Live in purity because God is an avenger

Finally, then, brothers and sisters, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more. 2 For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification:[b] that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each one of you know how to control his own body[c] in holiness and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. 8 Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.

1 Thessalonians 4


b. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 Or your holiness

c. 1 Thessalonians 4:4 Or how to take a wife for himself; Greek how to possess his own vessel

Become a fool to be truly wise

1 Corinthians 3 New Living Translation

16 Don’t you realize that all of you together are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God lives inc you? 17 God will destroy anyone who destroys this temple. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.18 Stop deceiving yourselves. If you think you are wise by this world’s standards, you need to become a fool to be truly wise. 19 For the wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. As the Scriptures say, “He traps the wise in the snare of their own cleverness.”d 20 And again, “The LORD knows the thoughts of the wise; he knows they are worthless.”e

c 3:16 Or among.
d 3:19 Job 5:13.
e 3:20 Ps 94:11.

The Food of Christ Is to Give Eternal Life

Resource by John Piper. Scripture: John 4:27–42.    Topic: The Person of Christ

Just then his disciples came back. They marveled that he was talking with a woman, but no one said, “What do you seek?” or, “Why are you talking with her?” 28 So the woman left her water jar and went away into town and said to the people, 29 “Come, see a man who told me all that I ever did. Can this be the Christ?” 30 They went out of the town and were coming to him. 31 Meanwhile the disciples were urging him, saying, “Rabbi, eat.” 32 But he said to them, “I have food to eat that you do not know about.” 33 So the disciples said to one another, “Has anyone brought him something to eat?” 34 Jesus said to them, “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work. 35 Do you not say, ‘There are yet four months, then comes the harvest’? Look, I tell you, lift up your eyes, and see that the fields are white for harvest. 36 Already the one who reaps is receiving wages and gathering fruit for eternal life, so that sower and reaper may rejoice together. 37 For here the saying holds true, ‘One sows and another reaps.’ 38 I sent you to reap that for which you did not labor. Others have labored, and you have entered into their labor.” 39 Many Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me all that I ever did.” 40 So when the Samaritans came to him, they asked him to stay with them, and he stayed there two days. 41 And many more believed because of his word. 42 They said to the woman, “It is no longer because of what you said that we believe, for we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this is indeed the Savior of the world.”

Before I pray for God’s help, let me show you from the text why prayer is so needed right now. For the fourth time in this Gospel, John shows us the spiritual blindness that Jesus deals with in us humans almost all the time—either because we are dead in our sin and unbelieving and need to be born again, or because as believers our spiritual eyes have grown dim and unresponsive to the glory of Christ because of worldliness.

Four Glimpses of Our Blindness

First, in John 2:19, Jesus says, “Destroy this temple, and in three days I will raise it up.” And the Jews said to him, “It has taken forty-six years to build this temple, and will you raise it up in three days?” They had no spiritual sight for what Jesus was talking about, namely, his own death and resurrection. They were blind to the glory of what he was revealing—that he himself is the presence of God more than the temple is, and that when he rises from the dead, from then on, he will be the place where people meet God.

Second, in John 3:3 Jesus says to Nicodemus, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.” And Nicodemus said to him, “How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother’s womb and be born?” Nicodemus had no spiritual sight of what Jesus was talking about, namely, there is a second birth that is spiritual. It brings into being something that did not exist before in you—a living spirit and the ability to see the glory of God in the face of Christ.

Third, in John 4:10, Jesus says to the woman at the well, “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.” And the woman says to Jesus, “Sir, you have nothing to draw water with, and the well is deep.” She has no spiritual sight of what Jesus is talking about, namely, the supernatural spiritual life that that comes from receiving Christ himself—indeed, the supernatural life that he himself is.

And fourth, here in our text, John 4:31, his disciples say to Jesus, “Rabbi, eat.” And Jesus says to them, “I have food to eat that you do not know about.” And the disciples said to each other, “Has anyone brought him something to eat?” They had no spiritual sight of what he was talking about. Verse 34: “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work.”

  • I will raise this temple in three days. It took 46 years to build this temple.
  • You must be born again. How can a man enter into his mother’s womb?
  • I will give you living water. You don’t have a bucket.
  • I have food to eat you do not know about. Who brought him something to eat?

We Need Holy-Spirit Help

Why does John keep showing us this pathetic response to the glory that Jesus reveals? He does it, first, to remind us over and over that the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, so that we might see his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth . . . and from that fullness, that we might receive grace upon grace” (John 1:1416).

And he does it, second, to remind us that without the mighty working of the Holy Spirit in our lives we are spiritually blind and dull and unresponsive—just like the Jews, and Nicodemus, and the woman at the well, and the disciples.

“The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit” (John 3:8). We need the mighty, sovereign, life-giving, eye-opening, heart-wakening work of the Holy Spirit. That’s why we need to pray.

Father, have mercy upon our worldly, deadened, numb, unseeing, unresponsive, hearts. Breathe spiritual life into our souls. Open the eyes of our hearts. Shed divine, spiritual light into our minds. Awaken our Spirit-given ability to see and taste and know and understand and treasure the glory of Christ in your word. In his merciful and strong name, we pray. Amen.

Three Parts—With Explanation in the Middle

The way John tells the rest of this story about the woman at the well is very interesting. He deals with what happens to the woman and the town of Sychar in two parts at the beginning and the end of this text. And in the middle, between those two parts he gives us the words of Jesus to his disciples that explains the deeper dimension of what is happening with the woman and the town. So let’s focus first on what happens with the woman and the town.

Verses 27–30:

Just then his disciples came back. They marveled that he was talking with a woman, but no one said, “What do you seek?” or, “Why are you talking with her?” So the woman left her water jar and went away into town and said to the people, “Come, see a man who told me all that I ever did. Can this be the Christ?” They went out of the town and were coming to him.

So she leaves her water jar and goes to the town and tells “the people”—it appears to be indiscriminate telling of everyone, in spite of how hesitant she was to talk to Jesus about her sordid life. She says he knew everything about her and wonders out loud if he might be the Messiah, the Christ. Jesus had said he was in verse 26. Verse 30 says the people were coming to Jesus.

Jesus Talking to a Woman

Though it’s not the main point of the text, John thought it was important enough to mention that the disciples were amazed he was talking to a woman. Verse 27: “They marveled that he was talking with a woman.” Remember in verse 31 that they call Jesus “Rabbi.” In Jesus’ day, men in general, and rabbis in particular, did not publicly talk to women. And for many of them, it was not out of seemliness, but out of misogyny—the deep distrust, disrespect, and dislike of women.

