The Father Who didn’t spare His Son

Rom 8:32 – He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?

2 Cor. 8:9 – For you know the  grace our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake became poor, so that you through his poverty might be rich. 

God gives us more leeway than He gave His own Son.

Jesus’ mission wasn’t to get married, enjoy marital intimacy, or to raise children.

We’re called to Christlikeness, though that’s a goal we can’t perfectly attain. Christ and the Church have different paths with one end goal: God’s glory.

Christ’s atonement on the Cross secured not only our salvation but also our joy, wellbeing and fulfillment, even sexually (John 10:10).

God gives us the freedom to enjoy Couples Nursing, but unfortunately, some self-punishing Christians have gotten things twisted. A famous preacher said “God doesn’t care about your happiness, he cares about your soul.” Is that in the Bible? Another quote I read online stated: “Jesus was around hostile people, so I don’t need to be around people like me.” But Jesus also surrounded Himself with disciples, of whom He had 3 favorites. Still, we’re not Jesus. He had direct access to God and was perfectly able to tune out the sinful distractions you and I wrestle with. That’s why we need intimacy and accountability. Jesus didn’t need His disciples to hold Him accountable. The opposite was true.

Surrounding yourself with friends is actually the expectation. It glorifies God.

And surrounding yourself with your wife’s comforting lactating abundance, or husband’s suckling warmth was the expectation in Solomon’s day. It also glorifies God.

Yet it was the will of the LORD to crush him; he has put him to grief; when his soul makes an offering for guilt, he shall see his offspring; he shall prolong his days; the will of the LORD shall prosper in his hand.

— Isaiah 53:10

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Reblog: Beginning my journey, Finding a schedule and Milky hopes

Three posts from a 30 y.o. woman on a non-Christian ANR site:

First post: Beginning my journey

It was not an easy decision for me to start the process of induction.

I developed my large breasts very early on in life and my love/hate relationship with them strongly influenced my sexual development. Learning to love my big breasts ultimately led me on a journey to body acceptance. I love my breasts and I cherish them. I value them for what they symbolize, as well as how they make me feel.

A few years ago I started fantasizing about nursing/milking/lactation in both sexual and non-sexual contexts. It seemed like a natural extension of my love for breasts and breast play (both mine and others). However, I didn’t consider inducing myself to be a practical endeavor. Inducing takes a lot of time, effort, and money (at least to get started), and I didn’t feel like I could shoulder that responsibility by myself. I told myself – maybe one day when I am in a live-in relationship where I can have someone there to … support me, perhaps even after I have kids.

Also, as a young single woman, the idea of looking for an ANR partner was quite daunting and sketched me out a bit! I wasn’t sure what to expect. I put up a post looking for a non-sexual ANR on Craigslist about a year ago to see what kind of response I would get. O.M.G. It was OVERWHELMING. I only left my post up for a few hours and I got over 50 responses! They ranged from straight up disrespectful, to skeptical, to earnest. But honestly, most of the messages creeped me out and I didn’t feel safe making any arrangements to meet any of those men (same goes for the few women who responded).

Recently, I have been browsing through lactation groups on … just to learn more about what it takes exactly to start inducing lactation, not really intending to go for it. Last week, after reading all the wonderful stories and encouragement from the other women, I decided to take the plunge. It might have been a bit impulsive, but I’m tired of waiting and I want to see just how far I can go. I ordered some Domperidone online. All I could think as I pressed that ‘confirm order’ button was “Down the rabbit hole I go!”

I’m so excited to enter this weird and wonderful world and join this community of like minded people. I plan to chronicle my journey here and look to this community for support and advice.

Second post: Finding a schedule

As I said in my previous post, I have ordered some domperidone online, but I expect it will take 2-3 weeks to receive it. In the meantime I am trying to prepare my breasts as best as I can to bring in milk. I have a feeling that the biggest struggle for me will be finding a good stimulation schedule that works for me.

First, a bit about the stimulation I am currently doing.

I have been watching videos on the Marmet massage technique and I have tried doing it on my own breasts. It gets old quite quickly! I get bored in about a minute, and my hands start cramping soon after! I guess you have to build hand-stamina for this haha! That was unexpected. Do mouths also get sore/tired … when dry nursing? I have a feeling that the Marmet technique is much more satisfying once you actually have milk to express! Nonetheless, I will continue my efforts to build up my stamina and stimulate my breasts.

