“From whose womb did the ice come forth, and who has given birth to the frost of heaven?”
— Job 38:29
God certainly does have motherly characteristics and if he were a woman on earth today, he’d definitely support the Husband Nursing lifestyle.
“From whose womb did the ice come forth, and who has given birth to the frost of heaven?”
— Job 38:29
God certainly does have motherly characteristics and if he were a woman on earth today, he’d definitely support the Husband Nursing lifestyle.
A major criticism I’ve gotten from multiple people is that I’m being selfish and this lifestyle is a male-centric, self-centered masculine fantasy that reduces women into objects whose sole purpose is to provide milk.
My rebuttal is Z.
She’s a nursing mom who’s comfortable selling her milk to men. We arranged a meeting and I bought and drank her expressed milk for health reasons.
Within minutes of the purchase, Z texted me, saying the pleasure of meeting was all hers. She followed this up the next day, asking how I felt and if her milk had made any noticeable difference in my health.
We lost touch, or I would have continued to buy her milk for health benefits.
Point is, she absolutely relished the fact that I drank her milk for its health-boosting properties.
A man drinking her breast milk makes a woman feel loved, needed, appreciated, helpful, heroic and deeply valued.
Many women are enthralled by the intimacy and eroticism of the act, but a much more noble and ideal ANR wife is she who is into the whole lifestyle: feeding schedules, hand expression into his mouth, nursing bras, nipple shields, creams and pads, nursing pillows, breast pumps, galactatogoges et al.
For this beautiful wet nurse, occasional nursing during sex doesn’t do it. She wants the full-blown ANR lifestyle. She’s committed and drawn to the entire Husband Breastfeeding world.
9 Let a widow be enrolled if she is not less than sixty years of age, having been the wife of one husband, 10 and having a reputation for good works: if she has brought up children, has shown hospitality, has washed the feet of the saints, has cared for the afflicted, and has devoted herself to every good work.
14 So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.
When women care for others, God frequently praises it. Cf. Dorcas in Acts 9:36-43.
Many women who nurse their husbands have made this claim. I think it’s because God has wired women to be nurturers and providers, and the nipple stimulation adds to the erogenous ecstasy.
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Reviews and testimonials, mostly from female ANR enthusiasts
Gender roles are biblical and must be upheld in the Christian community. Men and women are equal before God in regard to intrinsic value and salvation (Gen. 1:27; Gal. 3:28), but nevertheless have been given by God specific callings. The man is the head of his family–not as a coercive force, but as a servant leader (1 Cor. 11:3). The man is called by God to protect and manage his family well (1 Tim. 3:4), love his wife, and even lay his life down for her (Eph. 5:25). In regard to church leadership, men are called to exercise authority over the congregation, both in teaching to the collective assembly (1 Cor. 14:34-35) and in shepherding (1 Tim. 2:8-3:13). Women are called to respect ther husbands out of willful humility (1 Pet. 3:1) and to help and encourage them (Gen. 2:18). In the Christian community women are uniquely called to teach and disciple other women (Tit. 2:3-5).
— From the Covenant Christian Coalition
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“I love you like a mother loves her only son.”
— Teyana Taylor on Diddy’s “Closer to God”
See also I think God actually does want women to “mother” their husbands, in a sense
“Women are the fruit of the earth.”
— comedian
He’s right. One of the primary reasons God created women is to nurture, soothe and bless others. Like refreshing morning dew, you ladies were beautifully created to bless, nourish and contribute to the flourishing of men and children. I can’t tell you how many times a woman has been there for me when I needed it. I probably won’t operate this blog if it weren’t for an older godly female relative who sowed Christian seeds in my life. It surely would be a cold world without a woman.
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9 neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. 10 It is for this reason that a woman ought to have authority over her own head, because of the angels. 11 Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. 12 For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.
