For God so loved undeserving wretches


For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

– John 3:16


ANRSpace update

From googling around, I found the following:

What Happened To
I used to be a longtime member of the site. I have not been able to log into the site for months.

level 1
3 points
6 months ago
I’d like to know as well. It had been dwindling for the last years for the benefit of Anrconnections is another one that kind of tried to take off. The thing is, most of these sites are only live because of the time a very few individuals put into them. abfsingles was running well and changed ownership at some point.

I don’t know whichis the biggest one these days. I’ve not been really active on any of them for a long time.


connections and singles is owned by the same person. Connections has an odd layout to it so it never took off.

1 point
6 months ago
I wonder what was the goal of a second site if there is one owner? I wish the owner would respond directly.


1 point
6 months ago
I think she wanted to separate the 2. The second would allow more nudity and posting of pictures while it was forbidden on singles.

1 point
6 months ago
She didn’t really make it explicit enough maybe. I got to say though, a lot of women post boobies while selling things on the side. It would probably be an issue on her site. Most of them visibly take pleasure in the activity though.


1 point
6 months ago
Same thing on here with many gonewild type of posts.

1 point
5 months ago
I joined more than 10 years ago. It was free to join but they asked for donations. After I met a lady who was on the site I sent the owners a small donation. My guess is they were not breaking even on the cost and decided to let the site “go”. Too bad. It was the only one I found with good geographic search capabilities.

level 1
3 points
6 months ago
I haven’t used any of these sites but I am aware of them. Was this the website that charged a fee to join? I also heard that the admin of one of these sites would snoop on PMs…

level 2
1 point
4 months ago
No, they did not charge a fee. That’s …

level 1
2 points
4 months ago
They got hacked. This was about early last summer. I logged in and it took me to somebody else’s account. I posted to the admins and so did others but it took them a couple of months to respond. Then after another month or so of not being able to get into our accounts it was taken down to be fixed and a “Maintenance” page was put up.
That has been gone for months. I don’t think it is coming back.

level 2
3 points
3 months ago
I noticed that when I logged in too! I sent an email and never got a response. Too bad, it was a great site!


See also:

Quarterly ANRSpace member tally not possible, ANRSpace on hiatus

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?


If you struggle with intrusive mental images of ANRs, then “think often that Christ suffered agony for your purity. Fight image with image. Christ crying in agony.”

Titus 2:14

Christ gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.

1 Peter 1:18; 2:24

You were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, [but with the precious blood of Christ]. He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.

1 Corinthians 5:15

He died for all, that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.

Hebrews 10:29

How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?



From Strategies for Fighting Sexual Sin by John Piper


Be holy, for I am holy

13 Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. 14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. 15 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; 16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”[a]

– 1 Peter 1

a. Lev. 11:44,45; 19:2

Greater love has no one than this


As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”
John 15:9‭-‬13 ESV

Set me as a seal over your heart, for love is as strong as death


“Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If one were to give all the wealth of one’s house for love, it would be utterly scorned.”

~ Song of Solomon 8:6

Husbands and wives


Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

– Ephesians 5:25-33


Do not deprive her

Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV

It’s easy to miss this implicit command. We often neglect and disregard the importance of her pleasure.

Even the best Bible teachers and commenters tend to assume sexual deprivation is a male problem.

A great pastor recently apologized for missing this himself.

Thank God for his word, which corrects our presuppositions and implicit biases, if we’re open to being corrected.

A Love Song


English Standard Version (ESV)

Your Throne, O God, Is Forever

To the choirmaster: according to Lilies. A Maskil[a] of the Sons of Korah; a love song.

45 My heart overflows with a pleasing theme;
    I address my verses to the king;
    my tongue is like the pen of a ready scribe.

You are the most handsome of the sons of men;
    grace is poured upon your lips;
    therefore God has blessed you forever.
Gird your sword on your thigh, O mighty one,
    in your splendor and majesty!

In your majesty ride out victoriously
    for the cause of truth and meekness and righteousness;
    let your right hand teach you awesome deeds!
Your arrows are sharp
    in the heart of the king’s enemies;
    the peoples fall under you.