The second thing I am doing is using a TENS unit to stimulate my breasts under my clothes while out and about during the day. I bought an inexpensive unit on Amazon for about $40 (TENS 7000) and I use it either on Burst or Modulation mode (I’m not sure which one is better at this point) for 20 minutes at a time. It feels soooo good! I love the tingly feeling on my nipples/breasts and the ache it produces down …. I have to restrain myself from … because I don’t want to send mixed signals to my brain. I am definitely enjoying using my TENS unit!

So my current schedule as I’m getting used to the massage techniques and equipment:

Wake up 8/9AM: 5 minutes of Marmet on each breast, TENS for 20 minutes

11AM: TENS for 20 min

1/2PM: TENS for 20 min

4/5PM: TENS for 20 min

7/8PM: TENS for 20 min (Marmet if possible)

10/11PM: Marmet for 5 min each, TENS for 20 min

We shall see how well I can keep to this schedule. Some adjustments will probably be necessary, and of course I would like to diversify the types of stimulation. Hopefully I start getting stronger with the Marmet and I might try to find a dry nursing [husband] … who can help me out ….

I am looking into buying a good breast pump too. After putting down money for the domperidone and the TENS unit though, I feel I need to save up before I can put down another $100 on a used pump and new replacement parts. I hope to get a pump not too long after I start taking domperidone. I haven’t looked into buying herbs like goats rue and alfalfa yet. I was going to see how well I did on the domperidone with a breast pump. I may start adding in herbal supplements later.

Third post: Milky hopes

I had a dream recently that I was pumping my breasts and a little drop of milk came out. I got super excited! I think it’s a good sign! I’m only 3 weeks in and I don’t have drops yet, but I’m feeling positive about my efforts so far. I am confident that I can do this.

Now a few updates:

With some help, I was able to buy a Medela Pump N’ Style pump last week and I bought the smallest nipple shields I could find. Apparently I have abnormally small nipples? Who knew?! This is definitely a learning process! The pump works great, but is cumbersome and isn’t as strong on battery power, so I have only been pumping 1-2 times in the evening before bed when I can plug it in. I’m still getting used to using it, but I think I’m finally figuring it out. I plan to use the pump more once I start getting drops of milk out. I also found a nursing bra that actually fits; it will be super helpful when I need to pump more often during the day.

While I’m out and about all day – I use my small TENS unit. When I wake up each morning, I prep my breasts with alcohol and position the pads about 1 inch from my nipple. I put my bra on over them, tuck the dangling wires into my pants and voila! Convenient and discreet way to stimulate my breasts every 2-3 hours during the day! I’ll admit that the first week, this made my crazy horny. It felt like a deliciously dirty secret that I was stimulating my nipples without anyone the wiser! Now that I’m almost to my 4th week, it’s become much more routine and occasionally uncomfortable (because my breasts get tender and sore sometimes). When it gets uncomfortable, I make sure the pads still have good contact on my skin and I turn the stimulation down a smidge. I’m also not getting so horny from the frequent stimulation, which is a relief to tell the truth haha.

I started taking alfalfa supplements last Friday and I haven’t had any problems yet at 4g a day. They have a pleasant grassy aftertaste haha. I’ll up my dose to 6g a day next week.

AND THE BIGGEST NEWS: I finally received my domperidone in the mail on Monday ! I’m starting out with a dose of 30mg per day (taking 10mg 3x a day) and I’ll probably up my dosage to 40mg by the end of the week. No adverse side effects yet.

It’s hard to tell if I’ve seen much change in my breasts. I feel like they might be getting a bit firmer, but it might just be my imagination. Nonetheless, I am stoked to continue my efforts. Taking domperidone is the biggest step, so I am so excited to start taking it. I hope to see some results by the end of the month! Now the biggest hurdle for me will be: patience.

‘Biblical defense’ posted on NSFW ANR site

I ocasionally browse through the web to see what’s new in the ANR world, and whether some NSFW sites show signs of moving in a family-friendly direction, and I was happy to see my post “A biblical defense of ANRs” reposted almost in its entirety on an ANR site that’s definitely not modest.