— 1 Corinthians 11
“What am I looking for? A man who comes home from a long day of work filled with stress and the worries and frustrations of the day and seeks my full, milky breasts to relax and unwind. A man who lays beside me at night and lets my dripping nipples drift him off to sleep. A man who wakes up and aches to latch on to me as much as I ache for him to suckle away my engorgement. A man who finds comfort and solace between the curved mounds of my chest and craves the taste of my milk. A man who knows there is no sweeter place to be than buried in my breasts drinking from me as I stroke his hair and we lay there in silence. Is that man you?”
— K, see “Men love it when you stroke our hair during nursing sessions“
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Postpartum or postnatal depression is major depression some women experience after childbirth1, 2. It can eliminate a woman’s natural desire to bond with her infant3, along with the urge to nurse. In fact, when it sets in, it’s often detrimental to breastfeeding.4
Rather than face such familial agony, I propose a better way to resolve this undesirable scenario. Unsurprisingly, it involves inducing lactation prior to delivery. If dad helps bring in the milk in order to have breastfeeding occur prior to delivery, the prognosis looks good for all three.
Moreover, breastfeeding itself is a known natural antidepressant which helps mother and baby bond5.
So oddly enough, the very thing effected by postpartum depression is precisely what can alleviate it.
The more reason an ANR prior to childbirth is what the Doctor prescribed.
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“May God give you a righteous wife who will be your fountain of blessing.”
— email I received from an ANR-desiring Christian wife some time ago
Women who partake in this intimate lifestyle don’t view it as babying their husbands or fetishizing breastfeeding in any way whatsoever.
They see it as a way to bless and lavish their grace upon their men, like a rich water fountain refreshes those who drink from it.
I recently heard a sermon on Galatians 5 and 6. The pastor noted how the fruit produced by the tree isn’t for the tree, but is meant to serve others.
This mirrors the heart of God, who for our sake, made him who knew no sin to be sin, so in him, we might be the righteousness of God (2 Cor. 5:21).
Jesus came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:45).
“…cleanse my soul of the pollution…
Need water give me hydration…
Find the heavens in your silhouette…
U got my blood going
Ain’t felt nothing natural as this…
So Cleopatra let down your long hair…
Vanilla almond coconut accent…
Don’t need a crystal ball to know at all it’d be a cold world without a woman…
I came across this tidbit and attribute it to my belief that God has wired women to be about rest, renew, reset, recuperate, refresh, rejuvenate.
*based on female anatomical references to “cheq,” Strong’s Hebrew 2436, meaning “bosom”
“Then Naomi took the child and laid him on her bosom, and became a nurse to him.”
Ruth 4:16
“So she arose in the middle of the night and took my son from my side, while your maidservant slept, and laid him in her bosom, and laid her dead child in my bosom.”
1 Kings 3:20
“He said to her, “Give me your son.” Then he took him from her bosom and carried him up to the upper room where he was living, and laid him on his own bed.”
1 Kings 17:19
“Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?”
“They say to their mothers, “Where is grain and wine?” As they swoon like the wounded In the streets of the city, As their life is poured out In their mothers’ bosom.”
Lamenations 2:12
* based on “shad,” Strong’s Hebrew 7699 and 7699a, and “shod,” Strong’s Hebrew 7699b, meaning “breasts” and “female breasts” respectively, “dad,” Strong’s Hebrew 1717, meaning “breasts, teat, nipple,” “μαστός (mastos),” Strong’s Greek 3149, meaning “The breast, pap” and “θηλάζω (thélazó),” Strong’s Greek 2337, meaning “I give suck, to nurse, to suckle, to suck.”
“by the God of your father who will help you, by the Almighty who will bless you with blessings of heaven above, blessings of the deep that crouches beneath, blessings of the breasts and of the womb.”
Genesis 49:25
“Why did the knees receive me? Or why the breasts, that I should nurse?”
Job 3:12
“(There are those who snatch the fatherless child from the breast, and they take a pledge against the poor.)”
Job 24:9
“Yet you are he who took me from the womb; you made me trust you at my mother’s breasts.”
Psalm 22:9
“A lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts drench you at all times; be intoxicated always in her love.”
“My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh that lies between my breasts.”
Song of Solomon 1:13
“Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies.”
Song of Solomon 4:5
“Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.”
