God hates waste; he loves people and emotional warmth

“The LORD alone is God! He created the heavens and made a world where people can live, instead of creating an empty desert. The LORD alone is God; there are no others.”

Isaiah 45:18, CEV


“For thus says the LORD, who created the heavens (he is God!), who formed the earth and made it (he established it; he did not create it empty, he formed it to be inhabited!): “I am the LORD, and there is no other.”

ESV

Should I pursue medical wet nursing?

Be extremely careful. It’s too easy to be blindsided by, and end up rationalizing our sin.

Perhaps you have a health condition treatable with breast milk, and you’re considering finding a wet nurse, or nursing a sick man.

To do this without sinning, you need to head over to China or similar country, find a hospital that practices adult wet nursing for health benefits, with many safety protocols such as cameras in place, and a no contact below the waist policy, with all nursing taking place in full view of hospital administrators. The keyword is witnesses.

Anything less, and you won’t be avoiding the appearance of evil which 1 Thess. 5:22 warns us about.

If you can’t make it out to an Asian country where medical wet nursing might be a remote possibility, then surround yourself with many witnesses who can attest to the nonsexual nature of your nursing sessions.

Or you can seek expressed milk. Or just wait till marriage, thereby altogether avoiding the possibility of sinning against a holy God.

The more intimate you are with Christ, the more likely he’ll open your eyes to ways you’ve been blinded by your sin. He’ll get you right back on track.

Repost: Adult breastfeeding wet nurses … for chronically sick and above reproach patients only

“Historically, women have breastfed adults who were sickly to help build their immune systems. The practice has continued more recently than you might realize in countries such as China.”

To a few guys out there, refrain from jumping the gun.

Your headache is not an occasion to seek a wet nurse. There’s no medical evidence to prove ingesting breast milk cures headaches, nor does it treat paper cuts, the common cold, insect bites, hiccups, anxiety, or job pressures.

Don’t move to China because you have a stomach ache. Treat it wherever God placed you, and refocus your heart and mind on Him.

If he didn’t want to taste my breast milk, now that’ll be weird

“There’s nothing weird about a husband being curious about the taste of breast milk. When nursing a baby, if my husband didn’t want to taste my breast milk, now that’s what would really be weird. If he completely avoided my breasts for the twelve months I spent nursing our infant, that’ll be unusual and strange.”

— German woman

In the coming weeks, I hope to post another interesting adult nursing tidbit I learned about Germany, Japan, Hawaii and Guam.

The God who yokes himself to his Bride

Christian, you were born dead and unresponsive, until Jesus Christ decided to take the initiative and yoke himself to you, thus breathing life into your formerly useless lungs.

Now, God’s cup of wrath towards you is empty. You now wear his righteousness. What’s more, Christ is still advocating for you right this moment. His bloody fight for you didn’t stop at the Cross. He is currently interceding on your behalf this very instant with his Father. You’re now drinking deeply of his ocean of grace and his blood flows through your veins. You have a loving, tender and sweet relationship with the Savior of the world, through whom the Universe was made, and he has your back no matter what. He took on the form of a slave, voluntarily put a yoke around his neck and eternally tied himself to you because he loves you so. Now that you’re drinking his blood and eating his flesh, you’re complete. You lack nothing. No pleasures of this life can satisfy, and all human intimacy is only but a shadow and copy of that which you enjoy with the Messiah. The loving tenderness you enjoy or will enjoy with your spouse only points to the sweet, deep, abiding intimacy you’re privileged to have with Yeshua, the righteous One.

“My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world.”

— 1 John 2:1-2

Commitment

Women are more commitment- and family-oriented than men. In fact, I’d argue that innate wiring is precisely one of the greatest things that draws them to this relationship.

I’ve heard multiple ANR women stress the importance of finding the right man, to whom they enjoy unrestricted access, prior to bringing in the milk, because of the great deal of commitment required to induce and maintain the milk flow.

The deep, sacred bond of togetherness and intimacy is the pull factor for all Couples Nursers, more so for women.

Skip the tomboy

Tomboyishness versus femininity can only be ascertained through conversation. Yes, you can see signs of both from afar in some women, but looks can be deceptive.

ANR desire is more about who a person is on the inside than external attributes. The spirit is more important than the shell.

So men, I’d exhort you to be forthcoming. Tell her you seek the comforting feminine type, not the tomboy.

Women, the confidently vulnerable, non-Puritanical man is your likely bet.