In its worst form, we saw it last Tuesday when George Sodini killed three women and injured ten at the LA Fitness gym in the Pittsburg area. He wrote in his journal:

No girlfriend since 1984 . . . . Who knows why. I am not ugly or too weird. No sex since July 1990 either (I was 29). . . . Over eighteen years ago. . . I actually look good. I dress good, am clean-shaven, bathe, touch of cologne—yet 30 million women rejected me—over an 18 or 25-year period.

And in his disgust for all women, he opens fire indiscriminately and then kills himself. I am not saying that rabbis or men in general in the first century felt this way. Sodini was an extreme pathological case. But women were not taught the Torah. And they were not treated, by and large, with respect and tenderness and appreciation.

Jesus Treated Women Differently

Jesus treated women differently—his mother, Mary Magdalene, the woman bent over for 18 years, the Syrophoenician woman, Mary and Martha, the widow with the two coins, and others. The main point that I think flows from Jesus is that God created man male and female in his image, with equal value and dignity and differing, complementary, honorable roles, and Jesus put in motion a reversal of the effects of the Fall. The Fall of Adam and Eve inclined women to be helplessly coquettish or brashly domineering, and it inclined men to be timidly passive or harsh and demanding. Sin could distort God’s design in either direction.

Wherever Christianity has become deeply rooted in a culture, the treatment of women has improved. If you saw the horrific film The Stoning of Soraya M, you got a glimpse of the dismal plight of millions of women today hidden away in cultures around the world where Jesus is not known and trusted and followed.

Women Respected Where the Gospel Takes Root

But wherever his word and his gospel take root and hold sway, men treat women with respect, and they take humble, courageous initiatives to protect women and create stable, loving families where the covenant faithfulness of husband and wife display the mystery of Christ and to his church to the world.

That’s the way Jesus meant it to be. And that’s one of the reasons that, of all the people in Samaria he could have sought out, he chose this woman.

Here Come the Townspeople

Verse 30 says, “They went out of the town and were coming to him.” Then comes the interruption. “Meanwhile . . .” and the coming of the townspeople picks up again in verse 39–42:

Many Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me all that I ever did.” So when the Samaritans came to him, they asked him to stay with them, and he stayed there two days. And many more believed because of his word. They said to the woman, “It is no longer because of what you said that we believe, for we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this is indeed the Savior of the world.”

The most important thing to see here, because of its relationship to what Jesus says in the part we passed over, is that first the woman’s word leads to faith and then Jesus’ word leads to more faith. These two witnesses are mentioned twice. First, the woman’s witness. Verse 39: “Many Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony.” Then Jesus’ witness in verse 41: “And many more believed because of his word.”

Surprising Spiritual Awakening in Sychar

Then they are both mentioned again in verse 42. First, the woman’s testimony: “It is no longer because of what you said that we believe.” Then, Jesus’ testimony: “For we have heard for ourselves”—that is, heard Jesus. They believe that Jesus is the Savior of the world. He is the Messiah that is coming into the world and will rescue people from their sin and from the judgment of God (John 3:36).

That’s the amazing upshot of Jesus’ trip to Samaria—a surprising spiritual awakening in the town of Sychar. An unlikely woman becomes the means of an unlikely people turning to the Jewish Messiah, even though they were not even full-blooded Jews. This should encourage us in the pluralistic, religiously and ethnically diverse world that we live in. God has a people in Samaria, and he has chosen surprising instruments to reach them—maybe you.

The Deeper Dimension

Now between verses 27–30 at the beginning and 39–42 at the end, some tremendously important words of Jesus explain to us the deeper dimension of what is happening with the woman and the townspeople.

What’s happening is that Jesus is acting like God and revealing that the glorious messianic age—the kingdom of God—has begun.

The disciples tell him to eat in verse 31, “Rabbi, eat.” He says he has food they don’t know about (verse 32). They are puzzled. And he responds with almost incomprehensible words in verse 34: “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work.” That’s very strange.

Who Can Talk Like This?

Food is what you need in order to work. Food is what gives you strength for work. So Jesus is saying, “I am strengthened to do what God has given me to do by doing what God has given me to do. My source of energy for doing God’s will is doing God’s will.”

Who can talk like this? God can talk like this. We mere humans need sources of power from outside ourselves. God gets his source of power from within himself. As man, Jesus got tired and thirsty and hungry. He needed food like the rest of us. But as God, his power to act was to act.

Human, Yes, and More Than Human

So Jesus is revealing himself to be no mere mortal. Human, to be sure—but more than human. The Word was God, and the Word became flesh and dwelt among us (John 1:114). He revealed his glory again and again. I am sustained to finish God’s work by finishing God’s work.

But there is something more specific implied here that is going to make the connection with verses 35 and 36 make sense. When Jesus says, “My food is to do the will of him who sent me,” what is the will of him who sent him? God’s will for Jesus—the work he gave him to accomplish—is to give eternal life.

Listen to John 12:49–50, “The Father who sent me has himself given me a commandment . . . And I know that his commandment is eternal life.” Or John 6:39: “This is the will of him who sent me, that I should lose nothing of all that he has given me, but raise it up on the last day.”

“I Am Food, I Am Life”

So when Jesus says in John 4:34, “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work,” he means, “My food is to give eternal life.” That is, my source of strength to give eternal life is to give eternal life. I give life because I am life. I am the way the truth and the life (John 14:6). My food is to be what I am. And I am life. Living water. Bread from heaven. I don’t just eat food. I am food. I don’t get life. I give life.

This helps explain the strange direction his words take in verses 35–36: “Do you not say, ‘There are yet four months, then comes the harvest’? Look, I tell you, lift up your eyes, and see that the fields are white for harvest. Already the one who reaps is receiving wages and gathering fruit for eternal life [there’s the link!], so that sower and reaper may rejoice together.” Jesus is reaping eternal life. That’s what he has been doing with this woman and, through her, is doing even now among the people of Sychar.

Collapsing Sowing and Reaping into One

And he is so free and sovereign he is not at all dependent on the usual four months it takes between sowing and reaping. Jesus is collapsing sowing and reaping into one event. God can do that sort of thing. Human can’t. And that is what the messianic age is to be like, according to the prophet Amos:

“Behold, the days are coming,” declares the LORD, “when the plowman [the sower] shall overtake the reaper and the treader of grapes him who sows the seed; the mountains shall drip sweet wine, and all the hills shall flow with it.” (Amos 9:13)

Jesus is showing his disciples, and us, that these are the beginning of those days. I am the Messiah. I bring the messianic age. It has begun. And he says at the end of verse 36 that he is already reaping fruit for eternal life (with no natural gap of months) “that sower and reaper may rejoice together.” What he is doing here is collapsing sowing and reaping into one event so that the joy is a foretaste of what Amos saw.