Praise God that the light of His Word shines into non-Christian environments. May God increase the number of Christians in this lifestyle so we can be Christ’s ambassadors to every area of human interest and activity.

 

“There is so much information!! You are helping so many people!!! I do believe that I have visited [your blog] before, with the intention to come back and read when I had time. I’m sorry that I didn’t do it sooner!”

testimonial from Christ-centered ANR reader

Wikipedia: Cracked Nipples (and treatment)

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Cracked nipple

This article is about the postpartum development of cracked nipples in women related to breastfeeding. For other uses, see Fissure of the nipple.

Cracked nipple (or nipple trauma) [1] is a condition that can occur in breastfeeding women as a result of a number of possible causes. Developing a cracked nipple can result in soreness, dryness or irritation to, or bleeding of, one or both nipples during breastfeeding. The [woman] with a cracked nipple can have severe nipple pain when … nursing. This severe pain is a disincentive for continued breastfeeding. The crack can appear as a cut across the tip of the nipple and may extend to its the base. [2] Cracked nipples … [are] managed with pharmacological and nonpharmacological treatment. [3]

Cracked nipple (postpartum)

Signs and symptoms

Cracked nipples are classified as a breast disorder. [4] The nipple is not only the structure to deliver milk …, it also contains small, sebaceous glands or Montgomery glands to lubricate the skin of the areola. [5] Cracked nipples are most often associated with breastfeeding and appear as cracks or small lacerations or breaks in the skin of the nipple. [1][6] In some instances an ulcer will form. [1] The nipple in a nursing [woman] is in regular contact with a [nursee]. [5] Cracked nipples are trauma to the nipple and can be quite painful. [7] Cracked nipples typically appear three to seven days after the birth. [6][1]

If the nipples appears to be wedge-shaped, white and flattened, this may indicate that the latch is not good and there is a potential of developing cracked nipples. [8]

Complications

Bacteria can enter the breast through cracked nipples, which increase the risk of mastitis. [9] Candida infection (thrush) of the nipple can also occur, resulting in deep-pink, cracked, and sore nipples. [10][2]

Contraindications for breastfeeding

Because cracked nipples can result in the [nursee] being exposed to blood, women with certain blood-borne diseases may be advised to stop breastfeeding if they have a cracked nipple. It has been found safe for breastfeeding [women] with hepatitis B and cracked nipples to breastfeed. [11] In the event that a nursing woman experiences cracked and bleeding nipples or breast inflammation within one to two weeks immediately following an acute Toxoplasmosis infection (when the organism is still circulating in her bloodstream), it is theoretically possible that she could transmit Toxoplasma gondii to the [nursee] through her breast milk. Immune suppressed women could have circulating Toxoplasma for even longer periods of time. However, the likelihood of human milk transmission is very small. [12] Transmission risk of HIV increases if the [woman] has cracked and bleeding nipples [13][2] An uncommon infection in the [woman], Chagas disease, can be transmitted to the [nursee] via cracked nipples. [14] Women with hepatitis C are advised to abstain from breastfeeding if their nipples are cracked or bleeding. [15][16]

Cause

Some studies indicate that cracked nipples are caused by poor latch. [citation needed] Yet other causes could be poor positioning, use of a feeding bottle, breast engorgement, inexperience, semi-protruding nipples, use of breast pumps and light pigmentation of the nipples. These causes vary between cultures. [citation needed] Breast engorgement is also a main factor in altering the ability of the [nursee] to latch-on. Engorgement changes the shape and curvature of the nipple region by making the breast inflexible, flat, hard, and swollen. The nipples on an engorged breast are flat. [1]

… One cause of painful, cracked nipples is the incorrect positioning and incorrect latching on to the breast by the [nursee]. [7][6] The [nursee] can create cracked nipples due to the strong sucking pressure, stretching and pulling the nipple, the friction and rubbing of skin to skin. [2][7] The cause of sore, cracked nipples can also be from a yeast or Candida infection in the [nursee] or the [woman] or both. Thrush can develop after the use of antibiotics. [2] For first-time breastfeeding [women], it normally takes a few tries before the latch is right, which can make the nipples tender and sore the first few days. If the nipples become cracked or bleed, the latch may need to be corrected. Women are advised to keep on breastfeeding, as it will actually help the nipples heal. A little breast milk or purified lanolin cream or ointment helps the healing process. [7]

