It’s All about the Center

It’s all about the
the holy place,
the focus of it

It’s all about the
center stage,
who commands
the spotlight.
It’s all about the
hero’s casting,
who receives the
It’s all about the
highest throne,
where power and rule
It’s all about the
final word,
whose will will then
be done.

The center place
belongs to
the center stage
your domain.
You are the hero
of the
all glory goes to
The highest throne is
your right
the world will bow
to you.

May I never
crave to have
what should belong
to you.
May I never demand
the spotlight
shining from eternity
on you.
May I never covet 
your throne
and set up my own

May grace protect
my heart
from questing to be
By grace may I
submit with
resting in your
May mercy
lead me to your
surrendering all 
to you.

You are my Light
You are my King
Creator Lord
Savior Lamb
Son of Man
Son of God.
All that I am
all that I have
I give it all
to you.

“Oh, the depths of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are his judgments and how inscrutable his ways!

“For who has known the mind of the Lord,
or who has been his counselor?”
“Or who has given a gift to him
that he might be repaid?”

For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen.”

(Romans 11:33–36, ESV)

That final verse says it all. Life is not about us.

It’s not about our wants, our needs, or our feelings. It’s not about our comfort, pleasure, and ease. It’s not about us getting our personal definition of happiness. It’s not about our satisfaction and contentment.

It’s not about how many of our dreams we actually get to experience. It’s not about our successes and achievements. It’s not about how successfully we avoid difficulty and suffering. It’s not about how well our relationships are working.

It’s not wrong to desire personal happiness, peace, a functioning body, and healthy relationships. The issue is this—these things must not rule our hearts because when they do, they place us at the center of our world and make it all about us.

Sadly, many professing Christians, Paul Tripp included, live in a God-forgetting and God-replacing manner. We put ourselves in the center, decide for ourselves what we want life to be like, and reduce God to little more than the delivery system for our catalog of self-oriented dreams.

Today, remember and celebrate. Remember that all that exists, including us, is from God, exists through him, and points to him.

He is the beginning, the center, and the end of all things. His will is preeminent and will be done. His kingdom will come. Grace decimates our lordship and causes us to bow to the one true Lord.

Only by grace can we celebrate a lordship other than our own.

God bless,

Paul David Tripp


1. Where do you see yourself as the hero of your life story? In other words, are you taking credit for what only God could produce? Where have you experienced success and blessing that is only the result of God’s generous blessing, regardless of how hard you worked?

2. How have you tried to command the spotlight and direct it on yourself? Are there ways in your life, perhaps most notably in your relationships, where you are demanding to be the leading actor, and everyone else plays a supporting role?

3. Read Philippians 2: 4-8. In those same relationships, how can you “look to the interests of others, empty yourself, take the form of a servant,” and play a supporting role?

4. In the past, have you reduced God to a delivery system for your catalog of self-oriented dreams? If he didn’t deliver what you think you needed and according to your timeline, how did you respond to him? Are you at risk of doing the same today in any way?

5. What does it practically mean for you to live out the statement, “For from him and through him and to him are all things” and “to him be glory forever”?

Acts 1

English Standard Version

The Promise of the Holy Spirit

In the first book, O Theophilus, I have dealt with all that Jesus began to do and teach, until the day when he was taken up, after he had given commands through the Holy Spirit to the apostles whom he had chosen. He presented himself alive to them after his suffering by many proofs, appearing to them during forty days and speaking about the kingdom of God.

And while staying[a] with them he ordered them not to depart from Jerusalem, but to wait for the promise of the Father, which, he said, “you heard from me; for John baptized with water, but you will be baptized with[b] the Holy Spirit not many days from now.”

The Ascension

So when they had come together, they asked him, “Lord, will you at this time restore the kingdom to Israel?” He said to them, “It is not for you to know times or seasons that the Father has fixed by his own authority. But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.” And when he had said these things, as they were looking on, he was lifted up, and a cloud took him out of their sight. 10 And while they were gazing into heaven as he went, behold, two men stood by them in white robes, 11 and said, “Men of Galilee, why do you stand looking into heaven? This Jesus, who was taken up from you into heaven, will come in the same way as you saw him go into heaven.”