Both Sower and Reaper

Jesus is both sower and reaper at the same time. He is orchestrating the entire event by working as sower and reaper—speaking the word and reaping its fruit.

Jesus concludes in verses 37–38 by drawing the disciples into his work: “For here the saying holds true, ‘One sows and another reaps.’ I sent you to reap that for which you did not labor. Others have labored, and you have entered into their labor.” In other words, You are going to share in the reaping. But others have labored before you. Who are they? I think the answer is Jesus and the Samaritan woman. Jesus has been sowing with his word and gathering fruit for eternal life as the great reaper. And the woman has been sowing with her word to the townspeople.

That’s why the story returns in verse 39–42 to the testimony of the woman and the testimony of Jesus. Remember, the townspeople believe because of her word, and then more believe because of Jesus’ word. This is the labor of “others” that the disciples enter into. “Others have labored, and you have entered into their labor.”

The Upshot for Us

So here is the upshot for us:

1. Jesus is the glorious Son of God and Savior of the World whose food is to accomplish God’s purpose, namely, to be food that gives eternal life. He doesn’t need life-giving food; he is life-giving food. He sows the world, and he reaps eternal life. May God give you eyes to see his glory and treasure him over all.

2. His coming is the beginning of the messianic age. The old patterns of four months between sowing and reaping don’t hold. God is full of surprises. Jesus can collapse any interval he pleases. Pray for wonders in sowing and reaping in your life and around the world.

3. All our labor is important. God uses men and women (sinful, forgiven men and women) to sow and reap. And we are always entering into the labor of another, especially Jesus’. His labor is always decisive. Especially the labor of the cross. This was his main food. My food is to accomplish the work God gave me to do. And with the cross in view, where he died for our sins, he said, “Father, I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do” (John 17:4).

John Piper (@JohnPiper) is founder and teacher of and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary. For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota. He is author of more than 50 books, including Desiring God: Meditations of a Christian Hedonist and most recently Providence.


Two become one flesh application: Who wrote the Bible?

Audio Transcript

Very often, the best questions we get are very simple ones, like this one today from Maxine, a longtime listener to APJ. “Pastor John, hello and thank you for this podcast. Can you explain to me: Who wrote the Bible?”

Well, let’s start at the top and work our way down to who held the very quill that moved across the parchments.

God Has Spoken

At the top is God. When Christians refer to the Bible as the word of God, they mean that — and I would say, I mean. I’m one of those people who believe this; I’d stake my whole life on it. So, I mean that the Creator of the universe, the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who upholds the universe by the word of his power, was guiding and is guiding all things according to a great purpose. That God has chosen to reveal himself to human beings in human language. He has chosen to speak. Amazing. Hebrews 1:1–2 says, “Long ago, at many times and in many ways, God spoke to our fathers by the prophets, but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son [Jesus Christ].” That’s simply staggering: God has spoken.

The phrase “Thus says the Lord” occurs over four hundred times in the Old Testament, as the writers put forward in their writings that God has spoken. The phrase “God said” occurs over six hundred times in the Old Testament. So, there’s this pervasive claim of the human writers that they are delivering what God wants said.

The way the New Testament writers express this claim is to say that the human writers of the Bible were “inspired,” that these writings are “God-breathed,” or that the people who wrote them were “carried along by the Spirit.” For example, the apostle Paul says in 2 Timothy 3:16, “All Scripture [that is, for him at that time, all the Old Testament books of the Bible] is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction.” The apostle Peter says in 2 Peter 1:21, “No prophecy was ever produced by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.”

So, the question “Who wrote the Bible?” always has a double answer in the Bible. Human authors wrote the Bible, and God wrote the Bible through the human authors. They actually held the quill that moved across the parchment, but what they wrote was ultimately what God wanted written.

Superintended Scripture

I love the way Jesus did this. He gave us an amazing indication that he believed the Old Testament Scriptures were, in fact, God’s word, God’s writing. What makes this indication that Jesus gave so powerful is because it’s so inadvertent. He’s talking about divorce, and he answers the Pharisees’ question by saying, in Matthew 19:3–5, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said . . .” The subject of that verb is “he who created them.” That’s God. Then he quotes Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” But that verse was not a quotation of God in the Old Testament; it was written by Moses, the human author. But when Jesus quotes it, because it’s from the Scriptures, the inspired Scriptures, Jesus says, “God said those words.” That’s amazing. That’s a really powerful indication of how our Lord himself viewed the Old Testament Scriptures.

“God has chosen to reveal himself to human beings in human language. He has chosen to speak.”

Which is why he said in Matthew 5:17–18, “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets” — in other words, the whole Old Testament. Don’t think that I’ve come to abolish them. I haven’t come to abolish them. They’re God’s word. I have come to fulfill them. “For truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not an iota, not a dot [not the smallest part of the Scriptures], will pass from the Law until all is accomplished.” And Jesus said in John 10:35, “Scripture cannot be broken.”

This is also how the New Testament apostles saw their own writings — not just the Old Testament, but the New Testament writings. Jesus had promised them that he would guide them into all truth (John 16:13). And Paul said, therefore, “We impart this [that is, what he’s revealing in his letters] in words not taught by human wisdom but taught by the Spirit” (1 Corinthians 2:13).

So, there are always two answers to the question “Who wrote the Bible?” God and man. Ultimately, God saw to it that what he wanted written was written. And in that sense, you could say God wrote the Bible. But we would not mean that he carved it in stone (although he did carve the Ten Commandments in stone on Mount Sinai and gave them to Moses). And we would not mean that God held the hand of the human writers and wrote in his heavenly style, not their human style. That’s not the case. The human authors have their own style, and God guides it. He doesn’t impose on it his singular style. We would simply mean that God superintended the human writing so that the authors wrote what he wanted written.

Who Were the Human Writers?

So, who were the human writers of the Bible? That’s the most direct way this question was posed. Let me try to answer it as directly.

At least ten of the books of the Bible are unsigned. The authors did not see fit to include their names in the books they wrote. For example, Job and Esther in the Old Testament — we don’t know who wrote them. In the New Testament, Hebrews — we don’t know who wrote Hebrews. But the traditional list of authors would go like this:

  • Moses wrote the first five books of the Bible and at least one of the Psalms (Psalm 90).
  • Ezra the scribe wrote the books of Ezra and 1–2 Chronicles.
  • Nehemiah wrote the book of Nehemiah.
  • Psalm writers include David, Asaph, the sons of Korah, Ethan, Heman.
  • Solomon wrote some of the Psalms, most of the Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon.
  • Agur and Lemuel wrote some of the Proverbs.