Song of Solomon 7:3
“Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters.”
Song of Solomon 7:7
“I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the scent of your breath like apples,”
“Oh that you were like a brother to me who nursed at my mother’s breasts! If I found you outside, I would kiss you, and none would despise me.”
“We have a little sister, and she has no breasts. What shall we do for our sister on the day when she is spoken for?”
Song of Solomon 8:8
“I was a wall, and my breasts were like towers; then I was in his eyes as one who finds peace.”
Song of Solomon 8:10
“To whom will he teach knowledge, and to whom will he explain the message? Those who are weaned from the milk, those taken from the breast?”
Isaiah 28:9
“Beat your breasts for the pleasant fields,
for the fruitful vine”
Isaiah 32:12
“You shall suck the milk of nations; you shall nurse at the breast of kings; and you shall know that I, the LORD, am your Savior and your Redeemer, the Mighty One of Jacob.”
Isaiah 60:16
“that you may nurse and be satisfied from her consoling breast; that you may drink deeply with delight from her glorious abundance.”
“I made you flourish like a plant of the field. And you grew up and became tall and arrived at full adornment. Your breasts were formed, and your hair had grown; yet you were naked and bare.”
Ezekiel 16:7
“They played the whore in Egypt; they played the whore in their youth; there their breasts were pressed and their virgin bosoms handled.”
Ezekiel 23:3
“She did not give up her whoring that she had begun in Egypt; for in her youth men had lain with her and handled her virgin bosom and poured out their whoring lust upon her”
Ezekiel 23:8
“Thus you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when the Egyptians handled your bosom and pressed your young breasts.”
Ezekiel 23:21
“you shall drink it and drain it out, and gnaw its shards, and tear your breasts; for I have spoken, declares the Lord GOD.”
Ezekiel 23:34
“Plead with your mother, plead— for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband— that she put away her whoring from her face, and her adultery from between her breasts“
Hosea 2:2
“Give them, O LORD— what will you give? Give them a miscarrying womb and dry breasts.”
Hosea 9:14
“Gather together the people, sanctify the church, assemble the ancients, gather together the little ones, and them that suck at the breasts: let the bridegroom go forth from his bed, and the bride out of her bride chamber.”
Joel 2:16
“Do you hear,” they asked Him, “what these children are saying?” “Yes,” He replied; “have you never read, ‘Out of the mouths of infants and of babes at the breast Thou hast brought forth the praise which is due’?”
Matthew 21:16 (Weymouth NT)
“As he said these things, a woman in the crowd raised her voice and said to him, “Blessed is the womb that bore you, and the breasts at which you nursed!”
Luke 11:27
“For behold, the days are coming when they will say, ‘Blessed are the barren and the wombs that never bore and the breasts that never nursed!’”
Luke 23:29
Women are more commitment- and family-oriented than men. In fact, I’d argue that innate wiring is precisely one of the greatest things that draws them to this relationship.
I’ve heard multiple ANR women stress the importance of finding the right man, to whom they enjoy unrestricted access, prior to bringing in the milk, because of the great deal of commitment required to induce and maintain the milk flow.
The deep, sacred bond of togetherness and intimacy is the pull factor for all Couples Nursers, more so for women.
Tomboyishness versus femininity can only be ascertained through conversation. Yes, you can see signs of both from afar in some women, but looks can be deceptive.
ANR desire is more about who a person is on the inside than external attributes. The spirit is more important than the shell.
So men, I’d exhort you to be forthcoming. Tell her you seek the open-minded, comforting, feminine type, not the tomboy.
Women, the open-minded, confidently vulnerable, non-Puritanical man is your likely bet.
Besides genuine faith in the risen Christ, if there’s one thing you seek in a woman, let it be altruistic tenderness. That’s your sure bet of finding an ANR-friendly wife.
For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive in the spirit.
1 Peter 3:18
Women are often loyal to, suffer for and care about others more than themselves.
They fiercely defend and protect the men and children in their lives more than their own selves. This is one of the clearest representations of God’s character visible in our time.
He didn’t spare His Son but gave Him up for us all.
