groan,
    when your flesh and body are spent.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
    How my heart spurned correction!
13 I would not obey my teachers
    or turn my ear to my instructors.
14 And I was soon in serious trouble
    in the assembly of God’s people.”

15 Drink water from your own cistern,
    running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
    your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
    never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed,
    and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
    may her breasts [drench] you always,
    may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
20 Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
    Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?

21 For your ways are in full view of the Lord,
    and he examines all your paths.
22 The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them;
    the cords of their sins hold them fast.
23 For lack of discipline they will die,
    led astray by their own great folly.

Footnotes:

  1. Proverbs 5:9 Or years

 

Warning Against Adultery

20 My son, keep your father’s command
    and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
21 Bind them always on your heart;
    fasten them around your neck.
22 When you walk, they will guide you;
    when you sleep, they will watch over you;
    when you awake, they will speak to you.
23 For this command is a lamp,
    this teaching is a light,
and correction and instruction
    are the way to life,
24 keeping you from your neighbor’s wife,
    from the smooth talk of a wayward woman.

25 Do not lust in your heart after her beauty
    or let her captivate you with her eyes.

26 For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread,
    but another man’s wife preys on your very life.
27 Can a man scoop fire into his lap
    without his clothes being burned?
28 Can a man walk on hot coals
    without his feet being scorched?
29 So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife;
    no one who touches her will go unpunished.

30 People do not despise a thief if he steals
    to satisfy his hunger when he is starving.
31 Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold,
    though it costs him all the wealth of his house.
32 But a man who commits adultery has no sense;
    whoever does so destroys himself.
33 Blows and disgrace are his lot,
    and his shame will never be wiped away.

34 For jealousy arouses a husband’s fury,
and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
35 He will not accept any compensation;
he will refuse a bribe, however great it is.

 

Warning Against the Adulterous Woman

My son, keep my words
    and store up my commands within you.
Keep my commands and you will live;
    guard my teachings as the apple of your eye.
Bind them on your fingers;
    write them on the tablet of your heart.
Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”
    and to insight, “You are my relative.”
They will keep you from the adulterous woman,
    from the wayward woman with her seductive words.

At the window of my house
    I looked down through the lattice.
I saw among the simple,
    I noticed among the young men,
    a youth who had no sense.
He was going down the street near her corner,
    walking along in the direction of her house
at twilight, as the day was fading,
    as the dark of night set in.

10 Then out came a woman to meet him,
    dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.
11 (She is unruly and defiant,
    her feet never stay at home;
12 now in the street, now in the squares,
    at every corner she lurks.)
13 She took hold of him and kissed him
    and with a brazen face she said:

14 “Today I fulfilled my vows,
    and I have food from my fellowship offering at home.
15 So I came out to meet you;
    I looked for you and have found you!
16 I have covered my bed
    with colored linens from Egypt.
17 I have perfumed my bed
    with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.
18 Come, let’s drink deeply of love till morning;
    let’s enjoy ourselves with love!
19 My husband is not at home;
    he has gone on a long journey.
20 He took his purse filled with money
    and will not be home till full moon.”

21 With persuasive words she led him astray;
    she seduced him with her smooth talk.
22 All at once he followed her
    like an ox going to the slaughter,
like a deer[a] stepping into a noose[b]
23     till an arrow pierces his liver,
like a bird darting into a snare,
    little knowing it will cost him his life.

24 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
    pay attention to what I say.
25 Do not let your heart turn to her ways
    or stray into her paths.
26 Many are the victims she has brought down;
    her slain are a mighty throng.
27 Her house is a highway to the grave,
    leading down to the chambers of death.

Footnotes:

  1. Proverbs 7:22 Syriac (see also Septuagint); Hebrew fool
  2. Proverbs 7:22 The meaning of the Hebrew for this line is uncertain.

If an ANR becomes your obsession, cut it off and throw it away

27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.

Matthew 5

Thou shalt have no other gods before me

Exodus 20:3-5 King James Version (KJV)

Thou shalt have no other gods before me.

Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.

Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me

 

Snap out of ANR idolatry.