Matthias Chosen to Replace Judas

12 Then they returned to Jerusalem from the mount called Olivet, which is near Jerusalem, a Sabbath day’s journey away. 13 And when they had entered, they went up to the upper room, where they were staying, Peter and John and James and Andrew, Philip and Thomas, Bartholomew and Matthew, James the son of Alphaeus and Simon the Zealot and Judas the son of James. 14 All these with one accord were devoting themselves to prayer, together with the women and Mary the mother of Jesus, and his brothers.[c]

15 In those days Peter stood up among the brothers (the company of persons was in all about 120) and said, 16 “Brothers, the Scripture had to be fulfilled, which the Holy Spirit spoke beforehand by the mouth of David concerning Judas, who became a guide to those who arrested Jesus. 17 For he was numbered among us and was allotted his share in this ministry.” 18 (Now this man acquired a field with the reward of his wickedness, and falling headlong[d] he burst open in the middle and all his bowels gushed out. 19 And it became known to all the inhabitants of Jerusalem, so that the field was called in their own language Akeldama, that is, Field of Blood.) 20 “For it is written in the Book of Psalms,

“‘May his camp become desolate,
    and let there be no one to dwell in it’;


“‘Let another take his office.’

21 So one of the men who have accompanied us during all the time that the Lord Jesus went in and out among us, 22 beginning from the baptism of John until the day when he was taken up from us—one of these men must become with us a witness to his resurrection.” 23 And they put forward two, Joseph called Barsabbas, who was also called Justus, and Matthias. 24 And they prayed and said, “You, Lord, who know the hearts of all, show which one of these two you have chosen 25 to take the place in this ministry and apostleship from which Judas turned aside to go to his own place.” 26 And they cast lots for them, and the lot fell on Matthias, and he was numbered with the eleven apostles.


  1. Acts 1:4 Or eating
  2. Acts 1:5 Or in
  3. Acts 1:14 Or brothers and sisters. In New Testament usage, depending on the context, the plural Greek word adelphoi (translated “brothers”) may refer either to brothers or to brothers and sisters; also verse 15
  4. Acts 1:18 Or swelling up

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14:

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24:

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15:

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29:

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?

From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

ANR vis-à-vis God’s preference for organic, human use

You yourselves are our letter of recommendation, written on our[a] hearts, to be known and read by all. And you show that you are a letter from Christ delivered by us, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.[b]

— 2 Corinthians 3


  1. 2 Corinthians 3:2 Some manuscripts your
  2. 2 Corinthians 3:3 Greek fleshly hearts

 I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth. … For we are God’s fellow workers. You are God’s field, God’s building.

— 1 Corinthians 3

39 And some of the Pharisees in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, rebuke your disciples.” 40 He answered, “I tell you, if these were silent, the very stones would cry out.”

— Luke 19

“God wrote himself into his own novel to save sinners.”

— buddy from church

God can use any means to glorify himself, but he repeatedly displays a preference for human messengers.

God delights in the organic, human connection, rather than using inanimate objects. He’d much rather use flesh-and-blood humans for gospel purposes than animals, non-living things or even angels. In New Testament times such as we currently live in, God has elected to build his temple with living, breathing human beings, rather than brick and mortar.

I have come across multiple women on ANR sites who stated how privileged they are to provide something to a man he can’t buy or make himself.

The fact is, it’s infinitely more special, romantic, intimate and meaningful to drink refreshingly from one’s wife than from a milk jug. Living, breathing woman infinitely surpasses store-bought milk.

See “Forward Me” by DJ Official featuring Cam

Couples Nursing is Edenic

And Lot lifted up his eyes and saw that the Jordan Valley was well watered everywhere like the garden of the LORD, like the land of Egypt, in the direction of Zoar. (This was before the LORD destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah.)