Then all the prophets wrote the books by their own name:

  • Isaiah
  • Jeremiah, who also wrote Lamentations
  • Ezekiel
  • Daniel
  • Hosea
  • Joel
  • Amos
  • Obadiah
  • Jonah
  • Micah
  • Nahum
  • Habakkuk
  • Zephaniah
  • Haggai
  • Zechariah
  • Malachi

Then the writers of the Gospels in the New Testament:

  • Matthew
  • Mark
  • Luke, who also wrote Acts
  • John

In fact, it’s interesting: If you’d ask most people, “Who wrote most of the New Testament?” they’d probably say Paul, because he wrote thirteen letters. But actually, Luke wrote most of the New Testament because the books of Luke and Acts together comprise more of the New Testament than any other author — which is why we named our first son Luke, but nobody calls him Luke anymore; he goes by Karsten.

  • Paul wrote those thirteen letters.
  • James, the Lord’s brother, wrote a letter.
  • Peter and Jude wrote letters.
  • And finally, John (who wrote the fourth Gospel) wrote the letters that bear his name, along with Revelation.

Inspired to Display Glory

Those are the human authors who wrote the Bible. But here’s one of the most important things, and I’ll end with this, which needs to be said.

Just as the heavens are telling the glory of God, so that we should be able to look at nature and discern in it the hand of God (Psalm 19:1), and just as John said of Jesus Christ, “We have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father” (John 1:14), so that those who saw Jesus should have discerned that this is the Son of God, in the same way, the glory of God shines forth from his handiwork in the very word of God that he inspired — the Bible — through the human authors, so that we can say, in a similar way, that we have seen here the hand of God, the truth of God. This is his word.

John Piper (@JohnPiper) is founder and teacher of and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary. For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota. He is author of more than 50 books, including Desiring God: Meditations of a Christian Hedonist and most recently Providence.


2 Corinthians 4

The Light of the Gospel

1 Therefore, having this ministry by the mercy of God,we do not lose heart. 2 But we have renounced disgraceful, underhanded ways. We refuse to practice cunning or to tamper with God’s word, but by the open statement of the truth we would commend ourselves to everyone’s conscience in the sight of God. 3 And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing. 4 In their case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. 5 For what we proclaim is not ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord, with ourselves as your servants for Jesus’ sake. 6 For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.

Treasure in Jars of Clay

7 But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us. 8 We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; 9 persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; 10 always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies. 11 For we who live are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh. 12 So death is at work in us, but life in you. 13 Since we have the same spirit of faith according to what has been written, “I believed, and so I spoke,” we also believe, and so we also speak, 14 knowing that he who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us also with Jesus and bring us with you into his presence. 15 For it is all for your sake, so that as grace extends to more and more people it may increase thanksgiving, to the glory of God. 16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. 17 For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, 18 as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.

‘Breast milk’ for adults could soon be a $1bn market

Studies suggest that a component of human milk could provide health benefits for grown-ups as well as babies, but some scientists remain sceptical

Mother’s milk isn’t just for babies anymore.

Global chemical giants DowDuPont and BASF are investing millions to ramp up production of an indigestible sugar found naturally in breast milk. Infant formula makers like Nestle can’t get enough of the synthetic ingredient. Now the companies are eyeing a potentially bigger customer: adults. DuPont estimates the annual market could reach $1bn (£770m).

Human milk oligosaccharide is the third most common solid in breast milk, after lactose and fat. HMO escapes digestion, allowing it to reach the colon where it feeds beneficial bacteria. HMOs may explain why breast-fed babies tend to fare better than formula-fed, said Rachael Buck, who leads HMO research at Similac formula-maker Abbott Laboratories.

“It’s just been a fascinating treasure trove of benefits that we’ve uncovered,’’ Buck said.

In babies, HMOs strengthen the developing immune system, helping fight infection and inflammation while aiding brain development, according to early research. New studies show those benefits may extend to people of all ages, fitting neatly into consumers’ growing fascination with probiotics — the “good” bacteria that can help keep a human body healthy.

Synthetic HMOs come from the formula industry’s quest to manufacture a breast-milk substitute that’s as close to the real thing as possible. The purported benefits are still viewed with skepticism by some in the scientific community — especially when they come at a premium price.

“Never assume that the addition of a component of human milk actually makes the formula like human milk,’’ said Steven Abrams, chair of the American Academy of Pediatrics committee on nutrition. “It’s not,” said Abrams, a Dell Medical School professor at the University of Texas at Austin.

HMOs could lead to treatments for adult ailments such as irritable bowel syndrome, allergies and even the ageing brain, Buck said. An animal study at Abbott’s labs showed that HMO stimulated the vagus nerve, “a superhighway communicating from gut to brain,” she said. “This has the potential to help both brain development early in life and, later in life, brain decline.”

Commercial production is typically accomplished through a fermentation process using giant vats filled with microbes genetically engineered to produce specific HMO varieties, such as 2’FL.

DuPont plans to spend $40m building out its HMO production capacity this year, its second biggest capital investment after expanding a factory that makes Tyvek. Meanwhile, it’s partnering with Lonza Group AG to make enough product to meet current demand. DuPont will become a stand-alone company when it splits from DowDuPont on 1 June.

After two decades of research, Abbott was first to bring HMOs to the US baby nutrition market in 2016. It’s now expanded to 15 countries. Nestle last year rolled out HMO formula in Gerber and other brands across 40 countries. HMOs nourish bacteria that “train’’ immune system cells, 80 percent of which reside in the gut, said Jose Saavedra, Nestle chief medical officer.

The health claims propelled about $600m in sales of HMO formula last year for each of Abbott and Nestle.

Among Abbott’s customers was Heidi Haydock, a senior manager at Cardinal Health, who two years ago wasn’t able to breast feed her newborn son because she was undergoing chemotherapy for breast cancer. Concerned about the development of his digestive system, she fed him Similac with HMO.

“With a mom who can’t give breast milk, you kind of feel deficient,’’ Haydock said. “Being able to give the next best alternative made me feel better.’’

While some research indicates advantages to HMO-enhanced formula, it’s not clear that there’s a long-term health difference, Abrams said. In the US, babies fed generic formulas, which are as much as 50 per cent cheaper, have outcomes “every bit as good’’ as those fed pricier formulas, Abrams said.