Breastfeeding him is a natural outpouring of that self-sacrificial womanly love.
“Love was compressed for all history in that lonely figure on the cross, who said that he could call down angels at any moment on a rescue mission, but chose not to—because of us. At Calvary, God accepted his own unbreakable terms of justice” (Philip Yancey, from Where Is God When It Hurts?)
O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to it! How often would I have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!
Luke 13:34
How Christ’s blood was, spiritually speaking, transfused into sinful human veins, is modeled by the way a wife, as an image bearer of Christ, transfers her life- and health-giving milk into her husband’s digestive system.
The medical field has many parallels to Christianity, and to ANR.
Like Christ saved his Bride’s life eternally, she seriously could be saving his temporally.
This is made even sweeter if he suffers from any ailments. She’d be an answer to his prayers in more ways than one.
What could be more beautiful than when women are relied on as lifesavers, in the most literal sense? Is there a better way to realize women’s intrinsic worth than when we view them as holding the key to life and well-being?
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ANR-seeking woman:
“I just like how it feels. And I like the idea of my breasts being full of milk.”
K, ANR-seeking Christian woman:
“[I’m looking for a] man who comes home from a long day of work filled with stress and the worries and frustrations of the day and seeks my full, milky breasts to relax and unwind.”
No one can fault these women at all. I also love full, milky breasts, and not just because I’m a man. If I were a woman, I’d love the idea too.
Full, heavy, milk-dripping breasts connote God’s original design of abundance prior to the Fall.
Without a doubt, the Garden of Eden was a lush place, with overflowing fountains all over the place.
God is pro-bountiful fruits.
He doesn’t like dry wells. In a perfect world, every married woman’s breasts would be full of milk, as Eve‘s most likely were.
36 When one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, he went to the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. 37 A woman in that town who lived a sinful life learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, so she came there with an alabaster jar of perfume. 38 As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them.
39 When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner.”
40 Jesus answered him, “Simon, I have something to tell you.”
“Tell me, teacher,” he said.
41 “Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, c and the other fifty. 42 Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?”
43 Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.”
“You have judged correctly,” Jesus said.
44 Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. 46 You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. 47 Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.”
48 Then Jesus said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.”
49 The other guests began to say among themselves, “Who is this who even forgives sins?”
50 Jesus said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”
Footnotes:
c 41 A denarius was the usual daily wage of a day laborer (see Matt. 20:2).
My notes:
vv. 44-46: the woman’s actions towards the Lord were more personal and intimate than if she simply used water or a cloth. God deeply values bodily intimacy.
25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”
26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”
27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’[a]; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b]”
28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”
29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”
30 In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[c] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’
36 “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?”
37 The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.”
Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.”
“‘I want to be able to give my husband a safe place where he can come home at the end of a long day and let all the worries and stress fall away.’
– K, ANR-desirous
‘I want to have a relaxing, cozy home for my husband to come home to; his safe-haven from the day to day grind’
– Jeanne, 50 year old ANR-aspiring doula
I found another ANR-desiring woman online who said she’s really good at making people comfortable and would rather give than receive massages.
From “A wife’s loving comfort” on Christ-centered ANR
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Years ago, I posted an admonition to think of large breasts as a bonus, as ANR desire is independent of bra size.
Notwithstanding this apprisal, I’ve very recently been made aware of my systemic bias against smaller-chested women, which I suspect many other ANR men hold. This bias isn’t so much because I’m a man as it is the result of seeing mostly well-endowed women on ANR sites.
Prior to delving into ANR research almost 10 years ago, I was an equal opportunity breast admirer. But my increasing ANR interest shifted my preference towards larger busts.
The major eye-opening revelation that made me aware of my bias was two-fold. First was when I came across online sources that stated smaller breasts are more sensitive. Makes sense, come to think of it. Nerve endings are more tightly packed in a smaller area.
This, combined with my recently published finding that less-endowed women aren’t as confident in their chests, must account for why the overwhelming majority of female pictures on ANR dating sites prominently feature large breasts, with thousands of pictureless profiles on said sites. I now realize that skipping profiles without pictures is probably a mistake. Smaller-breasted women who might be a little less secure in their bodies should be given a chance. Their desire for ANRs may be just as strong, or perhaps even stronger, since they possess greater breast nerve ending density.