— Genesis 13:10 (emphasis added)

Just before “the garden of the LORD,” in the verse quoted above, my ESV Bible cross references Genesis 2:8, which states “And the LORD God planted a garden in Eden, in the east, and there he put the man whom he had formed.” Gen. 2:8 also points back to 13:10.

One of the major ANR bloggers I followed closely back in the day said she likes the presence of running water, and many ANR-interested women state how they like the idea of their breasts being full and overflowing with warm milk, proof that there’s something about ANRs that connotes abundance, along with overflowing, paradise-like conditions.

In an ideal world in which Adam and Eve never fell, there’d be no such thing as deserts. The Garden of Eden was overflowing with God’s delights– as I believe he prefers all married women’s breasts to be.

See also: God’s glory from creation: full, milky breasts

Urban Dictionary’s take on ANR/ABF

Secular, uncensored Urban Dictionary has a line or two I love on this wonderful relationship:

ANR/ABF stands for: A Nursing Relationship/Adult Breast Feeding. ANR/ABF refers to a relationship involving sucking milk from the female breast as an expression of close intimacy. Adult Nursing Relationships depend on a stable and long term relationship of the couple, otherwise it is nearly impossible to maintain a steady milk flow. On the other hand it is frequently reported that breastfeeding has a strong stabilizing effect on the partnership [emphases mine]. The breastfeeding woman may experience orgasms or a pleasurable let-down reflex.

Examples of usage of the term ANR/ABF:

I could totally go ANR on that [large-breasted woman!] (you’re free to indulge if she’s your wife)

alt: I could totally go ABF on that [large-breasted woman!] (you too, go ahead if you’re married)

Naked and unashamed

Genesis 2:20-25 English Standard Version

20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam[a] there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made[b] into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said,

“This at last is bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
    because she was taken out of Man.”[c]

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.


  1. Genesis 2:20 Or the man
  2. Genesis 2:22 Hebrew built
  3. Genesis 2:23 The Hebrew words for woman (ishshah) and man (ish) sound alike

Four most critical traits in both women and men

I feel the need to reiterate and emphasize the most crucial ANR traits in both sexes, to aid your search and give you a crystal clear picture of your future ANR mate.

For women, the four traits are being open-minded, nurturing, sensuous and deeply valuing bonding and intimacy much more than most women, and for men, similarly, it’s being open-minded, approachable, sexual/kinky and deeply prizing intimacy and bonding more than most men.

Remember, one can discern these characteristics while keeping it holy.

We can’t do diddly; God’s mercy alone is sufficient

But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.

— Titus 3

God prefers to work when we give up on our own efforts and realize how utterly dependent we are on his mercy.

In the same way, he works best in marriages when couples give up their pride and unite in ways that honor him. The success of ANRs in strengthening marriages only proves how little we can do to save ourselves. Marriages are given a tremendous boost when couples humble themselves into doing something associated with infants. God really does work in mysterious ways.

What is a Nipple Bleb?


Donna Murray, RN, BSN 

Updated on November 29, 2022

You may be concerned if you notice a white spot on your nipple while breastfeeding. However, these white spots on the nipple are relatively common during breastfeeding. They form on the nipple at the end of a milk duct or nipple pore and are called nipple blebs, milk blebs, or milk blisters.1 These small, milk-filled cysts or blockages are thought to be created by breast milk that has become thick and hard during breastfeeding.

If you have a milk bleb, it might look like a smooth, shiny, singular white or yellow dot (similar to a whitehead pimple). Milk blisters are often associated with a plugged milk duct, but they can also cause plugged ducts. Sometimes they are painful, other times they don’t hurt at all. A nipple bleb will typically go away on its own, particularly with continued breastfeeding, or various remedies may be used to help it resolve more quickly.2

Here is what you need to know about nipple blebs and blisters, including how to treat them.

What Is a Nipple Bleb?