Even in nature, breast milk can vary depending on the different kinds of sugars produced by each mother. DuPont and BASF are focusing on making the most common version of HMO, which consists of the 2’FL sugar. That’s where the benefits can be seen most clearly, according to Nestle’s Saavedra: Babies getting 2’FL from their mothers have slightly lower rates of acute infection than babies whose mothers are deficient in that HMO.

BASF began scaling up production of 2’FL earlier this year, and it’s studying how the different health effects of HMOs might be developed into a range of products beyond baby formula.

“Our aim is to expand on our scientific know-how on specific health functions of HMOs to adults as well,” said Stefan Ruedenauer, BASF director of human nutrition research and development. “BASF will have a pipeline of science-driven products with substantial health benefits of HMOs in the near future.”

Smaller rivals making the ingredient include closely held Jennewein Biotechnologie and FrieslandCampina of Germany.

Danish biotechnology company Glycom is targeting the adult digestive health market with HMO supplements it began selling in the US and Europe late last year. The company touts its Holigos IBS product as managing symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome, including abdominal pain, constipation diarrhoea and bloating. It sells 28 doses on Amazon for $50.

HMO is just one part of DuPont’s larger foray into digestive health, a loosely regulated market growing 20 per cent a year. The company sees an estimated $5bn annual opportunity developing gut-health products, though some experts question whether the supplements benefit everyone. DuPont is already a leader in probiotics, offering the widest variety of strains and operating the world’s largest probiotics fermentation plant, in Rochester, New York.

DuPont’s is marketing its 2’FL HMO, branded as CARE4U, to consumer manufacturers who can use it in adult supplements for digestive and immune health, said Ratna Mukherjea, global research and development leader at DuPont.

DuPont is researching how to produce more of the 130 or so HMO varieties found in breast milk as the company identifies those with the most potential health benefits, Mukherjea said. More HMO varieties are already in the commercial pipeline.

“This is just the beginning for HMO,’’ she said.


A sinful woman forgiven by Christ

36 When one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, he went to the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. 37 A woman in that town who lived a sinful life learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, so she came there with an alabaster jar of perfume. 38 As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them.

39 When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner.”

40 Jesus answered him, “Simon, I have something to tell you.”

“Tell me, teacher,” he said.

41 “Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, c and the other fifty. 42 Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?”

43 Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.”

“You have judged correctly,” Jesus said.

44 Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. 46 You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. 47 Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.”

48 Then Jesus said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.”

49 The other guests began to say among themselves, “Who is this who even forgives sins?”

50 Jesus said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”

c 41 A denarius was the usual daily wage of a day laborer (see Matt. 20:2).

My notes:

vv. 44-46: the woman’s actions towards the Lord were more personal and intimate than if she simply used water or a cloth. God deeply values bodily intimacy.

Till Death do Us Part

Most beautiful maid, I see you as you wake up in the middle of the night filled with joy, taking pleasure in what your body does for us. I see how you sacrifice your time and comfort for me. You are the most beautiful of women.

For my sake, you put your body through some major hormonal changes. Care is in your genes.

You’re a fountain of blessing and refreshment. I find you so irresistibly beautiful, I shower you with profuse attention and affection.

All this love I have here is yours.

I give your breasts the softest caresses as you gently stroke my hair. We throb together. I want you more than ever.

When I’m out working hard for us, you express your excess for me. You sacrifice everything. Words can’t describe my love for you.
You have captivated me, you, most worthy of women, who daily feeds me her essence.

Your breasts are soft and inviting. You do things with them that are so sweet, feminine and arousing, I move to plant the most tender kisses on your forehead.

The juice squeezed from your pomegranates stays dripping and overflowing. Oh, how lovely you are. I can’t help giving you one on the lips.

I drain your warm, sweet goodness right out. I cherish every drop. Among women, you and you alone are my delight.

I love you sacrificially with the same love with which Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.

Our special love has you feeling feminine in the most natural sense. You’ve realized a sense of power and fulfillment you never knew you were missing.

‘Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.’ Darling, I’d gladly take a bullet for you.

I increasingly place your needs above mine.
I love you, because He first loved me. Ever since He gave us new hearts, life and love make perfect sense. Selfishness isn’t part of our vocabulary.

You are the apple of my eye, my treasure. This beautiful love we have won’t perish but shall only grow into Christ-like maturity.
Lord willing, we’ll grow old together, nurse well into our seventies, depart and be buried side-by-side.

“Be thou ravished with her love”, God commands me. I give my full obedience — I ravish every ounce of you as we quite literally become one. Forever united. Inseparable. For all eternity, we are one body and soul, even into the grave.

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14:

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24:

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15:

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29:

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?

From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

More from husband-baby tandem breastfeeding couple

A woman who breastfeeds her baby and husband in tandem is a beautiful, powerful, empowered, multi-tasking, divine, blessed mama and wife.

No, nursing doesn’t have to have any sexual connotations. Tandem breastfeeding of child and husband could simply be family time, because women can breastfeed their husbands without being sexually aroused.

Notice the beginning of the video, where Veronika Robinson says people are scared of breastfeeding and sexuality, but they’re not scared when a 20-year-old walks around showing cleavage, although breasts are actually meant for feeding our children [and husbands!]. Veronika, who breastfed her toddler and newborn in tandem, recalls that “it just felt very empowering” to have the toddler introduced to her sister to share that special bond at the breast.

At this point, the narrator acquaints us with Paul, the tandem breastfed dad, when she says “in the early days, dad wasn’t going to be left out either.” Paul then asks “where’s mine?” followed by mild laughter.

See the original post for the rest of the conversation about Veronika breastfeeding her husband Paul in tandem with one of her daughters.

Besides Christ, what could be better than holding your baby with one hand and husband with the other and feeding them both?

Veronika offers a fitting conclusion, in a way that relates to my story. It’s a natural gift she couldn’t imagine not giving her children, and they in turn will give theirs, and it will be second nature, so its perpetuity is ensured.

Here’s even more from Veronika and one of her followers:

“No, my sex life has not suffered because of breastfeeding. Nor has it for my husband. Many people suggest that it is difficult for men to be at the back of the queue when kids come along, and goodness me, how did my poor husband cope with not being first in line? Well, I am blessed with an emotionally and mentally mature husband. He has never felt jealous or needy. He knows I love and adore him. That doesn’t change because I’m breastfeeding the two children who were created from our love! It is hardly beneficial to parenting if the partner is acting like a needy child. 