Your throne, O God, is forever and ever.
    The scepter of your kingdom is a scepter of uprightness;
    you have loved righteousness and hated wickedness.
Therefore God, your God, has anointed you
    with the oil of gladness beyond your companions;
    your robes are all fragrant with myrrh and aloes and cassia.
From ivory palaces stringed instruments make you glad;
    daughters of kings are among your ladies of honor;
    at your right hand stands the queen in gold of Ophir.

10 Hear, O daughter, and consider, and incline your ear:
    forget your people and your father’s house,
11     and the king will desire your beauty.
Since he is your lord, bow to him.
12     The people[b] of Tyre will seek your favor with gifts,
    the richest of the people.[c]

13 All glorious is the princess in her chamber, with robes interwoven with gold.
14     In many-colored robes she is led to the king,
    with her virgin companions following behind her.
15 With joy and gladness they are led along
    as they enter the palace of the king.

16 In place of your fathers shall be your sons;
    you will make them princes in all the earth.
17 I will cause your name to be remembered in all generations;
    therefore nations will praise you forever and ever.


  1. Psalm 45:1 Probably a musical or liturgical term
  2. Psalm 45:12 Hebrew daughter
  3. Psalm 45:12 Or The daughter of Tyre is here with gifts, the richest of people seek your favor

The Word Became Flesh

English Standard Version (ESV)

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life,[a] and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. He came as a witness, to bear witness about the light, that all might believe through him. He was not the light, but came to bear witness about the light.

The true light, which gives light to everyone, was coming into the world. 10 He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world did not know him. 11 He came to his own,[b] and his own people[c] did not receive him. 12 But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, 13 who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.

14 And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son[d] from the Father, full of grace and truth. 15 (John bore witness about him, and cried out, “This was he of whom I said, ‘He who comes after me ranks before me, because he was before me.’”) 16 For from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace.[e] 17 For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. 18 No one has ever seen God; the only God,[f] who is at the Father’s side,[g] he has made him known.

The Way of Love


If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[b] it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.


  1. 1 Corinthians 13:3 Some manuscripts deliver up my body [to death] that I may boast
  2. 1 Corinthians 13:5 Greek irritable and does not count up wrongdoing

John 3:16


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For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. NIV

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. KJV

For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His only begotten (unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to, relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal (everlasting) life. AMP

Eve’s bra size

You’re like “bras weren’t invented till just over a hundred years ago.” You’re right, but bear with me and you’ll see where I’m going with this.

I’m a firm believer that God originally intended breasts to be amply sized.

Having breasts, especially lactating breasts, is one of the highest glories of womanhood. And I believe the larger and softer the breasts, the more feminine the woman. Our society doesn’t see it that way.

During the conversation I mentioned in She loves breast attention, I reminded the female participant (who doesn’t really like wearing bras) that bras weren’t invented until the 1800s and women in the Bible didn’t wear bras. She responded by reminding me that they somehow found alternate means to hold their breasts in place.

The guy then mentioned how larger breasts could hold more milk.

We’ve evolved into societies where breasts are smaller and caged up. Rather than seeing them as the feminine, beautiful organs God created them to be, we’ve come to see them as a nuisance that must be bound and restricted.

Ample, productive and succulent breasts were God’s original design. That’s why I use this as a criterion for judging physical and maternal desirability in a potential wife.

They’re part of God’s Shalom. Eve most likely didn’t have small breasts.

Should Christian ANR couples share and educate or keep it private?


A recent conversation with an ANR aspirant precipitated this discussion. In the ANR world, there doesn’t seem to be an easy answer. Even pastors and Christian counselors and healthcare workers become apprehensive about sharing in an effort to bless.

Personally, I no longer see that big a deal. When married, should I feel sufficiently close to any couple, I’d tactfully disclose.

My ANR confidence stems from my unshakable confidence in God’s word. God didn’t stutter when he told me to “let her nipples satiate me in every of season. In love of her, I shall err continually.”

Your take? Would you share or keep it to yourselves?