A nipple bleb is a small blister on the nipple. Also called a milk bleb or a milk blister, it can cause extreme pain during breastfeeding, or it might not bother you at all. If it isn’t painful, leave the blister alone and breastfeed as you normally would.4

If a milk bleb is painful, you might not want to breastfeed. However, frequent breastfeeding is necessary to maintain your breast milk supply and can help dislodge the bleb, as well as prevent clogged ducts, breast engorgement, and mastitis.2

If the pain is bearable, continue to breastfeed as often as you can. If it’s too painful, pump your breast milk. A quality breast pump may help remove the bleb.

Related: 10 Tips for Breastfeeding With a Nipple Blister

What Causes Milk Blebs?

Nipple blebs form when milk gets trapped and hardens in one of the pores on your skin. Sometimes, a thin layer of skin holds the milk in. It can also harden and become stuck. They can also form outside of breastfeeding as a result of trauma to the nipple.

Treatment for Milk Blebs

If you get a nipple bleb, you’ll want to minimize the discomfort while you wait for it to get better.5 There are a few things you can do to relieve any pain you might have and help the bleb heal.

Apply Gentle Pressure

If you can tolerate it, you can try to apply gentle, slow, pressure from behind the bleb to help release the plug. You can also soak, massage, and then apply heat. Moist heat can help loosen a blocked duct.

Breastfeed Often and With Proper Technique

You can help prevent milk ducts from clogging by using proper breastfeeding techniques, nursing often, alternating breastfeeding positions, and avoiding tight tops and underwire bras. Also, make sure that your [husband] is latching on correctly.

Keep the Bleb Clean

With clean hands and a clean washcloth, cleanse the area around the bleb. If the plug is protruding from the bleb, you might be able to use your finger to loosen it or gently pull it out.

Try Lecithin

Talk to your healthcare provider or a lactation consultant about a lecithin supplement. Lecithin is thought to help heal and prevent plugged milk ducts.6 You might also try liquid lecithin or Dr. Jack Newman’s All-Purpose Nipple Ointment (an antibiotic and anti-inflammatory ointment).

Use Ice Packs or Cabbage Leaves

A cool compress can sometimes help relieve pain in your breasts. You can also ask your provider if it is OK for you to take an over-the-counter (OTC) pain reliever such as Tylenol (acetaminophen) or Motrin (ibuprofen). 

Wear Breast Shells

Breast shells can protect your breasts from the fabric of your bra or clothing if it rubs against the bleb and causes discomfort.

Related: How to Fix Common Breastfeeding Problems

Identifying a Milk Bleb

Nipple blebs can be mistaken for other common breast problems. For example, nipple blisters or thrush can look similar to a milk blister.

Friction Blisters

A friction blister is larger than a nipple bleb and does not usually cause severe pain. This type of blister is usually caused by a poor latch or friction from a powerful suck. If you use a breast pump, a flange that does not fit properly can also cause friction blisters.7

Once the breastfeeding or pumping technique is corrected, friction nipple blisters will usually heal on their own within a few days.

Related: How to Prevent Friction Blisters While Breastfeeding


Thrush is a fungal (yeast) infection caused by Candida albicans.8 The infection is common in the mouth and vagina, but you can also get it on your nipples. It can cause severe itching, burning, and pain in your breast, especially while you are breastfeeding.9

Thrush usually makes the nipples look shiny and red, but it can also appear as small white patches on the skin.

A few milk blebs on the nipple could resemble thrush.

Your [husband]’s mouth can also become infected with thrush, which can make it painful for [him] to feed. Thrush and nipple blebs require different treatments. Thrush can spread quickly and cause a painful breast infection called mastitis.10 If you are worried you might have thrush, be sure to call your provider.

Related: How Thrush Is Treated

If a nipple bleb or blister becomes too painful and does not go away on its own in a few weeks (even with a good latch and frequent breastfeeding) then it’s time to meet with your provider.

Sometimes, a thin layer of skin forms and covers the milk bleb, which prevents it from healing properly.11 Your provider can use a sterile needle to break open the skin and remove the bleb. They might also instruct you on how to safely open the blister yourself at home.

You should immediately call your provider if you have signs of an infection, such as a fever, redness, swelling, or drainage from the nipple (that isn’t breast milk).