NO, my nipples have never hurt. Sore nipples are the result of the baby not latching on properly. If a woman has sore nipples, she needs to get help immediately. Nature intended that breastfeeding be enjoyable. If your health visitor or midwife don’t know how to help your baby latch on, then please, contact LLL (La Leche League) or the ABM (Association of Breastfeeding Mothers) or , better still, an experienced breastfeeding mother. Many women give up breastfeeding because of sore nipples. Latching on correctly is very easy to address.

I’ve been asked over and over if I’m concerned about my breasts changing shape because of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding does not change the shape of your breasts, PREGNANCY does! And how could a mother not value her breasts, regardless of their shape, when she has fully nourished her children through them? So what if they aren’t a certain size or a certain shape? My kids and husband love them the way they are. Why should I care what the average man on the street thinks of them? I don’t!!”

“I was just reading today about breastfeeding, in the Bible of all places.. Psalm 131, verse 2: “But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me.” The study notes explain that the Psalmist has learned to rely on God for his needs, as a weaned child has learned to trust its mother for all its needs. A child weaned before its time (or worse, never breastfed) will not, can not, have this trust in his/her mother. Ancient Judeo-Christian culture valued breastfeeding, whether by the birth mother, a wet nurse or both, and the Jews would throw parties when a child was weaned (at about 3 or 4 years old). Weaning was considered a ‘ripening’ – you don’t pull the fruit from the tree before it is ripe, you allow it to fall off when it is ready! Pulling it off too soon will spoil the fruit! I truly believe that the key to all sin is pride/selfishness, including the selfishness of mothers who choose not to bf, and the selfishness of those who discourage or try to stop bf’ing. God created bf’ing, along with childbirth and the role of women as mothers and primary caregivers, and He said that everything He made is ‘very good’. It is sin and arrogance to say that we know better than God, or to call ‘bad’ what He calls ‘good’. Never stop educating people, Veronika.”

The straight-laced and the legalist

I once got into a debate with a legalistic Christian about exceeding speed limits. I have no qualms whatsoever about doing so because I know judges dismiss tickets earned for driving a few miles per hour above posted limits. He insisted I was sinning. He failed to see his flawed logic. If judges who uphold the law agree I wasn’t breaking the law, then who was he to tell me I was?

If even God can temporarily break his own rules to save sinners, who is man to question him?

Moralistic and straight-laced Christians are people who have so boxed themselves into law-keeping that they’re unable to process the possibility of setting aside what feels good from what is good.

Running red lights and driving at 60 in a 30 feels dangerous. Because it is. But if performed by an ambulance rushing to save lives, it’s an act of grace.

Suckling a lactating woman’s breasts feels infantile. But if hundreds of couples report the marital benefits of such a practice, we might do ourselves a service to listen, especially if God’s word also appears to corroborate.

Turning the other cheek to bless the one who slaps you feels shockingly stupid. But if Jesus commands it, we comply.

Because something feels strange or even dangerous doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Don’t trust your feelings.

Skip the straight-laced vanilla

From conversations during dates, prod for signs of your prospective spouse being too vanilla and straight-laced.

Skip those, and instead go for those who are open minded and adventurous.

Kinky and sexually adventurous need not be mutually exclusive with godly or holy.

What’s kinky vs. vanilla is defined subjectively and culturally. God’s word leaves room for sexual exploration and kink between couples.

So, with absolute purity, aim for the type that’s less vanilla, less straight-laced, more open minded and kinky, at least relative to your society’s standards.

An imperial symbol of torture and execution has miraculously become a globally-recognized token of grace.

Torture and execution is somehow now our victory symbol.

The same act meant to nourish infants is now being rediscovered for what it is– a rare gift between a man and woman, with power to save marriages on the rocks.

But many die-hard critics are resisting.

Pride runs deep. Humans are so prideful that we’ll never fully realize the depth of our arrogance. My friend who said the Song of Solomon makes him stumble is one of the most humble Christians I ever met. Yet even he is hellishly prideful next to Christ, because if you listen closely to his heart, you hear the pride loud and clear. What he’s saying is “my moral standards are higher than God’s, so I refuse to read His book on erotica.”

I’m astounded at how infinitely humble yet infinitely confident Christ is. No other human being in history harmoniously possesses this potentially tenuous mix of virtues.

If you’re anti-ANR, the reason you can’t fathom putting the words ‘breastfeeding’ and ‘grown men’ together is your pride. There’s absolutely nothing medically or spiritually wrong with it but you’ve been morally dumbfounded into creating your own code of ethics. You are too prideful to admit there’s nothing wrong with breastfeeding one’s husband, so you make up your own “issues” with it.

You are more prideful than you will ever realize in this lifetime, or the one to come.

You’re more fallen than you have the mental capacity to grasp. You’re more depraved on more levels than you’d ever realize. Your mind, will, emotions, psyche, morality, heart, and body are all far too corrupted by your pride and rebellion. Your ability to discern truth is radically impaired by your sin and pride.

Once a grim reminder of terror, shame and violence, we now proudly use as our victory symbol

The Good Samaritan

25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”

27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’[a]; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b]

28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”

29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”

30 In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[c] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’

36 “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?”

37 The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.”

Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.”

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  1. Luke 10:27 Deut. 6:5
  2. Luke 10:27 Lev. 19:18
  3. Luke 10:35 A denarius was the usual daily wage of a day laborer (see Matt. 20:2).

‘I want to be able to give my husband a safe place where he can come home at the end of a long day and let all the worries and stress fall away.’

– K, ANR-desirous

‘I want to have a relaxing, cozy home for my husband to come home to; his safe-haven from the day to day grind’

– Jeanne, 50 year old ANR-aspiring doula

I found another ANR-desiring woman online who said she’s really good at making people comfortable and would rather give than receive massages.

From “A wife’s loving comfort” on Christ-centered ANR

See also:

God’s loving comfort

Systemic bias against smaller-breasted women

Years ago, I posted an admonition to think of large breasts as a bonus, as ANR desire is independent of bra size.

Notwithstanding this apprisal, I’ve very recently been made aware of my systemic bias against smaller-chested women, which I suspect many other ANR men hold. This bias isn’t so much because I’m a man as it is the result of seeing mostly well-endowed women on ANR sites.

Prior to delving into ANR research almost 10 years ago, I was an equal opportunity breast admirer. But my increasing ANR interest shifted my preference towards larger busts.

The major eye-opening revelation that made me aware of my bias was two-fold. First was when I came across online sources that stated smaller breasts are more sensitive. Makes sense, come to think of it. Nerve endings are more tightly packed in a smaller area.

