Christ above all

It’s too easy to be blindsighted. ANR is incredibly beautiful but don’t let it become an idol.

It can save your marriage but not your soul. Always keep things in perspective.

Repent of idolatry and keep your desires in check.

Put Christ first.


That which ONLY a woman can provide

“I want to be able to produce something a man can’t make himself.”

“A man can head to the refrigerator and pour himself a glass of milk, but what I produce can only come from me.”

These are nearly exact quotes I’ve seen on ANR sites.

We need to celebrate the uniqueness of women’s bodily functions and how utterly helpless we men are without women.

In the creation narrative in Genesis, everything God made was “good” except man without woman.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

— Genesis 2:18

Can’t touch this

Rejoice, ANR/ABF community worldwide!

Since I began delving into ANR research around 2013/14, no year has passed without someone coming out or something significant happening to push Couples Nursing closer to the mainstream.

Sure, some sites have either closed or been taken down, but the rate of new developments outpaces the shutdowns.

Examples include Atlanta’s Jen Mulford who ignited controversial headlines when she came out in 2016, also multiple couples on social media, ANR blogs, websites and an ever increasing number of new ANR dating sites.

Despite stiff opposition, we continue to thrive and multiply.

To the hater out there, in order to stop ANRs from spreading, here’s what you have to do:

  • Take down the entire internet, not just ANR-specific sites, because I know people who hear about CN from mainstream dating sites, and others learn from social media, news websites and other non-ANR sources.
  • Walk around with an audio surveillance amplifier, to zero in on private conversations, and a lethal weapon with which to take people out immediately you hear the forbidden acronym.
  • Be especially close to groups of nursing moms, ready to strike, because some lactating mothers do admit Couples Nursing activities in this safe space.


Dear ANR hater with hacking skills,

In all seriousness, please pay close attention, as this might give you peace:

Instead of trying to stop a freight train, I suggest you live and let live. You hate the idea of ANR? Fine. Simply ignore it. Attacking is a waste of time, as I’ve made clear. Each time you successfully take an ANR site down, three seem to pop up in its place, like whack-a-mole on steroids.

There’s nothing you can do to impede the progress of ANRs.



We ANR-loving folks who are in Christ have infinitely more reasons to rejoice.

Today I have made you a fortified city, an iron pillar and a bronze wall to stand against the whole land … They will fight back, but they won’t win. I, the LORD, give my word— I won’t let them harm you.

— Jeremiah 1:18-19 (NIV & CEV)

Eastern European breastfeeding wife’s list of benefits

This was translated from a Slavic language, so pardon the sometimes incoherent phrasing. I also found a majority of Eastern European women online seem to be turned off by the idea of HBF, so I don’t think Eastern Europeans are any more into it than Westerners.

“I’m Veronika, … third baby.
I have 2 girls, 18 and 5,5 months old. Older jusem breastfed fully within 9 months, just refused to feed and now in a year and a half breastfeeding her 5 times a day. Younger breastfeed 100%.
After the birth of Veronica, she asked her husband to suck my milk. We have also got used to it and I have been breastfeeding girls and men for 18 months. In addition, on May 1, 2007 I conceived 3 children.
Breastfeeding a husband is a wonderful part of our life. When making love, when … and breastfeeding at the same time achieve severe and multiple orgasms. My husband’s breastfeeding has overwhelmed me with pleasure in breastfeeding, especially when I often breastfeed them both at the same time. In addition, I have extremely exciting breasts since I was 11 years old, when my breast started to bud. But we adhere to one principle:
NEVER mix baby breastfeeding and sex! BABY Breastfeeding Is a Taboo, It is Sacred !!!