Cherish your wife by drinking from her

“If Song of Solomon had never been written, and you never saw how men were supposed to cherish their women, and look at Ephesians 5 where they nourished their wives…”

— Lecrae, Like That

Drinking from her breasts is a way to cherish your wife.


“I would give you some spiced wine to drink, some juice squeezed from my pomegranates.”

— Song of Solomon 8:2

A huge mighty God who chooses the least likely, such as nursing, and the Cross

“A huge, mighty God who chooses the least likely.”

— Shai Linne, Election

God prefers to use the unlikeliest, even the taboo, to glorify himself, for example, using a woman nursing her husband to bring unrivaled stability to marriages. Or his Son becoming a curse to rescue sinful men from the curse of sin, which they rightfully earned.

Adult nursing hospitals

Honestly, some relics of the past need to be brought back to life.

I was just thinking of how an adult breastfeeding hospital, even in 2021, could be a viable option for those suffering from chronic illnesses treatable with breast milk.

Consider this previously quoted line:

“Historically, women have breastfed adults who were sickly to help build their immune systems. The practice has continued more recently than you might realize in countries such as China.”

Breast milk is known to help fight cancer, and to contain other health-boosting ingredients. So we could resurrect the practice of nursing the deathly sick, in very professional, well-monitored healthcare settings.

I picture each adult nursing hospital being equipped with cameras to prevent any hanky-panky and patients signing statements of abstention from all touching below the waist, though patients who are sick and dying probably won’t care for sexual engagement. Moreover, the hospitals would employ only highly professional staff, with wet nurses screened for optimal health. All patients would be well-vetted, with their severe illnesses verified prior to acceptance.

Medical wet nursing is an act of service of the past whose resurrection would greatly benefit modern society.

Stop drinking only water, and use a little wine because of your stomach and your frequent illnesses.

2 Timothy 5:23, on the validity of alternative medicine

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14:

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24:

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15:

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29:

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?

From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

Ancient Breastfeeding

Ancient Egyptians believed in breastfeeding

Even pagans realized the divine value of breastfeeding. Take another look at the relief. Notice how the person she’s breastfeeding isn’t a baby. Now I know pagans engaged in all kinds of strange and sinful customs, but there were cross-cultural similarities between different ancient people groups, irrespective of the worship of YHWH. Commentaries such as the NIV Study Bible attest to these similarities.

Conversion

Conversion- Trip Lee

[Mark Dever]
People today are skeptical that anyone can really change
people today start to be learning to accept your internal circumstances
to adapt to them and adjust to them
not to try to fundamentally change them
is any real change possible?
what does the Bible say
about deep, real, personal change?

[Trip Lee]
Yeah, okay, let’s go, yeah
Ay let me grab the mic, wrote this song to tell the truth (Tell it)
Cause rarely do, and yet we hear it, clearly fellas do
Need to get the facts straight, time to get a better view
We learn from our culture, but the Bible is the better school (c’mon)
this time we’ll profit us, but I ain’t talking revenue
talking understanding God and how He makes a fella new (new)
He can take a felon who was stealing’ since a little dude
and He can clean him up though, He can Cinderella you
Not with three steps, it had to be a better you
Cause our hearts are hardened, we headed straight to Hell its true
yeah we need a savior, but we don’t wanna let Him through
No room for Him cause its us up on our pedestals
God is light, He’s the only one who’s got the right fix
we walking in darkness, we ain’t got the right kicks (Nah)
there’s no darkness in Him man, He got just the right mix
grace and truth and He’s known for flipping on that light switch

[Mark Dever]
And certainly one characteristic of a healthy church is this:
A Biblical understanding of conversion, the great change
and the first question we want to ask is this. “Is change needed?”
Now many say “No, not at all, we’re fine.”
But be that as it may, the Bible clearly teaches that change is needed
and we are not fine; in fact we’re in trouble

Verse
Yeah some folks think they Christians just because they sing the right songs
Somebody tricked them, got it twisted like a cyclone
You think its based on your attendance then you’re quite wrong
Darkened in our understanding til’ He turn the lights on
Dirty until he cleaned us, then our guilt is quite gone
Nothing but the blood of Jesus, homie that’s my fight song
Thought you’d get by and you still tipping just like you Mike Jones
You must not be hearing me, like I ain’t got this mic on
God is so holy, in His presence we cant stand (so what)
His Son took on flesh and dwelt off in this wasteland
You should know He raised right after he took our place, manPaid our price though we wasn’t worth it like a fake brand
God is the cause, the Gospel is the means
We raised from the dead, the hostel are redeemed
Transferred to His kingdom, we locked in on His team
Adopted as His children, His flock, we are the kings

Mark Dever- Jesus himself taught us that light has come into the world,
but men love darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil
everyone who does evil hates the light
and will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be exposed
Paul reminded the Ephesian Christians that before they were converted
they were dead in their sins and transgressions, dead! Paul taught that this spiritual death was shared by all.