This, combined with my recently published finding that less-endowed women aren’t as confident in their chests, must account for why the overwhelming majority of female pictures on ANR dating sites prominently feature large breasts, with thousands of pictureless profiles on said sites. I now realize that skipping profiles without pictures is probably a mistake. Smaller-breasted women who might be a little less secure in their bodies should be given a chance. Their desire for ANRs may be just as strong, or perhaps even stronger, since they possess greater breast nerve ending density.

ANR men tend to be boob men. And ANR women with pictures online tend to have boobs. Thus, the system is set up to exclude a large segment of nurses who would kill to have a man enjoy their hypersensitive mammary glands.

Sustained lactation is the biological norm

The external article below perfectly supports my thesis that God designed women to breastfeed forever. See Feminine distinctives, where I made that point.

“In reproductive physiology, lactation follows pregnancy. In traditional populations, children continue to breastfeed for 3 to 4 years, suggesting that sustained lactation is the biological norm. However, cultural norms are markedly different; while breastfeeding rates in the US have risen dramatically over the past 40 years, just 22.3% of US mothers are able meet consensus medical recommendations for 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding, and only 30.7% continue to breastfeeding through one year. Evidence continues to accrue that this disruption of normal physiology is associated with adverse health outcomes for mothers and children, including higher maternal rates of breast and ovarian cancer and higher childhood rates of acute lymphocytic leukemia. These data suggest that enabling more women to breastfeed may be an effective cancer prevention strategy” (Emphasis mine).

Full article immediately below

Reducing breast, ovarian cancer and childhood leukemia risk by enabling women to breastfeed

Abstracts: AACR Special Conference: Improving Cancer Risk Prediction for Prevention and Early Detection; November 16-19, 2016; Orlando, FL


In reproductive physiology, lactation follows pregnancy. In traditional populations, children continue to breastfeed for 3 to 4 years, suggesting that sustained lactation is the biological norm. However, cultural norms are markedly different; while breastfeeding rates in the US have risen dramatically over the past 40 years, just 22.3% of US mothers are able meet consensus medical recommendations for 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding, and only 30.7% continue to breastfeeding through one year. Evidence continues to accrue that this disruption of normal physiology is associated with adverse health outcomes for mothers and children, including higher maternal rates of breast and ovarian cancer and higher childhood rates of acute lymphocytic leukemia. These data suggest that enabling more women to breastfeed may be an effective cancer prevention strategy.

In this session, we will review evidence supporting a protective association between lactation and cancer risk for mothers and children. We will further explore evidence-based strategies to assist women in initiating and sustaining breastfeeding.

A recent simulation study found that enabling 90% of women to breastfeed optimally after each birth, defined as 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding and continued breastfeeding for 1 year, would lower population rates of maternal breast cancer and childhood acute lymphocytic leukemia (ALL). In this MCMC simulation, authors considered the impact of a change in breastfeeding rates from current to optimal conditions for a cohort of women born in a single year and followed from age 15 to 70. Under steady state conditions, these results approximate the annual impact of optimal breastfeeding across the population. The authors found that enabling optimal breastfeeding would prevent 185 cases of ALL [95% CI 49 to 309] and 5,023 cases of breast cancer [3,965 to 6,021], as well as 42 breast cancer deaths [22 to 62]. Evidence-based public health strategies to increase breastfeeding rates have been promulgated by the U.S. Surgeon General in the 2011 Call to Action to Support Breastfeeding. These strategies span various socioecological factors that influence whether a woman decides to breastfeed, and whether she is able to sustain breastfeeding in the setting of social and practical constraints.

Targeted efforts are further needed to address substantial racial and ethnic disparities in breastfeeding rates, particularly given evidence that never having breastfed is associated with an increased risk of triple-negative breast cancer among black women. Promising strategies include incorporating peer and profession support into prenatal and postpartum care, implementing the WHO Ten Steps, a set of evidence-based maternity care practices, enacting paid parental leave, and ensuring that child care providers enable families to continue breastfeeding.

Disruption of breastfeeding is associated with adverse population health outcomes for mothers and children, including breast cancer and ALL. Strategies that enable more women to initiate and sustain breastfeeding should be incorporated into cancer prevention work.

Source: “Reducing cancer risk by enabling women to breastfeed,” by Alison Stuebe, American Association for Cancer Research, May 2017,

Breastfeeding reduces breast cancer risk

Breast cancer is the most common cause of cancer death among women and it is one of the leading causes of death among women. Factors that appear to be implicated in decreasing the risk of breast cancer are regular breast examinations by health care professionals, regular mammograms, self-examination of breasts, healthy diet, and exercise to decrease excess body fat, and breastfeeding.

Source: “Reducing cancer risk by enabling women to breastfeed,” by Alison Stuebe, American Association for Cancer Research, May 2017,

Breasts and Body Image

Many women regard their breasts as important to their sexual attractiveness, as a sign of femininity that is important to their sense of self. A woman with smaller breasts may regard her breasts as less attractive.


Breast Size Perception and Satisfaction, Body Image, and Psychological Functioning in Caucasian and Asian American College Women, by
Elissa Koff & Amy Benavage,

How I induced lactation for my husband and I

I have been in an adult breastfeeding relationship with my husband since I turned 27, so for the past nine years, almost 10. I didn’t realize how many couples were into nursing relationships until I started looking around online. 

I found that many couples have had issues or problems inducing lactation so I thought I would write this article to help some couples “figure  it out.” Below you will find a very in-depth guide on how I induced lactation for my husband… and myself. Yes, I admit it… I found it to be a very erotic thought.

First… Why me and my husband decided to induce lactation 

I have no children of my own, my husband brought a son and daughter to our marriage with him though. I love them to death and think of them as my very own.

I do wish that I could have experienced pregnancy and breastfeeding though as I am sure most women would. Anyways I digress to my point.

Me and my husband were talking about different things we could do to spice up our sexual relationship one evening when the topic of breastfeeding came up. Although he did have two children with his ex-wife, she would not let him experience adult breastfeeding. She thought that it was disgusting and “animalistic” lol.

I did some research and learned that you can induce lactation “easily.” The reality is that it is not easy to induce, despite the difficulty I was very successful at it and have been lactating for almost 10 years at this point. I am hesitant to say it is not easy, what I should probably say is that it takes a lot of time, dedication and planning.

One word of caution is that if you plan to induce lactation and breastfeed your husband […] it will significantly change the appearance of your breasts and nipples. This was not an issue for me, but it could be for some people.

How I induced lactation for my husband and I 

First off, there are drugs available that will help you lactate. I did NOT use these drugs to induce lactation except for Yasmin birth control pills. I was successful only using only these pills, my husband, a good breast pump, massages and herbs. To be successful at inducing lactation you must have dedication, time and be very patient.