A Word From Verywell

Nipple blebs are not usually serious, but they can be painful. Breast and nipple pain might become intense enough that it makes you want to stop breastfeeding. In fact, pain is a common cause of early weaning.12

If you want to prevent nipple blebs or heal the ones you have, breastfeeding often and with proper technique can help.

If you do get a milk bleb, try to breastfeed through it. The bleb should go away on its own within a few weeks. However, if breastfeeding is too painful or a bleb does not get better, call your provider. They can help you get the appropriate treatment.

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By Donna Murray, RN, BSN
Donna Murray, RN, BSN has a Bachelor of Science in Nursing from Rutgers University and is a current member of Sigma Theta Tau, the Honor Society of Nursing.


Watch your thought life

If you’re single, you have no business dwelling on, or letting your mind wander off into erotica. Yes, I’m all for fighting legalism and moralism, but losing our sensitivity to sin will adulterate our walk with Christ, and if I’m honest, mine has certainly taken some hits over the past five or so years. There’s a reason only 1% of the Bible is erotic in nature. We must aim to please Christ in everything, including our thoughts.

“We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.”

— 2 Corinthians 10:5, NLT

“We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,”


My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?

If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14:

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24:

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15:

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29:

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?

From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper

Our bodies belong to each other

1 Corinthians 7:4:

A wife is not the master of her own body, but her husband is; in the same way a husband is not the master of his own body, but his wife is.


It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband. In the same way, it is not the husband who has the rights to his own body, but the wife.


That’s the gospel practically played out in marriage, mirroring how our bodies belong to Christ because he purchased us at the Cross.

I don’t think there are too many intimate acts that better demonstrate the principle of a man’s body belonging to his wife, and hers to him than him drinking her breast milk daily.

Implicitly pervasive theological commands

I’ve stated before that one major objection I’ve gotten to the idea of promoting Christian ANRs is that the Bible never places as much an emphasis on it as I do. But those who level such accusations never take the time to consider the whole counsel of God.

A related example is the fact that I know multiple professing Christians who struggle with confidence and assertiveness. One went further to describe his desire to avoid being prideful. He makes a good point, and his desire for humility is commendable.

But the indisputable fact is that God commands us to be confident and assertive. It’s explicit in verses like 2 Timothy 1:7 and implicit throughout Scripture. God wants believers to be unafraid of any mortals, and bold enough to look a bully in the eye to compel them to change their behavior.

In Exodus, Moses and Aaron fearlessly confronted Pharaoh and told him God says “let my people go.”

David confronted Goliath with smooth stones and a slingshot.

Peter and John confronted the Sanhedrin, letting them know they’ll obey God rather than man.

Paul confronted his Jewish opponents, false apostles, Roman governors and leaders.

It’s absolutely unquestionable. God uses confident and fearless believers to perform his mighty acts of salvation. Being confident, assertive and fearless is clearly commanded throughout God’s word, sometimes explicitly, but very often tacitly.

As Christians, we’ve waived our rights and desires and submitted them to Christ. But there’s nothing wrong with having desires, or graciously asserting our rights. When dealing with their adversaries, Paul and Jesus knew and firmly insisted on their rights. Knowing one’s rights for salvific purposes is encouraged in scripture, e.g. when Paul asserted his status as a Roman citizen after he was flogged without trial (Acts 22:25, 16:37), and when Jesus firmly defended himself from accusations of blasphemy in John 5:17. This article offers great biblical insights on assertiveness and self-defense.

Similarly, that God wants couples to be as close and intimate as humanly possible cannot be overstated. It’s clear from passages like Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:22-33, Proverbs 5, Song of Solomon and 1 Corinthians 7. It’s also implicitly commanded in several passages like Genesis 1:28, 9:7, Deuteronomy 24:5, Psalm 128:3, Proverbs 6 and 7, Matthew 28:20, 1 Thessalonians 4:3 and many others.