Verse
Look why you trying to drive home a right view of conversion?
You all on that doctrine, we just trying to worship (what)
But so many churches do you a disservice
Got you thinking that you saved, but you ain’t been purchased
Yeah Jesus loves us, He died up on a tree
but just because He shed His blood don’t mean that that applies to me
(He said) Ya’ll can be united, you can die and rise with Me
Stop trying to clean yourself up, and trust the job to Me
It’s by grace alone, through faith alone
the gospel’s what we base it on
not just random faith at all
Christ is what we place it on
turning from our sins to our Lord who was hanging on
the cross, and behind the scenes He’s the one who changes Holmes
Changes hearts, changes lives, praise Him all my stains are gone
Blameless, sinless Savior, now His righteousness is painted on
That’s how we’re converted, this is something we can’t get wrong
If we’re missing this, we miss it all… fall at His gracious throne

[Mark Dever]
Jesus told everybody that they must turn from their sins
and turn to God
Jesus from the very beginning told people that the great conversion they
need is to turn away from their sins and to turn to God
Christianity does not preach that we can save ourselves
and here is the great puzzle for many
the bible says that this change is a matter really of our character
of our heart, that’s what we need
that’s the change that has to be affected
and that we will not change to making these right choices
if God does not change our heart first

Daughter, let the King be enthralled by your beauty

For the director of music. To the tune of “Lilies.” Of the Sons of Korah. A maskil.[b] A wedding song.

My heart is stirred by a noble theme
    as I recite my verses for the king;
    my tongue is the pen of a skillful writer.

You are the most excellent of men
    and your lips have been anointed with grace,
    since God has blessed you forever.

Gird your sword on your side, you mighty one;
    clothe yourself with splendor and majesty.
In your majesty ride forth victoriously
    in the cause of truth, humility and justice;
    let your right hand achieve awesome deeds.
Let your sharp arrows pierce the hearts of the king’s enemies;
    let the nations fall beneath your feet.
Your throne, O God,[c] will last for ever and ever;
    a scepter of justice will be the scepter of your kingdom.
You love righteousness and hate wickedness;
    therefore God, your God, has set you above your companions
    by anointing you with the oil of joy.
All your robes are fragrant with myrrh and aloes and cassia;
    from palaces adorned with ivory
    the music of the strings makes you glad.
Daughters of kings are among your honored women;
    at your right hand is the royal bride in gold of Ophir.

10 Listen, daughter, and pay careful attention:
    Forget your people and your father’s house.
11 Let the king be enthralled by your beauty;
    honor him, for he is your lord.
12 The city of Tyre will come with a gift,[d]
    people of wealth will seek your favor.
13 All glorious is the princess within her chamber;
    her gown is interwoven with gold.
14 In embroidered garments she is led to the king;
    her virgin companions follow her—
    those brought to be with her.
15 Led in with joy and gladness,
    they enter the palace of the king.

16 Your sons will take the place of your fathers;
    you will make them princes throughout the land.

17 I will perpetuate your memory through all generations;
    therefore the nations will praise you for ever and ever.

Footnotes

  1. Psalm 45:1 In Hebrew texts 45:1-17 is numbered 45:2-18.
  2. Psalm 45:1 Title: Probably a literary or musical term
  3. Psalm 45:6 Here the king is addressed as God’s representative.
  4. Psalm 45:12 Or A Tyrian robe is among the gifts

You’ve gotten the sentence of death to trust the God who raises the dead

We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about the troubles we experienced in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us

2 Corinthians 1:8-10

Relax and put your trust in God. He will take care of you.

I feel a great sense of peace when I choose to trust God in the midst of my troubles. An overwhelming feeling of relief that reinforces my faith in the God who cares.

Women’s heart of God


For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive in the spirit.

1 Peter 3:18

Women are often loyal to, suffer for and care about others more than themselves.

They fiercely defend and protect the men and children in their lives more than their own selves. This is one of the clearest representations of God’s character visible in our time.

He didn’t spare His Son but gave Him up for us all.

Breastfeeding him is a natural outpouring of that self-sacrificial womanly love.