Pain caused by cracked nipples can sometimes lead to the cessation of breast-feeding. [1] In addition to cracks, or blisters or ulcers can form. [17]

Prevention

The nipples of nursing [women] naturally make a lubricant to prevent drying, cracking, or infections. [5] Cracked nipples may be able to be prevented by:

Avoid soaps and harsh washing or drying of the breasts and nipples. This can cause dryness and cracking. [18]
Rubbing a little breast milk on the nipple after feeding to protect it. [7][18]
Keeping the nipples dry to prevent cracking and infection. [19][18]

Roman chamomile can be applied directly to the skin for pain and swelling and is used to treat cracked nipples. [20]
Treatment

Cracked nipples can be treated with 100% lanolin. Glycerin nipple pads can be chilled and placed over the nipples to help soothe and heal cracked or painful nipples. [19] If the cause of cracked nipples is from thrush, treatment is usually begun with nystatin. If the [woman] is symptomatic then the [woman] and the [nursee] can be treated. [2] … Breastfeeding professionals that include nurses, midwives and lactation consultants are able to assist in the treatment of cracked nipples. [6]

Advice from others is abundant but there have been some treatments that have been identified as not being effective in healing or preventing cracked nipples. These ineffective treatments are keeping the breastfeeding short and using a nipple guard. Keeping the feedings short so that the nipples can rest is not effective in relieving the pain of cracked nipples and it could have a negative effect on the milk supply. Nipple shields do not improve latching on. [8]

Epidemiology

In a survey in New York City, 35% of nursing [women] stopped breastfeeding after one week due to the pain of cracked nipples. Thirty percent stopped breastfeeding between weeks one and three. Another survey of breastfeeding [women] in Brazil reported that there was 25% higher risk of interruption of exclusive breastfeeding when the [women] had cracked nipples. [Women] with higher education levels are more likely to continue breastfeeding despite the pain of cracked nipples. [1]

Society and culture

The importance of preventing cracked nipples while breastfeeding has been reported. [18] In an informal survey of breastfeeding in the UK, some [women] reported that they stopped breastfeeding because the cracked nipples made it too painful. [21]
See also

List of cutaneous conditions

References

Santos, Kamila Juliana da Silva; Santana, Géssica Silva; Vieira, Tatiana de Oliveira; Santos, Carlos Antônio de Souza Teles; Giugliani, Elsa Regina Justo; Vieira, Graciete Oliveira (2016). “Prevalence and factors associated with cracked nipples in the first month postpartum”. BMC Pregnancy and Childbirth. 16 (1). doi:10.1186/s12884-016-0999-4. ISSN 1471-2393.
“Management of breast conditions and other breastfeeding difficulties”. National Center for Biotechnology and Information, US National Library of Medicine. Retrieved 3 August 2017.
Henry, p. 120.
“ICD-10 Version:2016”. apps.who.int. Retrieved 4 August 2017.
Doucet, Sébastien; Soussignan, Robert; Sagot, Paul; Schaal, Benoist (23 October 2009). “The Secretion of Areolar (Montgomery’s) Glands from Lactating Women Elicits Selective, Unconditional Responses in Neonates”. PLoS ONE. 4 (10): e7579. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0007579. PMC 2761488  . PMID 19851461.
“Breastfeeding problems”. http://www.nhs.uk. National Health Service (UK). Retrieved 4 August 2017.
“Common questions about breastfeeding and pain”. WomensHealth.gov. Retrieved 4 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
“Sore or cracked nipples when breastfeeding, Pregnancy and [nursee] guide”. http://www.nhs.uk. National Health Services (UK). Retrieved 4 August 2017.
Kinlay, Joanne R.; O’Connell, Dianne L.; Kinlay, Scott (April 2001). “Risk factors for mastitis in breastfeeding women: results of a prospective cohort study”. Australian and New Zealand Journal of Public Health. 25 (2): 115–120. doi:10.1111/j.1753-6405.2001.tb01831.x. ISSN 1326-0200.
“Thrush in newborns: MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia”. medlineplus.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
“Hepatitis B and C Infections – Breastfeeding – CDC”. http://www.cdc.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
“Toxoplasmosis – Breastfeeding – CDC”. http://www.cdc.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
https://www.cdc.gov/globalaids/resources/pmtct-care/docs/pocketguide.doc This link opens a document that opens rather than a web page. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
Prevention, CDC – Centers for Disease Control and. “CDC – Chagas Disease – Detailed Fact Sheet”. http://www.cdc.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
“HCV FAQs for Health Professionals – Division of Viral Hepatitis – CDC”. http://www.cdc.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
“Breastfeeding vs. Formula Feeding: MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia”. medlineplus.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
Rosen, Paul (2014). Rosen’s breast pathology. Philadelphia: Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins. p. 41. ISBN 978-1-4511-7653-7.
“World Breastfeeding Week: Supporting [women] to reach the six month mark”. Retrieved 4 August 2017.
“Positioning your baby for breastfeeding: MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia”. medlineplus.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
“Roman chamomile: MedlinePlus Supplements”. medlineplus.gov. Retrieved 3 August 2017. This article incorporates text from this source, which is in the public domain.
“6 Reasons Why You Might Have Stopped Breastfeeding, And That’s Okay”. 4 August 2017. Retrieved 4 August 2017.