Since God knows our nature and tendency to abuse his gifts, he carefully, and repeatedly, commands us to use these gifts — only for gospel purposes. I think he avoids making an explicit emphasis on these commands because he knows most of us tend to run to the other extreme.

The whole counsel of God considered, I think it’s abundantly clear God exhorts us to do lots of nursing in marriage.

She will be your fountain of blessing

“May God give you a righteous wife who will be your fountain of blessing.”

— email I received from an ANR-desiring Christian wife some time ago

Women who partake in this intimate lifestyle don’t view it as babying their husbands or fetishizing breastfeeding in any way whatsoever.

They see it as a way to bless and lavish their grace upon their men, like a rich water fountain refreshes those who drink from it.

Outwardly-directed fruit

I recently heard a sermon on Galatians 5 and 6. The pastor noted how the fruit produced by the tree isn’t for the tree, but is meant to serve others.

This mirrors the heart of God, who for our sake, made him who knew no sin to be sin, so in him, we might be the righteousness of God (2 Cor. 5:21).

Jesus came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:45).

Forgiveness and Comfort

Now if anyone has caused pain, he has caused it not to me, but in some measure—not to put it too severely—to all of you. For such a one, this punishment by the majority is enough, so you should rather turn to forgive and comfort him, or he may be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. So I beg you to reaffirm your love for him. For this is why I wrote, that I might test you and know whether you are obedient in everything. 10 Anyone whom you forgive, I also forgive. Indeed, what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, has been for your sake in the presence of Christ, 11 so that we would not be outwitted by Satan; for we are not ignorant of his designs.

2 Corinthians 2

Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house

Psalm 128

A song of ascents.

Blessed are all who fear the Lord,
    who walk in obedience to him.
You will eat the fruit of your labor;
    blessings and prosperity will be yours.
Your wife will be like a fruitful vine
    within your house;
your children will be like olive shoots
    around your table.

NIV Study notes:

128:3 A faithful and fruitful wife. vine. Symbol of fruitfulness (Ge 49:22) — and perhaps also of sexual charms (SS 7:8 – 12) and festivity (Jdg 9:13). within your house. She is not like the faithless wife whose “feet never stay at home” (Pr 7:11).

Song of Solomon 7:

I say I will climb the palm tree
    and lay hold of its fruit.
Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine,
    and the scent of your breath like apples,

God’s views on marital faithfulness

[God] no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. 14 You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

15 Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. d So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.

16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” e says the Lord Almighty.

So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.

— Malachi 2


d 15 The meaning of the Hebrew for the first part of this verse is uncertain.
e 16 Or “I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “because the man who divorces his wife covers his garment with violence,”

Drinking from your wife increases your likelihood of being faithful to her.

Intimacy, by Trip Lee

Oh Lord, I’m so amazed when I dig up in Your Scripture
Focused and trying to get You, hoping to get a picture
Of who You are, true You are, Holy hoping I miss You
When I get away and I miss a day spending it with You
That’s foolish, I hope to know You and be a student
And learn Your Holy ways all my days with no excuses
Ooh its such a privilege to know the God that moves and
Soothes this wretched soul, it was cold but he renewed it
And when I look at the Psalms I just pause
Got me dropping my jaw, its clear You got ’em in awe
And we can see that they yearning for Your person
Panting after You, and their passion for You is burning
I’m trying to pursue You ’cause You precious as a pearl
More than I did with them girls, I used to mess with in the world
Relentless in my pursuit, I surrender it all to You
And I pray You draw me closer in intimate time with You

There’s a longing for Your love
Not just a moment, intimate touch
There’s a longing for Your love
Not just a moment, intimate touch

It’s way too many times, I’m staying off on the grind
In other areas and I bury You in my mind
Then my life starts getting terrible, scarier and I find
Myself trying to get near to You, but You was here all the time
But I was having my share of affairs with things You designed
Kind of like a bad marriage, it’s scary it’s like I’m blind
And I’m praying You’d help me, hold me, and make me focus
I know that when I’m lacking You I’m more than hopeless
Mold this wicked heart to delight in Your precious person
Fighting, confessing, searching for Christ and lessons for learning
It ain’t even nothing good in me that I might show You
But I can see that eternal life’s that I might know You
I want to know You, be close to the God who saved me
And raised me, I pray we can be much closer
And I- I can embrace the beautiful life that You gave me
I count it all loss, Lord, that I might know ya