I will summarize my experience of 18 months of husband’s breastfeeding:
1, constant milk surplus even during the growth spurt,
2, regular drinking of surpluses, especially in the evening, ensures trouble-free breastfeeding,
3, bring great pleasure to love life,
4, breastfed man is affectionate father and an assistant,
five, breastfeeding allows early return to the marital love leads shortly after giving birth to a reserve release of a man and completely eliminates any hangups and infidelity,
6, leads to strengthening pozence man can ever !!!
Errors SORRY!!!
7, Strengthens the potency of a man
8, Strengthens the immune system of a partner (under certain circumstances and a partner, but I do not want to write it …)
9, allows a slight fantasy unusual techniques of sex
10, finally our generations were not breastfed as today, so our little men at least … …
10th is a nice birdie
I know from my mother and grandmother that breastfeeding dads is nothing new. Experienced midwives knew about it.

I end with the words: BREASTING (AND DADS) HELLO !!!”



True story. I have a sweet tooth. My blood sugar level has been known to spike in the past.


Women’s bodies produce sugar. Real sugar. What a shame many women never get to realize their maximum inherent sweetness, both figuratively and literally.


I think I’ll  have to invest in a blood glucose meter when I get married, because I’ll definitely be drinking gallons of milk and honey. I mean real pomegranate juice.



My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?



From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

That they know you, the only true God

When Jesus had spoken these words, he lifted up his eyes to heaven, and said, “Father, the hour has come; glorify your Son that the Son may glorify you, 2 since you have given him authority over all flesh, to give eternal life to all whom you have given him. 3 And this is eternal life, that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent.

John 17:1-3

Would you be content if you never experienced it?

Christian, would you be content never tasting the blessing that an ANR is?

Lions and tigers released on Christians in Colosseum


If these first century Christians were content having their lives stolen from them so violently, then you should be able to endure the pain of being ANR-less for the rest of your life. The same Spirit that empowered these early believers also lives in you.

Put Christ first always. His greatness surpasses your strongest physical desires.

Trust God

If God could speak the Universe into existence, create planets and stars billions of times the size of our own, send His only begotten Son to die for your sins, then He’s more than capable of bringing you your ANR partner. Trust His timing. God could easily cause an ANR- desiring spouse to appear the moment you open your front door. He has ordained every moment of your life and wants the best for you.

But our unbelief keeps us wanting to play God, and replacing Him with idols.


The Ministry of Reconciliation

Since, then, we know what it is to fear the Lord, we try to persuade others. What we are is plain to God, and I hope it is also plain to your conscience. We are not trying to commend ourselves to you again, but are giving you an opportunity to take pride in us, so that you can answer those who take pride in what is seen rather than in what is in the heart. If we are “out of our mind,” as some say, it is for God; if we are in our right mind, it is for you. For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again. So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

As God’s co-workers we urge you not to receive God’s grace in vain. For he says, “In the time of my favor I heard you, and in the day of salvation I helped you.” I tell you, now is the time of God’s favor, now is the day of salvation.

2 Corinthians 5:11 ‭- 6:‬2 NIV

Fix your eyes on what is unseen, not what is seen

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

We are not trying to commend ourselves to you again, but are giving you an opportunity to take pride in us, so that you can answer those who take pride in what is seen rather than in what is in the heart.

2 Corinthians 4:17‭-‬18, 5:12 NIV

Walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh

So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.

Galatians 5:16‭-‬25 NIV

Before the Throne

Before the throne of God above
I have a strong and perfect plea
A great High Priest whose name is love
Who ever lives and pleads for me
My name is graven on His hands
My name is written on His heart
I know that while in heav’n He stands
No tongue can bid me thence depart
No tongue can bid me thence depart

When Satan tempts me to despair
And tells me of the guilt within
Upward I look and see Him there
Who made an end of all my sin
Because the sinless Savior died
My sinful soul is counted free
For God the Just is satisfied
To look on Him and pardon me
To look on Him and pardon me

Behold Him there, the risen Lamb
My perfect, spotless Righteousness
The great unchangeable I AM
The King of glory and of grace
One with Himself, I cannot die
My soul is purchased by His blood
My life is hid with Christ on high
With Christ my Savior and my God
With Christ my Savior and my God