Bibliography

Henry, Norma (2016). RN maternal newborn nursing : review module. Stilwell, KS: Assessment Technologies Institute. ISBN 9781565335691.
Dennis, Cindy-Lee; Jackson, Kim; Watson, Jo (2014-12-15). The Cochrane Library. John Wiley & Sons, Ltd. doi:10.1002/14651858.cd007366.pub2.

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The three categories of relationships

I recently read Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas. It’s a highly recommended read.

According to Hiestand and Thomas, the Bible only presents three categories of relationships between any two human beings. We have the:

  1. Neighbor relationship (sex prohibited)
  2. Family relationship (sex prohibited)
  3. Marriage relationship (sex commanded)

They also go on to propose a radical alternative that shifted my thinking. Rather than engaging in dating relationships prior to marriage, they recommend being in dating friendships. They assert that the former blurs the line between the neighbor and marriage categories, offering the benefits of marriage without its intrinsic commitment. Dating relationships offer a false sense of security, they evince.

So while a man and woman getting to know each other are technically in the neighbor category, they face the juggling act of maintaing boundaries, especially pertaining to sex, while pursuing their biblically-endorsed desire for Couples Nursing. I still agree with Elder T that there’s no indication in the Bible that an unmarried couple should discuss sex. Which is why according to the three categories of relationships, I think it’s best to deliberate on general intimacy, for example, personally, the really adventurous things I want in the bedroom, told in a way that’s edifying and not at all arousing. So I plan on declaring to a potential wife in a Christ-honoring manner, using only words like “intimacy,” “adventure,” “steaming,” “spicy,” or at worst, using words that describe the ideal ANR woman’s breasts, but nothing graphic.

I agree with Hiestand, Thomas, Elder T and the majority of Christians in emphasizing biblical physical boundaries prior to marriage. However, I keep going back to the fact that the Bible exhorts couples to “let her breasts drench you always,” therefore I see nothing wrong with the only exception being wise, modest discussion of ANR. There’s no contradiction in wanting to be pure before marriage and cautiously discussing ANR with a date. If anything, it glorifies the God who wrote Proverbs 5:19, which sadly the world buries, edits and re-interprets, though plain and obvious in the original Hebrew and several English translations.

Ideal ANR breasts

Women who desire ANRs all seem to have breasts that are:

  • Soft
  • Extra fatty and creamy
  • Bra busters
  • Yearning to be free
  • Round
  • Somewhat pendulous
  • Fluid
  • Probably with significantly wrinkled, stretchy areolas, and medium to large areolas and nipples
  • Sensual
  • Sensitive
  • Responsive
  • Succulent
  • “Juicy”

Again, one can infer these WITHOUT sinning. I don’t believe in engaging in explicit conversations before marriage, but I do maintain that it’s important for a woman’s breasts to have these qualities, and while pursuing a woman, men should tactfully raise the subject. It’s much healthier to talk things out as adults than risk lusting, fantasizing, staring, objectifying, or being unsatisfied in marriage.