There’s a longing for Your love
Not just a moment, intimate touch
There’s a longing for Your love
Not just a moment, intimate touch

I’m longing for Your endless love
The knowledge of who You are
The truth that lies within Your Word
Show my heart who You are

Truly I can’t wait ’til this flesh is removed
And I’m forever with You, sin’s mess is removed
Then there’s nothing in the way, there’s none better than You
To ignore that I’m more wack, this fella’s a fool
You so mysterious, I read about You see I
I am so in awe of You, I’m all for You, You truly fly
The truth is I’m in love with You and hope that You see I
Would like to see You and I in U-N-I-T-Y

There’s a longing for Your love
Not just a moment, intimate touch
There’s a longing for Your love
Not just a moment, intimate touch

Lord bring me closely
So to show me
Who You are
And to fill my cup, Lord
Lord bring me closely
So to show me
Who You are
And to fill my cup, Lord
Just a lil’ bit more
I need a lil’ bit more
Just a lil’ bit more
I need a lil’ bit more
I need, I need more and more
More and more

God gives us sexual intimacy to bless us

I got something on my mind, bro some folks might not like that
Feel like it’s about that time to hit ’em with the Truth where that light’s at
But still some folks wanna fight that, ’cause hand that feeds wanna bite that
‘Cause they think it’s pleasin’, it’s makin’ demons of all that He made but despite that
He grants good gifts like sex, I ain’t tryna start no messin’
I don’t wanna get graphic with all the fact cause He gave it so we could be blessed
Please don’t, act like I’m gone, please don’t, just say I’m wrong, just stay
Confident in the Word, you’ll see, that He condones it
Sex ain’t the problem, it’s sinners who just forgot Him
Distortin’, corrupt like Soddom, the gifts, they want ’em without Him
It’s beautiful in it’s proper place, marriage, until we pop it up
And turn our footsteps from His face, and then we problem
Please don’t miss the problem, mayne it is not the God who reigns
It is not the gifts He gave, this is what I gotta say, say
Don’t exalt them over the God we praise
You can’t really enjoy Him till your heart’s replaced
The gifts and the Giver of good
The gifts and the Giver of good
The gifts and the Giver of good
Your heart is where the problem’s at, let’s get that understood

— Second verse and hook of “Heart Problem” by Trip Lee

Decolonizing Faith

A Native American pastor recently announced plans to author a book with the above title.

That had me considering ways my faith might have been colonized, to which I am completely oblivious. As a black African-born American Christian, with a blog that aims to revive Christian marriages by pointing couples to the Ancient Hebrew practice of Adult Breastfeeding, the more I think of it, the more I realize how all English translations of the Bible suffer from Western colonial misinterpretations to varying degrees.

Take for example Old Testament scholar Dr. Bruce Waltke, who as mentioned in this post, demonstrates that Proverbs 5:19 refers to drinking a liquid, then he immediately denies the possibility of this liquid being breast milk.

His Western sensitivities are offended by the notion of Husband Breastfeeding, so he twists his interpretation to fit his cultural tastes, and those of his readers.

Makes me wonder how many thousands of Bible verses have been intentionally mistranslated to match our cultural paradigms.

The word “slave” in the New Testament is an example, and is rightfully addressed by Pastor John MacArthur. We are slaves of Christ, not bondservants.

In Biblical times, breastfeeding one’s husband was culturally accepted. In some Asian cultures and other places today, it still is somewhat accepted. It’s time to reclaim our faith from Western colonial influences. Biblically speaking, there’s absolutely zero shame or taboo in Husband Breastfeeding. It glorifies God and strengthens marriages. View your faith through hermaneutically sound Biblical lenses, not colonially-imposed or contemporary cultural ones.