“Love was compressed for all history in that lonely figure on the cross, who said that he could call down angels at any moment on a rescue mission, but chose not to—because of us. At Calvary, God accepted his own unbreakable terms of justice” (Philip Yancy, from Where Is God When It Hurts?)

Repost: ANR outside marriage = adultery

Email I recently received:

“I have  met two Christian men on ANR dating sites and all of them are like myself, in that they were sexually active before they gave their life to Christ. And each of them has the same opinion on nursing vs sex. Each of them believed that nursing can be a permissible act between unwed partners as an alternative to intercourse before marriage. I don’t have an opinion on the subject yet, but I am trying to form one and I’d like the input of someone…I am inclined to agree with them because there is nothing in the scripture prohibiting it  as far as I can tell, though a biblical scholar, I am not. Just wondering if you would be willing to share your opinion and why you feel the way you do. […]”

My response:

“Nursing as a way to prevent pre-marital sex? Well…
You say ‘Though I have been successful in abstaining for  the last seven years, I find this the most difficult thing to control.’ This statement shows that if one engages in an ANR, they’re exposing themselves to temptation. There are many sinful things Scripture doesn’t expressly forbid, masturbation being one. Engaging in an ANR before marriage is another example, because an ANR is something sexual. Ezekiel 23:3, 8 and 21 tell us that breasts also serve a sexual purpose, but human experience also bears witness to their sexual nature apart from Scripture.

Unfortunately, I’ve come across some nursers who deny this but to be very frank, I think they’re suppressing the truth, because nipples are erogenous zones. Some things are just so risky that even if the Bible doesn’t explicitly prohibit them, if you practice them, you place yourself in a danger zone.

“Nancy”, since you’re His child…, God will most likely provide you a godly, loving husband to enjoy this intimacy with. Then you can experience uninhibited ANR joy without worrying about sinning. I’ve come to see God’s infinite wisdom in requiring us to flee from sexual immorality. The passion, joy, selfless service and thrill of marital lovemaking are well worth the wait.

Any kind of nursing with multiple women is a sin as you rightfully point out, whether married to any of them or not. God certainly hates that and doesn’t play around with sexual sin.”

Drink water from your own cistern, water flowing from your own well.

Proverbs 5:15

Read full version in original post.

Blood transfusion

How Christ’s blood was, spiritually speaking, transfused into sinful human veins, is modeled by the way a wife, as an image bearer of Christ, transfers her life- and health-giving milk into her husband’s digestive system.

The medical field has many parallels to Christianity, and to ANR.

Like Christ saved his Bride’s life eternally, she seriously could be saving his temporally.

This is made even sweeter if he suffers from any ailments. She’d be an answer to his prayers in more ways than one.

What could be more beautiful than when women are relied on as lifesavers, in the most literal sense? Is there a better way to realize women’s intrinsic worth than when we view them as holding the key to life and well-being?

See also:

Adult breastfeeding wet nurses

God’s glory from creation: full, milky, dripping breasts

ANR-seeking woman:
“I just like how it feels. And I like the idea of my breasts being full of milk.”

K, ANR-seeking Christian woman:
“[I’m looking for a] man who comes home from a long day of work filled with stress and the worries and frustrations of the day and seeks my full, milky breasts to relax and unwind.”

No one can fault these women at all. I also love full, milky breasts, and not just because I’m a man. If I were a woman, I’d love the idea too.
Full, heavy, milk-dripping breasts connote God’s original design of abundance prior to the Fall.
Without a doubt, the Garden of Eden was a lush place, with overflowing fountains all over the place.

God is pro-bountiful fruits.
He doesn’t like dry wells. In a perfect world, every married woman’s breasts would be full of milk, as Eve’s most likely were.

God will pour His wrath on the sexually immoral

Months ago, I posted a piece on how women have historically breastfed sick adults to boost their immune systems. Unmarried readers, especially men, do not take this as a license to indulge in an ANR.
The context is vastly different.

God considers context and motive. A Chinese woman breastfeeding a deathly sick adult in public view in a hospital in the eighteenth century is very different from you creeping with a lactating woman in 2021. Night and day difference.

Trust me, God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. I’ve seen it happen. I know of a man who won’t stop cheating on his wife despite the firm warnings of his brothers from church. He ended up dying suddenly. There are other reasons that have me convinced God is searching us and nothing escapes His judgment.

He allows the ungodly to have their fun now, knowing they’ll have their day in Court. But the righteous He chastizes right away so we know He is Judge, and He tolerates no competititors.