I would give you some spiced wine to drink, some juice squeezed from my pomegranates.”

— Song 8:2

“nipples-of·her they-shall-satiate·you in·every-of season”

— Proverbs 5:19

See also:

She loves breast attention

The softest breasts

Sensitive and responsive nipples

Surprise finding in response to nipple stimulation

When Purity becomes an Idol

Living to please God

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3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification:[1] that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each one of you know how to control his own body[2] in holiness and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. 8 Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.

Footnotes:

  1. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 Or your holiness
  2. 1 Thessalonians 4:4 Or how to take a wife for himself; Greek how to possess his own vessel

 

ANRSpace update

From googling around, I found the following:

What Happened To ANRspace.com?nsfw
I used to be a longtime member of the site. I have not been able to log into the site for months.

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myownlittleta
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I’d like to know as well. It had been dwindling for the last years for the benefit of abfsingles.net. Anr… is another one that kind of tried to take off. The thing is, most of these sites are only live because of the time a very few individuals put into them. abfsingles was running well and changed ownership at some point.

I don’t know whichis the biggest one these days. I’ve not been really active on any of them for a long time.

…INYOURFACE
… and singles is owned by the same person. … has an odd layout to it so it never took off.

myownlittleta
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6 months ago
I wonder what was the goal of a second site if there is one owner? I wish the owner would respond directly.

…INYOURFACE

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6 months ago
I think she wanted to separate the 2. The second would allow more nudity and posting of pictures while it was forbidden on singles.

myownlittleta
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6 months ago
She didn’t really make it explicit enough maybe. I got to say though, a lot of women post boobies while selling things on the side. It would probably be an issue on her site. Most of them visibly take pleasure in the activity though.

…INYOURFACE

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6 months ago
Same thing on here with many gonewild type of posts.

zooguy1959
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5 months ago
I joined more than 10 years ago. It was free to join but they asked for donations. After I met a lady who was on the site I sent the owners a small donation. My guess is they were not breaking even on the cost and decided to let the site “go”. Too bad. It was the only one I found with good geographic search capabilities.

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Honey…
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6 months ago
I haven’t used any of these sites but I am aware of them. Was this the website that charged a fee to join? I also heard that the admin of one of these sites would snoop on PMs…

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sweetkissestoo
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4 months ago
No, they did not charge a fee. That’s …

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sweetkissestoo
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4 months ago
They got hacked. This was about early last summer. I logged in and it took me to somebody else’s account. I posted to the admins and so did others but it took them a couple of months to respond. Then after another month or so of not being able to get into our accounts it was taken down to be fixed and a “Maintenance” page was put up.
That has been gone for months. I don’t think it is coming back.

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sapphire7183
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3 months ago
I noticed that when I logged in too! I sent an email and never got a response. Too bad, it was a great site!

 

See also:

Quarterly ANRSpace member tally not possible, ANRSpace on hiatus

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

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If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?

 

 

From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

 

Be holy, for I am holy

13 Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. 14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. 15 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; 16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”[a]

– 1 Peter 1

a. Lev. 11:44,45; 19:2

Greater love has no one than this

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As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”
John 15:9‭-‬13 ESV

Set me as a seal over your heart, for love is as strong as death

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“Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If one were to give all the wealth of one’s house for love, it would be utterly scorned.”

~ Song of Solomon 8:6

Husbands and wives

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Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

– Ephesians 5:25-33

 

Do not deprive her

Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV
https://bible.com/bible/59/1co.7.5.ESV

It’s easy to miss this implicit command. We often neglect and disregard the importance of her pleasure.

Even the best Bible teachers and commenters tend to assume sexual deprivation is a male problem.

A great pastor recently apologized for missing this himself.

Thank God for his word, which corrects our presuppositions and implicit biases, if we’re open to being corrected.

A Love Song

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English Standard Version (ESV)

Your Throne, O God, Is Forever

To the choirmaster: according to Lilies. A Maskil[a] of the Sons of Korah; a love song.

45 My heart overflows with a pleasing theme;
    I address my verses to the king;
    my tongue is like the pen of a ready scribe.

You are the most handsome of the sons of men;
    grace is poured upon your lips;
    therefore God has blessed you forever.
Gird your sword on your thigh, O mighty one,
    in your splendor and majesty!