Inducing lactation supply list 

My schedule or protocol for inducing lactation 

  1. Day 0 to 60 – I took  Yasmin brand birth control for 60 days; this is the first step I took to induce lactation. I know that some women take it much longer, I would guess that 9 months would be the best length of time. It is important that you ONLY take the active pills. This tricks your body into thinking it is pregnant. I was not on any birth control prior to this. WARNING: I am not a doctor or medical professional. Do not take medication without talking to your physician first. Sorry, had to say that! 

After about 60 days my breasts felt tender and sore, my bust also increased somewhat in size.

2. Day 54 – I started taking herbs.

3. Day 61 – I stopped taking Yasmin.

 4. Day 61 – 62 I started pumping my breasts with a quality breast pump (double pump) or having my husband suck on my nipples. Make sure that at least an inch of your areola is in your [husband’s] mouth while he rhythmically sucks. You may experience some discomfort, but you will get through it and your nipples will get a little tougher.

For the first two days I pumped every two hours for 6 to 8 minutes on each breast. This will end up being about 12 times a day. I set the pump at a med-high in strength.

5. Day 63 to milk – I pumped every four hours after day 63 for about 8 minutes on each breast. You will find that a double pump will save you tons of time.  If I remember correctly, I started getting breast milk about two to three weeks later, so about day 80 or so. These were only drops of milk though.

Over the course of the year I gained more milk month by month.

6. Currently – I have sustained my ample milk supply for almost ten years at this point. I pump or breastfeed my husband three times a day. I donate a ton of milk to my local milk bank.

If took about a year from start to finish until my breasts were completely full of milk and heavy. 

My breast pumping procedure 

  1. I give myself a breast massage with very firm pressure starting at the top of by boobs and work down to the nipple/areola.
  2. I drag my fingers lightly up and down my breasts, kind of like tickling them. This give me let-down.
  3. I then dangle my breasts, jiggle and flop them around while bent over. This allows the milk to start flowing to the nipple.
  4. I then start pumping or nursing and completely drain my breasts.

How long it took to induce lactation 

From the start to FULL milk production it was one year. My first milk drops appeared at about 3 months, maybe a little less.

My diet while inducing 

During the first year I ate old fashioned oatmeal, salads, lean meats, yogurt and nuts. Oranges are also good for you when trying to produce breastmilk. Basically, I tried to eat as healthy as possible and include any foods known to help with breast milk production. I took prenatal vitamins for the first three months also.

What is the Best breast pump to induce lactation with? 

The best breast pump

The Medela Pump in Style Advanced is exactly what I used, it is close to hospital grade. A cheap breast pump will not work as well because the suction is less life like. I have tried them all at this point and am very satisfied with my purchase. Remember you need to trick your body into think it has a real baby.

My menstrual cycle and lactation 

It is not uncommon for women to have irregular or no period while lactating. This was a surprise for me, I thought something was wrong at first. Have no fear if you start missing periods, it’s means that you are making milk!

Hands Free!

Nursing bras are a must 

Nursing bras are a must for me, I own nothing else. I also always wear a nipple pad in case I leak breast milk. I love these nursing bras from amazon, great price also. […]

Stay stress free 

It is important to be relaxed and stress free while you are pumping or nursing. Stress can interfere with the let-down reflex. Let-down is when your body allows the milk to flow from your milk ducts to the actual nipple.

Sometimes hearing a baby cry can cause let-down in breastfeeding women. It is not a crazy idea to watch videos of babies or listen to baby noises while pumping to induce lactation. This can often help stimulate the let-down reflex.

Breast and nipple changes while breastfeeding 

If you are going to induce lactation for your husband […], I promise you he will not want you to stop. After 10 years of breastfeeding my breasts are a lot different than they use to be. I am not saying this to discourage anyone at all, just expect changes.

Long term breastfeeding has made my once perky-ish 38D breasts saggy and stretched out. My nipples are also much larger and stick out all the time with great definition.

Can anyone induce lactation for their husband? 

I can not answer this question. Every woman’s body is different, every breast is different. From the research I have done I believe it is safe to say that the vast majority of women can induce lactation.

A few points about inducing lactation and adult breastfeeding 

After 10 years of an adult breastfeeding relationship I still enjoy it and so does my husband, it is an amazing experience that brings us closer together. […]

If you have questions or comments, please leave them below! Good luck to you and I hope you can induce lactation for your husband as easily as I was able to.


More on inducing

From an ANR group:

Inducing is all about making the brain think there’s a baby to feed.

It requires 15-20 minutes every 3-4 hours of pumping, suckling, massage, or a TENS unit.

It took me 4 months of pumping to have milk. I got impatient and ordered dom, then it only took me 2 weeks.

Dom is an OTC not available in the US, and one of its side effects is lactation.

A lady inducing is not going to have the same supply as a lady who has recently given birth. A new Mom has much more milk.

There is a good podcast on inducing called Lactation Station. The podcast is on iTunes, stitcher and I heart radio

In my experience tapering off the dom has decreased my supply. However getting suckled 3-4 times a week I was able to reduce a little and keep a decent supply

For God so loved the world that He GAVE

God, by nature, is a self-giver.

Women, by nature, are also self-givers.

Women’s bodies were created to give life, and their personalities and characters also align with this self-giving mission.

Research shows over and over that if women and girls are invested in, they tend to reinvest in their communities and those near and dear.

Also, in my poll Self-sucking?, the majority response has been along the lines of “no, it’s not for me to indulge, as my milk was given to me to serve my husband and enhance our relationship.”

That women’s bodies make food that nourishes others only keeps fascinating me and leaving me in awe.

In the incarnation, God became personally, intimately and physically involved in his creation. In the same way, women desire to be intimately involved with their husbands by feeding them the milk their bodies make.

And what do godly ANR-seeking women like Jeanne and K say? Both express similar desires to have a famished and stressed out man find solace and reinvigoration by feeding from their beautiful, powerful, ethereal, divine, God’s-image-bearing femininity.

Christ is the gift that keeps on giving. As we celebrate this season of Advent, let’s reflect on the true meaning of grace, and give generously to our spouses and loved ones.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

John 3:16

Don’t trust your heart

I read my Bible daily and have almost never missed a day in many years.

But a few weeks ago, some ANR research had me flimsily read for several consecutive days. I read only for less than two minutes, knowing my heart wasn’t really in it, and that my primary desire was to check off a box and immediately go do more ANR research.

Researching Couples Nursing isn’t inherently sinful. But when it cuts into our personal time with God, it’s time to stop and mourn.