ANR men tend to be boob men. And ANR women with pictures online tend to have boobs. Thus, the system is set up to exclude a large segment of nurses who would kill to have a man enjoy their hypersensitive mammary glands.
The external article below perfectly supports my thesis that God designed women to breastfeed forever. See Feminine distinctives, where I made that point.
“In reproductive physiology, lactation follows pregnancy. In traditional populations, children continue to breastfeed for 3 to 4 years, suggesting that sustained lactation is the biological norm. However, cultural norms are markedly different; while breastfeeding rates in the US have risen dramatically over the past 40 years, just 22.3% of US mothers are able meet consensus medical recommendations for 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding, and only 30.7% continue to breastfeeding through one year. Evidence continues to accrue that this disruption of normal physiology is associated with adverse health outcomes for mothers and children, including higher maternal rates of breast and ovarian cancer and higher childhood rates of acute lymphocytic leukemia. These data suggest that enabling more women to breastfeed may be an effective cancer prevention strategy” (Emphasis added).
Full article immediately below
Abstracts: AACR Special Conference: Improving Cancer Risk Prediction for Prevention and Early Detection; November 16-19, 2016; Orlando, FL
In reproductive physiology, lactation follows pregnancy. In traditional populations, children continue to breastfeed for 3 to 4 years, suggesting that sustained lactation is the biological norm. However, cultural norms are markedly different; while breastfeeding rates in the US have risen dramatically over the past 40 years, just 22.3% of US mothers are able meet consensus medical recommendations for 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding, and only 30.7% continue to breastfeeding through one year. Evidence continues to accrue that this disruption of normal physiology is associated with adverse health outcomes for mothers and children, including higher maternal rates of breast and ovarian cancer and higher childhood rates of acute lymphocytic leukemia. These data suggest that enabling more women to breastfeed may be an effective cancer prevention strategy.
In this session, we will review evidence supporting a protective association between lactation and cancer risk for mothers and children. We will further explore evidence-based strategies to assist women in initiating and sustaining breastfeeding.
A recent simulation study found that enabling 90% of women to breastfeed optimally after each birth, defined as 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding and continued breastfeeding for 1 year, would lower population rates of maternal breast cancer and childhood acute lymphocytic leukemia (ALL). In this MCMC simulation, authors considered the impact of a change in breastfeeding rates from current to optimal conditions for a cohort of women born in a single year and followed from age 15 to 70. Under steady state conditions, these results approximate the annual impact of optimal breastfeeding across the population. The authors found that enabling optimal breastfeeding would prevent 185 cases of ALL [95% CI 49 to 309] and 5,023 cases of breast cancer [3,965 to 6,021], as well as 42 breast cancer deaths [22 to 62]. Evidence-based public health strategies to increase breastfeeding rates have been promulgated by the U.S. Surgeon General in the 2011 Call to Action to Support Breastfeeding. These strategies span various socioecological factors that influence whether a woman decides to breastfeed, and whether she is able to sustain breastfeeding in the setting of social and practical constraints.
Targeted efforts are further needed to address substantial racial and ethnic disparities in breastfeeding rates, particularly given evidence that never having breastfed is associated with an increased risk of triple-negative breast cancer among black women. Promising strategies include incorporating peer and profession support into prenatal and postpartum care, implementing the WHO Ten Steps, a set of evidence-based maternity care practices, enacting paid parental leave, and ensuring that child care providers enable families to continue breastfeeding.
Disruption of breastfeeding is associated with adverse population health outcomes for mothers and children, including breast cancer and ALL. Strategies that enable more women to initiate and sustain breastfeeding should be incorporated into cancer prevention work.
Source: “Reducing cancer risk by enabling women to breastfeed,” by Alison Stuebe, American Association for Cancer Research, May 2017, https://cebp.aacrjournals.org/content/26/5_Supplement/IA23