In your majesty ride out victoriously
    for the cause of truth and meekness and righteousness;
    let your right hand teach you awesome deeds!
Your arrows are sharp
    in the heart of the king’s enemies;
    the peoples fall under you.

Your throne, O God, is forever and ever.
    The scepter of your kingdom is a scepter of uprightness;
    you have loved righteousness and hated wickedness.
Therefore God, your God, has anointed you
    with the oil of gladness beyond your companions;
    your robes are all fragrant with myrrh and aloes and cassia.
From ivory palaces stringed instruments make you glad;
    daughters of kings are among your ladies of honor;
    at your right hand stands the queen in gold of Ophir.

10 Hear, O daughter, and consider, and incline your ear:
    forget your people and your father’s house,
11     and the king will desire your beauty.
Since he is your lord, bow to him.
12     The people[b] of Tyre will seek your favor with gifts,
    the richest of the people.[c]

13 All glorious is the princess in her chamber, with robes interwoven with gold.
14     In many-colored robes she is led to the king,
    with her virgin companions following behind her.
15 With joy and gladness they are led along
    as they enter the palace of the king.

16 In place of your fathers shall be your sons;
    you will make them princes in all the earth.
17 I will cause your name to be remembered in all generations;
    therefore nations will praise you forever and ever.

Footnotes:

  1. Psalm 45:1 Probably a musical or liturgical term
  2. Psalm 45:12 Hebrew daughter
  3. Psalm 45:12 Or The daughter of Tyre is here with gifts, the richest of people seek your favor

The Word Became Flesh

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In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life,[a] and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. He came as a witness, to bear witness about the light, that all might believe through him. He was not the light, but came to bear witness about the light.

The true light, which gives light to everyone, was coming into the world. 10 He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world did not know him. 11 He came to his own,[b] and his own people[c] did not receive him. 12 But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, 13 who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.

14 And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son[d] from the Father, full of grace and truth. 15 (John bore witness about him, and cried out, “This was he of whom I said, ‘He who comes after me ranks before me, because he was before me.’”) 16 For from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace.[e] 17 For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. 18 No one has ever seen God; the only God,[f] who is at the Father’s side,[g] he has made him known.

The Way of Love

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If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[b] it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Footnotes:

  1. 1 Corinthians 13:3 Some manuscripts deliver up my body [to death] that I may boast
  2. 1 Corinthians 13:5 Greek irritable and does not count up wrongdoing

John 3:16

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For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. NIV

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. KJV

For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His only begotten (unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to, relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal (everlasting) life. AMP

Eve’s bra size

You’re like “bras weren’t invented till just over a hundred years ago.” You’re right, but bear with me and you’ll see where I’m going with this.

I’m a firm believer that God originally intended breasts to be amply sized.

Having breasts, especially lactating breasts, is one of the highest glories of womanhood. And I believe the larger and softer the breasts, the more feminine the woman. Our society doesn’t see it that way.

During the conversation I mentioned in She loves breast attention, I reminded the female participant (who doesn’t really like wearing bras) that bras weren’t invented until the 1800s and women in the Bible didn’t wear them. She responded by reminding me that they somehow found alternate means to hold their breasts in place.

The guy then explained how larger breasts could hold more milk.

We’ve evolved into societies where breasts are smaller and caged up. Rather than seeing them as the feminine, beautiful organs God created them to be, we’ve come to see them as a nuisance that must be bound and restricted.

Ample, full, productive and succulent breasts were God’s original design. That’s why I use this as a criterion for judging physical and maternal desirability in a potential wife.

They’re part of God’s Shalom. Eve most likely didn’t have small breasts.

Should Christian ANR couples share and educate or keep it private?

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A recent conversation with an ANR aspirant precipitated this discussion. In the ANR world, there doesn’t seem to be an easy answer. Even pastors and Christian counselors and healthcare workers become apprehensive about sharing in an effort to bless.

Personally, I no longer see that big a deal. When married, should I feel sufficiently close to any couple, I’d tactfully disclose.

My ANR confidence stems from my unshakable confidence in God’s word. God didn’t stutter when he told me to “let her nipples satiate me in every of season. In love of her, I shall err continually.”

Your take? Would you share or keep it to yourselves?